Wat Do Girls really want from a guy?
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Depends on the personOriginally posted by Ryan99:Does height matter?
But to me, I prefer a taller guy because I'm already so short!!!! I can't imagine it if a guy is shorter then I am! -
Girls also want guys who are able to lick their own eyebrows with their tongues (use your imagination)
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I think they a guy who is :
decisive
respect her
does not cheat one her
able to give some private space
financially stable
ok educational level
taller physical height
i think that's all...... if not you ppl can add.
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my bf's friend is popular with girls here though he's short (like <1.58m). one reason is he's outgoing. the reason that others are willing to break the ice and come up and speak to him (many girls do that) is because he's black... so it's somewhat exotic here i guess.
oh and i forgot to add.. all the girls that are with him are taller than him. -
You seem like such a nice guy. I hope 2005 brings a new love into your life
Things I look out for in a guy are:
Chemistry. This is hard to define.... a mix of physical and mental attraction, humour & a personality you can connect with
Trustworthiness... cos I don't trust people easily, and I can't stand people who don't keep to their word
Someone essentially good. Not a saint! But has some bearings on right and wrong, some morals (even if shaky you still need some to start with hahaha )... someone who treasures his friends and family.
I would also like someone affectionate and generous.Originally posted by Ryan99:The reason why I post messages on this forum is seek first to understand. Because I gave my all in a relationship, it failed. Somewhere along the way, something went terribly wrong and a relationship just failed like that when initially its just so sweet.. I just frustrated why time and time again it happens.. thats why I will strive to understand more about women and improve more on myself so as to have a successful relationship the next time round... -
So What Is Every girls' Dream Guy?
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WeLL, sum gurl wanna sex , money , cash , condo , fun , ... anything .. ?
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Surprise! I stood by my ex even when he was in the absolute pits. He can vouch for me!Originally posted by Ryan99:Haven't you heard of girls who will love a guy against all odds and regardless of whether a guy is successful. rich, educated or not? so there must be something that a girl want...
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*applause!!!*Originally posted by foxwalk:someone who understands or who would want to understand us
someone whom i care abt understanding
someone with whom i can talk abt anything under the sun with
someone who is loyal and faithful
someone who is expressive with his love and thoughtful
someone who is sweet at least sometimes and gives surprises
someone who likes to talk with me and finds me attractive and whom i find attractive
it's what love is about, isnt it
That was eloquent! My exact sentiments! -
for me i want the guy to understand me well, love me wif all his heart and stay faithful..
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Hmm... I guess I'm looking for chemistry, like chocoB.
Also, for good company. He must be intelligent enough to present his unique opinions in subjects we discuss. A smart man is a huge turn-on!
I'd also prefer someone who has decent moral values. He doesn't have to be conservative and rigid but he must uphold a certain standard and be a gentleman in the way he treats me. Also, he must have his life in order and not be a 'messed up' person (and I'm not referring to messy rooms and such). 
Someone who's expressive and who doesn't hesitate to remind me constantly of how much he loves me, because I will do the same. And someone who isn't averse to PDA (Public Displays of Affection) although I would limit it to a quick hug or a quick peck, not those gruesome and indecent 'make out shows' that you get to watch these days, bleah!
He must be faithful and loyal. I have zero tolerance for men who cannot remain devoted. Roving eyes is a definite turn-off. -
sweeping statement. how lovely.Originally posted by Ryan99:Looks like you are the last of your species... an understanding and matured person... Good luck in finding your soulmate... I'm also determined to find mine too, even if I've been hurt countless times...
Everyone is unique in their own ways. What may seem suitable for you may not be suitable for others. Perfection does not exist and never will. Compromise does.
You don't love someone to change him or her. You fell for who he/she is. If you only start nip-picking his/her faults after getting into a r/s, the chances are you don't love him/her that much in the first place. Prolly infatuated I say. -
hmmm... it's actually not hard to achieve the things that you gals wan.. haha.. I could have easily done the things mentioned above
But seriously, could it be that all along I think too much already, thinking that gals want a lot from their boyfriends when in fact they are only looking for simplicity, just like me??? -
now you're talking.Originally posted by Ryan99:hmmm... it's actually not hard to achieve the things that you gals wan.. haha.. I could have easily done the things mentioned above
But seriously, could it be that all along I think too much already, thinking that gals want a lot from their boyfriends when in fact they are only looking for simplicity, just like me???
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Ryan, not all girls are after the same things. There are the nice ones and there are the gold-diggers. The trick is to learn how to sieve out the gems from the stones.
