Will you say "I do" to someone you don't love?

• parn

  30 Jul 08, 16:42

  Everyone get emotional hurts in relationships at least once in their lives.

  We get hurted because we allow ourselves to be hurt. Yes, we only allow our loved ones to hurt us and only they can really hurt us.

  So will you agree to marry someone you know you don't love because you do not want to be hurt anymore?

  Wiill you do that in search of happiness?

   

• wonderamazement

  30 Jul 08, 16:44

  at that stage liao still no gao qing chu?

• cuddles

  30 Jul 08, 16:45

  Originally posted by parn:

  Everyone get emotional hurts in relationships at least once in their lives.

  We get hurted because we allow ourselves to be hurt. Yes, we only allow our loved ones to hurt us and only they can really hurt us.

  So will you agree to marry someone you know you don't love because you do not want to be hurt anymore?

  Wiill you do that in search of happiness?

   

  nope.. never.. and the last thing anyone wanna know is the person who he or she married didn't really love him or her..

  sad story lo..

• 16/f/lonely

  30 Jul 08, 16:47

  Why not?

  If my friend asks me if I want a drink at lunch I would say: I do.

  It's not like I'm in love with my friends.

• deathwish

  30 Jul 08, 16:48

  Nope won't do that.. Being married w/o love involved might as well be Best Friends.

• Fs4751

  30 Jul 08, 16:53

  Majority wont say "I do" if they dont love somebdoy....

  but let us pause, and look at arranged marriage...

  Ever wonder how these people say "i do" ??

  saying "I do" w/o love?...

• viciouskitty74

  30 Jul 08, 16:53

  depends.

  because love does not last. it does not feed the hungry and does not pay the bills.

• XxYaNxX

  30 Jul 08, 17:19

  Never , no love - no marriage

• cantdecide

  30 Jul 08, 22:22

  there's a saying, marry the one you love and love the one you marry. - J

• Karma88

  30 Jul 08, 23:17

  Better not marry the one u dont love .

  Later next time divorce also jia lat .

  Find someone who u really love and can live with . Then think of getting married .

• Beautiful951

  30 Jul 08, 23:20

  Originally posted by 16/f/lonely:

  Why not?

  If my friend asks me if I want a drink at lunch I would say: I do.

  It's not like I'm in love with my friends.

  haha this is funny. you are very clever

• parn

  31 Jul 08, 01:01

  If we married someone that we loved, and once that love ended, wouldn't the reason for being married disappeared at the same time? Resulting in divorce...

  If we married someone we don't really love, it is possible to learn to like/love someone after having spent time together after marriage. Thus even if the love ended, the reason for being married will still hold the marriage together.

  Possible? Especially at times like this where love = sex/lust/???, it might be better to go for arranged marriage if seeking for a better happiness in the future.

   

• Hello Kitty

  31 Jul 08, 01:15

  i tink dat it's betta to marry sumone who luvs u.

• bb_mm

  31 Jul 08, 01:56

  no love, no marriage, no kids, no future.

• deathwish

  31 Jul 08, 08:50

  If you have the chemistry there even if things turn stale for a period of time, the sparks can be ignited!

• ispyyy

  31 Jul 08, 09:32

  I think most will choose to marry those that they love because tat is the most logical way... Marry those that u love will have higher chances of marriage success...

  However, I think pre arrange marriage is romantic if both parties have the desire and drive to build up the marriage... In reality, few will want to build relationship out of unknown... Hence, it is romantic lor...

   

   

• dojon

  31 Jul 08, 10:54

  This question lame leh... At this stage where your love one actually can propose to you and then you realise you dun love ? Weird leh...

   

  Dun tell me its a stranger who is proposing ... -_-

• RedizAlertz

  31 Jul 08, 11:50

  There must be some truth in tis sentence, "The one whom you love will not be the one whom you'll be marrying".  Love is a very strong & powerful word, of cos, with different definations from all individuals..

  I dun think a man (assumin it's a man, unless otherwise stated) will propose if his confidence level is not up to certain degrees..And a woman (again assuming, unless otherwise stated) who has been hurt to certain degrees, will start b protectin herself unless she feels the love of the man.  In this case, the woman might accept the proposal, knowing full well tat he is not the one she loves.

  But, she doesnt has a choice.  She needs a harbour to berth.  Her heart needs to heal.

  So, to ans ur qn, if im a woman...yes, i might do tat if the man is not someone whom i dislike - for the sake of happiness.

• BadzMaro

  31 Jul 08, 11:52

  Originally posted by RedizAlertz:

  There must be some truth in tis sentence, "The one whom you love will not be the one whom you'll be marrying".  Love is a very strong & powerful word, of cos, with different definations from all individuals..

  I dun think a man (assumin it's a man, unless otherwise stated) will propose if his confidence level is not up to certain degrees..And a woman (again assuming, unless otherwise stated) who has been hurt to certain degrees, will start b protectin herself unless she feels the love of the man.  In this case, the woman might accept the proposal, knowing full well tat he is not the one she loves.

  But, she doesnt has a choice.  She needs a harbour to berth.  Her heart needs to heal.

  So, to ans ur qn, if im a woman...yes, i might do tat if the man is not someone whom i dislike - for the sake of happiness.

  Are u of female gender ?

• RedizAlertz

  31 Jul 08, 11:59

  Originally posted by BadzMaro:

  Are u of female gender ?

  
  Will a question of gender makes any difference to my answer??

• 4Justice

  31 Jul 08, 11:59

  Originally posted by parn:

  Everyone get emotional hurts in relationships at least once in their lives.

  We get hurted because we allow ourselves to be hurt. Yes, we only allow our loved ones to hurt us and only they can really hurt us.

  So will you agree to marry someone you know you don't love because you do not want to be hurt anymore?

  Wiill you do that in search of happiness?

   

  
  I wouldn't for my own sake, to be honest. However I've been known to find it hard to reject people I don't like because I don't want to hurt them. Then again, I'd be a liar if I didn't find it a bit of an ego trip.

• 4Justice

  31 Jul 08, 12:02

  Originally posted by bb_mm:

  no love, no marriage, no kids, no future.

  
  oh yea?

  

• ChiBet

  31 Jul 08, 12:02

  love is overated

  love is just a chemical reaction in your brain and as with all chemical reactions, it will stop one day

  i fall in love about 20 times/year with different women but i do not plan to marry them all.

  with marrige, it is more about commitment

  can you see yourself making a commitment to stay faithful to him/her?
  do you think he/she can make a commitment to stay faithful to you?

  as for divorces, they happen because of only one reason - lack of commitment

   

  sure, people will say, my partner is abusive, my partner is unfaithful, my partner is impotent but all these are excuses, if the commitment is there, all these problems can be endured

• 4Justice

  31 Jul 08, 12:04

  chibet: thats just an excuse for being a f*ck around. lol you say love, more like lust la.

• BadzMaro

  31 Jul 08, 12:06

  Originally posted by ChiBet:

  sure, people will say, my partner is abusive, my partner is unfaithful, my partner is impotent but all these are excuses, if the commitment is there, all these problems can be endured

  A commitment to continue to abuse , being unfaitful and being impotent. haha