should i give it to him?
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If he says the words "show me u love me by having sex" , you tell him that if he truly loves you and respects you , he will wait til marriage (or whenever). If he breaks up with you over this, it is not your fault at all - it is just his fault that he can't keep his pants on.
I also think it is best to wait til a person is married to have sex. Marriage is a secure system whereby two persons have to combine resources to support each other. Sex, as you know, can lead to unexpected nine months of a gestational "problem" . At least if you are married , any unexpected "problem" could be at least respectable and supported by a person you truly love.
I am not being religious here but advising caution
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'JUST SAY NO' He sounds like those type of guys who likes to control gf through emotional blackmail. Personally I would advise you to ditch the loser cos you deserve someone better. If hes so desperate ask him to go GL and give him the money for a pack of condom. You are still so young so don't make the mistake of doing this for a jerk. Save it for your husband. And don't even think of going on a oversea trip alone with him. God knows what might happens since he sound like someone who allows his little head to think for him.
Drat reading about this kind of creature really <> piss me up. -
dump him
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omg... frankly as a guy's stand.. i think he is the same as me.. only my needs my needs my needs..
ehhhh... i tell u something if a guy really loves his gf.. he wont anyhow bonk her one.. i mean not to the sense he really wants to marry u.. but in this case... only wan to satisfy needs.. dun be silly lah.. if he goes liao after lay u down... u will have nothing liao except painful memories.. might as well keep ursf for ur real hubby... -
You as a female, should only give him sex because you feel that it will make both of you closer together in the relationship, NOT because he's begging you for it.Originally posted by beige:i'm having this big big problem with my bf...
both of us just turned 20 tis year and never have sex before... (meaning:both of us are still virgins). all along he has been telling me frankly that he wants sex. but i always decline, saying i'm not ready yet. though he respects my wishes, i know he can't really resist the urge. this is esp when he's in NS and he got buddies who are already very experienced. at the one point in time, he even considered seriously breaking up with me cos i won't give him sex. yes, just plainly for this reason (
). well... anw he later didn't.
anw he suggested an overseas trip together... but i'm deliberating whether to go... on one hand, i wanna go together with him to enjoy a break but on the other hand, i know if i do go, there's a very very high possibility that i will lose my virginity.
it's like, though i do love my bf, i still don't have the emotional security to actually to give my virginity to him. maybe also partly cos i'm brought up in a conservative family.
i just wanna go on a nice overseas hol with him, enjoy ourselves, but not to that extent. isn't tis possible? i talked to him about this... he didn't say much. but he did make plainly his stand about what may happen. kinda stress me out...
hmm so is tis my prob, my bf's prob or a non-issue altogether?
i'm also considering whether it's worth it to hold on with him... but just can't bear to break it off...... it's not that i'm not going to do it with him altogether. but i need time... and maybe alot of time...... i'm just not prepared yet.
sighz. i dunno how to put the message across to him manz.
or shd i just convince myself to give it to him?
i don't want to regret whatever decision which i make in the end.
If he insists on the issue of sex, break up with him. Isn't it obvious that all he thinks of is SEX and not YOU? It may sound selfish, but remember that females are always on the losing end when it comes to sex.
If you are unsure of his feelings for you, don't give it to him. A man who will break up with you because you don't give him sex isn't worthy of your feelings. -
I think u shld stick to wat u feel comfortable. Ur bf shld respect u. I feel that the fact that ur bf wanted to break with u bcos u din have sex with him is really ridiculous. Does he love u at all? If he does, he shld respect ur decision at all and shld love u deep enough to noe how u feel and what u want. His reactions questions his love for u. So wat even if hes in ns? There are alot of guys in ns who stil din do with their gf or some other girls.Originally posted by beige:i'm having this big big problem with my bf...
both of us just turned 20 tis year and never have sex before... (meaning:both of us are still virgins). all along he has been telling me frankly that he wants sex. but i always decline, saying i'm not ready yet. though he respects my wishes, i know he can't really resist the urge. this is esp when he's in NS and he got buddies who are already very experienced. at the one point in time, he even considered seriously breaking up with me cos i won't give him sex. yes, just plainly for this reason ( ). well... anw he later didn't.
anw he suggested an overseas trip together... but i'm deliberating whether to go... on one hand, i wanna go together with him to enjoy a break but on the other hand, i know if i do go, there's a very very high possibility that i will lose my virginity.
it's like, though i do love my bf, i still don't have the emotional security to actually to give my virginity to him. maybe also partly cos i'm brought up in a conservative family.
i just wanna go on a nice overseas hol with him, enjoy ourselves, but not to that extent. isn't tis possible? i talked to him about this... he didn't say much. but he did make plainly his stand about what may happen. kinda stress me out...
hmm so is tis my prob, my bf's prob or a non-issue altogether?
i'm also considering whether it's worth it to hold on with him... but just can't bear to break it off...... it's not that i'm not going to do it with him altogether. but i need time... and maybe alot of time...... i'm just not prepared yet.
sighz. i dunno how to put the message across to him manz.
or shd i just convince myself to give it to him?
i don't want to regret whatever decision which i make in the end.
