long story..comments appreciated
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Hmmm.
All i can say is she needs a break. But the fact she took so long to come to that decision shows that she is really keen into it. So i guess not much of a hope left, try not to hang onto that hope but instead learnt from wad u have done wrong and dont repeat it again. Thats the most impt thing. She may or may not accept u back eventually but move on. -
maybe you are just not ready for a relationship, after all, i think you are under 21 years old
this is just your side of the story and until it is possible to know the other party side of the story, which i don't think it is possible, then we can come to the conclusion -
noted all of your points.. thanks for all the advices and comments, and i'm 17 this year
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updates during the weekends..Originally posted by d0ug:but problems started. i wasn't able to take her blog having more of other boys than me. nearly every post has another guy's name. but i know she didn't love him..he was just a friend. but i was just jealous.
and this became one of the biggest problem..
i found out that that guy she always mention likes her..and is chasing her..cause his female friend who is also from the same class as both of them has been making fun of them. she sent comments to him over friendster those glittering pictures showing a heart with both their names.. but the thing is, my love can't view those pictures..and she didnt know..i called her and asked..she was shocked and said she wont be with him even if he confess..he is just a normal friend to her..and admitted that i was right all along saying that guy was interested in her..
to me..its like the guy just acts like shes already his stead..letting ppl know that they seemed to be together..his friendster acc..only has pictures of idols and 1 picture of her..and there was a comment left by my love to him..asking, why is the pic there?? put pics of yourself pls..something like that..
anyways..she told me she had been thinking about what i said..to give me another chance..but when i asked again this morning..it was the same, 'don't waste your time le' ...
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I guess still like her a lot.
You wanted her back right?
What i feel is that, there is still a chance to recover this relationship.
Just that, it would take some time.
Your First Game with her is over...
Now you will need to start everything again...
Stop pestering her with the 'Could you give me another chance?' question... That's irritating. Really. It is irritating because she don't have the answer to give you yet. As you said, she is a person who need time.
'So when to ask her again?'
When the time is right...
'When will the time be right?' is now the problem...
The reason she broke off with you is what her don't like about in this relation.
Firstly, you have to chance this thing first.
For your case, it's your nonsense. Stop all the stupid nonsense. Hope you already learn how to stop those nonsense after the lesson.
After, you have to go back everything from the start again. What i feel is that, she still have the feeling for you.
She maybe very confuse now... Thinking whether should you be given this chance, or to forget about the relationship. She say she will consider it, she mean it.
"anyways..she told me she had been thinking about what i said..to give me another chance..but when i asked again this morning..it was the same, 'don't waste your time le' ..."
This part here is that you irritate her make make her have no other answer to reply you. Stop irritating her or she will really force to mean 'don't waste your time le'
She is feeling awkward now... She don't know how to face you... She will try to avoid you... That will be normal...
What you can do now til the time to ask her again is to make her awkwardness toward you disappear...
Make her feel comfortable with you again... Make her happy... Stop your nonsenses...
You can try to get your relationship better now by treating her like a totally new friend and try to get close to her again...
She didn't block you on msn is a good thing and still can answer your call is also another good thing... Bring the friendship closer... Stop reminding her about your stupid nonsense...
Maybe you can still go out together go gai gai... if cannot one on one then in group with other friend, show her concern (don't overdo it or it become another irritating thing...)...
Hope this will help you.
Btw, from what you wrote, i really feel that she still have the feeling for you...
Don't give up pal!
Also, don't regret whatever path you choose.
Choose your path wisely!
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thanks alot.. i read all of it.. i admit that im indeed a very impatient guy.. and always spoil things myself due to that..
will learn from it..seriously..
thanks for the advice
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i guess i really hurt her alot..
she told me over the phone just now..that everytime she talks about me with her friend she'll feel sad..
sighh..i really don't wanna hurt her anymore..but at the same time don't wish to lose her too..
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Think of a solution to not hurt her, while not losing her...Originally posted by d0ug:i guess i really hurt her alot..
she told me over the phone just now..that everytime she talks about me with her friend she'll feel sad..
sighh..i really don't wanna hurt her anymore..but at the same time don't wish to lose her too..
another way of saying may be, just make her feel comfortable with you...
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got your point..i'm trying my best already..
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Talk to her more and communicate with her more. Learn to be more conscious and aware of what is going on in your life and be more conscious of her moods, feeling and thoughts.Originally posted by d0ug:got your point..i'm trying my best already..
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i finally understood what kind of hell she went through when she was with me..
she loved me dearly..
i doubt her badly..
guys.. hurting her is my greatest regret.. i dont wanna lose her..
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The answer to that question, ironically, is by not begging her for another chance.Originally posted by d0ug:i finally understood what kind of hell she went through when she was with me..
she loved me dearly..
i doubt her badly..
guys.. hurting her is my greatest regret.. i dont wanna lose her..
tell me how can i get another chance from her??
