No wonder you're a single mother!
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She made a very controversial statement above. As much as she hopes tt people will respect her for her decision to be a single mum, I hope she too respect the decision of other women to abort their baby.Originally posted by dotaro:"There are so many girls out there who are loose but they don't have kids--they have abortions" Maia Lee -
btw, maia only mention abt ppl who are loose, end up with babies but dun want to keep. She didn't implied she wasn't loose, but just trying to stress that although she is loose, she keep the baby. That is my understanding.Originally posted by dotaro:babies are defective,
kena raped..etc...
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Maybe maia is giving good advice to her fellow jie mei.
Abortion Story 073: Meredith
Meredith* (United Kingdom)
December 07, 2003
I had an abortion just two weeks ago, and it was the most heartbreaking thing I have ever done.
I was just over 7 weeks when I ended my baby's life.
I had the tablets, and had to sit there all day in the hospital waiting for it to pass.
The pains were so bad; I had to have Diamorphine.
My baby didn't leave me until about 5 minutes before I had to leave the hospital; it was almost as if my child was clinging onto me, and me onto my child.
The moment it left me, I felt so empty. My baby just kind of plopped into a bedpan which I had to urinate into. It was so undignified, and sad.
I went home and cried myself to sleep, and have been crying ever since.
I am 24, and the only reason I didn't have my baby was financial reasons, the usual mortgage, car payments etc.
I hope, if you are reading this, and you are faced with the same decision I had to make then, please, I am begging you to think long and hard.
Don't put it to the back of your mind, you need to make the right decision for you.
I didn't, and now I have to live with that every day.
When I go to sleep at night, it is with my hand on the tummy where my baby once lay. Please don't let that be you, make sure you are sure of your decision.
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Extract from http://www.abortionconcern.org/stories/story031.php
Abortion Story 031: Julieann
Julieann (United Kingdom)
September 29, 2002
In February 2002, I gave birth to a baby boy, my third and last.
But by July 2002, I was pregnant again. I was utterly devastated.
My husband threatened to leave me if I kept it. He had already left me once before, after I decided to keep my son instead of aborting him.
I finally agreed to an abortion. I knew deep down that I couldn't handle another baby. Even my doctor agreed that it was the right thing to do, and arrangements were made.
The 1st of September was the date when I had the procedure (as the doctors called it), a medical procedure as the surgical procedure was impossible due to my weight problem.
I have never felt pain like it, the cramps mixing with the pain of the shame and humiliation I felt being in an ordinary gynae ward, the constant pacing and trips to the toilet.
Around lunchtime, I felt a popping sensation and went to the loo, to see my baby lying there. I broke my heart sobbing in this cold impersonal hospital bathroom, but it was too late to turn back now. I wanted to die.
But the nurse said there's still more to come. I was numb. I wanted to go home and be with my children, but I couldn't.
As the hours passed by, others who had had the procedure done were leaving, but I was still there. The bleeding wouldn't stop, and there was still tissue to be passed, I didn't leave until 18.30 hrs. I'd been there since 8.30am, and I had had enough.
My life was upside down, I couldn't think straight.
I still can't 4 weeks later. I'm haunted by images of my baby at night. I wonder what my baby would have been like. Now I'll never know, and it will eat at me for years to come.
October 3, 2004
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One thing i cannot understand is e fact that when a guy sleeps arpund...pple say he is just curious of e opposite sex....n that phase will pass..... at worse say he is a play boy but when a gal sleeps around...she is concsidered a slut....hmmmm.....
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Guys please be more responsible
Extracted from http://www.abortionconcern.org/stories/story013.php
Abortion Story 013: Lynda
Lynda (USA)
June 26, 2000
I was involved in a relationship with a man 13 years my senior, who had been previously married, and had one child.
We had been living together for 2 years when I had became pregnant, unexpectedly, in 1988.
His immediate response was "abort this pregnancy." I resisted. I was 22 years old, and other than a little inconvienence, had no reason to terminate this pregnancy.
He continued to hound me, even taking time off of work to ensure that I couldn't have time to think, and clear my head.
It came down to, that if I kept the child, I was to move out of his house, and live alone.
I had recently lost my job, and had no prospects lined up, my car was older, and about to break down, I had family, but they were not in a position to help me out. I felt trapped and, hence, to make a long story short, granted his requests.
I'll never forget it.
It was October 12, 1988. We lived in Tacoma. We drove to Seattle, to the clinic. I refused to fill out the paperwork, and therefore he did it for me.
I was taken to a dark room, and asked to drop my trousers, and lay on the table with my feet in stirrups. I did. The nurse came in, and held my hand. The Dr. came in, and began her work.
I felt a sharp pain. I took a breath, I heard a machine turn on, and saw blood coming from my body through the clear tube and into the machine.
The nurse was trying to speak with me, and was telling me about her kids. The Dr. told me about her kids.
