Opinion Needed from Gals out there...
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Hi gals, and guys as well,
I have this little problem. It appears that after leaving school (student period), the circle of friends and gals I know seems to get smaller and smaller, esp. after going into the IT industry.
Right now, still single and available, and worst of all, no chance to meet "the other half" so far. Wanna get to know more female friends so that my circle can widen, and more opportunity to meet the right ger in my life. Any suggestions on how I can go about doing that?
Friends of my age, 95% oredi got married and have 2 or more children liao, and me, still single.....Haiz....Wat to do, the no. of gers I know so limited. I dun usually approach gers too, kinda shy and thin-skin lah... -
this is normal......I encounter this too......face the fact......take it easy....
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no one is in control of your life..... choose wisely
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mayb u r too choosy? well try not to be too choosy..
i mean dun always choose a v gd looking ger or wad.. as long a nice ger come along tot she not v gd looking just try n knw her more lor..
anyway i think nw guys reli can't find a gf or wife as age increase.. my frenxs oos encounter tis prob.. so wad dat to help?
sgpals? -
join SDU
join the wed 8pm show on channel 8
join sgforum outing
join some social activities in CC
try to organise singles group outings with friends or approach friends to know more friends -
I am not choosy at all...I dun go for looks....Originally posted by Si|verGer:mayb u r too choosy? well try not to be too choosy..
i mean dun always choose a v gd looking ger or wad.. as long a nice ger come along tot she not v gd looking just try n knw her more lor..
anyway i think nw guys reli can't find a gf or wife as age increase.. my frenxs oos encounter tis prob.. so wad dat to help?
sgpals?
Juz looking for someone who can "click" with me and understands me. So far, all my ex are non-IT, and know little or nuts about computers. Damn....the major problem is they cannot understand why I have to spend so much time facing a computer everyday, esp. after work I will oso spend about 2-3 hours facing my PC at home.
Haiz...Dun expect my gf to be in IT, but at the very least, understand that I am in IT so I have to spend time daily to keep up-to-date on latest happenings in IT world, juz like pple read newspaper or watch tv news. -
Go join some sports or any other activities... YOu get to know more friends.. Or join some religious group which you think you will most probably believe in or Is rather a good one..Originally posted by chaicka:Hi gals, and guys as well,
I have this little problem. It appears that after leaving school (student period), the circle of friends and gals I know seems to get smaller and smaller, esp. after going into the IT industry.
Right now, still single and available, and worst of all, no chance to meet "the other half" so far. Wanna get to know more female friends so that my circle can widen, and more opportunity to meet the right ger in my life. Any suggestions on how I can go about doing that?
Friends of my age, 95% oredi got married and have 2 or more children liao, and me, still single.....Haiz....Wat to do, the no. of gers I know so limited. I dun usually approach gers too, kinda shy and thin-skin lah...
Cos they have many many different events/programs/activities for the religious memebers.. From there you can meet lots of ppl too!!
One point to take note.. Don't ever rush into a relationship jus becos all your friends are either attached or married.. and you dun wan to lose out..ok?
Slowly build up your confidence.. YOu can one.. And don't have this idea of knowing girls jus becos you wanna get a gf fast.. KNow them as friends first... then slowly see whether you can progress further anot..
Cheers! -
First of all, thanks for the advice on the activities...maybe I should go pick up some...Originally posted by SunRisE:Go join some sports or any other activities... YOu get to know more friends.. Or join some religious group which you think you will most probably believe in or Is rather a good one..
Cos they have many many different events/programs/activities for the religious memebers.. From there you can meet lots of ppl too!!
One point to take note.. Don't ever rush into a relationship jus becos all your friends are either attached or married.. and you dun wan to lose out..ok?
Slowly build up your confidence.. YOu can one.. And don't have this idea of knowing girls jus becos you wanna get a gf fast.. KNow them as friends first... then slowly see whether you can progress further anot..
Cheers!
I ain't a teenager who know nuts abt relationship/friendship etc.
What I have in mind is NOT desperate for gf or anything, juz wanna widen the number of female friends I have, and in turn, increase the chance of meeting the right ger...
I am perfectly confident in myself and ain't hunting for a relationship rite now...In fact, enjoying my life being a single. What I am looking at is further ahead, 3-5 years down the road. I ain't getting young, hitting 30 soon... -
i wouldn't worree dude... i'm around ur age "hitting 30 soon" type..
i'm not at all worried. firstly i believe if u are gancheong about these things, it just WON'T happen one lor.. and another thing is that guys have a way longer shelf life!! eheheh heng for us i guess. best of luck for this aspect of ur life! -
good and practical suggestions.Originally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:join SDU
join the wed 8pm show on channel 8
join sgforum outing
join some social activities in CC
try to organise singles group outings with friends or approach friends to know more friends -
yo yo yo....i respect u for been the person u r. but u say u r not choosy, but this quote 'understand that I am in IT so I have to spend time daily to keep up-to-date on latest happenings in IT world, juz like pple read newspaper or watch tv news' is quite a high expectation of sg girls nowdays'. THIS IS THE TRUTH AND THIS IS MOST PROBABLY A FACT. also i quote again 'understands me'. THIS IS SIMPLY NOT POSSIBLE TO ACHIEVE for a girl to understand yourself (although i can guaran-DAMN-tee that i 99% understand myself at my age of 22++). i give up on this 2 things u quoted. it is simply not possible to achieve. if it is possible, why r there so many complain cases of girls saying their bf or husband never spend enff time with them. instead in our very and very real own sg world, if u really wanna look for a partner, it should be the other way round.Originally posted by chaicka:I am not choosy at all...I dun go for looks....
