what would you if you are in my shoes
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i have been with my boyfriend for 6 months. during this 6 months, he has been breaking a lot of promises. each time i forgive him because i thought that he would learn from his mistakes.
he lie abt a lot of things, until to the point i dun knoe wat is real and what is unreal. he is self-centred and thinks that he is the center of the whole world.
he treats his friends better than he treat me. we go dutch all the time. i understand that at that point of time, he is still clearing his debts. but now that he has cleared finish, he still go dutch with me and keep saying he's on budget. i do not wish to eat expensive food, but at least when we go out, just want to be pampered by him. is it wrong of me to even want that?
he also admit to the statement that if i was a pretty girl, he would not treat me like this. that makes me wonder why is he with me in the first place?
he is obviously not mature in his thinking, and a show-off in what he say and what he do.
i thought of us just remaining as friends once again and let nature takes its course from there. if i'm going to marry such a guy, i cannot imagine what would happening. am i not being understanding enough?
what would you do if you are in my shoes?
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break off makes your life easier
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Originally posted by min_min:
i have been with my boyfriend for 6 months. during this 6 months, he has been breaking a lot of promises. each time i forgive him because i thought that he would learn from his mistakes.
he lie abt a lot of things, until to the point i dun knoe wat is real and what is unreal. he is self-centred and thinks that he is the center of the whole world.
he treats his friends better than he treat me. we go dutch all the time. i understand that at that point of time, he is still clearing his debts. but now that he has cleared finish, he still go dutch with me and keep saying he's on budget. i do not wish to eat expensive food, but at least when we go out, just want to be pampered by him. is it wrong of me to even want that?
he also admit to the statement that if i was a pretty girl, he would not treat me like this. that makes me wonder why is he with me in the first place?
he is obviously not mature in his thinking, and a show-off in what he say and what he do.
i thought of us just remaining as friends once again and let nature takes its course from there. if i'm going to marry such a guy, i cannot imagine what would happening. am i not being understanding enough?
what would you do if you are in my shoes?
since its such a pain then best is u get a better bf... btw how old both of u? -
you already know what you should do. So why ask.
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stay "CLEAR"
life short, you still young
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Originally posted by BrUtUs:
since its such a pain then best is u get a better bf... btw how old both of u?
i'm 24, he's 2 years older than me -
Originally posted by min_min:
i'm 24, he's 2 years older than me
how both of u got 2gether in 1st place? how long u knew him? -
is there possibly any good thing about the guy to stay with him?
i see none
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Originally posted by BrUtUs:
how both of u got 2gether in 1st place? how long u knew him?
known him not long at all. met him online. -
Originally posted by min_min:
i'm 24, he's 2 years older than meyou're still fricken young..
he seems a piece of crap.. really..
he doesn't seem to give a shit about you and is treating you like trash..
now.. ask yourself.. do you want to be a piece of trash the rest of your life?
you know the answer to your questions..
so, courage! make the decisions!
i wish you well
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do you think it's very cruel of me to break up with him?
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Originally posted by min_min:
do you think it's very cruel of me to break up with him?
it is not my place to say this but i will anyway... you'll be very cruel to yourself if you stayed with him...
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Originally posted by min_min:
do you think it's very cruel of me to break up with him?
find ur happiness... he will find the 'pretty' gal he wan... -
sian la if u around my age i confirm ask u pm me and i be ur bf
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TS, i agree dat's it's wrong for yr bf to lie n be selfish
however, aren't u a little selfish too?? u juz wan want yrself to be pampered, but have u pampered yr bf?
it's perfectly all right for couples to go dutch, u can go ard n ask the couples around u, esp the couples who have been together for quite awhile, i believe almost all shld be going dutch. first date i have nothing to say, but now you still expecting your bf to pay for everything?? be fair to him too
no offence meant
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Originally posted by 00king00:
TS, i agree dat's it's wrong for yr bf to lie n be selfish
however, aren't u a little selfish too?? u juz wan want yrself to be pampered, but have u pampered yr bf?
it's perfectly all right for couples to go dutch, u can go ard n ask the couples around u, esp the couples who have been together for quite awhile, i believe almost all shld be going dutch. first date i have nothing to say, but now you still expecting your bf to pay for everything?? be fair to him too
no offence meant
yes i have pampered him, i have pay for everything that i possibly could. i have not been selfish in this relationship. i have a clear conscience on it.
not talking about money, talking abt his attitude.
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" he also admit to the statement that if i was a pretty girl, he would not treat me like this. "
who will ever said that to someone he love.
just break offf with him
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Do not marry him
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Originally posted by min_min:
known him not long at all. met him online.you better be careful..
did u read the recent news about online frens..
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Well it's only just started, you might as well end the relationship now than later. If you end it now, you won't think much about him nor will you give a shit that much. But if you dump him later like a year time, it will be much harder to forget about him.
Besides I take it that your young, as everyone knows here, they are plenty of guys or girls out there. So why waste the opportunity with being with one guy where you can find a guy out there who is 10 times better than your current bf?
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You are being cruel to yourself.
With him you will be complaining the rest of the time (or life), like what you are doing now. You want that?
Get someone you look up to, you speak well of, and you adore.
Hitch up with someone you disdain, and its your own fault.
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what is go dutch?
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Originally posted by Maith:
what is go dutch?
I have no idea, kiddie term in describing we are going solo? -
Originally posted by Maith:
what is go dutch?
i pay for mine, you pay for yours
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sorry to say this.... But before you point at him...
Sometime you have to sit down and evaluate your feelings towards him.
Maybe you do not love him anymore. you are now with him not to break his heart and maybe you are not sure yourself.because you are not sure, you do not treat him well also.
Have u ever asked him about his feelings?But then you say he likes to lie. Then I would really say, there is no point in staying together with someone who has no intergrity. Now no money can, but no integrity is very bad.
These things u have to sit down and think.
If no love then...24 young... no worries...