They turned the machine off, and the Dr. left the room with a plastic bag filled with my blood, and my disassembled fetus, while telling me not to move, she had to be sure she got "all" of it.
She returned, with the OK to go home.
My boyfriend came in, and was estatic that I had gone through with it. As we drove away, I felt like I had forgotten something, or left something behind.
We returned home, and his promise to me to be there with me, was totally false. He left me there alone.
At first, I was relieved that it was over, and then I was hit by the most overwhelming, tremendous grief I had ever experienced. I was also experiencing very bad cramps.
Four days after the abortion:
I got up to go potty, and felt that something was not right inside.
When I wiped, I glanced down at the wad of toilet paper in my hand, and saw, my 12-week old fetus. It's head was smashed, and it's eyes were on either side of it's head. It's body was attached to the head, and only the right arm and hand remained.
I was shocked and horrified by what I saw.
My boyfriend saw it to. He was standing in the bathroom shaving, while I went potty. He heard me say "oh my gosh", when he turned to see what I was holding. He ran out of the bathroom, and kept repeating, "I didn't see it, I didn't see that, I didn't see the dead baby."
I just sat there, with tears streaming down my cheeks, as I held my baby's hand on my pinky, trying to find words to say, of why I failed this innocent child.
I had tuned my boyfriend out, to where he was just some noise in the background.
I later phoned the Dr.'s office that performed the abortion, asking them to clarify what I had seen. They criticized me, because, "a baby does not form until the last trimester". They deceived me when they initially told me that. It does not take a rocket sceintist to figure out what a miniture hand, with four fingers and a thumb looked like, or to know what it was I held in my hand that day.
I sunk into a deep depression for two years, attended post abortion counseling through new hope church, where I was mostly made to feel guilty for "murdering my baby," and "disappointing god."
At night, I'd lay awake in bed, sobbing quietly, so not to wake my boyfriend, who had turned from demanding, to insensitive and unsuportive, and couldn't deal with me, given I simply just couldn't "get over it".
My relationship with him ended. My experience did not benefit my life, only damaged me. If I had been fully aprised to the full impact, risks, etc., my position would have been different, homeless or not.
I believe the abortion doctors deceive a person, for a couple of reasons: one, to control the population; another, is to sell our fetuses to labratories for beauty creams, and other medical things.
I have so badly wanted to tell my story, ever since it happened, but have not found anyone willing to listen, who cared, or wanted to help another to validate their grief.
My hope, is that my true story will bring enlightenment to another, so when another decision is made, they can have ALL the info to make an informed decision regarding a very life changing decision. My life has not been the same since.
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well, if the gal dun spread her legs, we can't pump them also right ? they have the right to keep their legs closed...dats an undeniable fact.Originally posted by harryryan:One thing i cannot understand is e fact that when a guy sleeps arpund...pple say he is just curious of e opposite sex....n that phase will pass..... at worse say he is a play boy but when a gal sleeps around...she is concsidered a slut....hmmmm..... -
http://priestsforlife.org/postabortion/casestudyproject/casestudy924.htm
I remember the noise of the suction machine
How did you come to have the abortion(s) and who was involved?
I was unmarried, pregnant by a man I dated for two months.
How would you describe your abortion(s)?
I remember the noise of the suction machine. I remember crying all the way home. I remember being the first to get up and leave.
How did your abortion(s) affect you and others?
Bitterness, hate, rage. Now, finally 12 years later.
Please describe what you have done to deal with your abortion(s), and whether it helped.
Attending Open Arms, a support group for women suffering post abortion syndrome. I have told almost all my friends, my daughter who is now 19, my sister and her family. I have not told my parents yet.
How do you think your abortion(s) changed your life?
Now, then or the years in between? I was so guilty, and dysfunctionally unhealthy. I tried to end the relationships I was in. Therefore, we continued dating and 2 years later found ourselves pregnant again. We now have a daughter. This is extremely difficult for me. -
ha ha...maybe.... but than again everyone has sexual urges ...e only thing is the guys dun get pregnant so no evidence...ha ha... but i still feel it is unfair to say a gal is loose cos she sleeps with a few guys..... dun tell me that all e guys here in this forum r virgins or have only had sex with 1 gal b4..... i m a guy btw so ....Originally posted by chunyong:well, if the gal dun spread her legs, we can't pump them also right ? they have the right to keep their legs closed...dats an undeniable fact. -
if they don't supply us, how much our demand is also bo bian one mah....dio bo ? hahahahOriginally posted by harryryan:ha ha...maybe.... but than again everyone has sexual urges ...e only thing is the guys dun get pregnant so no evidence...ha ha... but i still feel it is unfair to say a gal is loose cos she sleeps with a few guys..... dun tell me that all e guys here in this forum r virgins or have only had sex with 1 gal b4..... i m a guy btw so .... -
Ya we got no right to judge but if she were to be made the Idol, it might send the wrong message to the young and immature minds.Originally posted by xavier1979:I guess it's a choice she made.