Is he interested in love or in sex with u? Not giving him the benefit of the doubt, I will say if u go with him to the trip, 100% u will return not a virgin. I believe thats not what u want now based on what u say. IF u are not ready, he shld wait until u are and respect ur decision till then.
This issue is about how he shld respect u. DUn have to think too much abt it. Dun feel comfortable, just dun give to him. If he wants to break, just goes to show hes not serious abt a relationship. Respect urself, protect urself and be urself. I will want to give him a slap based on the fact he wanted to break with u based on such a reason. -
a general rule, if u feel the slightest bit of unwillingness, DON'T.Originally posted by beige:i'm having this big big problem with my bf...
both of us just turned 20 tis year and never have sex before... (meaning:both of us are still virgins). all along he has been telling me frankly that he wants sex. but i always decline, saying i'm not ready yet. though he respects my wishes, i know he can't really resist the urge. this is esp when he's in NS and he got buddies who are already very experienced. at the one point in time, he even considered seriously breaking up with me cos i won't give him sex. yes, just plainly for this reason ( ). well... anw he later didn't.
anw he suggested an overseas trip together... but i'm deliberating whether to go... on one hand, i wanna go together with him to enjoy a break but on the other hand, i know if i do go, there's a very very high possibility that i will lose my virginity.
it's like, though i do love my bf, i still don't have the emotional security to actually to give my virginity to him. maybe also partly cos i'm brought up in a conservative family.
i just wanna go on a nice overseas hol with him, enjoy ourselves, but not to that extent. isn't tis possible? i talked to him about this... he didn't say much. but he did make plainly his stand about what may happen. kinda stress me out...
hmm so is tis my prob, my bf's prob or a non-issue altogether?
i'm also considering whether it's worth it to hold on with him... but just can't bear to break it off...... it's not that i'm not going to do it with him altogether. but i need time... and maybe alot of time...... i'm just not prepared yet.
sighz. i dunno how to put the message across to him manz.
or shd i just convince myself to give it to him?
i don't want to regret whatever decision which i make in the end. -
if he's got cash to spare there's always orchard towers, if not, there's always geylang for desperate men on a budget.Originally posted by beige:i'm having this big big problem with my bf...
both of us just turned 20 tis year and never have sex before... (meaning:both of us are still virgins). all along he has been telling me frankly that he wants sex. but i always decline, saying i'm not ready yet. though he respects my wishes, i know he can't really resist the urge. this is esp when he's in NS and he got buddies who are already very experienced. at the one point in time, he even considered seriously breaking up with me cos i won't give him sex. yes, just plainly for this reason ( ). well... anw he later didn't.
anw he suggested an overseas trip together... but i'm deliberating whether to go... on one hand, i wanna go together with him to enjoy a break but on the other hand, i know if i do go, there's a very very high possibility that i will lose my virginity.
it's like, though i do love my bf, i still don't have the emotional security to actually to give my virginity to him. maybe also partly cos i'm brought up in a conservative family.
i just wanna go on a nice overseas hol with him, enjoy ourselves, but not to that extent. isn't tis possible? i talked to him about this... he didn't say much. but he did make plainly his stand about what may happen. kinda stress me out...
hmm so is tis my prob, my bf's prob or a non-issue altogether?
i'm also considering whether it's worth it to hold on with him... but just can't bear to break it off...... it's not that i'm not going to do it with him altogether. but i need time... and maybe alot of time...... i'm just not prepared yet.
sighz. i dunno how to put the message across to him manz.
or shd i just convince myself to give it to him?
i don't want to regret whatever decision which i make in the end. -
You are in a dammed if you do, dammed if you don't situation.Originally posted by Camellias4me:since u can't decide for urself.. stick to a safer answer.
Say "No" ... u wun regret it.
But once he dapat, he'll consider you cheap.
If you don't want, then say "No".
If he can't tahan, thats his problem.
Think! do you want to receive his genes, DNA, seminal fluid, sperm.
Every abortion is followed for years after by a thought that the child would be of this age if not aborted.
"No" is a good answer.