Juz looking for someone who can "click" with me and understands me. So far, all my ex are non-IT, and know little or nuts about computers. Damn....the major problem is they cannot understand why I have to spend so much time facing a computer everyday, esp. after work I will oso spend about 2-3 hours facing my PC at home.
Haiz...Dun expect my gf to be in IT, but at the very least, understand that I am in IT so I have to spend time daily to keep up-to-date on latest happenings in IT world, juz like pple read newspaper or watch tv news.
but basically now, i also have your mentality although i know what is the 'correct' mentality to have a gf. so what can i say?? -
hey i dun have a big circle of friends too...
but then i joined this forums, got to know ALOT more ppl...
take ur time... relakzzzzzzzzzz -
i mean the 2 quotes i quoted from your quote are wrong attitudes and i would consider that choosy or high expectations already.
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yep.. go out n get to noe more ppl... we've got the cream of the crop here too.... we've got gers, guys, gays as well.. let ur fingers do the walking/talking... besides, most gers would love to have mature guys for company.. just train up a bit on the thin skin there... u'll find that there are lotsa opportunities out there.. anywhere..
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mayb u cld tell n explain to them in a nice way lor mayb they duno hw it is important u hv to spend time with comp..Originally posted by chaicka:I am not choosy at all...I dun go for looks....
Juz looking for someone who can "click" with me and understands me. So far, all my ex are non-IT, and know little or nuts about computers. Damn....the major problem is they cannot understand why I have to spend so much time facing a computer everyday, esp. after work I will oso spend about 2-3 hours facing my PC at home.
Haiz...Dun expect my gf to be in IT, but at the very least, understand that I am in IT so I have to spend time daily to keep up-to-date on latest happenings in IT world, juz like pple read newspaper or watch tv news.
i mean some time u hv to be patient abt telling them abt it.. den y ger r like tis bcoz u r not giving them enuff attention.. try giving them attention too -
Err....I think I am the patient type, gentle by nature...sometimes too gentle until friends who dun noe me well will tease me that I abit gay-gay leh...(coz of my g-stings n thongs, my cooking, etc).Originally posted by Si|verGer:mayb u cld tell n explain to them in a nice way lor mayb they duno hw it is important u hv to spend time with comp..
i mean some time u hv to be patient abt telling them abt it.. den y ger r like tis bcoz u r not giving them enuff attention.. try giving them attention too
Maybe I should add "must know computer and surf internet" to my criteria for a gf.....hahaha, kidding. -
wah i kind of sense the urgency of you wanting to find someone. pardon me, but how old are you?
Enjoy life and know more people. when it comes, it'd come. -
Not really urgent lah....In fact, I like my lifestyle now...Originally posted by star princess:wah i kind of sense the urgency of you wanting to find someone. pardon me, but how old are you?
Enjoy life and know more people. when it comes, it'd come.
Juz suddenly have the fear that once I pass 30, wow....it will hit 40 veri fast, and next time....dunno wat will happen to me.
Well, for now, juz wanna noe more friends, guys and gals all welcome. -
u sound like u want something, yet not wanting others to think u are craving for it.Originally posted by chaicka:Not really urgent lah....In fact, I like my lifestyle now...
Juz suddenly have the fear that once I pass 30, wow....it will hit 40 veri fast, and next time....dunno wat will happen to me.
Well, for now, juz wanna noe more friends, guys and gals all welcome.
like what the guys said, just mix around. if you are seriously looking for a female partner and u think u are running outta time, approaching SDS and SDU is not exactly a bad move. -
Originally posted by chaicka:Hi gals, and guys as well,
I have this little problem. It appears that after leaving school (student period), the circle of friends and gals I know seems to get smaller and smaller, esp. after going into the IT industry.
Right now, still single and available, and worst of all, no chance to meet "the other half" so far. Wanna get to know more female friends so that my circle can widen, and more opportunity to meet the right ger in my life. Any suggestions on how I can go about doing that?
Friends of my age, 95% oredi got married and have 2 or more children liao, and me, still single.....Haiz....Wat to do, the no. of gers I know so limited. I dun usually approach gers too, kinda shy and thin-skin lah... I.T. sector ah? must b quite high pay hor? so easy...flash the cash -
If I wanna find a ger who look at my cash, den no need to search liaoz....everywhere oso got....Originally posted by boy in blues: I.T. sector ah? must b quite high pay hor? so easy...flash the cash -
Originally posted by chaicka:If I wanna find a ger who look at my cash, den no need to search liaoz....everywhere oso got.... just kidding nia. but at least u know which girls to scratch off your list of candidates liao...
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Well....maybe it has to do with the way I phrase my words.Originally posted by www:u sound like u want something, yet not wanting others to think u are craving for it.
like what the guys said, just mix around. if you are seriously looking for a female partner and u think u are running outta time, approaching SDS and SDU is not exactly a bad move.
The fact is, I like my present single life, but I want to have more female friends to talk to. Somehow, I can get along better with ger friends than guys....And I believe that pure platonic friendship DOES exists between guys and gals.
For now, juz wanna have more female friends..... -
YOu;re welcome! I know you aint any teenagers out there.. but jus a small reminder for you!!Originally posted by chaicka:First of all, thanks for the advice on the activities...maybe I should go pick up some...
I ain't a teenager who know nuts abt relationship/friendship etc.
What I have in mind is NOT desperate for gf or anything, juz wanna widen the number of female friends I have, and in turn, increase the chance of meeting the right ger...
I am perfectly confident in myself and ain't hunting for a relationship rite now...In fact, enjoying my life being a single. What I am looking at is further ahead, 3-5 years down the road. I ain't getting young, hitting 30 soon...
Aging doesn't mean anything bad.. Being single sometimes could be good!
You oso need lots of time to source for the right one! Take your time...