If U Were Me......
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should treasure what you have...
GF is not for "Bai Shui",
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i presume he oni tinks wif the brain at the lower part of his body...
sex drive oriented weakling...
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if i were u?? hmm.....if i were u i'll go b a monk?? will u do dat??Originally posted by vti_79:i recently celebrate my 2nd annivesary with my gf.we had been together since my first year of ns and now i had ord...she was still by my side..all of u must have know that this girl really love me!
i know this girl from irc from the first time we meet,i was only prepare to go steady with her on a "walk first seee how" attitude.after a few month,i found that this girl is hopelessly in love with me..she give me all her love and everything..
when i cough,she will get some med to me after work and see me at my house.when i was broke during ns,she pay for some of our date and when i say i want to learn bike,she save up $1 out of her $3 pocket money for me!i told her that if i really got a bike and if we not steady anymore,she will still be the first one to sit my bike..really glad to know such a girl.she is the girl who give me her everything.whatever i want,she will give..include sex!!
but the problem is this girl is not my dream girl.what i want is a girl with brain and a bit of looks..i often dream of me and my future wife earning a$2000 each a month so that we can led a comfortable life...but she earning $1300 at the moment and i ask her to upgrade herself which she did.the way she do things and the way she talk also piss me off sometimes..always say things wrongly and doing things the long way.
for her looks...she wasnt good looking loh!i just want someone who is PRESENTABLE,NOT CHIO..but i felt i couldnt bring her out to see my friends cos of her looks...
all the guys here...i wonder if u agree with me?
for girls right,either we get a one with no looks but got brain...or via visa..but for her,she got none loh...
i am thinking really far loh..cos i want her to be my future wife.
recently she was getting tired of all my nagging..asking her to change this and that and she say she is willing to break up with me and she dont love me as much...
we broke up once and later i patch with her cos i feel that i cant find someone who love me so deeply like her...i may be able to find a chio and smart girl,but will the girl love me so deeply???
shall i follow my dream..find a smart beautiful wife get married,each of us earn a decent sum of $2000 no problem having a nice car and house..but love is so so only..OR
marry my present gf with no looks and brain,live a simple life..evny others with cars and nice houses(i will be very sad,cos im a great car lover)...ENJOY HER DEEPEST LOVE TO ME...while i continue to nag all her wrongdoing till she correct herself FOR THE REST OF MY 30,40,50,60,70,80 YRS OF OUR LIFE?
IF U WERE ME......what is your decision?
look the descion is urs k? wat i can do is only advise and hope u'll listen to it k?
well here goes....its a juggle between ya dream gal and a gal whu luvs u deeply...do u luv her bak the same??
if u give her up now wat makes u think u can find another ger whu is meets ur requirments and luvs u bak the same?? u say she cares 4 u a lot...well dats good..and as long as she is presentable whu cares rite?
its ur gf..not other ppl's gf rite? let them say all they wan..
ppl wit big houses and cars well they get them by earnin..or some wit the silver spoon fed in their mouth..u hav dreams of ownin a big house and cars..good go for it...but do it within ur means and not find someone whu earns 2k a mth 2gether wit u.....den wats the point? knoe wat i mean? would u rather have a happi family or hav a family dat hav cars and such and yet an't happi??
look..if u really luv her..den accept whu she is...and dun nag abt her to change...
there's no such thing a perfect dream gal...
a prefect dream gal only appears when u can accept whu she is and not tryin to change her to b ur dream gal......
its alreadi hard eunff to find a ger dat luvs u so much and willin to do so much 4 the bf alreadi... take my advise..if u realli realli like her...den cherish her and dun complain abt her not being able to do tis or dat k?? if not...juz let her go coz she derserves someone whu can luvs her bak equally....
so ask urself..can u accept her?? den u'll get ya answer alreadi
ps...if got spellin mistake pai seh ar..my england not dat powerful and dun flame mi ar...coz its my pt of view ^-^
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u r such a jerk!Originally posted by H J:Continue go with her but on the other end, short list other gals, and when you get the other gal, break with her... Like that you got advantage... Treat her like your spare boat
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All those who suffer in the world do so because of their desire for their own happiness...
