my bf
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my bf forgot my bdae. the worst thing was... he celebrated my birthday for me somemore, how could he have forgotten? it was 3rd of august, but he remembered as 30 august.
i realised it when he came back from china and bought a keychain which says "VIRGO". when i asked him why he bought virgo, then i realised he thot my birthday was on 30 aug.
duno if im really kicking up a big fuss abt it, but im really upset about it. somemore i know him so many yrs, and he's spent my birthday wif me, how can he forget? he blamed it on forgetfullness. but oh pls, im far more forgetful than him but i still made it a point to remember important things, be it regarding my bf or other work matters. bottomline is, no matter how forgetful u r, if things r really so important, u will remember by hook or by crook.
besides this, there was once i kept hurrying him to go out, cos it was his birthday. but he took his time. he msg me where i was bringing him to, i said "bringing u to sell u off". but its pretty obvious that im going out wif him on his birthday, i wouldnt wanna leave him at home right? the day before he told me he was abit sick, but on the day itself he didnt mention anything at all. there i was waiting for him, but delayed till around 8pm he told me he was sick and he didnt want to go out. i felt like an idiot waiting for him and kana 'dua' last min.
i have no doubts about him , eg: seeing another girl behind my back. i can trust him about this, i just hate the way he's acting aloof. everything also heck care. already ORD liao still so slack. everyday play computer games, find job also wan to find wif frens. i had many lobangs for him and got him to call, but he dowan cos "he is scared". he said his frens and him going to find job together, but i told him to be more independent lor. find job also scared to find.
i think perhaps im behaving too authoritative, asking him to do things, but it's for his own good. ORD already stay home everyday meh? i wan him to have a good life, if he finds a job, also not good for me cos he wont have time for me what. but i stil wan him to work instead of slack at home. i also dun nid to depend on him for $$ cos im self sufficient.
SIANZ. -
maybe he is the lazy type of ppl
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ask him dont beat his little brother so much...get him to shove it down your lobang better...
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I think he's probably too comfortable slacking around, so much so that he doesn't find it urgent to get a job. Once his savings get depleted, or some crisis happens, he'll wake up his ideas.
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so familiar....
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why familiar?
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shinta means shinta's prev other halfOriginally posted by veLvEtgEr:why familiar?
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haiz...........
well, y i dont have ths type of caring girlfren !
I just ORD too 04/09/03. and on the 15/09/03.. i was on my way to China..
I too is slacking in China.. only working about 4-5 hours daily... pay was "kinda" okie...
when u slack too much in Army, it is very diffcult to adjust... u know... some ppl can, some cant... and I still figuring wat im going to be in 5-10years time..
Give your b/f some time... sometimes we guys can be Fuc.King fricking minded... and Im one of them
I see my best fren g/f complaining about this too... r u one off them ????
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Hmm... Tone down a bit on him...? Somehow I feel that this man might need a little more ego to keep him going in the proper direction...?Originally posted by veLvEtgEr:my bf forgot my bdae. the worst thing was... he celebrated my birthday for me somemore, how could he have forgotten? it was 3rd of august, but he remembered as 30 august.
i realised it when he came back from china and bought a keychain which says "VIRGO". when i asked him why he bought virgo, then i realised he thot my birthday was on 30 aug.
duno if im really kicking up a big fuss abt it, but im really upset about it. somemore i know him so many yrs, and he's spent my birthday wif me, how can he forget? he blamed it on forgetfullness. but oh pls, im far more forgetful than him but i still made it a point to remember important things, be it regarding my bf or other work matters. bottomline is, no matter how forgetful u r, if things r really so important, u will remember by hook or by crook.
besides this, there was once i kept hurrying him to go out, cos it was his birthday. but he took his time. he msg me where i was bringing him to, i said "bringing u to sell u off". but its pretty obvious that im going out wif him on his birthday, i wouldnt wanna leave him at home right? the day before he told me he was abit sick, but on the day itself he didnt mention anything at all. there i was waiting for him, but delayed till around 8pm he told me he was sick and he didnt want to go out. i felt like an idiot waiting for him and kana 'dua' last min.
i have no doubts about him , eg: seeing another girl behind my back. i can trust him about this, i just hate the way he's acting aloof. everything also heck care. already ORD liao still so slack. everyday play computer games, find job also wan to find wif frens. i had many lobangs for him and got him to call, but he dowan cos "he is scared". he said his frens and him going to find job together, but i told him to be more independent lor. find job also scared to find.
i think perhaps im behaving too authoritative, asking him to do things, but it's for his own good. ORD already stay home everyday meh? i wan him to have a good life, if he finds a job, also not good for me cos he wont have time for me what. but i stil wan him to work instead of slack at home. i also dun nid to depend on him for $$ cos im self sufficient.
