What kind of qualities you look for in a mate?
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Okay, first and foremost, when people were asked what do they look for in a mate... the answer would be - well, i want him/her to be kind, understanding, considerate, humorous... etc... loves sports, quiet, or talkative enough to make me feel occupied...etc... wad-ever it is, these are what WE call = PERSONALITY TRAITS. But personality traits are just the icing of a cake. When I say CHARACTER, what I mean is that character is how a person treats himself/herself, his/her partner and later his/her children. Also, how he/she treats others. Now I wouldn't stress further about character because I believe it's up to one person to define what it is.
Another thing is that, when I mean EMOTIONAL OPENESS -- I'm trying to say that = A partner should be able to FEEL, not like a tin robot! But like a human! That means, a partner should be able to express how he/she feels to the significant other. To also be able to say how much he/she loves that person. ABILITY TO SHARE FEELINGS. That is one thing frequently missed out during communication in love. Secondly, EMOTIONAL GENEROSITY - sounds chim but it's not the way u think. It means loving your partner unconditionally. Not being stingy in love and to be able to SHOW his/her love. This is because Emotional Generosity provides the KEY access to a person's soul. -
What kind of qualities you look for in a mate?
Seriously, i have no idea.
as long as she's not childish.
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Originally posted by angel911:As someone has mentioned what he/she doesn't like about the opposite sex... why don't let's now find out the qualities we look for in a mate??
For me? I'll simply put it this way: -
Top 7 Qualities (No more, no less)
1. Character
2. Emotional Openess
3. Integrity
4. Maturity = Responsibility
5. Healthy Self-esteem
6. Positive Attitude towards life
7. Personal Chemistry i oso dunno how to say..but i found mine..and all i know is that she's just the one for me. -
A girl that can take a lot of my craps I give out. Someone that interest in learning new things. This is also include cooking. Someone that enjoy life even though we are low in budget
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Like joho I don't have lists because it becomes either too limiting or on the other hand, inexhaustive. When it comes to relationships, the right chemistry must be present first. That crucial spark when you're together has to be there. After we're besotted with each other, I think it's easy to overlook some discrepencies here and there. But the basic criteria of him being a good, moral and responsible person should be fulfilled. & I tend to like a guy because of the unique person he is. After that it becomes quite useless to compare one with another.