Would you go after her/him?

• pet6304

  11 May 03, 12:58

  I do this in guy's context ok? but I wanna listen to girls' opinions too.
  
  Say you got to know this girl and you are attracted to her. She tells you she has a boyfren but would gladly be friends with you. You figure (as most people would) be frens is ok, so you became friends. But you slowly got to like her [color=red]very much[/color], what would you do?
  
  Heck care and Pursue? Tell her and see reaction first? Refuse to be third party and leave the scene?
  
  For the girls le? what if it's a guy you like very much?
• Forever84

  11 May 03, 13:22

  Hmm
  Must know how the girl feels first
  otherwise may ruin the friendship
• kopiosatu

  11 May 03, 13:23

  got bf ah?
  simple...i step back...
• Just_Me_loh

  11 May 03, 13:40

  ya! must back off.. rather to save a friendship than loss 2 friends!
• Sarah_X

  11 May 03, 13:47

  for my case...i'll tell him how i feel about him as time goes by and see how he reacts....if he chose to stay as friends...i'll jus try to remain as friends as well...meaning....to give up on loving him...
• Haven

  11 May 03, 13:48

  i will not be a bastard.....
  
  
• Si|verGer

  11 May 03, 19:54

  must depends on e ger does she like n luv her bf v much.. is e bf treat her v gd if not gd i think dat no harm coming in btw coz who knw u might be e prince to rescue her!
  but if she luv her bf v much n her bf treat her v well i think it not v nice to come btw coz u hv to put urself in both e ger n her bf shoe..
  if u come in btw u cld give e ger headache.. unncessary troubles..
  den hw wld u feel if u r e bf?
• pet6304

  12 May 03, 03:50

  Originally posted by Si|verGer:

  must depends on e ger does she like n luv her bf v much.. is e bf treat her v gd if not gd i think dat no harm coming in btw coz who knw u might be e prince to rescue her!
  but if she luv her bf v much n her bf treat her v well i think it not v nice to come btw coz u hv to put urself in both e ger n her bf shoe..
  if u come in btw u cld give e ger headache.. unncessary troubles..
  den hw wld u feel if u r e bf?

  I agree. must see situation.
  
  Say if the ger is unhappy with her bf leh? and she seems to like you?
• dark_slayer79

  12 May 03, 03:55

  Originally posted by pet6304:

  I agree. must see situation.
  
  Say if the ger is unhappy with her bf leh? and she seems to like you?

  there's no definite ans just trust urself
• www

  12 May 03, 07:11

  aiyo. no need to be so troubled. just do what u deem suit and comfortable.
• weeeeeee.....

  12 May 03, 10:49

  Originally posted by pet6304:

  I do this in guy's context ok? but I wanna listen to girls' opinions too.
  
  Say you got to know this girl and you are attracted to her. She tells you she has a boyfren but would gladly be friends with you. You figure (as most people would) be frens is ok, so you became friends. But you slowly got to like her [color=red]very much[/color], what would you do?
  
  Heck care and Pursue? Tell her and see reaction first? Refuse to be third party and leave the scene?
  
  For the girls le? what if it's a guy you like very much?

  if u really like that girl, then u wait. wait until they broke off then u pursue.
  
  meanwhile, continue to be friends. cultivate the trust as a friend between u and her. if u heck care and step in, u will mess everything up.
  
  even if u succeed to get her to be ur gf by stepping into the midst of their relationship, it won't last.
  
  speaking from my own experience.
  
  what goes round comes round. u will get ur "karma".
• kopiosatu

  12 May 03, 11:44

  Originally posted by weeeeeee.....:

  what goes round comes round. u will get ur "karma".

  Scary
• Si|verGer

  13 May 03, 12:51

  Originally posted by pet6304:

  I agree. must see situation.
  
  Say if the ger is unhappy with her bf leh? and she seems to like you?

  ya but still final choice lies in e ger lor
• BlueMe

  13 May 03, 13:07

  Most of the gals r very sensitive, they somehow can feel that u have got feelings for them. If they nv avoid u and willing to remain as frenz, it means that they do hav a little bit of feeling 4 u as well.
  
  However, nv overdo ur likeness 4 her, juz wait and c. Sometimes u guy aren't v sure 4 ur owe feelings too. Treat it as a kinda test, time can tell whether its jus a moment of likeness or a destiny.
  
  
• harryryan

  13 May 03, 13:37

  i m in e same boat.
  suggest u take e time to know her.....
  that's what i am doing now.... i won't say that things will work out for u in e end but at least try,but dun be a bustard n do things to break them up,she will hate u for that.
  just stay by her side n if u r good to her than u will be e no 1 choice if anything does happen.
  i m not e sort who gives up easily.... so hope u will not either.....
  
  be persistant but dun come on too strongly...just be urself n only time can tell if u will end up together.
• chaicka

  13 May 03, 13:53

  Here is a real life account:
  
  I have got to know this girl, named L through my best guy-friend, named A. Girl L used to be his girlfriend, but have already broken-off for years, yet he is still interested to get her back. My initial impression of her ain't good and definitely not a girl I would be interested.
  
  However, as we got to know each other better, a bond developed since we can really "click" well. Knowing her to be a flirt, I never did have any intention to go after her at all. But fate has it the other way, she was hot over me, calling me everyday, keep asking me to meet her, etc etc. And in the end, I give in and started a relationship with her. But at the same time, after my best guy-friend found out, I lost our friendship.
  
  Well...there is a long story to continue but I will stop here...I lost both, friendship with my guy-friend, and relationship with girl L. Now, girl L and I are still close friends, friends who understands each other really well. And I also found out, she was interested in me initially because of the fact that no guys have ever given her the cold shoulder I gave her, no guys have ever not look at her, admire her beauty.
• boy in blues

  15 May 03, 04:44

  Originally posted by pet6304:

  I do this in guy's context ok? but I wanna listen to girls' opinions too.
  
  Say you got to know this girl and you are attracted to her. She tells you she has a boyfren but would gladly be friends with you. You figure (as most people would) be frens is ok, so you became friends. But you slowly got to like her [color=red]very much[/color], what would you do?
  
  Heck care and Pursue? Tell her and see reaction first? Refuse to be third party and leave the scene?
  
  For the girls le? what if it's a guy you like very much?

  jus b frens loh.....hu knows how things turn out?
• hyuuga

  15 May 03, 04:55

  be friends 1st is quite alright. dun go tell the gal yr feelings or she might shun away from u. wait slowly. maybe until if she ever breaks with the guy. meanwhile build up yr nice friendship with her ^_^
  btw i'm new to sggirls. well.. hi..
• BoYisHbOy

  15 May 03, 06:32

  Originally posted by pet6304:

  I do this in guy's context ok? but I wanna listen to girls' opinions too.
  
  Say you got to know this girl and you are attracted to her. She tells you she has a boyfren but would gladly be friends with you. You figure (as most people would) be frens is ok, so you became friends. But you slowly got to like her [color=red]very much[/color], what would you do?
  
  Heck care and Pursue? Tell her and see reaction first? Refuse to be third party and leave the scene?
  
  For the girls le? what if it's a guy you like very much?

  dun go for her.......
• pet6304

  17 May 03, 00:46

  Originally posted by hyuuga:

  be friends 1st is quite alright. dun go tell the gal yr feelings or she might shun away from u. wait slowly. maybe until if she ever breaks with the guy. meanwhile build up yr nice friendship with her ^_^
  btw i'm new to sggirls. well.. hi..

  fantastic ans... 10/10
  
  lol try ma... even if the ger no bf, also should start by being frens... I mean, things might work out things might not...