Jealousy?
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hmmm... ok. well no i don't want to elaborate. but thanks.Originally posted by Magnus:Yes. unless you want to elaborate on the complexities..
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anyone else wants to offer their opinions on such a situation?
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I'm jealous tt somebody looks hotter than me
FeowFeowOriginally posted by HENG@:Don't know if this should be posted here, because it's not really agonizing me... but I was wondering, how would one interpret jealousy? Say... U see your good friend dancing n smooching someone else, and u feel jealous, are u:
A) Jealous that that someone else gets to pull n snog your good friend when you haven't done so.
B) Jealous that your good friend gets pulled n gets snogs when you don't.
or
C) Jealous that they are getting some action when you don't.
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come come send pic let me see.Originally posted by FeowFeow:I'm jealous tt somebody looks hotter than me
FeowFeow
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If you want her... TAKE her... If you don't / can't take her, whatever happens are just HER RIGHTS...Originally posted by HENG@:if u are a gal and your good friend is a handsome, good looking guy, or if u are a guy n your good friend is a hot, cute gal, what is your opinion then?
Afterall, what are friends for yeah...?
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it depends on whether you are a guy or a ger..
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now we have a rather BIG problem with genders here....Originally posted by killtuna:it depends on whether you are a guy or a ger.. -
dev ah, not so simple. I PM u.Originally posted by Devil1976:If you want her... TAKE her... If you don't / can't take her, whatever happens are just HER RIGHTS...
Afterall, what are friends for yeah...? -
I think u don't know what u want.
Normally these kind of things are most propably jus simply envious or you are jus being possessive. Jealousy? as a kinda fren jealousy? maybe yes cos y she/he make out with someone else but not u. Additionally, this equals to possessive too. Possessive as a form of fren, good fren. Thou u don't own her... but in this world there are jus some ppl that are like this.
Success Is my mothaF'ing Options, Failure's not -
What are friends for?Originally posted by Devil1976:If you want her... TAKE her... If you don't / can't take her, whatever happens are just HER RIGHTS...
Afterall, what are friends for yeah...?
Friends are people that you think are your friends
But they really your enemies, with secret indentities and disguises, to hide they true colors.
So just when you think you close enough to be brothers
they wanna come back and cut your throat when you ain't lookin.
Success IS My MothaF'ing Options, Failure's Not -
well i dun feel this way about all my good friends. like i said, the situation is more complex. anyways, im asking for your opinions about where the source of jealousy is, if u find yourself in a situation like this. im not asking u to guess my situation. thanksOriginally posted by all_souls:I think u don't know what u want.
Normally these kind of things are most propably jus simply envious or you are jus being possessive. Jealousy? as a kinda fren jealousy? maybe yes cos y she/he make out with someone else but not u. Additionally, this equals to possessive too. Possessive as a form of fren, good fren. Thou u don't own her... but in this world there are jus some ppl that are like this.
Success Is my mothaF'ing Options, Failure's not -
Friends are who you think they are...Originally posted by all_souls:What are friends for?
Friends are people that you think are your friends
But they really your enemies, with secret indentities and disguises, to hide they true colors.
So just when you think you close enough to be brothers
they wanna come back and cut your throat when you ain't lookin.
Success IS My MothaF'ing Options, Failure's Not
So if you think they're MothaF'ckers who would cut your throat, then they probably are...
If not, they are probably just humans who make mistakes from time to time... -
Im not in the situation like this... i mean now. but in my younger years... theres sometimes im in tat situation. Somehow... same like u... donno where the source is from.Originally posted by HENG@:well i dun feel this way about all my good friends. like i said, the situation is more complex. anyways, im asking for your opinions about where the source of jealousy is, if u find yourself in a situation like this. im not asking u to guess my situation. thanks -
icic.Originally posted by all_souls:Im not in the situation like this... i mean now. but in my younger years... theres sometimes im in tat situation. Somehow... same like u... donno where the source is from. -
Source of jealousy eh girl?
You know, i've heard that girls are innately posessive. So even though you two are just good friends, you may just be jealous that "hey, that girls cuddling my good friend!" and feel well, maybe lost control of the situation or something.
Nothing to worry about in most cases.