Who are we to judge...
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loose means loose... whether u give birth or abort the baby doesn chg the fact...Originally posted by chunyong:she is saying people are loose, have babies and then go for abortion while she isn't loose by letting the baby come to this earth. just think, u steal something from a shop, put it back the next dayand u steal something and bring it home and never return it back, isn't both of them stealing also ?
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yup, dats what she failed to realise.Originally posted by shinta:loose means loose... whether u give birth or abort the baby doesn chg the fact... -
go steady think beri cool...no money no family planning f uck
got baby giv birth burden to everyone and society..abortion
such a sin...loose women s lu tty men.....forced to be together...
after son grow up divorce (SAY! SAY!) let 1 basta rd son at least funeral got people mourn 4 u......
aiyo not happy DIVORCE LOR...SAY AGAIN K
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True Story Believe It Or Not
My secondary school mate know this girl in Poly and got her pregnant during an oversea trip. That happens in year 2000.
They went for private hospital for abortion so that the girl will not have any records. But of course private hospital cost about $2,000 to $3,000. And they broke up eventually.
During the past 4 years after abortion, my schoolmate have change so much. He looks very anxious and always wann go back early. His face is always pale greenish. He doesn't behave he use to be. Now he is in Woodbridge and not sure he is out or not because his hp number is not in use. We are unable to contact him.
Our group of friends last meet in April 04 and he told us that there was this little girl keep following him around for the past 2 years but never speak to him. He always heard baby cried after the abortion 4 years ago.
Don't ask me about the girl as we did not keep in contact since after they broke up.
I think many people will said that I am talking cock. But anyhow, better be safe than sorry. Do practise protected sex. -
LOL Me being pro-choice, I don't think Maia's got any reason to sound righteous just because she didn't abort. From the way she answered the question, I think she was just being defensive.
And it's ironic that while you criticise Maia for generalising about "loose" girls and abortions .... you also make a sweeping inference that well-endowed girls are airheads
Originally posted by dotaro:"There are so many girls out there who are loose but they don't have kids--they have abortions" Maia Lee
I dunno how waht was asked for her to blurt out this quote, but it shows that she's nuthin but a airhead chao ah-lian.
Is she condemning all loose girls or is she condemning girls who abort are loose? There are so many heart-wrenching situations which leads to abortions. That doesnt mean they are loose?
Or is Maia "Tow Hong" Lee trying to defend herself being a single mother?
Well, Straits Times Life! did not put any reason behind her quote, I'll take it that she blurt it out thru her airhead, thinking it's cool to be quoted.
That's why I prefer a-cup sized girls...
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She is a bimbo!!
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who knows her full story ah? speak up! if not, don't judge people by just 1 quote laa... i only judge her by her boobs!
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i lyk maia at first but once i heard she iz a un wed mother i began to hate her n all guyz in da world
i tink maia shld not b a singapore idol finalist altho her singer iz good coz she haf a bad reputation for herself liao mah den aiyo dunnoe lar -
All guys?Originally posted by sk8ter_gal:i lyk maia at first but once i heard she iz a un wed mother i began to hate her n all guyz in da world
i tink maia shld not b a singapore idol finalist altho her singer iz good coz she haf a bad reputation for herself liao mah den aiyo dunnoe lar
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Actually, from the above statement, I can't see how Maia is saying that girls who have abortions are loose. My understanding is that she is saying that there are many girls who sleep around and get pregnant, but they choose abortion over having the baby.Originally posted by dotaro:"There are so many girls out there who are loose but they don't have kids--they have abortions" Maia Lee
I guess Singapore is still a pretty conservative society. I don't see anything wrong with her being a single mother, as ultimately it is her choice and I think she is very brave to do so considering the implications and stigma she has to carry in our society as seen from the various posts so far.
Anyways if I were to vote for Maia, it will be for her singing/talent and her private life is really none of business and I won't take that into consideration. Its either you can sing or you can't. I mean think abouto those Hollywood stars who are famous because they can act but their private lives are in shambles. -
yar ofcoz b coz u all omnli noe how 2 shoot sperms make zabor pregnant den nvr b responsible 4 ur actionsOriginally posted by xavier1979:All guys? -
Not all mah...some guys can't wait to be fathers okay...Originally posted by sk8ter_gal:yar ofcoz b coz u all omnli noe how 2 shoot sperms make zabor pregnant den nvr b responsible 4 ur actions
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i think everybody got his/her perceptions in life. I feel that we're wrong to judge ppl by their mistakes. Everyone can see and tell that Maia is an ah lian, but then again, she has her talents. Maybe 1 thing she need to take note to is stop emphazising the purpose of this contest is because of her son.