Breaking up...
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For the guys out there.
How would/did you guys break up with your girlfriends?
No matter how one does it, the other party will get hurt.
In other words, how to minimise damge? -
usually the best way is to say it outright
dun tuo tuo la la or paint nice story............ -
Dun lie!
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depends if u still 12 b her fren
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Okay, what I am going to say is radical. The truth is that half measures do not work with break up recovery
You have two options:
The first one is to nurture her memory. You can go to therapy and spend hours talking about the way she made you feel. You can spend months trying to understand why she did it. After a while, all your friends will run away. They will use words like pathetic and loser when they talk about you.
The second option is to get your full power back.
A break up is a battle situation. It is a crisis. You have been invested in this girl for months, maybe years. After you break up, you keep on giving. You get back nothing.
Your whole mind set needs to shift and be repolarised to one single priority: you.
There is no soft approach here. She is in your mind and it is killing you. It is a self destructive spiral which annihilates your life.
Why? Because she is in your mind. More! She has power over you.
You are not master of yourself anymore.
What you want is a new mind set. The old mind set of the victim or looser is killing you. You want to defend your life, your territory.
How to do that? You radically shift the way you stand in it. Wake up your survival instinct and get over it.
When you are not over it, you are under it, right? Being under means carrying a useless weight which drains you and takes away your strength. Why is that happening? You have no power. In fact, she does.
Here are some key mind sets you need to wake up in you. These are survival strategies. They are not optional. If you don't apply them, your are dead!
You are not a victim, you are a winner. In fact this break up might be the best thing which ever happened to you. Put it this way: you are free!
She is gone and gone forever. You won't get back together. In other terms don't hope she'll change her mind. If you meet her by coincidence, don't see this as a secret sign that you two are meant for each other!
You don't need her. This is an illusion. You are perfectly fine with or without her.
You will meet new girls. Right now, she does not deserve the attention your give her
Alcohol or drugs does not help. Getting drunk is the worst thing you can do. Drinking does not give you your power back. In fact it does exactly the opposite.
You owe her nothing! A relationship is a temple with two pillars. If she takes off, consider yourself 100% free. Let it totally collapse. It's not your responsibility anymore.
What she does is none of your business! You might believe you have rights? you don't! Simple as that. She does what she wants, when she wants, with whoever she wants. You have no control over that.
Get real! There are many reasons she did what she did. Most of them have to do with fulfilling her own needs. Get real about who she is and what she wanted. Don't defend her.
Again, in a break up situation, you need to wake up your power and see this as a battle for survival. Soft approaches don't work! It is a waste of your precious time.
You have the power to force yourself into a new mind set. This new mind set gives you freedom, space and instant recovery. Sure, you won't get all the negative attention from friends and family (poor thing...). The question is: what do you want? This is about your own survival. Do what it takes to express your full power. -
theres no way to minimise damage. best way is to tel her straight in the faceOriginally posted by holycow23:For the guys out there.
How would/did you guys break up with your girlfriends?
No matter how one does it, the other party will get hurt.
In other words, how to minimise damge?