Hi people, recently i am out with a lady. and well, we kinda can click. so there was this one time when we are out with my friends and so the 5 of us were talking.
While the conversation is travelling across the table and it's kinda noisy. She kinda ask me this qns "are you single?" but i pretend i never heard it and just answer my other friends questions.
Recently she was alittle down and we are talking at msn. so she was kind of quite sad and she just tell me " just be there for me ok? "
so i replied her i will. judging by what she type, i know i might think too much but i really wish to get an answer to it.
Well, to be frank i am interested in her but still getting to know her better.
Is she alittle attracted to me? Or she just treat me as a normal friend? Well for me, i wont go and ask my friend to be there for me unless i am interested in her. That's why i need a woman point of view here.
Thanks alot for the guidance.
congratz
u are the spare tyre
why would you say so? why am i the spare tyre?
you're in your teens still?
or 20+ alr?
mid 20 already.
both working adults already. just thought of seeking some help here. i feel very demoralise too. i duno what she meant by that.
does everyone tell your friends " just be there for me? " i asked my friends, well, some told me, she is alittle interested. some say maybe just friends. but.. 80% told me, no one will ask someone they dont like to be there for them.
sigh.
got feel anot towards her?
ya, like i said. i have feelings towards her. but i still want to know her better.
i duno if she has feelings for me anot though. i doubt so. but if dont have,then why ask me to be there for her?
2 possible answer:
1) She is bored and she need someone to talk to.
2) She show interest on you, but hesitant.
then how to know if a lady is interested in you?
it's a very common qns but very hard to answer qns i guess?
well, normally we go out in groups and we will talk to one another. but so far, from what i see, it's still at the friends stage.
how do i get to the next stage?
Try to get close to her, but not to discomfort her.
Ask her out for lunch often and get to be close and know her.
actually i did tried once. but she could not make it. cos she have work the next day. but it kinda demoralise me.
i was thinking if u are really interested in that person, you will still find time to go out for a short meal. but this issnt the case.
is it normal to get rejected for a meal? i am a person that will think alot that's why i am kind of very demoralise now. like i dunno what else i should do. my feelings is getting deeper per day. sigh
Originally posted by mitgalant:actually i did tried once. but she could not make it. cos she have work the next day. but it kinda demoralise me.
i was thinking if u are really interested in that person, you will still find time to go out for a short meal. but this issnt the case.
is it normal to get rejected for a meal? i am a person that will think alot that's why i am kind of very demoralise now. like i dunno what else i should do. my feelings is getting deeper per day. sigh
one innocent rejection only you get demoralized.. where's your balls bro ?
Ask her out again lah.
If she rejects you 3 times.. then confirm she not interested in you loh.
When you avoided her question... she already think you "taken".. so she ofcors won't make any more advancements lah.. so simple lah brah.
confess..
actually she know i'm single now.
just that i am wondering only. the sentence of asking me to be there for her seems so hard to understand.
sigh, headache
usually when i start with a girl first few years try to go with her alone. also if have to join her friends or my friends i will be mindful about who they are. i should know my friends character well. same for relative. falling in love with one another sometime is hard enough going steady. freidns and relatives really complicate things.
huh. but she not my relative. lols haha
no la,i just wanna make sure she is interested in me before i proceed further. else also no point. sigh, i am pondering abt this the whole night. so many different answer.
like one member wrote, she is interested but hesitant. why is she hesitant?
and also i think she might really treat me just a friend. but do we say this to a friend? i dont say this unless i really like that person.
she her mind only the youngsters can understand. like immitate those actor and actressess in those westerne and chinese or maybe malay and tamil dramamas you know. so its very difficult for me to touchon what's going on in her mind. probably she's like watch oo much show so the mind get isdeas form those silly shows. like me adult will be different coz after i watch the show i forget about it. even if i do anything also i know what is minimum right or wrote.
TS, you have her contact number right?
call her loh
Originally posted by mitgalant:actually i did tried once. but she could not make it. cos she have work the next day. but it kinda demoralise me.
i was thinking if u are really interested in that person, you will still find time to go out for a short meal. but this issnt the case.
is it normal to get rejected for a meal? i am a person that will think alot that's why i am kind of very demoralise now. like i dunno what else i should do. my feelings is getting deeper per day. sigh
Just a meal rejection.
Ask her next time.
Dont give up if you are serious on relationship.
Originally posted by likeyou:
Just a meal rejection.Ask her next time.
Dont give up if you are serious on relationship.
sorry for diverting a little....but if it is LDR how?
how to continue?.....
too tough
Originally posted by mitgalant:huh. but she not my relative. lols haha
no la,i just wanna make sure she is interested in me before i proceed further. else also no point. sigh, i am pondering abt this the whole night. so many different answer.
like one member wrote, she is interested but hesitant. why is she hesitant?
and also i think she might really treat me just a friend. but do we say this to a friend? i dont say this unless i really like that person.
Mr Mit,
She is hesitant because you are also hesitant.
Somebody gota make the move.
Are you the one wearing the skirt ?
Love waits for no one.. you can keep pondering until the cow comes home.. the next gentleman comes along. ... and you'd be history.
What is LDR?
hmm.. well i can dont ponder. just that if she really treat me as a friend and i mistaken her intention.
i think we can even forget abt being friends cos there is a degree of embarassment.
sigh. plus i dont if she will avoid me if she know i am interested. that's if she is not interested la.
i hate to be in this situation. can someone teach me what is the next step i should do?
strike while the iron is hot.
Originally posted by mitgalant:hmm.. well i can dont ponder. just that if she really treat me as a friend and i mistaken her intention.
i think we can even forget abt being friends cos there is a degree of embarassment.
sigh. plus i dont if she will avoid me if she know i am interested. that's if she is not interested la.
i hate to be in this situation. can someone teach me what is the next step i should do?
Dun worry abt how she feel for u... juz ask urself how u feel for her...
If u really interested in her, den ask her out n dun think abt all the negative stuffs...
Things might not be that bad after all...