i'm single again....

• HuaGe

  11 May 08, 13:18

  i broke up with my gf last night...to my surprise, i felt better in terms of feeling...

  we have been together for 4 months plus... we were very happily togther for the first three month till recently, she got her new job and meet up with her colleagues and told me that got 4 colleague like her and confess love to her. she asking me whether can go out with them.. of course i say no and but she insist wan to go but i insist to bring me along and was rejected in the end...when they going out.. i try to call her and ask her whether she reach hm..but she kept rejected my calls and dun wan to reply my sms or took a few hours to reply me... the more things i found out from her were she went out same colleague to dinner, movie, ktv and go sentosa beach together...i was so angry that i told her how sad am i and she promised me not to do it again and will treat me like before...i;m such a fool and believe that....the things happened again.... i really can not take it.. and i told her i wanna to break up with her..and she just said ok...that was so obvious...hai... one thing i can;t take it is why she has no courage to settle this type od matter face to face..or maybe on the phone..why over sms....at the end of the day...i think i did somethi right...

• qlqq9

  11 May 08, 13:25

  Don't understand what really cause your exgirlfriend to behave such.   Believe she is still looking around though she is your girlfriend.   YOu two have to be honest with yourselves what really happen and are you two suitable for each other.

• alwaysdisturbed

  11 May 08, 13:29

  wah similar thing happened to me few weeks ago.

• qlqq9

  11 May 08, 13:30

  so this is a break up season is it?

• HuaGe

  11 May 08, 13:34

  alwaysdisturbed, u felt cheated rite? u intial the break up even though u still love her..
• *casuarina*

  11 May 08, 14:38

  yupps i guess she is still looking around. . . perhaps she doesnt intend to commit herself yet. .

  i guess time can heal pain! brace urself up yea?

• HuaGe

  11 May 08, 15:03

  thanks casuarina...its a lesson for me anyway...more experience indeed..

• FireIce

  11 May 08, 15:07

  for this situation im happy for u tt u are single!

• ghast.

  11 May 08, 16:15

  i'm glad u've chosen to do that. i know this sounds super cliche but you definitely deserve someone better. my ex bf did the exact same thing too. he didn't want to do it face to face nor the phone but through sms. what microscopic balls he's got man.

   

  all the best la.

• Yuki~!

  11 May 08, 16:17

  She was your girlfriend then why is she going out with other guys?
  Nvm k, you did the right thing imo

• Ah Cek

  11 May 08, 16:31

  faster find another one. dun get settle down too late.

• ~Cyfer33

  11 May 08, 16:32

  Ive learned my lesson long ago. When back in Poly, a good friend once told me, never give your heart out 100% or you will regret it later. Even if you think youve found that someone special, always keeps at 50% max so that you wont be devastated if it dont works out.

   

   

   

• Ah Cek

  11 May 08, 16:41

  even married couples have to turn a blind eye to each other. then the marriage can sustain.

• thehappybunny

  11 May 08, 16:45

  maybe she taking you as her toy

• SquarePants

  11 May 08, 16:56

  Originally posted by FireIce:

  for this situation im happy for u tt u are single!

  
  u got more choices now !

• qlqq9

  11 May 08, 16:58

  Originally posted by SquarePants:

  
  u got more choices now !

  hahaha 

• HuaGe

  11 May 08, 17:13

  i agree with cyfer33...nv put 100% in it... i have being too serious in all the relationship so far..and guess what.. i;m always ended getting hurt in the end...:(

• thehappybunny

  11 May 08, 17:17

  hannor. never worth putting in 100%

• cApitaland

  11 May 08, 17:22

  but 50% abit too little leh. unless your 50% is like really really alot la.

• pewpew

  11 May 08, 18:38

  nvm lor. theres always the single's club for you mah.

• xavier1979

  11 May 08, 18:45

  At least you got to see through her true character before you become heady and get married.

• alwaysdisturbed

  11 May 08, 19:05

  Originally posted by HuaGe:

  alwaysdisturbed, u felt cheated rite? u intial the break up even though u still love her..

  
  not really, its human nature to want the best for themselves. if i can't make her stay now, i doubt she'll be able to resist to better options in future. so let it be. just make sure she don't come running back.

  overall i didn't expect it to happen on her but life is full of unpredictable things. narrow the risk, keep an open mind.

• alwaysdisturbed

  11 May 08, 19:07

  Originally posted by Yuki~!:

  She was your girlfriend then why is she going out with other guys?
  Nvm k, you did the right thing imo

  why cannot? can't she have other guy friends?

• ~Cyfer33

  11 May 08, 19:14

  HuaGe, Im sure things will get better once youve understood the whole thing.

  The funny part about this is, the more you give, the less you gonna get in return. But the lesser you give, the chances are, you will get so much more. Sounds wierd?

  Let me explain it like this; when you give it all, the other party notices this and will almost always take you for granted. That is what probably happened in your case.

  While Im not saying that you should go out and play around, the key is to make more friends and keep all options open.

  Once that someone special finally decides to settle down with you, then it is the right time to give it all....

• Lorry`

  11 May 08, 20:33

  i say you did the right thing

  the r/s is only 4months so i guess the impact is not that big, is it?

  shes still in the hunting mood.. so yea.

  it's better than she brings up the break up first right, makes you look worst i say