damn in deep shit......
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monitored as in my mom will ask me why i buy this and that, why bill so much etc etc.Originally posted by amuletgurl:y r u being monitored??? ur were never involved in the 1st place
but still.........ask family for help 1st..............he not man enuff to do that meh?
asking money from frens r definitely a bad idea lar.....frenship is on the line....but to me ,S$500 is a small sum,he can definitely pay it off,that amount can easily get off from parents.....then get a part time job to return the money to the parents lor
a note taken, he actually setup his own company a few yrs ago b4 he enlist( ceo of that company) being a clerk in ns can take part time job? enless you are saying abt tutoring -
Originally posted by duotiga83:monitored as in my mom will ask me why i buy this and that, why bill so much etc etc.
a note taken, he actually setup his own company a few yrs ago b4 he enlist( ceo of that company) being a clerk in ns can take part time job? enless you are saying abt tutoring 
Wah. Since you're also not very financially stable then don't lend him lor.
I think it's illegal to have another job while serving NS. That's if I remember correctly. -
From your circumstances, then I think you better fend for yourself first. I'm sure your friend will be able to understand if he's truely your buddy.Originally posted by duotiga83:to most of you all, 500 is not a lot, but for my family, yes as nw only me n mom feeding on the whole family( mom working 1/2 a day part time job while i'm on army not getting combat pay) and i need to pay my own expenses, yes it may seems selfish but i had enuff trauma this yr. had enuff of mental torture.
If you're still concern that it'll reflect badly and jeopadize on the friendship then maybe just lend him a smaller sum say, $150-$200 as a token helping figure. -
actually got think of lending him small amount of money also, but can sense mom will still reject that idea........
i juz dun wan for the sake of money jeapadise the friendship
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well well...the verdict is out n my prediction is true...
mom say NO whenever to lending of money, up to no gd for me, plus i can't even live for myself why help ppl??
she said just tell my friend , single parent working so no money -
ok...think gambling gets into the picture...Originally posted by amuletgurl:y r u being monitored??? ur were never involved in the 1st place
i've seen this prob b4...my ex bf 's good fren actually owns another fren AUD$4,500 +++ and he is just a student!!! i dun even know wat the hell he spent on .......he dun have any income...dunno how the fark he settled wif that,that time i always asked him to seek help from the bank for options.....maybe ur fren can do that also?
but still.........ask family for help 1st..............he not man enuff to do that meh? asking money from frens r definitely a bad idea lar.....frenship is on the line....but to me ,S$500 is a small sum,he can definitely pay it off,that amount can easily get off from parents.....then get a part time job to return the money to the parents lor
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that is what i'm thinking when i first get the news alsoOriginally posted by zrahf:ok...think gambling gets into the picture... -
Dun lend him la...
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If you're filthy rich and can do without the sum, you might wanna consider lending the sum.... But from your current status, I would URGE you NOT to...Originally posted by duotiga83:to most of you all, 500 is not a lot, but for my family, yes as nw only me n mom feeding on the whole family( mom working 1/2 a day part time job while i'm on army not getting combat pay) and i need to pay my own expenses, yes it may seems selfish but i had enuff trauma this yr. had enuff of mental torture.
If you're really falling for a TRAP, not only would you LOST your $.... You'll also LOST your 'relationship'... And probably lower the trust you'll have for the people around you... Might even land yourself in DEEP SH|T and jeopardise your relationship with your mum....
Guilt. When people are using 'friendships' as baits for money... Where would 'guilt' be....?
All I can say is... Don't be silly... Only help WITHIN your OWN LIMITS... -
if you really treat him as a friend then better don't talk about money...orelse next time maybe even friendship will be gone becuz of money...Originally posted by duotiga83:the story goes like these....
my friend having fiananiail crisis, and his biz partner, who own ppl 3.5k went mia, and write under his name and he needs to return the money by today,
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he ask me to borrow him 500 but my acc only left ard 1k......
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Since u are financially not stable, best don't lend him.
I'm sure he will understand.
Don't feel guilty abt it.
It is not a very big sum, I'm sure yr friend can easily raise the cash from his family/ relatives. -
sometime need to be more selfish to think of yourself 1st.you also need the $$$ mah.
my friend of 18yrs can MIA just bcos of 4k. -
this is really sad to hear.. money really turns most people crazy..Originally posted by bigsweep:sometime need to be more selfish to think of yourself 1st.you also need the $$$ mah.
my friend of 18yrs can MIA just bcos of 4k.
duotiga83 : not to be mean... but I dont think you'll get anything back.. keep the cash to yourself. act busy. -
Some other things to NOTE...
If it REALLY HAS to HAPPEN, get IOU... It's the BARE MIMIMIUM 'protection' you can have for yourself...
And... Get a DEADLINE... What's his CURRENT STATUS? What CONCRETE PLAN he has to get the sum of $ back to you
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don't be like me,always borrow people money and end up suffering myself...
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well.....i no borrow him the money
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Always cover your own ass 1st........
Of course tell him no diplomatically.......
Besides he should understand your situation as well.......
Well, i guess this will show u whether he's your true friend or not.....