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Originally posted by dracas:I used to have low confidence in myself....after these few yrs of polishing up my image and gaining valuable skills, i began to feel like a new person. In fact, I am on par with everyone else, or maybe sometimes even better than them. I hate to feel this way. Being a christian, we are taught to give unconditionally, but sumtimes u know how awful it feels being unable to do so?
U carefully weighs the pros and cons of every things, as if it is a transaction. The reason being u gave too much too much in the past and have gotten back nothing. So now is the time u get back everything hundredfold.
In fact, I dun like to mix around with people i consider inferior in character to me. I dun mind if they are not as good as me now but they should have least have the decent attitude to show that they have the drive in life. Seeing them as a lazy-slug reminds me of myself a few yrs back, those days, i would rather break a leg than study for exams. Now to think of it, i would give myself 2 tight slaps. so now I would even roll my eyes secretly if i see them approaching me. And of cos i know its not good to treat others this way. But I read about how too much in the bad company of others will lead to self-degradation. And only constantly being in the company of people superior to you will you improve.
And also to constantly strive to be the best? Some ppl may tink its a good thing but now Im beginning to feel the heat. It takes much effort to be 1 of the best and to stay there. Reminds me of zaizen goro from great white tower.
Good for you TS. You have seen the light, but do spare a thought for others as well. If you can see the effectiveness of being around superior people, maybe they wish to mix with you in order to get motivation?
I think that your thinking is good. Keep it up.. But in life, you meet all sort of people.. surround these people that you think that can improve yourself and bring happiness to your life...
I have meet people.
Some bring your misery to ur life , disapoint u..
so surrounded people that make you happy and bring life to you.
Yes focusing on gaining valuable skills is the way to go.. However i don't think self confidence has anything to do with comparing yourself favorably with others.. as your first paragraph suggests
from low confidence guy u have became a si bei haolian guy ?????
can't even spell judgment still say others are inferior to u?
Are you really that great? Never look down on people this is my advice, no matter how inderior they are to u. They are also human beings.
Originally posted by dracas:I used to have low confidence in myself....after these few yrs of polishing up my image and gaining valuable skills, i began to feel like a new person. In fact, I am on par with everyone else, or maybe sometimes even better than them. I hate to feel this way. Being a christian, we are taught to give unconditionally, but sumtimes u know how awful it feels being unable to do so?
U carefully weighs the pros and cons of every things, as if it is a transaction. The reason being u gave too much too much in the past and have gotten back nothing. So now is the time u get back everything hundredfold.
In fact, I dun like to mix around with people i consider inferior in character to me. I dun mind if they are not as good as me now but they should have least have the decent attitude to show that they have the drive in life. Seeing them as a lazy-slug reminds me of myself a few yrs back, those days, i would rather break a leg than study for exams. Now to think of it, i would give myself 2 tight slaps. so now I would even roll my eyes secretly if i see them approaching me. And of cos i know its not good to treat others this way. But I read about how too much in the bad company of others will lead to self-degradation. And only constantly being in the company of people superior to you will you improve.
And also to constantly strive to be the best? Some ppl may tink its a good thing but now Im beginning to feel the heat. It takes much effort to be 1 of the best and to stay there. Reminds me of zaizen goro from great white tower.
"And also to constantly strive to be the best? Some ppl may tink its a good thing but now Im beginning to feel the heat. It takes much effort to be 1 of the best and to stay there. "
Maybe you would like to share some information on the aspects in which you are "1 of the best " ?
i believe there are all sorts of people you will meet in life. i don't think you should avoid people who are seemingly more inferior compared to you. there are bound to be smarter people than you in this world. do you want them to view you, the way you view those people u deem inferior? people have their low times in life just like how you had yours when u didnt have enough self confidence or didnt like studying. try helping those people if you do know them personally.
Didn't the bible teach you not to pass judgement on someone else? You were once lazy, but fortunately, have changed for the better. But instead of helping those who shadow your past, you regarded them as inferior.
Sorry to say, but I think your character is more flawed than those you've regarded inferior to you.
“When pride cometh, then cometh shame: but with the lowly is wisdom.” -Proverbs 11:2
Your arrogance will most likely get you nowhere in life no matter how hard you try to improve. You clearly know that you're not the best either, as a true leader understands the consequences of self-gratification.