Okay, here's what I think...
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Here's what I think about people, regardless of whether is it male or female, who cheat on their partner or has a sudden change of heart. Firstly, I have to say I'm NOT condoning such acts. I'm just here to try to give my own opinion on why I think this happens and why maybe we shouldn't be putting all the blame on the other party.
Okay, let's go. Here's what I think, my own personal opinion. You can agree, you can also disagree.
REASON FOR HAVING MORE THAN ONE BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND AT ANY ONE TIME:
Reason being, we are human beings and we are animals too after all. What's the purpose of an animal's life? Isn't it to reproduce? Now let me make it clear first, I'm saying we are animals, but we are extremely CLEVER animals.
So why some people have more than one boyfriend/girlfriend at the same time? Reason is simple. It's all in our genes, nothing can change that. We simply want to reproduce. Just look at other animals in the wild. Take lions for example. A male lion is, most of the time, surrounded by a few females. Of course, I'm not saying humans are comparable to lions. I'm just saying when someone has the urge to have more than one boyfriend/girlfriend, you can't say he/she is unfaithful. Like I've said, I think this is all in the genes. It just depends on whether can you suppress this feeling or not.
REASON FOR A SUDDEN CHANGE OF HEART AND FALLING IN LOVE FOR SOMEONE ELSE:
What makes humans fall in love? Pheromones is to be blamed I would believe. Once again, this feeling of falling in love with someone else when you are already attached can still be controlled. Some people simply succumb to it while some can resist the temptation of it.
So why is "I will love you till the day I die" untrue? Because when you meet someone else who produces pheromones that attracts you, you are highly likely to fall in love with him/her if you are not careful.
So once again, if your partner decides to dump you for someone else, it is perfectly understandable. You may feel sad and utterly useless, but there isn't a choice. We have our genes and ancestors and Pheromones to thank for. Just move on in life and find another partner and hopefully you'll find one that truly loves you and he/she is able to control his/her feeling so that he/she won't fall in love with someone else.
Once again let me make myself clear. I'm not writing all these to help the unfaithful people out there. I'm just trying to provide a plausible explanantion to why this may happen. Whether or not one goes astray is all up to his/her level of self-discipline.
I'm just trying to say those two scenarios mentioned above will definitely have a chance to occur if the partner doesn't have enough self-discipline.
Don't move to Aunt Agony please, I'm not in any agony.
And don't flame me. I'm just saying out my own opinion.
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Don't blame everything on genre if you want to have different partners, and if you truly want to have more than 1 partner, then be a Muslim, and migrate to malaysia or an arab country.....
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you beat me to it..
actually i though of creating a forum and list out articles like this..
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I just knew it. I just knew some people will think I want to have more than one partners.Originally posted by allentyb_v2.01:Don't blame everything on genre if you want to have different partners, and if you truly want to have more than 1 partner, then be a Muslim, and migrate to malaysia or an arab country.....
I'm just trying to give an explanation on why this may happen.
And it's genes, not genre. -
Never mind..you can add on to it..Originally posted by MidnightK:you beat me to it..
actually i though of creating a forum and list out articles like this..
something like communication between people, friends, or lovers..
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how bout we set up one?
can share experiences and help people to solve problems! -
Isn't it Aunt Agony then?Originally posted by MidnightK:how bout we set up one?
can share experiences and help people to solve problems!
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no!
different..
they give solutions..
we do preventions!
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Then what shall the forum be named? Priest Prevention?Originally posted by MidnightK:no!
different..
they give solutions..
we do preventions!
a hell lot of differences.. -
This thread, is one step away to become a flame thread, you should be thankful, i didn't label you as sexist or mcp, or finding excuses to cover up for your own lust
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+1.Originally posted by allentyb_v2.01:This thread, is one step away to become a flame thread, you should be thankful, i didn't label you as sexist or mcp, or finding excuses to cover up for your own lust
personally i dun agree with ur reasoning. Everything has 2 sides to it. -
Nope, I'm not thankful to you. You didn't even read my post properly. I said I am NOT condoning such acts. I'm trying to provide explanation for why these things may happen. And I also did say at the end of my post that I didn't create this thread to help those unfaithful people. I hate them too.Originally posted by allentyb_v2.01:This thread, is one step away to become a flame thread, you should be thankful, i didn't label you as sexist or mcp, or finding excuses to cover up for your own lust -
the other side of the wall, shows mentality and a lack of communication/trust/excitement in the r/s
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I disagree......
