Originally posted by _Aaron_:Firstly.. man.. GET ur FUCKING spectacles off and wear contacts as if u never ever had specs. This would help.
Part 2
Now about 3 weeks ago, i was smsing her when somehow the topic related to how much she means to me. To keep it short, i told her that she has evoked some feelings in me, and she replied that she don't know how she feels about me, but i make her laugh like an idiot everytime.
The thing about evoking feelings in me is important, because for quite some time now i feel rather dead. Yea, dead. Its like nothing matters anymore. Live or die, don't care. I don't smile as much, and i keep telling others, there's no happiness in my life. I'm not sad either, sort of like neutral.
And about a week back, she smsed me a message like this "Do you think things will work out if we try?" And i smsed back with some rubbish answer like "All things will work out, somehow".
2 days later i smsed her the same question, and she quoted me back. Aargh. Seems i won't be getting any answer from her.
Last friday we went out and watched a movie with a friend of ours, and er, to sidetrack from the topic. Shutter is truly very scary. Normally Ghost shows have been on the funny side for some time, but wow, this show is freaky man.
Yea, and she asked a question to our friend, which i have been hearing for some time. "Is his spectacles nice?" (This is because i asked her out a month back to help me choose one.) And the guy replied something, but i forgot. The main thing was that he pointed out [b]She was wearing the same glasses. Except in red of course.
Somehow this brought me back to the time when I did stuff to please girls, and I wonder if this is the same thing. And I didnÂ’t even notice our specs were the same!
On Monday i woke up with a dream of her, we were holding hands, but they refused to link properly.
And on Monday it was horrible, i kept thinking of her. And I think it was because of that, I had the mood swing at 4+. I haven't had a mood swing for more than a year too.
Guys ... i want to ask her to be my girl, but i'm not sure if i should. I don't even know how much she likes me.
And, i think she eventually started liking me because of the quote, and becaues i'm much more confident now, and surpassing her in grades as well. This totally shows that being nice to girls, especially too nice, is useless. Hah.
Yea, i'm sort of confused now. Comments anyone?[/b]
yeah replace gifts with joking insults, bad behaviour and a heck care mentality.Originally posted by SunRisE:To chase or please a girl.. Gifts and presents are not important.. Its the matter of sincerity and your heart.. No matter how expensive gifts you buy for her.. If you have confident in getting her.. why not give it a shot..
Happiness is a journey not a destination..
NAN REn Bu HAUI Nu Ren Bu AI.. hahahaaha...Originally posted by men_@_arms:yeah replace gifts with joking insults, bad behaviour and a heck care mentality.
I know her for 3 years now. How much longer do you reckon i know her better? And we're graduating soon ... may not see her again after next semester.Originally posted by BrUtUs:ask her out n get to noe her better first b4 popping the question...![]()
Originally posted by verloren:I know about the funny and cocky part. But as i mentioned, i'm working. 8-5 is wearing me out. I get about 6-7 hours of sleep per day.
Wow. It's a bit hard to analysis this girl from what you've said. Did she have alot of boyfriends before? Is she the type that flirts? Is she the friendly type with guys? It'll be better if you give me more information.
But I can still tell you something, from what you've written here.
From the way she asked you the question, there might be the possibility that she has some interest in you. And your answer was terrific, by the way.
She wore the same spectacles as you? Well, you should tease her by saying, "If you wanna woo me, you'll have to do better than just getting a pair of similar spectacles!" You're being funny, cocky, and interesting to her if you say it. What could be better than that!
Heard of the term, "ri you suo si, ye you suo meng"? In English, it means that, "You dream of what you think of." Because your mind is suddenly full of her, and you can't stop thinking about her, your sub-conscious reacts by rewarding you with a dream. Ask yourself, haven't you been daydreaming about being together with her and doing all the things that couples do?
You're right about the being nice part. I'll tell you about something that I've learnt two years ago as well:
[b]1) If you treat a girl like she's gold, she will BELIEVE that she is gold. And then she will kick you aside because she is confident that she can get someone better than you, because she is GOLD and you are not! By being nice to her, you are treating her like she's gold.
2) Girls will never be attracted to guys whom they do not have respect for. By being nice to her, you are being her doormat.
3) The more unpredictable you are, the higher her level of interest in you. By being nice to her, you are being boring because you literally tell her everthing about yourself.
Hope you've discovered them by now too[/b]
Originally posted by verloren:woot! Verloren is admitting that girls like jerks and thye like to be treated like bronze or brass rather than gold!! i.e. dirt HA HA HA! woot
Wow. It's a bit hard to analysis this girl from what you've said. Did she have alot of boyfriends before? Is she the type that flirts? Is she the friendly type with guys? It'll be better if you give me more information.
But I can still tell you something, from what you've written here.
