You as a female, should only give him sex because you feel that it will make both of you closer together in the relationship, NOT because he's begging you for it.Originally posted by beige:i'm having this big big problem with my bf...
both of us just turned 20 tis year and never have sex before... (meaning:both of us are still virgins). all along he has been telling me frankly that he wants sex. but i always decline, saying i'm not ready yet. though he respects my wishes, i know he can't really resist the urge. this is esp when he's in NS and he got buddies who are already very experienced. at the one point in time, he even considered seriously breaking up with me cos i won't give him sex. yes, just plainly for this reason (). well... anw he later didn't.
anw he suggested an overseas trip together... but i'm deliberating whether to go... on one hand, i wanna go together with him to enjoy a break but on the other hand, i know if i do go, there's a very very high possibility that i will lose my virginity.
it's like, though i do love my bf, i still don't have the emotional security to actually to give my virginity to him. maybe also partly cos i'm brought up in a conservative family.
i just wanna go on a nice overseas hol with him, enjoy ourselves, but not to that extent. isn't tis possible? i talked to him about this... he didn't say much. but he did make plainly his stand about what may happen. kinda stress me out...
hmm so is tis my prob, my bf's prob or a non-issue altogether?
i'm also considering whether it's worth it to hold on with him... but just can't bear to break it off...... it's not that i'm not going to do it with him altogether. but i need time... and maybe alot of time...... i'm just not prepared yet.
sighz. i dunno how to put the message across to him manz.
or shd i just convince myself to give it to him?
i don't want to regret whatever decision which i make in the end.
I think u shld stick to wat u feel comfortable. Ur bf shld respect u. I feel that the fact that ur bf wanted to break with u bcos u din have sex with him is really ridiculous. Does he love u at all? If he does, he shld respect ur decision at all and shld love u deep enough to noe how u feel and what u want. His reactions questions his love for u. So wat even if hes in ns? There are alot of guys in ns who stil din do with their gf or some other girls.Originally posted by beige:i'm having this big big problem with my bf...
both of us just turned 20 tis year and never have sex before... (meaning:both of us are still virgins). all along he has been telling me frankly that he wants sex. but i always decline, saying i'm not ready yet. though he respects my wishes, i know he can't really resist the urge. this is esp when he's in NS and he got buddies who are already very experienced. at the one point in time, he even considered seriously breaking up with me cos i won't give him sex. yes, just plainly for this reason (). well... anw he later didn't.
anw he suggested an overseas trip together... but i'm deliberating whether to go... on one hand, i wanna go together with him to enjoy a break but on the other hand, i know if i do go, there's a very very high possibility that i will lose my virginity.
it's like, though i do love my bf, i still don't have the emotional security to actually to give my virginity to him. maybe also partly cos i'm brought up in a conservative family.
i just wanna go on a nice overseas hol with him, enjoy ourselves, but not to that extent. isn't tis possible? i talked to him about this... he didn't say much. but he did make plainly his stand about what may happen. kinda stress me out...
hmm so is tis my prob, my bf's prob or a non-issue altogether?
i'm also considering whether it's worth it to hold on with him... but just can't bear to break it off...... it's not that i'm not going to do it with him altogether. but i need time... and maybe alot of time...... i'm just not prepared yet.
sighz. i dunno how to put the message across to him manz.
or shd i just convince myself to give it to him?
i don't want to regret whatever decision which i make in the end.
a general rule, if u feel the slightest bit of unwillingness, DON'T.Originally posted by beige:i'm having this big big problem with my bf...
both of us just turned 20 tis year and never have sex before... (meaning:both of us are still virgins). all along he has been telling me frankly that he wants sex. but i always decline, saying i'm not ready yet. though he respects my wishes, i know he can't really resist the urge. this is esp when he's in NS and he got buddies who are already very experienced. at the one point in time, he even considered seriously breaking up with me cos i won't give him sex. yes, just plainly for this reason (). well... anw he later didn't.
anw he suggested an overseas trip together... but i'm deliberating whether to go... on one hand, i wanna go together with him to enjoy a break but on the other hand, i know if i do go, there's a very very high possibility that i will lose my virginity.
it's like, though i do love my bf, i still don't have the emotional security to actually to give my virginity to him. maybe also partly cos i'm brought up in a conservative family.
i just wanna go on a nice overseas hol with him, enjoy ourselves, but not to that extent. isn't tis possible? i talked to him about this... he didn't say much. but he did make plainly his stand about what may happen. kinda stress me out...
hmm so is tis my prob, my bf's prob or a non-issue altogether?
i'm also considering whether it's worth it to hold on with him... but just can't bear to break it off...... it's not that i'm not going to do it with him altogether. but i need time... and maybe alot of time...... i'm just not prepared yet.
sighz. i dunno how to put the message across to him manz.
or shd i just convince myself to give it to him?
i don't want to regret whatever decision which i make in the end.
if he's got cash to spare there's always orchard towers, if not, there's always geylang for desperate men on a budget.Originally posted by beige:i'm having this big big problem with my bf...
both of us just turned 20 tis year and never have sex before... (meaning:both of us are still virgins). all along he has been telling me frankly that he wants sex. but i always decline, saying i'm not ready yet. though he respects my wishes, i know he can't really resist the urge. this is esp when he's in NS and he got buddies who are already very experienced. at the one point in time, he even considered seriously breaking up with me cos i won't give him sex. yes, just plainly for this reason (). well... anw he later didn't.
anw he suggested an overseas trip together... but i'm deliberating whether to go... on one hand, i wanna go together with him to enjoy a break but on the other hand, i know if i do go, there's a very very high possibility that i will lose my virginity.
it's like, though i do love my bf, i still don't have the emotional security to actually to give my virginity to him. maybe also partly cos i'm brought up in a conservative family.
i just wanna go on a nice overseas hol with him, enjoy ourselves, but not to that extent. isn't tis possible? i talked to him about this... he didn't say much. but he did make plainly his stand about what may happen. kinda stress me out...
hmm so is tis my prob, my bf's prob or a non-issue altogether?
i'm also considering whether it's worth it to hold on with him... but just can't bear to break it off...... it's not that i'm not going to do it with him altogether. but i need time... and maybe alot of time...... i'm just not prepared yet.
sighz. i dunno how to put the message across to him manz.
or shd i just convince myself to give it to him?
i don't want to regret whatever decision which i make in the end.
You are in a dammed if you do, dammed if you don't situation.Originally posted by Camellias4me:since u can't decide for urself.. stick to a safer answer.
Say "No" ... u wun regret it.