diploma and degree
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m a diploma holder and i m going out with a degree holder, she seems to accept me for wat i m coz i m a diploma holder but her mum is like belittling me and say i am not gd enough for her
i wonder any of u are in the same boat as me? -
Belittle her mother then. If my bf doesn't mind being with me, I don't see why he has to mind the mother. Too bad I got no bf.
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It's very common in Singapore.
I used to have a gf who is from the uni.
The first time when I went to her house for dinner, her mother treated to me very well.
When the mum later found out that I am only a 'N' level grad, never talk to me liao.
The girl felt pah sieh over her mother reaction, but it is life loh.
No longer with her after that incident -
Why worry, you are seeing the daugther and not the mum.Originally posted by collie76:m a diploma holder and i m going out with a degree holder, she seems to accept me for wat i m coz i m a diploma holder but her mum is like belittling me and say i am not gd enough for her
i wonder any of u are in the same boat as me?
Moreover, be it diploma or degree, it's just a piece of paper and it does not guarantee you a bright future, etc... everyone still got to work hard in their career to reach whatever status they desire.
Only the 2 of you know whether you are suitable for each other, try to work hard and do well in your career so that she can't belittle you.
Cheers, bro. -
me and my gf also...
me her
macpherson sec dunmann high sec
private Olevel hwa chong jc
temasek poly NTU
u r going together with her also not her mother.. and wats wrong to be juz a diploma holder..not the best also not the worst ask the mum dun nag... -
haiz, does this mean i can't go for higher educated gals ?
but i prefer gals from Uni de .... they click with me very well ...
by the way, i am only 17 yrs old
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the worse thing is she is going out to see where my gf is, she will even go to her workplace to pick her up, call her at the office many times to make sure that she does not stay late in office, she does not accept the fact that ppl have to stay late in office due to work, she will say what for?
whatever my gf say to her mum, the mum will think that everything my gf said is instigated by me, i got to know my gf from a decent pub and the mum thinks i m a smoker and drunkard .... the mother even suspect my gf of doing drugs, which kinda mum will do such a thing?
now the big problem is everynight my gf goes home to hear the mum go nagging about me and the worse thing is the father sides the mum, imagine this, my gf when she was young, she was not allowed to watch any drama serials but documentaries only and she cannot even shut her own room door due to privacy, the mum will say its her house, why should she close the door??
now my gf tells me that the mum may even come to my place to talk to me, if the mum does so i am sure to give her hell but i cannot do so coz its her mum
my gf was supposed to help out at my neighblur's wedding and my gf mum is against her attending the wedding, she was so rude that she grabbed my gf's phone and spoke to my neighbour's wife saying that my gf cannot make it for the wedding due to her commitment to another wedding which is not true.
i am sad for my gf coz her bday is approaching and she cannot even go out to celebrate, if only i can call some counsellor to go to her house and talk to the mum, i wish i could do something to help my gf -
I am not saying whos rite or whos wrong but I do feel her mum is abit overboard. I mean every individual needs some privacy and freedom of their own. To me, it seems like hrr mum is really crossing over the line.Originally posted by collie76:the worse thing is she is going out to see where my gf is, she will even go to her workplace to pick her up, call her at the office many times to make sure that she does not stay late in office, she does not accept the fact that ppl have to stay late in office due to work, she will say what for?
whatever my gf say to her mum, the mum will think that everything my gf said is instigated by me, i got to know my gf from a decent pub and the mum thinks i m a smoker and drunkard .... the mother even suspect my gf of doing drugs, which kinda mum will do such a thing?
now the big problem is everynight my gf goes home to hear the mum go nagging about me and the worse thing is the father sides the mum, imagine this, my gf when she was young, she was not allowed to watch any drama serials but documentaries only and she cannot even shut her own room door due to privacy, the mum will say its her house, why should she close the door??
now my gf tells me that the mum may even come to my place to talk to me, if the mum does so i am sure to give her hell but i cannot do so coz its her mum
my gf was supposed to help out at my neighblur's wedding and my gf mum is against her attending the wedding, she was so rude that she grabbed my gf's phone and spoke to my neighbour's wife saying that my gf cannot make it for the wedding due to her commitment to another wedding which is not true.
i am sad for my gf coz her bday is approaching and she cannot even go out to celebrate, if only i can call some counsellor to go to her house and talk to the mum, i wish i could do something to help my gf
I think ur gf is really nice to u and loves u alot that she can bear with all her mum's nonsense. I would suggest u do sth abt it fast. One's patient has its limits. I think u can do things to help ur gf as in be there for her always. Just assure her u will be there to support her always.
Thats the least u can do. As for her mum, take things as it comes. -
Ask yr gf whether u can pay her parents a visit. Don't go empty handed.
