Why the good guys are attached, gay, dead.
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I always wonder why the girls say all the good guys are dead, married, with kids, or gay. I just DonÂ’t get it.
I mean, think about it pple. Seriously.
When we treat a girl well and good, what does she do?
Before/During Courtship
She says, Sorry, youÂ’re not my type, or you make a better friend, I donÂ’t want to lose this friendship, I just treated you like my brother, etc.
During Relationship
I think we should remain as friends, i don't feel anything for you anymore.
I found someone better... someone who i'm more attracted to.
And the guy goes away crying, or with a broken heart.
And they say all the Good guys are taken..... man. This world is seriously warped... Can't the girls see that they are the cause of this... 'jerk-dom' ??
The world has changed... so much so that gentlemen don't get the girls now. Is that not the case?
Please feel free to comment, just save the flaming
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Actually Aaron, when a r/s dissolves and 1 becomes 2
, there really is a need to huff or puff about it. Keep the good memories, throw away the bad memories... If two people aren't willing loving participants in a r/s, then its just not meant to be. Better over earlier then waste time on the wrong person.
Besides you're still young, there's many other fishes in the sea. Who knows the next one that comes along just might be the ONE!
Be it guy or girl for you! 
Stop harping over it and GET OVER IT. Be a gentleMAN! Take the blow, move on! <- my 3 sec prep talk.Originally posted by _Aaron_:I always wonder why the girls say all the good guys are dead, married, with kids, or gay. I just DonÂ’t get it.
I mean, think about it pple. Seriously.
When we treat a girl well and good, what does she do?
Before/During Courtship
She says, Sorry, youÂ’re not my type, or you make a better friend, I donÂ’t want to lose this friendship, I just treated you like my brother, etc.
During Relationship
I think we should remain as friends, i don't feel anything for you anymore.
I found someone better... someone who i'm more attracted to.
And the guy goes away crying, or with a broken heart.
And they say all the Good guys are taken..... man. This world is seriously warped... Can't the girls see that they are the cause of this... 'jerk-dom' ??
The world has changed... so much so that gentlemen don't get the girls now. Is that not the case?
Please feel free to comment, just save the flaming -
girls use a lot of their feelings. if feeling is not there/not right there cannot be love .
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hmm..... not sure is this true!!!
i know quite a lot of gals but none turns out to br my gf
they say i like to flirt, lust etc...
but they did not take time to know mi!!
i m actually a nice guy!!!!
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Before/During Courtship
She says, Sorry, youÂ’re not my type, or you make a better friend, I donÂ’t want to lose this friendship, I just treated you like my brother, etc.
Put it this way, if there is no spark, there is NO SPARK. I said that to my best guy friend and lost him as a friend when I told him I'm getting married. Trust me, he is a great guy. Nice personality, good charc and loaded enough that you don't even have to go to work and drown yourself in branded goods. No means no spark. He don't even want to return to Singapore now. *sighs*
During Relationship
I think we should remain as friends, i don't feel anything for you anymore.
I found someone better... someone who i'm more attracted to.
Err do you want to waste time in a relationship you think won't work anymore? Not that I'm being cruel, but the dating game can be cruel. Its not so much so that the gentleman doesn't get the girl. My hubby is a gentleman I guess its meeting the right girl for you. Girls like jerks for fun, but they want a gentleman when they are ready to settle down.
So keep yr chin up and move on -
Sounds like they were just not interested in you.Originally posted by man4nth:hmm..... not sure is this true!!!
i know quite a lot of gals but none turns out to br my gf
they say i like to flirt, lust etc...
but they did not take time to know mi!!
i m actually a nice guy!!!! 
Are you trying too hard to find one?
Learn to love thy self before others can love you.
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All i can say is,
you have'nt met the right one and/or probably,
looked for it in the wrong places.
You have expectations so do them.
Only if you find someone and can meet half-way in terms of expectations, will you find what you have seek. -
As i have stressed so many times to guys during my seminars, attraction is not a choice girls make, it just happens. And the girls say they are not like machines that we can switch on. On the contrary they are, u just gotta know how to press her buttons to make her think u are a GOOD guy!
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Definitions of terms:
Things that attract girls:
1. the attractive guy (see Men_@_arms 18 ways to be a man-guide-manual 1st edition)
2. Money
3. Power
4. Looks; muscular chest, firm thighs, hips, buttocks, big biceps, veiny arms/hands. Clear face, rebonded gelled hair, preferably japanese looking etc etc.
