dump him.Originally posted by ~Lyn~:hi juz wondering how generous can one be in terms of relationship.. can one stand ur gf/bf flirting wif other guys/gals, contacting their ex behind ur back or sometimes get to meet up wif them...wat would u do when trap in this situation? had heard of quite a lot of cases so wanted to hear diff opinions ..
but sometimes when u get together u dun noe abt all these.. after sometime den u learn abt it.. so by den u are stuck in this scenario..Originally posted by amuletgurl:i dun even want to have a partner like that
so im avoiding such r/s![]()
wat if it's a scenario where u are too deeply in love wif him and only den u learn abt all this? i believe there shld be some who encounter situations like this..Originally posted by FireIce:i would like him to respect me and bother to inform me if he does the above mentioned
if done w/o me knowing or perpersly dun let me know, tts it.......byebye~
i'm juz wondering wat would ur reaction be like when u are in similar situation without assuming dat i'm the one in it.. wanted to get diff views on it.. =)Originally posted by laurence82:There is a higher probability ur partner might dump u for another one, or worse seriously having an affair.
But then again, u understand ur partner best. Its may be his/her nature to be flritatious but not really fooling around.
Some people know their partners fool around, but choose to live with it.
And when i mean fool around, its not just being flirtatious. It means having an affair, or sexual relationship. Serious...
This sucks...... dunno how to advise coz im trying to prevent it ..i always ask abt their past b4 i agree to be wif themOriginally posted by ~Lyn~:wat if it's a scenario where u are too deeply in love wif him and only den u learn abt all this? i believe there shld be some who encounter situations like this..
'Originally posted by tia:i had once shared my bf wif another ger b4(dun think it in the wrong way k).
i guess tats the max i could get to.
but tat was the 1st n the last time i did tat.
cuz,
i realise how stupid i was.
bleah~
I made general assumptions, i didnt view it from ur perspective..well, i dont noe u well enuff ..Originally posted by ~Lyn~:i'm juz wondering wat would ur reaction be like when u are in similar situation without assuming dat i'm the one in it.. wanted to get diff views on it.. =)
i do agree with u it's abt mutual trust and communication between the 2.. for ur first fren they bother to at least tell each other.. dats like giving the other party the basic respect.. and for the latter, due to the intention of hiding the truth, there's lots of quarelling and unhappiness which eventually ended wif a break up.. it's tough to haf a partner to understand the importance of telling the truth at times..Originally posted by laurence82:I make general assumptions, i didnt view it from ur perspective..well, i dont u well enuff ..
In anyway, Fireice is right. Its abt communication. I got two real life scenarios.
One is a friend of mine abt the same age as me. His girlfriends would meet new guys and go cheong with them. He is very ok with it, in fact if they each met someone to go out to have fun with, they would at least tell each other beforehand.
As for my second friend, he seriously fools around. Worse, if he and his galfriend go out and drag me along sometimes, he can even exchange glances with other gals right behind her back literally. She knew his character, and at times she knew he really go out with another gal, meaning havin an affair, or to even have sex. By the way, he is very casual abt having casual sex.
He tried means and ways to hide it from her, but she knew. Quarrels were always ensued until one fine day they broke off.
U see, it all depend on how well u strive to understand and communicate with ur partner. If u are one step overzealous, u might lose a good guy, and if careless, u might end up having a casanovic burden.
Sometimes you must know when to draw the line.Originally posted by ~Lyn~:hi juz wondering how generous can one be in terms of relationship.. can one stand ur gf/bf flirting wif other guys/gals, contacting their ex behind ur back or sometimes get to meet up wif them? wat would u do when trap in this situation? how do u feel? had heard of quite a lot of such cases so wanted to hear diff opinions ..
i felt if it's all neutral feeling no point hiding the truth. dat will be deceiving the one u love and only make ur life miserable with all the secrets u haf to keep... anyway some things can be avoided.. why bear to let the current relationship strain by contacting the person involved in the previous relationship dat is over? it's nv easy to remain as a good fren of an ex. the feeling is awkward and dat will only keep reminding u of the past.. why not leave the past and move on, start afresh and do good to the current relationship? learn from the past and improve on the current relationship? juz my point of view.. wonder if it's too childish and unreasonable expectation.. pls kindly comment.. thanks!Originally posted by ak0:different situation got different case... sometime u wanna tell the truth but u scared the other party anyhow think and suspect this or that...
sometime is better to not let the other party noe.
well said.. next time i tell u everythingOriginally posted by ~Lyn~:i felt if it's all neutral feeling no point hiding the truth. dat will be deceiving the one u love and only make ur life miserable with all the secrets u haf to keep... anyway some things can be avoided.. why bear to let the current relationship strain by contacting the person involved in the previous relationship dat is over? it's nv easy to remain as a good fren of an ex. the feeling is awkward and dat will only keep reminding u of the past.. why not leave the past and move on, start afresh and do good to the current relationship? learn from the past and improve on the current relationship? juz my point of view.. wonder if it's too childish and unreasonable expectation.. pls kindly comment.. thanks!
haahaa i meant da fang but dunno how to translate.. the best i could think of was generous.. so dats y.. frm guys point of view it's normally not okie for their gf to do the above mentioned but do guys expect girls to allow them to do the above mention? be more generous to them?Originally posted by ben8:i think u can't use e word "generous".... hahaha
I definitly won't be generous... if she let mi knw, i will ask out and discuss abt tis matter... <--- see hw gd i am...
I can also ask her to fuck off in my life.... See, she already dun respect mi... TATS IT~!
Depends on e situation.... =P