why is depression coming back?

• killdory

  3 Dec 04, 01:28

  i dun call my frens to chat
  is sumthing wrong wif dat?
• the.raven

  3 Dec 04, 10:43

  Originally posted by men_@_arms:

  Alrighty. i am taking moves to get myself better. Next week gonna have the entire art society over for dinner at my place for pot luck, a few of them were quite enthusiastic, and that makes me feel better for some reason heh.
  
  Called a girl up and asked if wanna hang out sometime, she said she had church camp and would let me know when she free. Same thing with another girl who said would let me know her schedule at some stage.. Although my cynical side says, its just a polite way of telling one to fuck off.. i like to believe this is aNYTHING but negative. Also called up another friend, gonna watch a movie next week when he's free. And a friend will be returning from oz next week, will call her and meet up. Oh and tomorrow is graduation nite thing, even though i feel it will suck with me being alone, i'll still go and hang out there positively. Then saturday and sunday is filming week with my crew and our parodies.
  
  I guess i must keep myself active.

  k
• men_@_arms

  3 Dec 04, 14:04

  Originally posted by killdory:

  i dun call my frens to chat
  is sumthing wrong wif dat?

  me neither coz it seems they are always chatting with someone else..
  
  
• Peppermint

  3 Dec 04, 14:12

  the question u should ask is...do u need friends? hell u don't....
  
  just go and enjoy the things u wanan do...
  
  catch up on your interests
  read up something you have always wanted to read but have no time to
  learn something new
  
  you may not have time to do all these if u have friends....
  
  
• MunnaBhai_MBBS

  4 Dec 04, 13:41

  Originally posted by Peppermint:

  the question u should ask is...do u need friends? hell u don't....
  
  just go and enjoy the things u wanan do...
  
  catch up on your interests
  read up something you have always wanted to read but have no time to
  learn something new
  
  you may not have time to do all these if u have friends....
  
  

  Quite true.unless u are a vainpot ...u dont need frens....cause u are contended with yourself...u feel superior and that if u dont have frens, u can self undulge in your vainess
• mancha

  6 Dec 04, 01:25

  Originally posted by men_@_arms:

  few friends did just arrange to go out today. So yeah i feel better.
  
  Does being a better person = MORE friends?
  
  Sometimes i am confused..

  When you are an introvert, your mind fogs up because all you think about is I,I,I,I,I. All your energy is directed inward and your mind is constipated. You feel depressed.
  When you are an extrovert, your mind frees up because you are focused outside of yourself. All your energy is directed outward. You feel spirited.
  
  Next time, think about what you are thinking of.
  
  Being with friends takes your mind off yourself.
  
  
• foxwalk

  8 Dec 04, 00:45

  Originally posted by men_@_arms:

  i know the As are over but why am i feeling depressed? jesus help me.
  
  Its like i feel LONELY and insecure, i feel lesser of a person than other people because they seem to have more fun, more friends and more blogs and shit than me. While the number of friends i have i can count with my hand u know?
  
  The trouble is. its harder to break into other circles and know other people and is vexing.
  
  Maybe i am expecting too much from all people. Maybe i am really disturbed.. Maybe i've got something seriously wrong with the way i see things?
  
  I lack deep connections with people, connections that i see inherent wth everyone else in their interactions with others..
  
  And it further disturbs me to answer the question "WHY do i lack these simple things", because it makes me think even more about what i fucked up loser/evil/dipshit i am.. anf frankly it makes me suicidal.
  
  help.

  i went thru the same phase when i was around your age.. lasted till i was like 21.
• killdory

  8 Dec 04, 03:16

  Originally posted by men_@_arms:

  me neither coz it seems they are always chatting with someone else..
  
  

  not dat...its juz dat its never my habit to call frens to chat.......
• aH_v

  8 Dec 04, 03:18

  Originally posted by men_@_arms:

  i know the As are over but why am i feeling depressed? jesus help me.
  
  Its like i feel LONELY and insecure, i feel lesser of a person than other people because they seem to have more fun, more friends and more blogs and shit than me. While the number of friends i have i can count with my hand u know?
  
  The trouble is. its harder to break into other circles and know other people and is vexing.
  
  Maybe i am expecting too much from all people. Maybe i am really disturbed.. Maybe i've got something seriously wrong with the way i see things?
  
  I lack deep connections with people, connections that i see inherent wth everyone else in their interactions with others..
  
  And it further disturbs me to answer the question "WHY do i lack these simple things", because it makes me think even more about what i fucked up loser/evil/dipshit i am.. anf frankly it makes me suicidal.
  
  help.

  Actually, your problem is rather simple.
  
  Foremost, know yourself and love yourself better. By achieving these, try being a 'servant'. Let me explain.
  
  1. Knowing yourself - understand your needs and your attitudes and behaviour. Take note of issues like, not tactful, big mouth, not considerate, etc... and maintain the good points about yourself. In short, upgrade your personality.. and not fake it out.
  
  2. Try to relax and love yourself. Loving yourself will help others to love you. This means that you have to learn to accept the facts of life, stop whining and move on. Read up self-help books if you want to but do bare in mind that you are different from others so please stop comparing yourself to others. They don't have what you have/experience and you don't have theirs. (note: all winners are borned a loser, they ultimately win because they never allow themselves to go into depression and keep motivating themself to move on regardless of hardship)
  
  3. Being a social 'servant'. Serve others. Be solf spoken and be actively volunteering to take part and help out. Try avoid expecting what others can offer you but think about what you can offer others. Hmm.. ever try helping out at the People Association Youth Club or something?