Coming from a guy's view. I think its normal. For me to see a good friend, be it guy or girl, hugging or kissing a stranger, wow, i'll tell you i would get jealous, even for a little bit.
Wait, just looking at strangers alone do that... so well, you get my point. -
ALL THE ABOVE OFCOURSSSEEE!
But if u use discipline to mentally prepare urself that life is screwed up, it aint so bad.. i comfort myself by trying to tell myself i am exotic and handsome and that 1 day many GIRLS will come after me and i will get action when i have lots of CASH and behaving JERKY and being UTLRA attractive
BLEEHHH!!!
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i always tink that guys do not treat their female frens as pure plationic frensOriginally posted by HENG@:now we have a rather BIG problem with genders here....
so get jealous when they see the gers wif other guys? -
hmmm.... i think so far u've given what is perhaps the most accurate take on the situation for me. yeah but i get your point.I do get jealous when i see complete strangers doing that.Originally posted by _Aaron_:Source of jealousy eh girl?
You know, i've heard that girls are innately posessive. So even though you two are just good friends, you may just be jealous that "hey, that girls cuddling my good friend!" and feel well, maybe lost control of the situation or something.
Nothing to worry about in most cases.
Coming from a guy's view. I think its normal. For me to see a good friend, be it guy or girl, hugging or kissing a stranger, wow, i'll tell you i would get jealous, even for a little bit.
Wait, just looking at strangers alone do that... so well, you get my point. -
brother. when can u faster kill me?Originally posted by men_@_arms:ALL THE ABOVE OFCOURSSSEEE!
But if u use discipline to mentally prepare urself that life is screwed up, it aint so bad.. i comfort myself by trying to tell myself i am exotic and handsome and that 1 day many GIRLS will come after me and i will get action when i have lots of CASH and behaving JERKY and being UTLRA attractive
BLEEHHH!!! -
maybe, maybe not... I seriously don't know.Originally posted by killtuna:i always tink that guys do not treat their female frens as pure plationic frens
so get jealous when they see the gers wif other guys? -
Originally posted by Magnus:You really have to ask yourself truthfully, what are your real feelings for the opposite gender friend of yours - as a good friend, a potential life partner, or a good friend but impossible potential life partner.
Your qns A,B,C have a bit of both scenarios. Your ans will varies with your stance.
Cheers.. I've gotta know one old man he's in the early 40s, he's married wif 3 beautiful kids and I"m married wif a very understanding husband, and the funny and crazy things happened to me was this old man everytime tries to control me where-ever I go or whoever I talk to, in the first place I have already made things very sharp and clear to him that we're just friends-casual strictly friends but it seems that he's jealous when I talk to my friends and he will create all kinds of crazy things to make me angry and argue wif him.... he's married but why is he doing all this? Urgghhhh ! he's so disgusting I feel like wana pewwww............. vomit blood ! -
Yes, and we will all continue to be jealous until we have a loving boyfriend/girlfriend of our own. Its completely normal girl.Originally posted by HENG@:hmmm.... i think so far u've given what is perhaps the most accurate take on the situation for me. yeah but i get your point.I do get jealous when i see complete strangers doing that.
The thing is, how are you coping with it?
I must afraid all i've done so far is to take it lightly, and not let it affect me, but there are some days when i do feel very down(though i haven't for some time), and i spend some time with my friends talking it out. It really helps.
So until you have a boyfriend girl, all i can recommand is to talk it out/endure. You can do it. -
Oh. I see..
You just want to be loved.. -
Originally posted by _Aaron_:Yes, and we will all continue to be jealous until we have a loving boyfriend/girlfriend of our own. Its completely normal girl.
The thing is, how are you coping with it?
I must afraid all i've done so far is to take it lightly, and not let it affect me, but there are some days when i do feel very down(though i haven't for some time), and i spend some time with my friends talking it out. It really helps.
So until you have a boyfriend girl, all i can recommand is to talk it out/endure. You can do it.
im a boy.
but unfortunately, yeah, my situation is very very complex. im coping fine i guess. When I can't take it, I write poems reflecting my feelings n situation to.... vent my frustrations. -
maybe not anymore. I don't really know now.Originally posted by Magnus:Oh. I see..
You just want to be loved..