Be on yr best behaviour.
Assure them that u are able to take care of their daughter, that u have plans to further yr edn thr part-time studies.
Never antagonise them, be polite even if her mum is cool towards u.
Who knows, she might change her mind after seeing u.
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most impt is whether the guy can provide for the ger a not..
if it's the opposite..the guy got degree..but always have unrealistic dreams..too ambitious..end up achieve nothing @ all...i dun think goot also..
to judge a person by his qualification solely..abit unfair.. -
Hmmm my husband is a diploma holder and I have a degree, but my parents accept him for who he is. Same for my friend. No issues or anything. They are good in char and have good jobs. Don't see the problemOriginally posted by collie76:m a diploma holder and i m going out with a degree holder, she seems to accept me for wat i m coz i m a diploma holder but her mum is like belittling me and say i am not gd enough for her
i wonder any of u are in the same boat as me? -
Diploma = tertiary education
Degree = tertiary education
both are tertiary education, equal. -
jialat now u must win the mother. or play strategy C&C win the father, use him against the mother.Originally posted by collie76:m a diploma holder and i m going out with a degree holder, she seems to accept me for wat i m coz i m a diploma holder but her mum is like belittling me and say i am not gd enough for her
i wonder any of u are in the same boat as me?
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my mom is quite modern (fortunately)
she din show any objection.....
in fact, she seems to teng him more than she teng me
they can even gang up to tease me....
i guess it's how u project urself to her mom.....
by stroke of luck, yu fu is quite "you yuan" with my mom.....my mom hangs out near his workplace.....
it takes time to prove urself
ur gf shd oso be more assertive.....
not telling ur gf to rebel against her mom.....but she can be the bridge......create oppors for u to interact with her mom and let her mom get to know u better....
if it requires, u can consider taking PT degree course.... -
I've studied up to ITE only leh...
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actually it does not matter what academics. It's your ability to bring home the bacon not in your early marriage but continously in to your old age.
I guess every parent won't actually want to look down, they are rightly worried for their daughters marrying someone who is sensible and can provide security. If you look from their point of view: The parent is not dating you so they can't really observe you closeup. Also because being a young man unless you are in sales or already running your own show there is very little details available to know if you are someone capable to provide for the well being of another other than yourself since you are still unproven hence the only thing they can use is academic as a benchmark.
In the end I think the most important trait in a guy that a woman should observe while dating is his ability or savvyness in managing his money given his current paying ability regardless of academic because he could be very well educated but fond of gambling or excessive entertainment which can be a problem and strain later on. If he is able to manage and save even on what little he earns currently normally these are seeds to a bright future don't you think thats very good. -
her mum reali against u... well, go talk to her mum n show her ur prospectus n convince her tat u can give ur gf happiness... but keep calm... its ur gf very rich type?
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This is the culture in singapore, where face is more important then anything. I am not siding anyone, but from my point of view of coz parents wants the best for their kids, r u not?
To solve the problem
1. get to know his/her mum/dad, try to know/understand wat they like or don't like, then try to do things right.
2. any conversation with his/her parents will tell ur character, hence project urself and not lookdown on urself. I dislike ppl who do not have self-confidence and naive mentality, not ppl with low education.
3. having the right attitude is the next step u need to have.
work with 1., 2. and 3. and u will be at least on the right track to solve those parental problems -
whats her mum's degree?Originally posted by collie76:m a diploma holder and i m going out with a degree holder, she seems to accept me for wat i m coz i m a diploma holder but her mum is like belittling me and say i am not gd enough for her
i wonder any of u are in the same boat as me?
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2000 in the left eye,2000 in the right eye.legally blind.Originally posted by the.raven:whats her mum's degree? -
show her mom the cash and....all the craps about diploma n degree will go out of the window before u knew it...
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What u need to do now is to earn tonnes of money and stuff her mum's mouth with it. Make sure it's a thick wad!Originally posted by collie76:m a diploma holder and i m going out with a degree holder, she seems to accept me for wat i m coz i m a diploma holder but her mum is like belittling me and say i am not gd enough for her
i wonder any of u are in the same boat as me? -
u dating the girl or the mom??
who care what the mom think, unless yr gf has no mind of her own!!
then gd luck loh -
hummm.... so far my parents are tolerant of my choices, 'N' level, 'O' level, kicked out of school, undergrads, uni grads, diploma holders, all dated before. as long as they are not bums or crooks, they leave the choice to me. education level is not so important loh, more important is the chemistry. but if u feel that u should upgrade yourself just to suit your gal, go ahead, that's wat one of my guy fren did (btw, he got dump after he got his degree
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all the best ya? -
this kind of mum the daughter should just slap her and run away from home until she comes begging on her knees for her to come back. becos she is already a working adult.