You may think that your groveling is only "sharing your feelings", which is what women supposedly like, but on an emotional level she sees begging as just wimpy.
Don't beg/ fawn/ pester her.
Your way doesn't work because it's based on emotions, brainwashing, false hopes and wishful thinking.
The ball is on her court now.
Search your soul bro - its time for a reality check. -
got you.. thanks =))
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The other forumers have already given u fairly sound advices.
But I wish to add something important ...
When you have to "say" something about who you are as a man, how interesting you are, or how much a person should feel attracted to you with WORDS, it automatically creates doubt... because if it was true, then you wouldn't need to SAY it.
It would be OBVIOUS.
In other words, the best way to communicate all of the most IMPORTANT things is through your actions.
What most guys try to do is convince a woman to feel attraction by telling her all kinds of things about themselves , and it usually BACKFIRES.
Women can smell the "I'm actually insecure" in you.
Please keep that in mind.
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understood.. haha.. you know.. sometimes.. you know what is right to do.. just that.. you don't want to do it.. like giving up.. but its time..
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well TS, you know what to do now after so many replies from us?
Hope you do!
One thing to becareful also, Don't do any other SINGLE thing that will hurt her again...
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i do..
i sent her a msg..saying good bye. and don't wish to hurt her anymore..
with all my nonsense that irritates her..
i have no idea what might happen..
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Send her gd nite message... sweet sweet de...Originally posted by d0ug:i do..
i sent her a msg..saying good bye. and don't wish to hurt her anymore..
with all my nonsense that irritates her..
i have no idea what might happen..
maybe its gone le..
wont be gone so easily de lar...
If gone liao, can have back de mar >.< -
hai..
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something really bad happened to us ytd..
i thought through.. and decided to leave her to find her own happiness..dont wanna hurt her anymore.. so i sent a good bye msg..
moments later.. i went to her blog.. the blog title was "her and the guy's name fairyland thingy" first look, i got angry..
i thought he was the reason why we broke up.. and shes with him now.. so i called her up.. knowing that hours ago she just hang up my phone telling me not to talk about the past.. called her for like 10+ times before she answer.. and she didn't even know about the blog title..she told me its her friends change de.. and yes few of her friends got her acc..i dono why she give them.. she say they want to play mah..so she let them lor..sigh.. and now they are invading her privacy..
i misunderstood her.. and made her angry again.. she msg me ask me for peace.. i'm such a sucker.. when she needed me.. i added on to her problems..
sigh.. i really want to be there for her now.. but shes just pissed with me.. ignoring me totally.. -
still going ?
Anyways i have to say this..
You are a sucker all right...
From first post till now is like a graph going up... then down.. then up... then down...
Reaching the top only to be b|tch slapped down back to ground zero n dangling the carrot for u to climb the mountain again.... n b|tch slap your @ss back down again. -
Every action only shows that you are a guy without self control.Originally posted by d0ug:something really bad happened to us ytd..
i thought through.. and decided to leave her to find her own happiness..dont wanna hurt her anymore.. so i sent a good bye msg..
moments later.. i went to her blog.. the blog title was "her and the guy's name fairyland thingy" first look, i got angry..
i thought he was the reason why we broke up.. and shes with him now.. so i called her up.. knowing that hours ago she just hang up my phone telling me not to talk about the past.. called her for like 10+ times before she answer.. and she didn't even know about the blog title..she told me its her friends change de.. and yes few of her friends got her acc..i dono why she give them.. she say they want to play mah..so she let them lor..sigh.. and now they are invading her privacy..
i misunderstood her.. and made her angry again.. she msg me ask me for peace.. i'm such a sucker.. when she needed me.. i added on to her problems..
sigh.. i really want to be there for her now.. but shes just pissed with me.. ignoring me totally..
YOu think that she wants you but in fact she hates you for doing such dumb things.
If I am the girl I will break up with you for sure. -
The problem lies with you and I'm glad that you know.
1. You lacked of self-confidence which is very important.
Please be more confident next time round, a girl won't be with you if she doesn't love you.
2. In a r/s, TRUST is very important! By nagging at her on how unhappy you were seeing her blog with another guy name you're simply telling her that. I don't trust you and that guy.
Everyone needs their own circle of friends, you won't want her to do the same to you right? By asking you not to make friend with any girls.
3. Gifts need not to be expensive.
You can design your own card and get it print, the most it would only cost $2-$3 or bake your own cookies and put it in a lovely box with some sweets or something, she'll be touched to death! The thing you made is priceless and unique, some girls will appreciate it. Frankly speaking how much can a few stalks of roses cost? Not as if your anniversary falls on Valentine's Day.
Now the point is will you be able to change for her? If you can, just do your best to try patch things up and make things worked! Good luck and all the best to you.