From the way she asked you the question, there might be the possibility that she has some interest in you. And your answer was terrific, by the way.
She wore the same spectacles as you? Well, you should tease her by saying, "If you wanna woo me, you'll have to do better than just getting a pair of similar spectacles!" You're being funny, cocky, and interesting to her if you say it. What could be better than that!
Heard of the term, "ri you suo si, ye you suo meng"? In English, it means that, "You dream of what you think of." Because your mind is suddenly full of her, and you can't stop thinking about her, your sub-conscious reacts by rewarding you with a dream. Ask yourself, haven't you been daydreaming about being together with her and doing all the things that couples do?
You're right about the being nice part. I'll tell you about something that I've learnt two years ago as well:
[b]1) If you treat a girl like she's gold, she will BELIEVE that she is gold. And then she will kick you aside because she is confident that she can get someone better than you, because she is GOLD and you are not! By being nice to her, you are treating her like she's gold.
2) Girls will never be attracted to guys whom they do not have respect for. By being nice to her, you are being her doormat.
3) The more unpredictable you are, the higher her level of interest in you. By being nice to her, you are being boring because you literally tell her everthing about yourself.
Hope you've discovered them by now too[/b]
Originally posted by verloren:Why makes things so confusing and complicated??? Love is just love... being in love brings you strength and happiness...
Wow. It's a bit hard to analysis this girl from what you've said. Did she have alot of boyfriends before? Is she the type that flirts? Is she the friendly type with guys? It'll be better if you give me more information.
But I can still tell you something, from what you've written here.
From the way she asked you the question, there might be the possibility that she has some interest in you. And your answer was terrific, by the way.
She wore the same spectacles as you? Well, you should tease her by saying, "If you wanna woo me, you'll have to do better than just getting a pair of similar spectacles!" You're being funny, cocky, and interesting to her if you say it. What could be better than that!
Heard of the term, "ri you suo si, ye you suo meng"? In English, it means that, "You dream of what you think of." Because your mind is suddenly full of her, and you can't stop thinking about her, your sub-conscious reacts by rewarding you with a dream. Ask yourself, haven't you been daydreaming about being together with her and doing all the things that couples do?
You're right about the being nice part. I'll tell you about something that I've learnt two years ago as well:
[b]1) If you treat a girl like she's gold, she will BELIEVE that she is gold. And then she will kick you aside because she is confident that she can get someone better than you, because she is GOLD and you are not! By being nice to her, you are treating her like she's gold.
2) Girls will never be attracted to guys whom they do not have respect for. By being nice to her, you are being her doormat.
3) The more unpredictable you are, the higher her level of interest in you. By being nice to her, you are being boring because you literally tell her everthing about yourself.
Hope you've discovered them by now too[/b]
Thanks V gal.Originally posted by v gal:hhaha.... player? think she is just trying to play "hard to get"... common tactics among girls....
anyway, good luck!!!
I don't really believe that she doesn't have a boyfriend before. Did you find that out yourself, or did she tell you?Originally posted by _Aaron_:I know about the funny and cocky part. But as i mentioned, i'm working. 8-5 is wearing me out. I get about 6-7 hours of sleep per day.
I think i'm getting sick. bah.
I can't keep up with the cocky and funny. I tried calling her but there were some silences along the way, cause i'm just too worn out. I don't want to think about her. Sometimes it works, but sometimes it doesn't, cause i'm reminded of what could have been... Keeping up with C&f takes effort and strength that i seem to be lacking for now.
Yes she's the friendly type with guys, but she don't really have a boyfriend before(you know, like-like but never even hold hands), and i don't really have a girlfriend before either(no love was present, which i later found out).
I may be going out with her for a movie soon, and i don't quite know what i'll do. I'm just so tired...
Yea, i've decided to lay off the C&F for a while now... just waiting and keeping it neutral... yea.Originally posted by verloren:I don't really believe that she doesn't have a boyfriend before. Did you find that out yourself, or did she tell you?
If you're struggling with C&F, I suggest that you remove it temporarily from your conversations with her. Btw, C&F shouldn't be done very often. It should only be used a few times during the conversation, to spice things up a bit. If you do it correctly, she will assume that you're C&F by nature, instead of assuming that you're just doing it for her sake.
My advice is to behave in a neutral way when you're with her. Why? Because you don't understand her, and you don't know what she's thinking. By responding to her actions, she has the upper hand because she's controlling the game. By being neutral, she has no choice but to make the move if she's really interested in you. I'm not sure about others, but that's how I function.
to men_@_arms:Females don't like guys to treat them too nice, it's a fact.
wooot! hey i am not the one who JUST found that out WAHAHA!Originally posted by verloren:to men_@_arms:Females don't like guys to treat them too nice, it's a fact.