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I juz receive salvation a few weeks ago...know aboout the do's and dont's,everything goes fine after 1 month when she complain that i spend more time with god than with her..I was told to love god and put him in priority sad thing is my gf cannot accept it
masturbate n having sex b4 marriage is the dont's of a christian so i stop doing those things but bad thing is my gf can't accept the dont's
She did tell me to choose between her and god which i think if she loves me she won't be asking those type of question.
I told myself this"If i believe in god and 1 day my gf break up with me,i am back to square1 but i still have god to turn to...But if i give up on god and 1 day my gf break up with me,i am back to square1 but i have no 1 to turn to...."
Should i give up on tis relationship?We being together for 4 yrs n planning to get married
am i crazy or insane???Any christian here??Pls help
(I can be a strong christian juz that the relationship is blocking me frm receiving grace and having strong faith in god )
*my gf is a free thinker and i read the bible and it say"righteousness(means christian)must not stay with the unrighteousness(non christian)..frm my knowledge i think god dun want the unrighteousness to polluted our mind -
Is your girlfriend a christian? This question is the first you should tell us.
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Really suggest you post here.....
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u marrying her or marrying god?
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yea. Go to the christian forum better.
Our advice will be quite different. In fact, very different~ -
wat he needs is a sensible POV and advice from ppl on the fence......
not a biased opinion from ppl in the same league...... -
I thought of the same too..? But then again.. Would they be biased..?Originally posted by _Aaron_:yea. Go to the christian forum better.
Our advice will be quite different. In fact, very different~
Oh well.. But I do have to admit that they would probably have more experience to share in this kinda situation...? -
My personal advice would be...Originally posted by doomz:I juz receive salvation a few weeks ago...know aboout the do's and dont's,everything goes fine after 1 month when she complain that i spend more time with god than with her..I was told to love god and put him in priority sad thing is my gf cannot accept it
masturbate n having sex b4 marriage is the dont's of a christian so i stop doing those things but bad thing is my gf can't accept the dont's
She did tell me to choose between her and god which i think if she loves me she won't be asking those type of question.
I told myself this"If i believe in god and 1 day my gf break up with me,i am back to square1 but i still have god to turn to...But if i give up on god and 1 day my gf break up with me,i am back to square1 but i have no 1 to turn to...."
Should i give up on tis relationship?We being together for 4 yrs n planning to get married
am i crazy or insane???Any christian here??Pls help
(I can be a strong christian juz that the relationship is blocking me frm receiving grace and having strong faith in god )
*my gf is a free thinker and i read the bible and it say"righteousness(means christian)must not stay with the unrighteousness(non christian)..frm my knowledge i think god dun want the unrighteousness to polluted our mind
Try to balance your religion off without jeopardising your personal relationship.. If you intend to marry this woman, she'll be your WIFE in the future.. If you can't learn to appreciate her now, how are you suppose to take care of her in the future?
If your god knows, I don't think you would want you to ruin your own marriage and future because of him too..? REMEMBER. A relationship with GOD is of ETERNITY and NOT reality. In this world, you'll need your WIFE. In your heart, you'll need your GOD for your spirit... Hope this answers you.... -
Hey ladies and gentlemen,
please provide some feedback to him as well... think it's good as he gets to see from different points of view...
My view: She might thinks that you should believe, have faith more in yourself rather than depending on a third party, ie god. Our religion will shape our belief, our views etc, but you still have to control everything in our hands.
My fren once told me that a catholic will not touch meat on every friday... y? becos their religion wants them to learn to appreciate lower grade of food (not sure how to put it into words), in ancient times was fish, becos of the ending supply of fishes. and this practise carried till date. But one might ask is fish the "lower grade" of food now? If no, why did the catholic still follow that kind of practise?
Please note that this may not be the actually reason y catholic dun eat meat on friday, afterall, i only heard it from my fren. (i'm not a catholic) but this is a good way to show how one beliefs might shape one's view...
Your gf just want you to show her that you love her... and god wants you to refrain from all these lust .... ii dun know... might be becos that he is worried that you will... hmm.... become irresposible??? anyway, just be true to yourself......
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seriously u shd end the relationship...
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Haven't been in there... hmm. But he should post in both ba, then let him choose... think there are objective people there also...Originally posted by Devil1976:I thought of the same too..? But then again.. Would they be biased..?
Oh well.. But I do have to admit that they would probably have more experience to share in this kinda situation...?
Religion is always rather sensitive.. hmm~ -
A non-christian view.
You have been having sex with your gf for some time it seems. And suddenly, you stop giving it to her. She may start to think you've stopped loving her.
Not to mention, it seems like you've started to spend less time with her. Of course she'll be annoyed, girls need TLC, time (and many other things.). Look, i'm sure God did not make us live on earth to suffer. I'm sure he wants you to be happy too, and to marry the girl that you've been seeing for 4 years.
She told you to choose, which is quite normal. Imagine having a group of very close friends, and you hang out with them more than you hang out with her. She won't be able to stand it.