5. Some kind of vehicle (e.g. car, motorbike, humvee, tank etc etc)
Short run; time period within the 1st 20-30 years of female lifespan. Can also be defined as period of time in a relationship which is FABULOUS before the relationship becomes sour.
Long run: Time period after 30 years of female lifespan. Can also be defined as period of time of relationship which has become SOUR AND SUCKY.
Attractive guyattractive guy in the short run)
"hot, tall (probably blonde), muscular, vehicle-driving, wake-boarding, soccer-kicking (or some other brute sport), gell-smearing, no-contacts-required, well-dressed (i.e. hottest casual trends), rap-shouting, music-playing, cursing, brash, confident, pompous, insulting/joking/cocky, cigarrette smoking (some only), drinking, regularly-dumping-girlfriending, clubbing etc etc" TYPE of guy.
Unattractive guy: (less attractive guy in the short run)
The more abundant (in sg at least) "Nice guys", nerdy (some), chivalrous, kind, polite, soft-spoken, less-brash, study-freaks kinda guys take a backseat in the short run.
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Well ok do nice guys finish last?? Rephrase, do nice guys get it as good and RANDY with girls as much as the jerks do?
Ok. Yes and No.
Short run;
in the early years of female adult-hood, i.e. 15-27 years of age, the female organism undergoes a certain "rite of passage", whereby she is attracted to the attractive guy.
Such guys make the short-run female feel better about herself in front of her girl-friends, such guys can show the female a better time than the "nerdy dorky guai" guys. Such guys give the female A GREAT TIME. She may occasionaly switch such guys, depending on how JERKY they are and dump her for other girls that are dying to be in the arms of such jerks in their respective short run modes.
So yeah, the more attractive kind of guys tend to be jerks because it is easier for them to attract girls by simply.. being jerks most of the time, *wink* well.. at least they let their jerk sides show AFTER they ghet the girl dat is..
This is thanks to American media shows, heavy-metal subculture and other forms of media that emphasize "COOL and HIPNESS" etc etc
Long run:
The shortcoming of the attractive guy, is that in the long run, his short run days of smoking, drinking, DRIVING at high speeds etc cost him lots of $, he runs the risk of dying in accidents, becoming a drug addict or getting his liver **** up. Most of the time, attractive guys bounce off from one girl to another until he retires.
But in the long run, the female usually has had at least 3 or 4 jerks in her "short run" period, she would be pissed off with men in general and may even consider becoming a lesbian. Her long run mode has kicked in, whereby she is more attracted to financial stability, decent gentlemanly-guys who are not sterile yet who can help raise children fruitfully and properly etc. Thus the attractive guy becomes unattractive compared to the formerly unattractive nerdy guy.
Unattractive nerdy guys, in the long run, usually have better paying jobs, more stability and can even enhance their attractiveness with cybernetic enhancements which they can easily pay for with their $.
SO it ALL DEPENDS WHAT KIND OF GUY U ARE NOW? AND WHAT KIND OF GUY U WILL BE! AND WHEN UR LONG RUN PERIOD KICKS IN!!
MUHAHAHA!! -
no matter how nice a guy is if a girl is not interested means she isnt. move on or you could turn her off
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remember this? => cutepixie's lamentOriginally posted by cutepixie:no matter how nice a guy is if a girl is not interested means she isnt. move on or you could turn her off
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not the same thing lol aye i just answered my own question
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hmm...
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hmm, hmm, i can say normally guys chg after they r attached, guys normally felt more responsibilities than those not attached, therefore alot of gals comment that married guys r attractive..
One of my gal frd's husband who used to behaves like a Beng when they pak tok last time but now he chg alot !!! so gd guys r either married or attached, hey i tell u, gays r really nice frds coz they really treat us gals well n wil not take advantage of us, hahaha... -
they key here is to know what you want and be realistic about it.
usually such comments (like the one mentioned as the topic header) are made by people who dont have the slightest idea of what they are looking for in a person. -
well, it depend on how ppls see things lah.
for me.. when i finally straighten out my though.. i still at losing end.. perhaps i straighten it too late.. lol
oh ya... i'm a good guy leh. but isnt attached.
muahahhaa -
I find the topic's name very funny. Sorry.
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yeah but u girls still go for the dangerious JERKY guys none the less, u only crave the nice married man when ur like 30 and ready to "settle" down in ur long run mode.Originally posted by 101wish:hmm, hmm, i can say normally guys chg after they r attached, guys normally felt more responsibilities than those not attached, therefore alot of gals comment that married guys r attractive..