All those happy in the world are so because of their desire for the happiness of others... -
hurhurhur..........................
lalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalala..........................................
$2k <--- u serious u wan to earn $2k onli???? hurhurhur -
this is what we call hao wu da zhi... dun think he can go ani furtherOriginally posted by bear bear:hurhurhur..........................
lalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalala..........................................
$2k <--- u serious u wan to earn $2k onli???? hurhurhur -
hey guys... give vti_79 a break. he's young after all.
i cannot speak for everyone here but when i was young, i'm equally or more shallow. not only that i was a big ego-maniac. just like good wine, it takes time to develop a character of some depth. not that i've made it but we are here to give guidance. but having some flaming is fun too only if it doesn't offend the other guy. so just relax. -
Firstly, 2k can't get you a car.
She does have brains, everyone is born with it.
Most probably you wont be able to get a pretty and smart gf, so be contented with what you have now, before you lose it all.
On the other hand, if she is not really what you want, please spare her and let her go. There are many other guys who will treasure her more than you do. -
haiz... tis is a guy who'll juz end up regretting losing something he neber learnt to treasure.. A gal wif such a nice personality sure can get someone better than tis.. anyway, I think she'll open her eyes soon enough to realise that she deserve someone much better....
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YEs! well said! *thunderous applause*Originally posted by AsTr0GiRL:haiz... tis is a guy who'll juz end up regretting losing something he neber learnt to treasure.. A gal wif such a nice personality sure can get someone better than tis.. anyway, I think she'll open her eyes soon enough to realise that she deserve someone much better....
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All those who suffer in the world do so because of their desire for their own happiness...
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My advice is, never go to a party which you THINK you will be happier...
vti_79,
There's this other comment for you.. please do not feel offended, but I got a feeling that you come here with a 3/4 filled teapot, with a filter... that means you basically have something on your mind already, and you just want to hear things that supports the idea...
I do understand that maybe some replies are pretty direct, but probably that's the way some people express themselves, esp when you're talking about a girl here. I believe fellow girls will stand by each other as they share thoughts for each other if they feel that they are treated unfairly. Even for guys too.. Think about it...
Furthermore, beyond their angry remarks are some advice which are the important things you are seeking if you genuinely seek views from others here. Probably you may want to think about the rational behind their words. It's just like when we're young, we are often scolded by our parents. They shout... they slap... they beat... but why did that do it?? you became you, a decent proper guy from these harsh punishments right?? There's some truths in people's comments, that's what you want to listen too, though it's harsh...
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vti_79, chio look dont exist forever, but a good heart can. your present gf may not be capable of rising her financial status, but, I am sorry to say this, it is us GUYS to provide them with comfort, to go out in the working/business world to earn money and cover expenses for both party.
there are tons of ways to convince your gf why she should upgrade or even adopt an entrepreneurer spirit. You have only tried so many ways to get her to increase her chances of improving, and failed, but there many other options left.
true enough, few guys can tahan girls with no look and to take them in as their wife, but fewer amongst those to recognise the hidden treasure beneath the not so presentable appearance.
for a couple who earns an average combined income of 4k, is not enough to cover expenses for a house, car and other luxuries, but you need NO CASH to cover for a open, kind heart like your gf.
if you think, that
1.she has no brains,
2.she has no looks,
3.she has no money,
4.you can find a better girl,
get out of her life, for she deserve a better man than you are.
if you think, that
1. you resign yourself to a simple life
2. forever envying big houses and fast cars,
3. you can never show her in front of your friends,
get out of her life, for she deserve a more matured, down to earth guy than you are.
if you can think, that
1. both of you can change for the better in characteristics
2. her heart is made of gold,
3. you will stop nagging, and sit down to communicate thoughts in a finer way
4. pretty looks will fade over time
5. you will carve yourself a wonderful career path that covers far more expenses for both of you
6. she will continue to sacrifice for you (with brains or no brains)
7. you will never think of messy thoughts of why you dont deserve a pretty, brainy chick,
then i say, you must take her as your wife
otherwise, once again, i say, rather than be agonizing over these issue, get out of her life. she deserve a better man than you are.
you know what i mean, it is the painful truth that hurts you the most. but if you are willing to look forward, the future can be just as sweet for the both of you. You seriously need a change in character and thoughts first. -
anyway, do u think tat the gal who is better than ur current girlfriend will not leave u when she finds someone who is better than u r?? than i can tell u that u r wrong.. if a gal can have a high income, she'll definitely want to find someone who can do even better.. moreover, how well do u know her to forsake ur current gf who has been so supportive of u???
