what shld i do now?
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Why must you put the blame on yourself? Why can't you think in another way that that old man is actually sorry for what he had did?
Just play cool and treat it as a social kiss. I guess you'll feel better that way. But of coz we can't deny the fact that the old man has the intention of bedding you. All you need is a companion. Why don't you spend more time with your kids, and try to do something to rekindle the flame of your relationship with your hubby?
Don't brood over that incident anymore... It has past and it's over!!!
All the best...
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Just ran into him when i was heading for lunch not purposely but by chance and we just talked as per normal but i think he could sense that he knows that i felt embarassed after wat happened
it had been one month since i met him face to face as that incident happened on 17th november and today is exactly 17th december
he invited me for his brother's bbq which i helped him to do the admin work as i had an extra slot
feelings that i have kept hidden inside me for the last month came alive again and i cld sense the loneliness and helplessness and i can feel that i was kinda embarassed that i saw him after wat we shared
many people may not think much of one nite stands and sex but for me, i am not a promiscous person and i felt like very paiseh like that although knowing his "pattern", to him things like this are as common as everyday thing to him
but for me, i know i am not the cheo type of girl and not pretty and din have much experience with having many bfs before marriage although i do have many frens of the opposite gender but they are all frens to me but with HIM, its different, i can feel that we are very close and perhaps becuz of the times we spent talking at the poolside and at the gym and on the way home, he shared many quiet moments of his time telling me about wat happened between his ex wife, ex gfs and him
things that he wont tell other pple, he also told me, so i was very confused but know that i shld draw a line on our frenship -
You bet you are confused alright.Originally posted by armygirl:Just ran into him when i was heading for lunch not purposely but by chance and we just talked as per normal but i think he could sense that he knows that i felt embarassed after wat happened
it had been one month since i met him face to face as that incident happened on 17th november and today is exactly 17th december
he invited me for his brother's bbq which i helped him to do the admin work as i had an extra slot
feelings that i have kept hidden inside me for the last month came alive again and i cld sense the loneliness and helplessness and i can feel that i was kinda embarassed that i saw him after wat we shared
many people may not think much of one nite stands and sex but for me, i am not a promiscous person and i felt like very paiseh like that although knowing his "pattern", to him things like this are as common as everyday thing to him
but for me, i know i am not the cheo type of girl and not pretty and din have much experience with having many bfs before marriage although i do have many frens of the opposite gender but they are all frens to me but with HIM, its different, i can feel that we are very close and perhaps becuz of the times we spent talking at the poolside and at the gym and on the way home, he shared many quiet moments of his time telling me about wat happened between his ex wife, ex gfs and him
things that he wont tell other pple, he also told me, so i was very confused but know that i shld draw a line on our frenship -
Frankly speaking, i dun see y you're bothering abt this incident...juz carry on with ur normal life...and this kinda thing which happened which i see no reason y u shld seek for others opinions...it's ur life and ur decision to make...afterall, be yourself...
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Pardon me but it just seems to me tt ur r rite, there's no problem~Originally posted by dcx:Frankly speaking, i dun see y you're bothering abt this incident...juz carry on with ur normal life...and this kinda thing which happened which i see no reason y u shld seek for others opinions...it's ur life and ur decision to make...afterall, be yourself...
But she's itchy~
She knows exactly wat to do to stop all this crap and yet another part of her just doesn't wanna do it~
If the old fellow would hv been more daring~
I dare say she would hv been "eaten" up by now~
The F just dun understand how the M works~
Zi Gu Duo Qing Kong Yu Hen~ -
No flaming please okay, i am not itching to sleep with anyone just the loneliness and the thot of all that has happened this year has gotton to meOriginally posted by GTO:Pardon me but it just seems to me tt ur r rite, there's no problem~
But she's itchy~
She knows exactly wat to do to stop all this crap and yet another part of her just doesn't wanna do it~
If the old fellow would hv been more daring~
I dare say she would hv been "eaten" up by now~
The F just dun understand how the M works~
Zi Gu Duo Qing Kong Yu Hen~
i missed the intimacy of having a shoulder to cry on and someone to comfort me, if you want to criticise by all means but do not hurt others by saying i am itchy okay -
Yes i am confused by what is happening around me...i dislike the idea of people commenting that i am itching, i am not that type of person, if i was , i wld have slept with any other person long ago when my hsb went overseas to workOriginally posted by Devil1976:You bet you are confused alright.
recently, my best fren had a kid and another gd fren was doing her mba and iwas kinda lost and i had problems in the office which caused me to be in turmoil...... and i am not the type who are very contradicting, outwardly people may think that i am an extrovert but i dun like to tell my inner problems to people as i am afraid of their criticisms and yet when i post here,i get people saying i am itching, i am not a nymphomaniac,i just needed someone to care for me, thats all...no flaming -
No need to be so defensive~Originally posted by armygirl:No flaming please okay, i am not itching to sleep with anyone just the loneliness and the thot of all that has happened this year has gotton to me
i missed the intimacy of having a shoulder to cry on and someone to comfort me, if you want to criticise by all means but do not hurt others by saying i am itchy okay
I never even mention anything bout u wanting to sleep with anyone~
Cant "itchy" be the 7th year itch which u urself mentioned?
So tell me wat r u craving for now?
A platonic friendship with the old guy which satisfies ur spiritual soul?
Sorry but I can see only one conclusion and U can see it urself too if u carry on letting this guy into u life or be a part of ur life~ He will just screw u given the chance~ -
i really dun know, as far as i am concerned,mymind is in turmoil and i cant unload this to anyone i know
wonder if we can continue to be platonic frens without sex involved
dun thk he wants to sleep w/ me though.. and i dun think i wld carry off sucha stunt -
if my future wife do this to me i will hire professional killer and end her life.