We are not animals nor are we extremely clever animals becoz in saying so you are saying that animals are clever too........
If animals were quite clever, they'd already try to speak to us......monkeys would understand wot we are talking about animals won't try to eat one another.......
We have the ability to control our desires......
You can say "dun just blame on the other party". But at a certain point that "other party" will feel regret......reason?
Animals dun regret eating their child if they are hungry you know...... -
Originally posted by Deino:I disagree......
We are not animals nor are we extremely clever animals becoz in saying so you are saying that animals are clever too........
I'm saying we humans are clever animals. So why does this means all other animals are clever too? I don't understand. And it is a FACT we are animals. We are animals by the name of "Human". We evolved from apes.
If animals were quite clever, they'd already try to speak to us......monkeys would understand wot we are talking about animals won't try to eat one another.......
Catch no balls.
We have the ability to control our desires......
Unfortunately, some don't have this ability. Resulting in breakups and cheatings.
You can say "dun just blame on the other party". But at a certain point that "other party" will feel regret......reason?
Animals dun regret eating their child if they are hungry you know...... -
Originally posted by alleggerita:
Fossils do not prove facts that we were apes........
I'm saying we humans are clever animals. So why does this means all other animals are clever too? I don't understand. And it is a FACT we are animals. We are animals by the name of "Human". We evolved from apes.
Yes by saying we are clever we are also saying that to a certain extent they are clever but how clever it is, is unclear....Originally posted by alleggerita:If animals were quite clever, they'd already try to speak to us......monkeys would understand wot we are talking about animals won't try to eat one another.......
Originally posted by alleggerita:Unfortunately, some don't have this ability. Resulting in breakups and cheatings.
I disagree with that.......i believe that abilities regarding desires could controlled......if not, then rape and murder wouldn't be a crime...... -
Originally posted by Deino:
Yes..I know can be controlled..but read my post again..I'm saying SOME can't control it..
I disagree with that.......i believe that abilities regarding desires could controlled......if not, then rape and murder wouldn't be a crime...... [/b] -
i read a few lines already i must quickly add that... i am not an animal. N there are many reasons to prove a difference between human and animals.
k i shall continue to read on.
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i wish all the other guys and girls will forgive me and understand why at one time i have multiple girlfriends at the same time.
Its Genes , ancestors and pheremones. And i am an animal cause i have no control over these.
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Originally posted by BadzMaro:i wish all the other guys and girls will forgive me and understand why at one time i have multiple girlfriends at the same time.
Its Genes , ancestors and pheremones. And i am an animal cause i have no control over these.
sweeeet
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and those who cannot are mentally challenged.....they are not considered mentally stabled humans.......Originally posted by alleggerita:Yes..I know can be controlled..but read my post again..I'm saying SOME can't control it..
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But I'm sure there are those who aren't mentally challenged and yet they can't control their desires.Originally posted by Deino:and those who cannot are mentally challenged.....they are not considered mentally stabled humans.......
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I feel extremely sad how the topic starter can label humanity to the level of animals.
First, bring me solid proof. Not theories that we are animals. If I think hard enough, I can come up with several theories on why I should be rich, but am not. =)
Secondly. I think you missed out an important lesson since primary school. Where's your self discipline? Don't go blaming it on pheronomes or mating instinct. You are saying that these instincts override human emotion and will? If that's the case, my instinct to dispose waste from my body would cause me to pee at the nearby hawker centre table if I happen to drink lots of water beforehand.
Get rid of your pride issues (more means I'm more attractive), stop thinking Hollywood = Real life. And maybe do some additional self check on your selfishness, and I think you'll find we're so much NOT alike animals =) -
whoa, i was out for a while and you got flamed..
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Never mind la. I was expecting it.Originally posted by MidnightK:whoa, i was out for a while and you got flamed..
All never read my post properly. All making an ASS of U and ME. No offence.