What to do?
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I have a stable girl friend for nearly two years , recently a girl who is younger than me appeared in my world ( her attiude and way she speak ) really assamble to my ex.
I started to feel like chatting with her so i tried to get to know her more , my friend gave me her contacts , she seem friendly and I feel comfortable chatting with her at times.
I tried to forget her but she kept appearing in my mind.
Should I just treat the girl who look like my ex like a friend and forget her quickly?
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This only means.. your relationship with your current gf is not stable afterall.
You should not be asking how you ought to treat this new girl.
Rather.. ask yourself what you need to do with your current relationship with your gf.
If you think girls are ignorant fools who cannot see that you have a change of heart or you are actually thinking of another girl.. you are being foolish.
If you value your gf, you will put yourself in a position which will not jeopardise your current relationship.
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your english is seriously lol. assamble<-- totally lol
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Originally posted by Sv_190:
I have a stable girl friend for nearly two years , recently a girl who is younger than me appeared in my world ( her attiude and way she speak ) really assamble to my ex.
I started to feel like chatting with her so i tried to get to know her more , my friend gave me her contacts , she seem friendly and I feel comfortable chatting with her at times.
I tried to forget her but she kept appearing in my mind.
Should I just treat the girl who look like my ex like a friend and forget her quickly?
only u know whether by treating her as a friend will not harm ur current r/s.
but if ur intend is to let it harm, ur one selfish fella.
so u decide....
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im always curious.
why does ppl love their ex more?
if u love her so much y get another one?
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Originally posted by ifish:
im always curious.
why does ppl love their ex more?
if u love her so much y get another one?
It's just an excellent excuse to get out of a relationship. -
u are the 1 that is greedy
clear up yr mind
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Originally posted by Sv_190:
I have a stable girl friend for nearly two years , recently a girl who is younger than me appeared in my world ( her attiude and way she speak ) really assamble to my ex.
I started to feel like chatting with her so i tried to get to know her more , my friend gave me her contacts , she seem friendly and I feel comfortable chatting with her at times.
I tried to forget her but she kept appearing in my mind.
Should I just treat the girl who look like my ex like a friend and forget her quickly?
if u know where to draw the line then carry on as a fren... -
either your current r/s isn't stablized enough (having problems)..
OR
you don't love your current GF enough
OR
you still pined for your ex..
OR
you are a flirt
Conclusion : R/S going to KABOOM soon
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Originally posted by Sv_190:
I have a stable girl friend for nearly two years , recently a girl who is younger than me appeared in my world ( her attiude and way she speak ) really assamble to my ex.
I started to feel like chatting with her so i tried to get to know her more , my friend gave me her contacts , she seem friendly and I feel comfortable chatting with her at times.
I tried to forget her but she kept appearing in my mind.
Should I just treat the girl who look like my ex like a friend and forget her quickly?
Of course treat her like a friend.
Unless you got a reason not to treat her like a friend?
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Friend obviously, unless u wanna put you r/s between u and your gf at risk.
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Dun be an arse....
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Sometimes , my girl friend just cannot accept myself having a female friend be it casual friend or close friend
Even my cousin , sometimes she feel jealous about it
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why think so much sia....just stick to your current relationship la...
how you know that girl will accept you??aiyo...*shake head*
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Originally posted by Sv_190:
I have a stable girl friend for nearly two years , recently a girl who is younger than me appeared in my world ( her attiude and way she speak ) really assamble to my ex.
I started to feel like chatting with her so i tried to get to know her more , my friend gave me her contacts , she seem friendly and I feel comfortable chatting with her at times.
I tried to forget her but she kept appearing in my mind.
Should I just treat the girl who look like my ex like a friend and forget her quickly?
my advice is : go with the flow.
since you are still not married, you need to be clear what kind of woman you really desire for a life partner.
you can have a stead for 2 years or more. but that does not necessarily mean she's definitely the one who's destined to marry you.
marriage can either be your bliss or your grave. think and look long-term, and find the right life partner, before you sign that piece of paper that will seal your fate.
in love, there's no right or wrong. if you really love someone, fight for her with your dear life. and if you no longer love her, please be merciful enough to let her go find her new happiness. a woman's youth is limited. don't waste her time, and yours.
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Originally posted by arieswilson:
my advice is : go with the flow.
since you are still not married, you need to be clear what kind of woman you really desire for a life partner.
you can have a stead for 2 years or more. but that does not necessarily mean she's definitely the one who's destined to marry you.
marriage can either be your bliss or your grave. think and look long-term, and find the right life partner, before you sign that piece of paper that will seal your fate.
in love, there's no right or wrong. if you really love someone, fight for her with your dear life. and if you no longer love her, please be merciful enough to let her go find her new happiness. a woman's youth is limited. don't waste her time, and yours.
agree.. esp the part in red
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Originally posted by Sv_190:
I have a stable girl friend for nearly two years , recently a girl who is younger than me appeared in my world ( her attiude and way she speak ) really assamble to my ex.
