Saying sorry..
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i personally extend my sorries differently..hehehe..
will say 'i am sorry' or 'i am really sorry' or 'i apologise' when i really think i am at fault.
will say 'sorry' when i dont feel sorry much, useful with colleagues.
will say 'so sorry' when my boss is venting anger or scolding me for something which he has already scolded me for
will say 'sorreeeee' to friends during jokes, like when they act superior and scold me for never pao kopi for them
will say 'i'm so sorry abt that', 'so sorry abt that' to customers i faced at work when they are complaining.
basically trying to get them off my back. hahaha. -
like this?Originally posted by laurence82:Hmm, I think i got discuss this before, but nehmind..just for general discussion sake
For me, when someone wants to say sorry, he apologise unreservedly. Saying sorry is a show of one repentance and acknowledgement of one mistake. Its usually fruitless and uneccessary if one say "I am sorry..but I am still correct...I am sorry..but you shouldnt have done that..I am sorry..but..".
Anyone who apologise, i do acknowledge he is keen to make up for any disagreement, but most importantly, is he really fully aware people might be more interested in some actions, some show of full unreserved acknowledgement of mistake, than some forms of compensation like an apology, monies, other sort of benefits? This specially apply for really serious disagreement or long term brawls..not those "Oops, sorry I broke your favourite chinaware..sorry if this statement offend u" sorta immediate acknowledgement of own faults thingie.
I mean, for me seriously, an apology is not the end which i expected or hope for in certain situations, some situations require some show of actions, and most of all, since an apology must be treated seriously, it should be an wholly unreserved one.
Otherwise, actually i am allright if someone dont apologise at all, instead of making reserved, conditional apology, which is kinda worse. Like my JC Physics tutor alway say, sorry has lost its meaning. Its time to give value to it.
Hmm, the above is my opinion only. Anyone has theirs to share?
1)"Oops, sorry I broke your favourite chinaware..." ----->buy a new one to return them back or pay up for the loses??
2)"sorry if this statement offend u"----->sorry i take back my words or sew up your lips??
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Never apologise for anything that you don't really feel sorry for. Always meant it when you have to apologise for anything. And don't say sorry too often, it will only turn that word into meaningless.Originally posted by laurence82:Hmm, I think i got discuss this before, but nehmind..just for general discussion sake
For me, when someone wants to say sorry, he apologise unreservedly. Saying sorry is a show of one repentance and acknowledgement of one mistake. Its usually fruitless and uneccessary if one say "I am sorry..but I am still correct...I am sorry..but you shouldnt have done that..I am sorry..but..".
Anyone who apologise, i do acknowledge he is keen to make up for any disagreement, but most importantly, is he really fully aware people might be more interested in some actions, some show of full unreserved acknowledgement of mistake, than some forms of compensation like an apology, monies, other sort of benefits? This specially apply for really serious disagreement or long term brawls..not those "Oops, sorry I broke your favourite chinaware..sorry if this statement offend u" sorta immediate acknowledgement of own faults thingie.
I mean, for me seriously, an apology is not the end which i expected or hope for in certain situations, some situations require some show of actions, and most of all, since an apology must be treated seriously, it should be an wholly unreserved one.
Otherwise, actually i am allright if someone dont apologise at all, instead of making reserved, conditional apology, which is kinda worse. Like my JC Physics tutor alway say, sorry has lost its meaning. Its time to give value to it.
Hmm, the above is my opinion only. Anyone has theirs to share?
I hate to apologise, but when I does...I make sure that the affected party knows that I really meant it.