Who pays for the wedding dinner?
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Come next month, I expect to receive 2 wedding invitations. Or to put it bluntly, it should be what we called ...2 summons.
When you are invited to a wedding dinner, you are expected to pay for your share of the food. The higher the class of the restaurant, the higher you are expected to pay. Hotels and ballrooms seem to charge the highest for the dinners.
And we fear if the dinner is held at a 6-star hotel. And if it is held in such posh places, I will check with the hotel for the table price. By current standard, I think the ang pow in such place should be in excess of $200 per person.
Strangely, although we are more or less paying for the wedding dinner, we have no say in the venue.
And strangely, no bride or groom will ever think of showing consideration to the guests by holding the dinner at less expensive restaurants. All they think about is their own interests. They want a grand wedding .....yeah, but at whose expenses?
So, if you are thinking of your wedding dinner, please remember who pays for the food. Surely you don't want your dear friends and relatives to borrow money to attend your wedding dinner. Have a heart! -
Originally posted by Jerlyncrystal:Come next month, I expect to receive 2 wedding invitations. Or to put it bluntly, it should be what we called ...2 summons.
When you are invited to a wedding dinner, you are expected to pay for your share of the food. The higher the class of the restaurant, the higher you are expected to pay. Hotels and ballrooms seem to charge the highest for the dinners.
And we fear if the dinner is held at a 6-star hotel. And if it is held in such posh places, I will check with the hotel for the table price. By current standard, I think the ang pow in such place should be in excess of $200 per person.
Strangely, although we are more or less paying for the wedding dinner, we have no say in the venue.
And strangely, no bride or groom will ever think of showing consideration to the guests by holding the dinner at less expensive restaurants. All they think about is their own interests. They want a grand wedding .....yeah, but at whose expenses?
So, if you are thinking of your wedding dinner, please remember who pays for the food. Surely you don't want your dear friends and relatives to borrow money to attend your wedding dinner. Have a heart!<!-- / message --><!-- sig -->
$200 per pax are you sure
10 course meal with lobsters?
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you can choose not to go.... then give a small angpow or don't give if your skin is thick enough.
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Thats $2000 a table... Do u mean Banquet was held at Ritz Carlton with the most expensive menu?
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All-in my cousin paid about $2200 per table. Since he chose such an expensive place he is ready to bear full costs. I think he covers about $25,000 for the dinner. He can afford it, and said he is happy so everybody is also happy.
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hmm.. very ex sia..
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Originally posted by cuddles:
hmm.. very ex sia..
yalor so yr wedding just go for honeymoon
don't need to hold any wedding dinner save monies
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Originally posted by JerryYan:
yalor so yr wedding just go for honeymoon
don't need to hold any wedding dinner save monies
u might as well say zi cha can liao.. go sentosa honeymoon?
hahaa
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For the ang pow it is given to help out the couple and it is really up to the individual on the amount and also how much they can afford.
Plus I believe most couples who have it at an expensive venue is ready to take a loss and they are treating it as a treat to friends and relatives.
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the couple should not force the guests to pay for the wedding dinner. The ang pow given should be taken as a token of appreciation, not as a price for the dinner.
So that means if the total angpow money can cover the dinner cost, then the couple is lucky. If not, they should just take it as they are treating their friends and relatives and should not complain about it.
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I think if it were me, even if guest all give me 1 rice cooker each i oso take... =X
It's the thought that counts not the value....
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i'd prefer to bold a note on my wedding invitation : No red packets please
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Later end up u can open electronics shop =X
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Yup, thats great. How about like this. No red packets please, a cheque will do.
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Always cribbing about money, we Sinagporeans! Just give lah! After all its your cousin. Or buy about 30 big sweep tickets and give.
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sometimes the money doesn't go all to the couple. sometimes the ang pao collected from certain table would go to their parents also
nobody in the right mind would think that the ang pao from the wedding dinner would cover the cost
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if choose kena sai place.. ppl say cheap.. too high class ang pow too expensive..
wa piang what do u want sia..
just give by what you can.. no point giving and then tml night u no need eat dinner -
Give $10 ang pow but don't write name on the ang pow lor.
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$200 for a head isn't that bad. trust me. I've been to weddings where its $3500 a table. Check Raffles Town Club for details.
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RTC cheap leh.
dun think u hear "raffles" and "club" means it's asspensive.
u shd see the st regis menu, and ritz carlton, and shangri-la and fullerton.
ur jaws will drop and roll into the south china sea
dun just look at the price, look at the type of dishes served
and i think ang paos shd be given by gut feel and how close u are to the couple/half of the couple
and of cos, if u intend to invite them to YOUR wedding next time, u must 自动 a bit lah -
I never know wedding dinner .. ang pow has to be proportionate to the venue . lol.. thats fudged up. Seriously.. if they dun like my ang pow.. they can kiss my ass man. my amount is proportionate to the friendship between me n groom/bride. Not the venue.
lol..
If u cant afford to invite people to witness ur grand event , then dun bother hosting it at a super high class place expecting ppl to go and pay the amount. Ppl gonna dulan after going to ur wedding.. pai kua some more. Damn.. unless ALL ur friends or the ppl u invited are rich mofos. 1000 VVIP ppl. Which i doubt.
Wedding dinner is not a place to earn money. wtf...
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oh yah. oni singaporeans have this mindset to try to "earn money" from wedding dinners
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yeah, read my post!
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the amount of money given is actually a form of respect. Just like you wouldn't wanna appear in your berms and slippers at their wedding.
but the same cannot be said of other culture's weddings. HDB Void decks anyone?
I'm sure if you're getting married, you would want it to be a grand one right?
And if too lil' money is given by some of your guest (those who are more well-off), you would think they're a bunch of stingy a*sholes.
For those who are less well-off and you know their financial situation and stuff, you really wouldn't mind 'em giving less than what is required to cover their share of the dinner.
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Originally posted by Jerlyncrystal:Come next month, I expect to receive 2 wedding invitations. Or to put it bluntly, it should be what we called ...2 summons.
When you are invited to a wedding dinner, you are expected to pay for your share of the food. The higher the class of the restaurant, the higher you are expected to pay. Hotels and ballrooms seem to charge the highest for the dinners.
And we fear if the dinner is held at a 6-star hotel. And if it is held in such posh places, I will check with the hotel for the table price. By current standard, I think the ang pow in such place should be in excess of $200 per person.
Strangely, although we are more or less paying for the wedding dinner, we have no say in the venue.
And strangely, no bride or groom will ever think of showing consideration to the guests by holding the dinner at less expensive restaurants. All they think about is their own interests. They want a grand wedding .....yeah, but at whose expenses?
So, if you are thinking of your wedding dinner, please remember who pays for the food. Surely you don't want your dear friends and relatives to borrow money to attend your wedding dinner. Have a heart!<!-- / message --><!-- sig -->
if u treat it as paying for ur own dinner.. then... u can choose not to go ar.. why post here.. just say u dun like the food there so u are not going lor..