Hi SGEMP, like u, i'm feelin immensely troubled by the lack of friendships & social interactions in my life... u can read my post penned late last yr... e advices & sharing of experience by a v. nice forumite CP25 was enlightening as well
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=158682&page=0our situation is quite similar... except that i'm a few yrs older than u... studyin in a uni now; however, my sec sch yrs were actually filled with friendship & activities as i had this clique of close frens who lived nearby & attended same sch hence hanged out frequently together... in fact as i looked bac, my sec sch years were the happiest period (socially) of my life

i understand ur pains & e difficulty of merging with the mainstream crowd once u 've been left out... but take heart, cos sec sch times are the easiest to make frens.... most teenagers haven't formed solid cliques & are open to new friendships/relationships (trust me, if it's difficult in sch, it's even more challenging in uni, workplc as ppl by then are more focused in their work & findin a spouse... who wld care for friends, hangout etc..)
The friends u make in workplc may also be more superficial... the bond formed during classroom is usually more sincere & long-lasting... all my close frens (even thou they seldom contact me nowadays ) are those i met in sec sch...
beside cca, u can look out for those students who tend to be alone or quiet in sch... probably some of them share the similar experiences & can understd each other... i know a "MR. Popular" would show much interest if u extend ur hand to him.... so find ppl who are of similar level as u... then slowly, as other students noticed u hav frens, they wld also drop their prejudice (if they exist in the 1st plc) of u & be more welcomin to ur presence...
i know its sounds a bit like strategy here, but that's life sometimes... u may be the nicest, more sincere guy but if u can't present it in a acceptable way to the mainstream crowd, u wld end up feelin like an outcast... [/url]