One of my gal frd's husband who used to behaves like a Beng when they pak tok last time but now he chg alot !!! so gd guys r either married or attached, hey i tell u, gays r really nice frds coz they really treat us gals well n wil not take advantage of us, hahaha... -
No lah... still alive and super-available... me loh
kakaka...
joking ... joking ... no flame pls ... -
all i can say is tt all the good guys r meeting all the bad gals n vice versa, or simply.. be contented w/ wat u hv!
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GUY here saying good gals yearning for JERKS
GAL there saying good guys yearning for b i t c h
Its a vise versa thingy here, jus wait for the right gal. Maybe when u got one n u think shes the right one n pin all hopes on her but she jus left u for another guy. Then shes not the right one lo. So don decide to early. Still a long journey ahead. Not asking u not to put too much effort n feelings in a r/s, but jus try to learn to 'kan kai yi dian' n 'na de qi fang de sia'
Sg still got sooo many gals n not all man likes sg gals mah. IM one of them so u got one less opponent.
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Heard of the song Desperado? "You only want the things you can't get.."Originally posted by _Aaron_:I always wonder why the girls say all the good guys are dead, married, with kids, or gay. I just DonÂ’t get it.
I mean, think about it pple. Seriously.
When we treat a girl well and good, what does she do?
Before/During Courtship
She says, Sorry, youÂ’re not my type, or you make a better friend, I donÂ’t want to lose this friendship, I just treated you like my brother, etc.
During Relationship
I think we should remain as friends, i don't feel anything for you anymore.
I found someone better... someone who i'm more attracted to.
And the guy goes away crying, or with a broken heart.
And they say all the Good guys are taken..... man. This world is seriously warped... Can't the girls see that they are the cause of this... 'jerk-dom' ??
The world has changed... so much so that gentlemen don't get the girls now. Is that not the case?
Please feel free to comment, just save the flaming
Somemore... woman are not much of a risk taken when it comes to a relationship issue. They are not so certain if this guy is right for her and if there is a better guy coming along.. etc.. In addition, they can get hurt if they accept the wrong guy.
Hence, man are by natural, gotta work the extra miles to win her heart. Those that were taken, are in some way, approved and certified 'OKAY.' by their wife or partners.
Those whom were gay, well, that's an assumption that if these gays are man, then they will be 100% perfect. However, points to note, if they were man, they will not get these particular ladies attention since these ladies will still regards, gays can be good man. Ironic, isn't it.
As for those who are dead, well, they simply haven't get to know them better. If these dead good man happens to return to these women as a ghost, then.. they will be classified as 'Jerks' for scaring the hell out of them.
In short, if you happened to like such a girl, and wants to win their heart real bad... You have to be either married, be a gay.. or go kill yourself. -
I... I don't even know what... what to say....
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Erm guys. You all got it wrong.
This has nothing to do with me much personally, but it is what i observe that's happening all through the world.
I'm not hyping on a certain girl or anything now, so you can drop that line of thought. -
Quoted by men_@_arms
Attractive guyattractive guy in the short run)
"hot, tall (probably blonde), muscular, vehicle-driving, wake-boarding, soccer-kicking (or some other brute sport), gell-smearing, no-contacts-required, well-dressed (i.e. hottest casual trends), rap-shouting, music-playing, cursing, brash, confident, pompous, insulting/joking/cocky, cigarrette smoking (some only), drinking, regularly-dumping-girlfriending, clubbing etc etc" TYPE of guy.
Unattractive guy: (less attractive guy in the short run)
The more abundant (in sg at least) "Nice guys", nerdy (some), chivalrous, kind, polite, soft-spoken, less-brash, study-freaks kinda guys take a backseat in the short run.
Isn't this exactly what i mean?
You see, we've been conditioned, and are still being conditioned that being jerks, er, pompous, insulting, regularly-dumping-girlfriending is good, is cool, that 2 things 10 years down the line.
We become jerks ourselves, or we lose our confidence with girls. This is really bad.
This is a vicious cycle do you not see?
We try to conform to what the girls want, and then it changes 10 years later.
By then, we have reached a stage where it is hard to change. During our teenage years when we are impressionable, we can do that easily... but when we're older...
The point is, we need to become jerks in the short run to get the girls, and yet remember our chivalry and gentleman stuff ... and use it when we're in our prime, to get a wife.
At least this is what i think.