I started to feel like chatting with her so i tried to get to know her more , my friend gave me her contacts , she seem friendly and I feel comfortable chatting with her at times.
I tried to forget her but she kept appearing in my mind.
Should I just treat the girl who look like my ex like a friend and forget her quickly?
Wads assamble? Assemble? I have no idea again, wad you talking sia. Hahaha.
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Originally posted by ifish:
im always curious.
why does ppl love their ex more?
if u love her so much y get another one?
you always crave for the things you cant have the most.
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Originally posted by Sv_190:
I have a stable girl friend for nearly two years , recently a girl who is younger than me appeared in my world ( her attiude and way she speak ) really assamble to my ex.
I started to feel like chatting with her so i tried to get to know her more , my friend gave me her contacts , she seem friendly and I feel comfortable chatting with her at times.
I tried to forget her but she kept appearing in my mind.
Should I just treat the girl who look like my ex like a friend and forget her quickly?
The stark resemblance does not signify anything - it is your attitude and perception towards such visual imaginary that seemed to suggest your karmic bond with this person. Such phenomenon is likely generated because of our irrevocable actions in the past that are generally beyond our scope of control. And because we can't turn back time to alter our regretful past, our present and future remained in status quo based on our earlier decision via freewill. Albeit the law of causality might be rigid, but our minds and heart isn't. Hence, phenomenon of resemblance resulted in an implicit behavior/mindset that served under the theory of 'Time Machine' (CloUdiSm). Because in the realm where 'Love is blind', similarity will naturally (and usually automatically) perceived from the source where it first began and the seeming linkage is establish, although it pretty much illusional.
I will illustrate a simple example:
There are times when we felt that we made mistakes and regret in life, with regards to our previous relationship. Equally often, it might not be mistakes - perhaps we felt that we could 'do more' (whatever 'more' meant to you philosophically). And because the manifestation has already occur and we are unable to undo our circumstances, we shoulder certain unconscious anguish or bitterness that carries in our soul.
Such suppression are dormant and only brought into surface when the concept of time triggers a astrological/karmic pattern to bring forth such situation once again.
Then you might question - why such a phenomenon?
There are two likely reasons:
I) It served to test the foundation of your relationship. Those who are stuck in the misery of their past will often create the path of destruction for their relationship of the future.
II) The absence of graduation in prior cosmic lessons resulted in reiteration of the same chapter once again. What we cannot master, we learn again.
I suggest instead of first leading yourself into the direction of asking 'Should i just forget her quickly' - I reckon you should reframe your question and direct the question inwardly.
'What does this mean to me and my development in Love?'
You might want to understand if there's an action/s you wish to compensate for your previous failed relationship and unconsciously directing this effort towards this 'proxy'?
Also the identity of your relationship is being questioned as well.
'What does it means for your relationship and your gf?' Namely, is your current gf lesser in any aspect than a figure of the past?
Only with careful examination of yourself, would you be able to have the clarity to decide your course of action with wisdom.
Cheers
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Originally posted by Yunhaier: The stark resemblance does not signify anything - it is your attitude and perception towards such visual imaginary that seemed to suggest your karmic bond with this person. Such phenomenon is likely generated because of our irrevocable actions in the past that are generally beyond our scope of control. And because we can't turn back time to alter our regretful past, our present and future remained in status quo based on our earlier decision via freewill.
Albeit the law of causality might be rigid, but our minds and heart isn't. Hence, phenomenon of resemblance resulted in an implicit behavior/mindset that served under the theory of 'Time Machine' (CloUdiSm). Because in the realm where 'Love is blind', similarity will naturally (and usually automatically) perceived from the source where it first began and the seeming linkage is establish, although it pretty much illusional.
I will illustrate a simple example:
There are times when we felt that we made mistakes and regret in life, with regards to our previous relationship. Equally often, it might not be mistakes - perhaps we felt that we could 'do more' (whatever 'more' meant to you philosophically). And because the manifestation has already occur and we are unable to undo our circumstances, we shoulder certain unconscious anguish or bitterness that carries in our soul.
Such suppression are dormant and only brought into surface when the concept of time triggers a astrological/karmic pattern to bring forth such situation once again.
Then you might question - why such a phenomenon?
There are two likely reasons:
I) It served to test the foundation of your relationship. Those who are stuck in the misery of their past will often create the path of destruction for their relationship of the future.
II) The absence of graduation in prior cosmic lessons resulted in reiteration of the same chapter once again. What we cannot master, we learn again.
I suggest instead of first leading yourself into the direction of asking 'Should i just forget her quickly' - I reckon you should reframe your question and direct the question inwardly.
'What does this mean to me and my development in Love?'
You might want to understand if there's an action/s you wish to compensate for your previous failed relationship and unconsciously directing this effort towards this 'proxy'?
Also the identity of your relationship is being questioned as well.
'What does it means for your relationship and your gf?' Namely, is your current gf lesser in any aspect than a figure of the past?
Only with careful examination of yourself, would you be able to have the clarity to decide your course of action with wisdom.
Cheers
can i ask what is cloudism? is it created by you or is it found in references?