Also, remember that sometimes, gems in their raw form can be unattractive but take time to scrub out the muck and you'll see the shine and brilliance within.
Good luck in your search! -
wah... sounds a bit hard neh... me not much of a jeweller.. how to differentiate? maybe at first they act nice, den after time passes, they reveal to their normal selves...
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the girl actually looking for 5c as a singaporean
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Can anyone update me what are the 5Cs? looks like the 5Cs are constantly changing...
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Hi,
girls love guys that are gallant,gay and strong.
Heed my words,you won't go wrong -
I've been having interesting chats with a few of my married colleagues, asking them how they met their husbands and such. I noticed that they mentioned a few qualities in their husbands that they found attractive were :
- Ardent Devotion. He saw her at her worst moments, and still stayed on and still loved her. I mean, we all have our good and bad moments, our mood swings, our occasional temper tantrums, and we sure wouldn't like to be judged based on that! Everyone's a devil sometimes. 
It'll be nice to know that after we return to our angel mode, he's STILL standing around and he STILL loves us.
- 'I only have eyes for you'... meaning, he made it obvious to her that he wanted her, and only her, nobody else can replace her. She might have rejected him in the beginning because 'I didn't have chemistry with him', or 'he didn't fit my profile of a match' or 'he had habits I didn't like', etc. but he was tenacious in his pursuit of her, never giving up. And so, the best man wins the girl!
- Sincerity. Truthfulness. Honesty.
- Decisiveness and Steadfastness. He was ready to commit to her and his actions spoke louder than words. He didn't need to be prodded or threatened or forced or whatever to take action.
- Emotionally and Mentally Healthy. He shouldn't have emotional baggages nor a pessimistic or cynical view of life that bogs him down and which would drag her down in the long run as well. They used to have boyfriends who were commitmentphobics or chauvinists or spiritually broken and not healed yet from past hurts and they decided that it's best to walk away from men who aren't ready for a real relationship. Your chances of winning a battle is much higher if you have a soldier who is equipped, well-trained, and mentally ready for the battle.
- Companionship. She is able to envision life with him, even when they're just lounging around, nua-ing, doing nothing in particular. She can visualise growing old with him with a sweet smile on her face, no cold sweat, no frown lines.
- Similar goals / morals / dreams / interests / religion / thoughts about family. Some fundamental issues have got to be similar.
It's always interesting talking to married folks. I just learnt the night before that one of my colleagues actually went to the ROM with her husband just six months after they met! And they remain happily married with two kids and she says to this day, they have never had any major fights or quarrels. Isn't that sweet?
Then there was this colleague who thought her husband was crass and didn't like him in the beginning but they've now been married for two years and she's expecting their very first baby. I asked her how she had a sudden change re. her husband and she just said, 'There was absolutely no feelings, no chemistry, no attraction at first, but we just gradually accepted and loved each other over the years'.
None of their husbands are in any way rich. In fact, these ladies have to continue working because they have to remain a dual-income family so, nope, it's not all because of the $$, nor the car, nor the condo, nor the credit card. There are wholesome girls out there who are able to see beyond the material but guys, you HAVE to learn how to SEE them because usually, these girls aren't the flashy, loud, 'happenin' people.
Truth is, a lot of guys go out looking for rabbits in a deer hunt, and that's why the catch is always a misfit. Or, you try to aim for a deer with equipment that's meant for harnessing rabbits (meaning, you aim outside your range, guaranteeing sure rejection). -
Yoz dude,we wun noe wat they want us 2 do ,at tis time nor tat. so we can only hope tat we r doin wat they wans us 2 do at tat exact moment.. tat's hw i feell.... -
It depends on the gal actually.. it cannot be generalised. And cannot used on every gal...
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I guess there is no specific ans to this qns ba...
depends on the ger ..
For me,
the 3 most important stuff are...
Height
Chemistry
Trust -
I tend to believe that "bad guys" (whatever that means) attract the ladies.
Bottomline is: the question should be "What do girls want at various stages in their lives?" With equal rights and increasing educational level, money alone will not do (agee with FoxWalk there).
I guess it's what they want at that particular moment in their life and whether you fit that mode.
My personal opinions, feel free to gun them down -
[quote]Originally posted by Ryan99:
[b]ok... Since most of you says that I'm wrong to assume that Singaporean women have changed for the worst, then can anyone tell me what do Singaporean women want from guys?
Aiya, sigapo cha bo want 3 types of HWA ( flowers )
1. You qian Hwa
2. Luan Luan Hwa
3. shui pen Hwa