A Man's Guide to Being Short
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You are in a pub, having a discussion with a group of strangers. The topic of conversation is one in which you are an expert. But it seems that everyone else, no matter how little they know about the subject, knows more than you.
You walk into a party. In the corner are some women. Without even knowing your name, or what you do, you can almost hear them looking at you and thinking 'Nah!'.
You may be courageous and cultured. You may be strong, sophisticated and intelligent. You may be fit, capable, generous and funny. But sometimes the most important thing in the world seems to be the fact that your head is a few inches closer to the ground than the average man's.
It can be frustrating and emasculating, depressing and tiring. But more than anything, it can be baffling. You know who you are and what you are capable of. You know you are normal, and have as much to offer the world as the next person. But sometimes others don't see it that way. Why?
If you are short, this is a daily problem. But like all problems, if you can understand it, you are half way to solving it. You may not be able to eradicate the problem, but at least you can be comfortable knowing what you are dealing with, and you can develop strategies to minimise the impact of it
Pride and PrejudiceWhat is prejudice? Let's consult a dictionary.
prej·u·dice
n.
An adverse judgement or opinion formed beforehand or
without knowledge or examination of the facts.
A preconceived preference or idea.
The act or state of holding unreasonable preconceived judgements or
convictions. See Synonyms at predilection.
Irrational suspicion or hatred of a particular group, race, or religion.
Detriment or injury caused to a person by the preconceived,
unfavourable conviction of another or others. -
Also frm the internet :
Short Man Syndrome is not something you are born with. It is a
condition brought about by socialization. When I walk my 5'6" self into a bar, I am always on edge. Why? Because many a night have I tried to make my way to get a drink in a crowded bar, and been shoved by those who either didn't see me or pretended to not see me. I've even been standing still, and had people walk by who push me out of the way as an object rather than a person.
It is under 'The Street Situation'.
This is a common occurence for the short man. The larger or taller
'man' or 'woman' has an 'unconscious perception' of the short
individual as being of 'no consequence'. They have a very primitive
physical advantage and they are taking advantage of it when they bump
into you. They are subliminally aware of your size disadvantage. It
doesn't take a genius to do what they do. It is on the level of the
animal. Other species, though they don't have the intelligence of the
human being, know instinctively when they have their 'prey' at a
disadvantage. And as I just stated, it doesn't take a genius to
realize this.(And by the way, taller women will do this to you as well
as men). I think I heard about someone who was in the same situation
as you. I think he waited until one of these 'predators' was drunk
and tried to make his way to his car. I think this someone then ran
'full tilt' into him in a parking lot or something. The 'predator'
was hurt substantially. (broken bones, concussion, etc.) Poor
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dun go to pub lor
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erm...dont see what this 2 para gotta do with ppl being short...esp the second one....think most prob got more to do with ugliness...anyway...cheer up....u may be short...but there are others shorter than u....u may be ugly...erm...but let's hope your mum still loves uOriginally posted by A Beautiful Mind:You are in a pub, having a discussion with a group of strangers. The topic of conversation is one in which you are an expert. But it seems that everyone else, no matter how little they know about the subject, knows more than you.
You walk into a party. In the corner are some women. Without even knowing your name, or what you do, you can almost hear them looking at you and thinking 'Nah!'. -
We make do with what we have. Never give up.
If you have got "what it takes", then height will no longer be a problem. And i understand that height sometimes contributes to "what it takes" also.
Just gotta accept that gotta work a little harder. Be a little better. Earn the respect of people for the man we are, we dun rely on appearance.
But you know all that already. -
Try walking around nurseries, you will feel....TALLER.
(WHO'S NEXT TO FEEL TALL?!
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try speaking to the mentally-disabled , u will feel ....... MOre intelligentOriginally posted by cooleo:Try walking around nurseries, you will feel....TALLER.
(WHO'S NEXT TO FEEL TALL?! )
(No discrmination to the mentally disable... only outright ostracize cooleo ) -
Personnal inspirations: watch movies casted by "vertically-challenged" but highly accomplished actors:
Tom cruise
Al pacino
Tony cheung -
wtf beautiful mind. how short are you???
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I dun see a problem that I'm 158cm going into a pub or a bar....
As long as there's women shorter than me perhaps...
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Simple solution:
If you can't change your height, change your attitude.
All you need is to think positive and have a taller pride.
Height is not everything. Its pretty much a physical thing.
It is what talents you have, what intrenal beauty you have that really counts... in the end. -
oh yeah i know this very well. simple solution. when i go clubbing, i find the stage to dance on. otherwise, the other solution of mine right now is choosing to be asexual. u can't be disappointed when u're expecting ppl not to be interested in u anyways. there are so much more interesting things to do with life like suicide and murder.
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im only 5"7 myself, dont worry. i suppose we cant change what we have got and we will always be disadvantaged when it comes to people formulating their first impressions of us by judging our appearance.
but thats not stopping you from going out there and achieving, right? -
at least u guys even reach 5'. im not sure if i hit 5' or not.
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I don't even remember how tall 5" is.
I guess i'm lucky to be the average... 1.65 like that. I don't wish i'm taller, cause i know that would be conforming to the society's demands. heh.~ -
lucky you...Originally posted by _Aaron_:I don't even remember how tall 5" is.
I guess i'm lucky to be the average... 1.65 like that. I don't wish i'm taller, cause i know that would be conforming to the society's demands. heh.~
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how tall u? anyway no one measures in feet aymore rite... yaOriginally posted by HENG@:at least u guys even reach 5'. im not sure if i hit 5' or not. -
actually they still do. my friends here in UK even measure their body weight in stones!Originally posted by A Beautiful Mind:how tall u? anyway no one measures in feet aymore rite... ya
u got msn? -
i think westerners tend to measure their height in feet and inches. my parents, being quite westernized, also do so i guess. heres the breakdown
5 feet- 152 cm (30.4 cm in one foot)
5 feet 1 inch- 154.5
5 feet 2- 157
5 feet 3- 159.5
5 feet 4-162
5 feet 5- 164.5
5 feet 6- 167
5 feet 7- 169.5
5 feet 8- 172
5 feet 9- 174.5
5 feet 10- 177
5 feet 11- 179.5
6 feet- 182
thats to save you the... small print. actually, 6 feet is 183 cm to be exact.
but i guess cm is much more precise. -
kaoz.. guys always strive to be tall la.. 165 not exactly tall.. n girls generally prefer tall guys..Originally posted by _Aaron_:I don't even remember how tall 5" is.
I guess i'm lucky to be the average... 1.65 like that. I don't wish i'm taller, cause i know that would be conforming to the society's demands. heh.~ -
u mean 6' ? cause according to previous post, 5' is 152cm...Originally posted by HENG@:at least u guys even reach 5'. im not sure if i hit 5' or not. -
perhap's shes a petite female?
anyway i guess females have it better, they don't need to be tall or muscular, just pretty
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ok la got over 5'.
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yup... & there's always the heels.Originally posted by happygoluckyy:perhap's shes a petite female?
anyway i guess females have it better, they don't need to be tall or muscular, just pretty
went clubbin with some classmates last time... & the 2 gals i know were like suddenly soo tall. With a bit of dressing & the heels, guess most gals can look drastically better..
think guys hav it harder... taller (not possible), maybe train bigger (bigger bod + brain) -
I use them in my daily conversations.Originally posted by HENG@:actually they still do. my friends here in UK even measure their body weight in stones!
Far more interesting than metres and kilogrammes which are a tad clinical methinks.
Besides I have a nice figure for the value of my height: 5 ft 5.5