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haha maybe he is dense like me? Coz i find it veri hard to remember girls bdae one. Like one girl i know her bday is 26 or 25 or 24 of march rofl i cant rem
and i have a crush on her.. so come on.. not all of us got good memory. Plus its more manly not to remember such things 
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haiz... i can understand ur situation. my bf also like this,,, everyday only wanna play computer games. ask him go out always say very tired. when i ask him what he wanna do after ord, he says to stay home and play games...
ya ya and i was thinking, so wad about me?? during ns already tahan him always busy and tired... but if ord also like this means really got problem manz. sianz.
anw come to think of it, a gd point is that at least he's at home playing games (or at least he claims to be) rather than going out and dunno what he's doing outside...
haiz.. i can empathize with you manz. the feeling is really SIANZ...!
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heng not me wahahahaOriginally posted by SnowFlag:shinta means shinta's prev other half -
Side track abit
Is Dates really that impt ?
For me, it is just another normal day be it Birthday or V day or whatever dates
Can't you girls just stop being so demanding ?
I got a full time job and of cos there is lots of other impt things to remember at work and why can't we guys just forget the dates ?
I can say your BF is good enough to even celebrate your BD and even bought a present for you.
sorry, like side track abit long
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Not all of us can remember dates perfectly I admit. I myself is having problem currently trying to remember whether the birthdate of the lady I like is on 8-9 Feb but I don't dare to ask her directly cos I scared she thought I don't care.
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i know it can be really hurtful when he forgot
i kick up a super big fuss when my bf confuse my birth year
but its ok lah
i dont think they mean it intentionally
maybe he was tired and u know 3 and 30 is so similar
c'mon.. sometimes i cannot even remember my dad or my sister's birthday... its ok one lah..
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yah,somemore its only wrong date...he never forgot your birthday mah...atleast he still concern to buy you the key chain somemore...i think you should forgive him and reminds him again so that he will not forget about it again...Originally posted by nove:i know it can be really hurtful when he forgot
i kick up a super big fuss when my bf confuse my birth year
but its ok lah
i dont think they mean it intentionally
maybe he was tired and u know 3 and 30 is so similar
c'mon.. sometimes i cannot even remember my dad or my sister's birthday... its ok one lah..
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Maybe your B/F can consider Signing On with SAF???
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i think you should be easier on him. i am a female... yet i forget birthdays, maybe except my own. it doesnt mean i dont care... it just mean I DONT REMEMBER. look at it this way, would you rather he remember your bd and treats you bad in general? look at the big picture. overall, does he care?
the others are right. be grateful that he bought you a present. learn to appreciate what he has done, not complain about what he didnt do. men; we cannot harp on their faults. we have faults of our own too, we dont want our men to keep talking about our failings, do we? so dont.
about his bd - i think he didnt want to tell you earlier for fear of ruining the mood. looking at it from this perspective, he is considerate of your feelings and tried his best until he couldnt till the last minute.
girl, the world does not evolve around you. you need to consider your bf and his feelings before yours. only then can you show that you love him. right now, you are a little self centred (it's always about you... you are upset that he forgot your birthday... you felt like an idiot waiting for him... you hate his aloof ways...you want him to have a good life etc.)
as for his job search - you should give him more time. his priorities are different. what you think is best for him may not be what he thinks is best. you act in the best intentions but does it include what he wants?
learn to give a little more. learn to trust, learn to believe, respect, communicate and forgive. most of all, learn to love him...for him. -
he at least bought a keychain for u wat.. means he still care for u.. juz dat he really is forgetful... mixed up ur bdae...
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He might be mixing up your birthday. Too busy that he forgotten.
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Well, try to be more understanding. Maybe he is a already very frustrated with things around him, just want to find somewhere to release his tension and let go of everything and just waste whatever energy he has on computer games.
Give him some allowance. Don't always think of ME ME ME. Try to let go on that. Always look at things at another angle. Nagging ain't going to help. It's really up to him whether he wants to spend time with you. You don't have to always stick onto your bf. Find other things to do with your life. No point thinking too much. -
Key your birthdate on his hp & put reminder to prompt him 1 week before yr birthday.
Tell him he must be more organised. If he cannot meet u for a date, he shd have the courtesy to give u a call.
Don't pamper him. Remind him to get a job cos u need to spend on yr wedding. Furthermore both of u need to save for hse. & kids.
It will be very tiring if only u are the sole breadwinner. -
You know, nuchio and PerfectlyGreen are right.