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i call such an unfaithful woman who dun know what she wants in life and betrays his husband a "sl ut".
i call her neighbour a stray dog who like to womanize and hope he gets some STDs or aids from his di ck onwwards...btw 12 die die in his own home dun spred stds and aids all over sg okay?
hope this slu t husband come home 1 day and tell sl ut that " hey know what...
during my overseas trips i f uck lots of overseas gers too u know..so can we call it quits?"
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I think you guys are being too harsh.
Armygirl is just lonely and in need of companionship.
The incident she described, she's under the influence of alcohol.
Just have to avoid such situations. -
alcohol is just an excuse lar.
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Dear torx and m'back,
I am astonished with the language and flames you guys are using on armygirl. How much do you know about the situation that warrants you to use such conclusive and damaging remarks?
While I am new to this forum, I have totally enjoyed the civility and the good intentions of the forumers here... perhaps, with the kind of language you use, perhaps you would be better off in the BAR forum?
Please, AA is for people who might really be troubled... no point making harsh, ill intentioned and kiddy remarks, it's just a waste of bandwidth and other people's time reading the posts...
I am not flaming you guys for I know you guys have your own views and sincerely wishes to contribute... so I hope AA will not degenerate into one of those places filled with flames and childlish remarks...
Peace to all....
Regularjoe -
Magnus quoted:
Think you guys are being too harsh.
Armygirl is just lonely and in need of companionship.
The incident she described, she's under the influence of alcohol.
Regularjoe quoted:
Dear torx and m'back,
I am astonished with the language and flames you guys are using on armygirl. How much do you know about the situation that warrants you to use such conclusive and damaging remarks?
While I am new to this forum, I have totally enjoyed the civility and the good intentions of the forumers here... perhaps, with the kind of language you use, perhaps you would be better off in the BAR forum?
Please, AA is for people who might really be troubled... no point making harsh, ill intentioned and kiddy remarks, it's just a waste of bandwidth and other people's time reading the posts...
I am not flaming you guys for I know you guys have your own views and sincerely wishes to contribute... so I hope AA will not degenerate into one of those places filled with flames and childlish remarks...
Peace to all....
Regularjoe
Aaron quotes:
They are very right. If you do not bother to finish reading everything she says, please do not give useless and unconstructive criticism. What we need here in AA is a listening ear and a warm and caring heart with good advice. If you do not posess even 1 of them, you would be better posting in Bar.
It seems you're still troubled armygirl... I haven't been checking this thread for some time, but didn't you carry out your 'action' plan?
Ah i need to leave, see you again soon.~ -
Yeah... Such things happen... If you really need someone to pour out to and you think that you can trust me, just feel free to PM me....Originally posted by armygirl:Yes i am confused by what is happening around me...i dislike the idea of people commenting that i am itching, i am not that type of person, if i was , i wld have slept with any other person long ago when my hsb went overseas to work
recently, my best fren had a kid and another gd fren was doing her mba and iwas kinda lost and i had problems in the office which caused me to be in turmoil...... and i am not the type who are very contradicting, outwardly people may think that i am an extrovert but i dun like to tell my inner problems to people as i am afraid of their criticisms and yet when i post here,i get people saying i am itching, i am not a nymphomaniac,i just needed someone to care for me, thats all...no flaming -
Yo, if you are confused, perhaps its time for you and your hubby to go for a relaxing tour to take a break from your mundantory work.
believe me, a break from work can do wonders. Especially if both can go together, dun need to be far or many days, just go over the weekends about 3-4 days is good enough.
Like genting? cameron highlands? thailand?bali? etc.
Take this time to rekindle the relationship to make it stronger with your hubby.
Remember, as what some forumers said, you can ask for a hug etc. Dun expect something romantic to a practical guy. Rather you should be the one to make the first response, like while on tour, pick a place for a candlelight dinner, enjoy the scenery and take wonderful pictures of both of you together.
AND YES! AVOID the other guy. DUN give wrong signals, sooner or later, the guy will know you are married and will let you alone. -
Originally posted by nightzip:Yo, if you are confused, perhaps its time for you and your hubby to go for a relaxing tour to take a break from your mundantory work.
believe me, a break from work can do wonders. Especially if both can go together, dun need to be far or many days, just go over the weekends about 3-4 days is good enough.
Like genting? cameron highlands? thailand?bali? etc.
Take this time to rekindle the relationship to make it stronger with your hubby.
Remember, as what some forumers said, you can ask for a hug etc. Dun expect something romantic to a practical guy. Rather you should be the one to make the first response, like while on tour, pick a place for a candlelight dinner, enjoy the scenery and take wonderful pictures of both of you together.
Thanks for your comments, that neighbour knows right fm the beginning that i am married as i had actually known him fm a wedding dinner of my hsb's fren and this neighbour has seen my kid and also came to my house
hard for us to take short leave to neighbouring countries as my hsb is working in a country 5 hrs flight away, difficult for him to take leave...
just that i am very confused over such matters....
i havent been purposely looking for him but trying to concentrate more on my job....
AND YES! AVOID the other guy. DUN give wrong signals, sooner or later, the guy will know you are married and will let you alone. -
Lighten up girl... We all MAKE MISTAKES...
In some instances it's what you make out of it after all that had happened... -
true lah, all of us makes mistakes and hopefully i can get on with my life, i also trying to meet up with more frens