Jealousy?
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Just a guess, the target of your jealously is someone close to u. related in blood perhaps.
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hi heng,.
i feel that it depends on ur 3 option,..if u choose c ,i think u just treat her like a good/close friend,not more than than...but if u choose either a or b,..im afraid and believe ur feeling towards her is more than a good friend,..
why dont u try to tell her ur 'true' feeling and ur 'problem'.i believe u will not have a sleepless night anymore,...hopefully
and its very difficult to be close friends with the opposite sex without any feeling...ERR,if u need any help u can pm me anytime,...
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Why didn't you say you were a male in the first place... all the while i thought you were female. Hah..~
Anyways, if you're a male, then its completely normal. Yea, even if its your best friend, sister, cousin or someone close.
Hmm, a counsellor once asked me a question.
Why do we do the things we do?
Why do we study? So that we can get a good job and earn money.
Why do we want so much money for? So that we can be happy, in a sense.
Are you sure you can be happy with lots of money? For a while at least...
And he proceeded to tell me that all we do, all everyone is in the world is doing... can be coined by a single word. Love. We do things because we want to be loved. We want to be appreciated by people, we want to let people like us, adore us even.
Love comes in many forms, but the most common form, in which we all want is that of BGR. And why is that so?
In our conservative Singapore society, hugging friends(if you're not female) is quite unheard of. I rarely see guys giving each other hugs. Heck, they could even be coined as gays.
In a BGR, we are exposed to love in its purest form(usually). We give unconditionally, we express our love for each other physically and emotionally. I believe a hug gives people a well-being of both physical and emotions.
And since we're guys, we don't get hugged much(unless you have a gf of your own), and we tend to be envious of others when we see it happen, if even a little.
I have learned to not let it affect me so much by ignoring it mentally. You'll be surprised at what the brain can do...
But yes, i believed i've talked too much already.
Just know that its completely normal Heng. -
ah no not blood related.Originally posted by Magnus:Just a guess, the target of your jealously is someone close to u. related in blood perhaps. -
um see I keep telling ppl the situation is a wee bit more complex than this... u know like the feeling of "got mouth but hard to speak" feeling? sigh.....Originally posted by unforge:hi heng,.
i feel that it depends on ur 3 option,..if u choose c ,i think u just treat her like a good/close friend,not more than than...but if u choose either a or b,..im afraid and believe ur feeling towards her is more than a good friend,..
why dont u try to tell her ur 'true' feeling and ur 'problem'.i believe u will not have a sleepless night anymore,...hopefully
and its very difficult to be close friends with the opposite sex without any feeling...ERR,if u need any help u can pm me anytime,... -
well i've hugged guy friends b4, and i've hugged gal friends. anyways actually, don't be too suprised that u mistook me for a gal too...Originally posted by _Aaron_:Why didn't you say you were a male in the first place... all the while i thought you were female. Hah..~
Anyways, if you're a male, then its completely normal. Yea, even if its your best friend, sister, cousin or someone close.
Hmm, a counsellor once asked me a question.
Why do we do the things we do?
Why do we study? So that we can get a good job and earn money.
Why do we want so much money for? So that we can be happy, in a sense.
Are you sure you can be happy with lots of money? For a while at least...
And he proceeded to tell me that all we do, all everyone is in the world is doing... can be coined by a single word. Love. We do things because we want to be loved. We want to be appreciated by people, we want to let people like us, adore us even.
Love comes in many forms, but the most common form, in which we all want is that of BGR. And why is that so?
In our conservative Singapore society, hugging friends(if you're not female) is quite unheard of. I rarely see guys giving each other hugs. Heck, they could even be coined as gays.
In a BGR, we are exposed to love in its purest form(usually). We give unconditionally, we express our love for each other physically and emotionally. I believe a hug gives people a well-being of both physical and emotions.
And since we're guys, we don't get hugged much(unless you have a gf of your own), and we tend to be envious of others when we see it happen, if even a little.
I have learned to not let it affect me so much by ignoring it mentally. You'll be surprised at what the brain can do...
But yes, i believed i've talked too much already.
Just know that its completely normal Heng.
like i said, the issue is so much more complex but I am unable to talk about it.... but well i guess thanx for spending the time to help. -
No problem.
Send me a message if you want to talk or something. I know how stuff is hard to say out sometimes too. -
ok. thanxOriginally posted by _Aaron_:No problem.
Send me a message if you want to talk or something. I know how stuff is hard to say out sometimes too.