Overcoming jealousy..
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I'm ''together' with a gal who is 6 yrs older than me...we always have dates together from going to east coast to have dinner to juz having a nice chat at her void deck.before i knew her I already know she's the clubbin type and she told me that she had flings.she also told me that she would sometime hug n kiss her flings.i dun mind her having flings cos she say to her flings are juz close guy frens but sometime it stings when the thought of her hugging her flings come to mind. she told me she likes me n stuff and we are together in all sense except in name cos she have some private stuff she have to settle(which i shall not mention here due to privacy) before getting together with me.
Though i dun think she got alot time to meet her flings =x cos i meet her most of the time haha!
Hmmm..so am i stupid or?she's not tat pretty anyway.I also not handsome anyway..tell me your views..pls no flaming =) -
When will she settle the issue that prevents you and her from getting together officially?
Ask her to give you a definite time. If he can't, maybe you want to consider this "relationship". -
hmmm..she had told me december =)
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dun mind if you could provide ur age......it'll help us give u better views.
All i can say now is, she is honest enough to tell u which means she could be pretty much serious in you, that's a good indication.
So its now up to you to decide is you are in or out
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ok dude,
i am going to be downright frank with u. First, u do mind her hugging and kissing her flings? well this is normal, most guy does mind. So if u and her is "officially" together and she is going to continue this habit, do u think u can handle this?
Perhaps, i think u gonna tell her ur thoughts. The every thought that u only want her to hug and kiss u and not other guy. If she refuses, then i think u should seriously reconsidered about this relationship. -
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im 19 she's 25 =DOriginally posted by de_middle:dun mind if you could provide ur age......it'll help us give u better views.
All i can say now is, she is honest enough to tell u which means she could be pretty much serious in you, that's a good indication.
So its now up to you to decide is you are in or out
okok i know i'm still young.but im kinda stubborn and like to persue a challenge..so i'm on my way and asking for advice along the way.. -
Are you sure you are not one of her flings?Originally posted by bkbatboy:I'm ''together' with a gal who is 6 yrs older than me...we always have dates together from going to east coast to have dinner to juz having a nice chat at her void deck.before i knew her I already know she's the clubbin type and she told me that she had flings.she also told me that she would sometime hug n kiss her flings.i dun mind her having flings cos she say to her flings are juz close guy frens but sometime it stings when the thought of her hugging her flings come to mind. she told me she likes me n stuff and we are together in all sense except in name cos she have some private stuff she have to settle(which i shall not mention here due to privacy) before getting together with me.
Though i dun think she got alot time to meet her flings =x cos i meet her most of the time haha!
Hmmm..so am i stupid or?she's not tat pretty anyway.I also not handsome anyway..tell me your views..pls no flaming =)
doko -
no your not being stubborn, you have already developed feelings for her. There were some private things that you chose not to mentioned here & i kinda know what they are.Originally posted by bkbatboy:im 19 she's 25 =D
okok i know i'm still young.but im kinda stubborn and like to persue a challenge..so i'm on my way and asking for advice along the way..
And i know that feeling of being stuck & not knowing what to do. To let go is too painful, to hang on may also be painful.
i urge you to think carefully.....really carefully. In a situation like this, i can safely say you'll love her more that she loves u. So shld this R/s end up sour, you'll be hurt very badly. Am i right to say this
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pretty sure..the feeling she gives me tells me she telling the truthOriginally posted by dokono:Are you sure you are not one of her flings?
doko -
yea i already thought of the ending if it becomes sour.buddan still i wan to go on.hmm..anyway i can maybe get her to love me more?LOL.i know im saying silly things.Originally posted by de_middle:no your not being stubborn, you have already developed feelings for her. There were some private things that you chose not to mentioned here & i kinda know what they are.
And i know that feeling of being stuck & not knowing what to do. To let go is too painful, to hang on may also be painful.
i urge you to think carefully.....really carefully. In a situation like this, i can safely say you'll love her more that she loves u. So shld this R/s end up sour, you'll be hurt very badly. Am i right to say this -
hold no more if you have decided. wish you all the bestOriginally posted by bkbatboy:yea i already thought of the ending if it becomes sour.buddan still i wan to go on.hmm..anyway i can maybe get her to love me more?LOL.i know im saying silly things. -
Don't invest too much into this relationship .. unless you are very sure she's really only into you.Originally posted by bkbatboy:pretty sure..the feeling she gives me tells me she telling the truth
doko -
you want this rs to work at the momment
but in reality,you wont be able to handle it. -
Wait till December lor... Now, start thinking also no use... Anyway, u r still young wat...Originally posted by bkbatboy:hmmm..she had told me december =)
hmmm... the title shoud not be " Overcoming jealousy" seems u state tat u dont mind her actions... >< -
oh ya.back to topic =x. how to make her stop hugging her fling?
and thanks for all de good hearted comments n advice =) really appreciate it -
assuming that she is already in the working society and financially independent.. mature, and it seem that she dun have problem looking for bf.. i wonder what she sees in u leh..
does she like u?
did she agree to stead with u? -
wow so cool.
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hmm..probably she feels comfortable wif me?..and yea she told me she likes me.and about stead..hmmm..my 1st post stated we are attached but not official..Originally posted by browniebaobao:assuming that she is already in the working society and financially independent.. mature, and it seem that she dun have problem looking for bf.. i wonder what she sees in u leh..
does she like u?
did she agree to stead with u? -
Batboy,
Please refer to your first post.
That is essentially what people tells their flings.
That they like them, but will not commit to them.
That they enjoy being with them, but also with others. -
hello,
i will be frank with you here
i'd suggest not to invest too much of your time/money in this r/s....
pursue a challenge? to make her love you more and.... she will leave those flings or hers? to prove somethin that u're able to make her leave them?
im afraid you might be the one who get hurt in the end....
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what's the age range of her flings, she like young ones?
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i respect u for the trust and freedom you give to your girlfriend... *salute....i think she will give back the same trust u give to her...u are a good guy!..
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wa.i see this post very happy.BUT this is juz one of de possibilities..previous ppl stated i might get hurt and those are also possibilities man.wad happen in future no one knows.how true does she feels about me i also dunno.only she know.thats de dilema partOriginally posted by bananaking:i respect u for the trust and freedom you give to your girlfriend... *salute....i think she will give back the same trust u give to her...u are a good guy!.. -
You are not stupid and will never be stupid IF you love her.Originally posted by bkbatboy:I'm ''together' with a gal who is 6 yrs older than me...we always have dates together from going to east coast to have dinner to juz having a nice chat at her void deck.before i knew her I already know she's the clubbin type and she told me that she had flings.she also told me that she would sometime hug n kiss her flings.i dun mind her having flings cos she say to her flings are juz close guy frens but sometime it stings when the thought of her hugging her flings come to mind. she told me she likes me n stuff and we are together in all sense except in name cos she have some private stuff she have to settle(which i shall not mention here due to privacy) before getting together with me.
Though i dun think she got alot time to meet her flings =x cos i meet her most of the time haha!
Hmmm..so am i stupid or?she's not tat pretty anyway.I also not handsome anyway..tell me your views..pls no flaming =)
Otherwise, you are stupid to waste your time and my time and our time.