Bf plant kiss on gal's forehead, gal want breakup
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Jan 14, 2007
An awkward move, now she wants to break up
Q I AM a junior college student who recently started a relationship. Everything was going well until the girl I am dating kissed me.
I made a sudden movement and held her head with the intention of planting a kiss on her forehead.
Apparently, she misunderstood my action and became frightened and upset. She left and later sent me an SMS saying that she wanted to break up.
I tried explaining to her and apologised for whatever had happened but she still refuses to have a relationship.
I love her very much and I committed myself to the relationship only because she said that she was committed to it.
Please help me to make the right decision. I am devastated.
Devastated
A Dear Devastated,
Gosh, we have all been there, one time or another, when a well-meaning action from both parties turns into a disaster. Perhaps you can blame it on the paradox of human differences which is reflected in books such as Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.
Nevertheless, the situation has resulted in an awkward misunderstanding.
Your girlfriend may have been carried away by a romantic moment to initiate a kiss. When this was not reciprocated, it may have embarrassed her, which could have accounted for her strong reaction when you affectionately held her head.
You do not need to make the right decision but a sensitive next move, so here are some possible options:
Write her a letter explaining the misunderstanding and your good intention which backfired. Ensure that this is accompanied with a dozen red roses.
Send her a single long-stemmed rose with a couple of movie tickets to the latest romance flick. In your note, tell her that she could pick you as her partner to the movie.
Send her an apology card with a romantic line (if there was one) from the movie that both of you watched.
Send her a song via a radio station.
Send her a box of chocolates with a short note.
Think creatively and I'm sure you will be able to come up with something that will get her attention.
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Counsellor
Dr Carol Balhetchet from the Singapore Children's Society has been counselling families and their children since 1992. She is the director of the society's Youth Development Centre in Toa Payoh. -
i wunder how old is the girl.. -
but wait. if the girl kissed him first... and he tried to kiss back..on the forehead.. wad kind of misundersatnding can occur?
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Precisely....kiss forhead nia ma, not do wat also..y wan to breakup?? girls these days, can't understand 'em...*shakes head*Originally posted by mhcampboy:but wait. if the girl kissed him first... and he tried to kiss back..on the forehead.. wad kind of misundersatnding can occur?
hur hur... -
suay.......
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lidat oso can.
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What was the girl thinking?
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her loss... just go your way...
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Welllllll, the guy said he moved suddenly and held her head...Originally posted by mhcampboy:but wait. if the girl kissed him first... and he tried to kiss back..on the forehead.. wad kind of misundersatnding can occur?
If that awkward movement resulted in him lowering her head down his body (however unintentionally), I think I'd understand why the girl would be frightened. -
Come...lend the girl to me,i show u hw
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That's so retarded, the gal must be dumb or something. I bet if she continues like that she will be single all her life.
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um.. wth.. maybe the gal kanna traumatised when young..
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ooooo... the girl tot... the boy want to push her head towards his c0ck ar?Originally posted by spinsugar:Welllllll, the guy said he moved suddenly and held her head...
If that awkward movement resulted in him lowering her head down his body (however unintentionally), I think I'd understand why the girl would be frightened. -
maybe he nv brush teeth...
kiss one time disgusted le -
because her good-for-nothing ex also planted a kiss on her forehead and this reminded her of her ex so she decided a breakup shud be the way to go.
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hmm
cool
interesting -
that girl is really strange.. -
i think the girl misunderstood the holding the head as a sign that he dun like the kiss
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same thinkinOriginally posted by sinicker:because her good-for-nothing ex also planted a kiss on her forehead and this reminded her of her ex so she decided a breakup shud be the way to go.
anyway i think a kiss on forehead is sweet, i ryke
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havent kiss lip?
forehead only?
hmm.... got bad breath? -
whiskey tango foxtort.
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Originally posted by monoslayer:whiskey tango foxtort.
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who knows what the gal is thinking man?
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u nv noe wat a gal is tinking.Originally posted by lpx88:who knows what the gal is thinking man? -
Despite being a lady myself.. i am too wondering what was running through her mind since she was the one who made the first move.. and anyway.. i think that a kiss on the forehead was a really sweet thing