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Astrogirl...
long time no hear from you liaoz.. how's things???
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trying to straighten up my life a bit... when straight liao.. i'll be back wif full force.... lol
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*Clap clap clap clap*!Originally posted by lestersia:vti_79, chio look dont exist forever, but a good heart can. your present gf may not be capable of rising her financial status, but, I am sorry to say this, it is us GUYS to provide them with comfort, to go out in the working/business world to earn money and cover expenses for both party.
there are tons of ways to convince your gf why she should upgrade or even adopt an entrepreneurer spirit. You have only tried so many ways to get her to increase her chances of improving, and failed, but there many other options left.
true enough, few guys can tahan girls with no look and to take them in as their wife, but fewer amongst those to recognise the hidden treasure beneath the not so presentable appearance.
for a couple who earns an average combined income of 4k, is not enough to cover expenses for a house, car and other luxuries, but you need NO CASH to cover for a open, kind heart like your gf.
if you think, that
1.she has no brains,
2.she has no looks,
3.she has no money,
4.you can find a better girl,
get out of her life, for she deserve a better man than you are.
if you think, that
1. you resign yourself to a simple life
2. forever envying big houses and fast cars,
3. you can never show her in front of your friends,
get out of her life, for she deserve a more matured, down to earth guy than you are.
if you can think, that
1. both of you can change for the better in characteristics
2. her heart is made of gold,
3. you will stop nagging, and sit down to communicate thoughts in a finer way
4. pretty looks will fade over time
5. you will carve yourself a wonderful career path that covers far more expenses for both of you
6. she will continue to sacrifice for you (with brains or no brains)
7. you will never think of messy thoughts of why you dont deserve a pretty, brainy chick,
then i say, you must take her as your wife
otherwise, once again, i say, rather than be agonizing over these issue, get out of her life. she deserve a better man than you are.
you know what i mean, it is the painful truth that hurts you the most. but if you are willing to look forward, the future can be just as sweet for the both of you. You seriously need a change in character and thoughts first.
I'm impressed by your 'speech'. These sounds more like a guy.
At least it sounds more like a mature thinking guy. -
Okiez.. so which solon you wnet for life rebounding?? hehhe~
hmmm anyway.. you mean you used to walk pan guan zhuo dao???
Anyway happy reflecting... All the best... hope to see a new you then...
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if only straightening up the life is as ez as juz going for rebonding... hmmm...
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So wat now?
Am I too late to join in the discussion?
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Thomas Edison definition of genius :
"1% inspiration, 99% perspiration"
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The Eagle
He clasps the crag with hooked hands:
Close to the sun in lonely lands,
Ringed with the azure world, he stands.
The wrinkled sea beneath him crawls;
He watches from his mountain walls,
And like a thunderbolt he falls.
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Perhaps dear,
Sometimes the answer really lies in looking into the mirror.
Ask not if she's worthy of you.
Ask yourself if you're worthy of her.
Ask not if she is the one for you.
Ask yourself if you are the one for her.
Perhaps when you realise she's much too good for yourself... then you can save all your troubles. -
hey u...suxssss
ur gf deserves some1 better than u! i hope she can find some1 sooo much better than u. You dun deserve her...
What matters importantly is the character, not looks!
Who do u think u r....wake up man...tsktsk -
Hmm...i just wanna ask that since u dun think u can have her as ur future wife, why start the relationship in the first place????
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Life's Like A Box of Chocolate, You Never Know What You Will Get. -
Hiak! i think hes ballz drop liow...
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Serious Question:
I've got $2000, my girlfriend earns $1300. And no...I can't do Maths.
We need a Jaguar NOW...RITE NOW!!!
PLS HELP!! WAAAAAAAAAHHH!
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Michelle: "The soup is too salty..."
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i think the jagaur tyre cost abt 2.3K ??