Its your choice, do you want to marry God, or do you want to marry her? -
A Christian Point of view.
When we first receive salvation, we are often filled with holy power. Our zeal and admiration for God is the strongest. Here is also when we get the power to over-come all difficulties, at least for a while.
As a christian, you should not have any close relations(girlfriend, wife) as a non-believer. It is expressly stated that God does not want us to do so.
And its showing now. You can either try to convert her, or break off with her. But i believe that showing her the miracles of God is much better... But if she really does not believe, then i think what you should do is to break off. After all, she's stopping you from being closer to God.
God will provide, and will give you much more than you desire, if you only fear the lord, and believe whole-heartedly. -
double post.
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Tell her she has to be more understanding.
She knows yr religion from the very beginning, she has to accept u & yr religious practices.
In order for this to work out, she has to spend time with u in church & slowly convert. -
hmm....can show some proof?Originally posted by _Aaron_:As a christian, you should not have any close relations(girlfriend, wife) as a non-believer. It is expressly stated that God does not want us to do so. -
Well, everyone has told me that.Originally posted by SnowFlag:hmm....can show some proof?
I'm no pastor... but you post in Christian forum confirm can get the phrase~ -
shrugs. personally, as a christian, i know how you feel. but i'm gonna point this out without using the christian viewpoint.
i know you can accept her for who she is. that's what true love is. being able to accept someone for who he or she is.
it appears she cannot do that, kinda shows how shallow her love for you is. if she cannot support your decision which you know is right. which wouldn't have harmed the relationship anyway. she seems to be more interested in the "title" of being number 1. but truthfully, you know that the more you can love God, the more you can love others, including your gf.
if she cannot understand that, and cannot accept you for who you are now, then is she really worth all this sorrow and bullshiat?
if she wants to leave, then let it be. neither one of you will be happy anyway in this situation
anyway, congrats!! welcome to the family of God. continue to grow in Him!!
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Originally posted by dumbdumb!:
ok so I'll give the non-christian viewpoint to complement yours. Before some of u accuse me, let's juz say that I'm not looking for religion bashing. I'm juz letting u realise that in this world, there are people who don't believe in God and who don't think like you do. FYI, that does not make us lesser in anyway (of coz, christians will disagree
shrugs. personally, as a christian, i know how you feel. but i'm gonna point this out without using the christian viewpoint.
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"i know you can accept her for who she is. that's what true love is. being able to accept someone for who he or she is."
Yet non-christians are being penalised by "someone of a higher power" (if he exists) somehow for not believing...
True love?
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"it appears she cannot do that, kinda shows how shallow her love for you is. if she cannot support your decision which you know is right. which wouldn't have harmed the relationship anyway. she seems to be more interested in the "title" of being number 1. but truthfully, you know that the more you can love God, the more you can love others, including your gf."
Yeah, I guess everyone's interested in getting that no.1 spot in your heart huh? How 'shallow'
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"if she cannot understand that, and cannot accept you for who you are now, then is she really worth all this sorrow and bullshiat?
if she wants to leave, then let it be. neither one of you will be happy anyway in this situation"
yup, relationships are all about compromising.
While you're still wanting for her to "understand" u, are u 'understanding' her as well? It shouldn't be a one-way traffic u know?
Have a good talk with her. And make ur decisions.
P.S > BTW juz noticed that you mentioned that you are afraid of 'losing out in the end'. In this case, IMO this relationship is not suitable for you. Go stick to ur relationship with God, he'll always be with you - you won't 'lose out'. Not many people are able to maintain such a relation while being insistent on something that their partner strongly disagrees. -
as a christian point of view, u should have faith and pray to God. Ask him to show you the way. Everytime when i'm faced with a serious dilemma, i 'll pray and He'll always show me how to solve this dilemma, but bear in mind, tt the answer we get may not be what we want, but it's always the best for us.
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xin li zuo yongOriginally posted by frOst^~^nOva:as a christian point of view, u should have faith and pray to God. Ask him to show you the way. Everytime when i'm faced with a serious dilemma, i 'll pray and He'll always show me how to solve this dilemma, but bear in mind, tt the answer we get may not be what we want, but it's always the best for us. -
y having problem choosing something that is real(right b4 ur eyes) and something that u can only feel(no one can confirm if theres heaven)?
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can 'feel' meh?Originally posted by ak0:y having problem choosing something that is real(right b4 ur eyes) and something that u can only feel(no one can confirm if theres heaven)?
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I guess being both christian you share the same thinking, at
least there is less conflict. Since your gf is free thinker, then
both must respect each other on their believes. If both can't do that
best to go seperate ways. Unless she loves you enough to give
christianity a try....but don't force her into it.
However, I would think you should exercise certain level of logic with religion
don't be too obsessed. We are still human with feelings and desire not holy saint. -
When a person suppose to spend more time with god does it just means going to church to pray more often? Or does doing things while bearing in mind the teaching of god be enough. Since god is all powerful and in theory is present everywhere, wouldn't having him in your heart and being in any places means you are still spending time with him?