The world does not revolve around you, and neither does a relationship. He forgot your bday, and you think that single act shows that he doesn't care about you?
You know what they say... it takes a thousand good deeds for people to build your reputation, but only one bad deed to ruin it all. I suggest looking at the 'thousand' good deeds he has done, instead of focusing on that one bad thing.
Regarding the ORD, slacking at home insteading of going to the job interviews you got for him.
I totally understand(but maybe because i'm a guy myself). We guys have a tendency to slack. Yea. After O levels, instead of getting a job right away(unless we're saving up for something), we'll just slack and play games at home. Or just hang out with our friends. Its the way we are. You have to accept it in your boyfriend.
Of course at one time or another, we'll 'wake up' and start focusing on our jobs, family, marriage. But until then, let us enjoy our youth a little more, before it gets lost forever... -
Dear velvetgirl,Originally posted by veLvEtgEr:my bf forgot my bdae. the worst thing was... he celebrated my birthday for me somemore, how could he have forgotten? it was 3rd of august, but he remembered as 30 august.
i realised it when he came back from china and bought a keychain which says "VIRGO". when i asked him why he bought virgo, then i realised he thot my birthday was on 30 aug.
duno if im really kicking up a big fuss abt it, but im really upset about it. somemore i know him so many yrs, and he's spent my birthday wif me, how can he forget? he blamed it on forgetfullness. but oh pls, im far more forgetful than him but i still made it a point to remember important things, be it regarding my bf or other work matters. bottomline is, no matter how forgetful u r, if things r really so important, u will remember by hook or by crook.
besides this, there was once i kept hurrying him to go out, cos it was his birthday. but he took his time. he msg me where i was bringing him to, i said "bringing u to sell u off". but its pretty obvious that im going out wif him on his birthday, i wouldnt wanna leave him at home right? the day before he told me he was abit sick, but on the day itself he didnt mention anything at all. there i was waiting for him, but delayed till around 8pm he told me he was sick and he didnt want to go out. i felt like an idiot waiting for him and kana 'dua' last min.
i have no doubts about him , eg: seeing another girl behind my back. i can trust him about this, i just hate the way he's acting aloof. everything also heck care. already ORD liao still so slack. everyday play computer games, find job also wan to find wif frens. i had many lobangs for him and got him to call, but he dowan cos "he is scared". he said his frens and him going to find job together, but i told him to be more independent lor. find job also scared to find.
i think perhaps im behaving too authoritative, asking him to do things, but it's for his own good. ORD already stay home everyday meh? i wan him to have a good life, if he finds a job, also not good for me cos he wont have time for me what. but i stil wan him to work instead of slack at home. i also dun nid to depend on him for $$ cos im self sufficient.
SIANZ.
Be glad that he still have the heart to get you a present.. Though he forgets your bday is exactly.. At least the dates and month is not a great difference right?? If next time you don't wan him to forget your bday.. maybe when you are out shopping with him.. give him a hint lah..
Your bf must have a goal for himself.. right now.. he don't even know what he wants.. that's why he's been slacking.. and don't wan to look for a job.. give him some time.. or maybe you can ask him wat kind of job he would like to do.. or and plans for the future.. or any dreams or goals.. that he wants to attain?? maybe from there.. can talk to him about it.. if he really wan to acheive something.. he has to work for it.. Let him know the importance..
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good girls like these hard to find ahh..Originally posted by nuchio:i think you should be easier on him. i am a female... yet i forget birthdays, maybe except my own. it doesnt mean i dont care... it just mean I DONT REMEMBER. look at it this way, would you rather he remember your bd and treats you bad in general? look at the big picture. overall, does he care?
the others are right. be grateful that he bought you a present. learn to appreciate what he has done, not complain about what he didnt do. men; we cannot harp on their faults. we have faults of our own too, we dont want our men to keep talking about our failings, do we? so dont.
about his bd - i think he didnt want to tell you earlier for fear of ruining the mood. looking at it from this perspective, he is considerate of your feelings and tried his best until he couldnt till the last minute.
girl, the world does not evolve around you. you need to consider your bf and his feelings before yours. only then can you show that you love him. right now, you are a little self centred (it's always about you... you are upset that he forgot your birthday... you felt like an idiot waiting for him... you hate his aloof ways...you want him to have a good life etc.)
as for his job search - you should give him more time. his priorities are different. what you think is best for him may not be what he thinks is best. you act in the best intentions but does it include what he wants?
learn to give a little more. learn to trust, learn to believe, respect, communicate and forgive. most of all, learn to love him...for him.
p/s: u taken?