what is he trying to imply?
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what is ur bf trying to imply when he keeps getting agitated by things u did, get real crossed at little things, felt that it's a chore to send u home, go out wif u. dun tell u interesting incidents but will willingly share among frens and family, happier when hanging out wif frens but when wif u, put on a sulky and sian face.. he's tired of me?
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engage in extra friendly conversation with a guy friend right in front of him and see his reaction. gradually apply more and more pressure on him because he's feeling too self-assured of your relationshipOriginally posted by ~joy~:what is ur bf trying to imply when he keeps getting agitated by things u did, get real crossed at little things, felt that it's a chore to send u home, go out wif u. dun tell u interesting incidents but will willingly share among frens and family, happier when hanging out wif frens but when wif u, put on a sulky and sian face.. he's tired of me? -
If thats the case..then i tink this relationship wun last.
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how long have you been with him?
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from a guy's prospective will that haf a reverse effect instead especially for a male chauvinist?Originally posted by boy in blues:engage in extra friendly conversation with a guy friend right in front of him and see his reaction. gradually apply more and more pressure on him because he's feeling too self-assured of your relationship -
Think he is keeping a distance away from you liao.
Maybe already lost interst in you. -
abt 5 yrs plus..Originally posted by MeoW_MeoW:how long have you been with him? -
Maybe you missed giving him support when he most needed it?
Some words of encouragement?
Things that matters to him but you did not enquire or show concern? -
if indeed he turns out to be a male chauvinist, i'd advise her not to prolong this relationshipOriginally posted by ~Lyn~:from a guy's prospective will that haf a reverse effect instead especially for a male chauvinist? -
i think this is common in a long term relationship... things become routine, boring, bla bla bla... maybe its time to go to the the next level... ever discuss abt ROM, marriage, kids, etc?Originally posted by ~joy~:abt 5 yrs plus..
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he gt another target in mind liaoOriginally posted by ~joy~:what is ur bf trying to imply when he keeps getting agitated by things u did, get real crossed at little things, felt that it's a chore to send u home, go out wif u. dun tell u interesting incidents but will willingly share among frens and family, happier when hanging out wif frens but when wif u, put on a sulky and sian face.. he's tired of me? -
Try to have a talk with him and find out what's wrong. No point assuming and guessing.
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hmm... 5 years and not planning to move to the next level? Someone should spearhead.. and look into the near future.Originally posted by ~joy~:abt 5 yrs plus..
A career without prospect is like working as a slave.
A relationship without future is like climbing an endless stairs. One of you will ultimately get burnt out.
Hmm.. my suggestions, like all the above.. it's time to renew the sparkles.
1. Make him a little jealous..
2. Reassure him and talk about the future.
3. Talk about him and not so much about your encounter.
4. Look out for some different places and activities to do. E.g. Start getting yourself a new hobby.. and also, pay attention of his hobby. Most guys like their GF to share their hobby interest, so they can always show off their expertise and also won't few so bore about their girlfriend. It's an ego thingie. -
For the above, i agreed on number 2,3,4.Originally posted by aH_v:hmm... 5 years and not planning to move to the next level? Someone should spearhead.. and look into the near future.
A career without prospect is like working as a slave.
A relationship without future is like climbing an endless stairs. One of you will ultimately get burnt out.
Hmm.. my suggestions, like all the above.. it's time to renew the sparkles.
1. Make him a little jealous..
2. Reassure him and talk about the future.
3. Talk about him and not so much about your encounter.
4. Look out for some different places and activities to do. E.g. Start getting yourself a new hobby.. and also, pay attention of his hobby. Most guys like their GF to share their hobby interest, so they can always show off their expertise and also won't few so bore about their girlfriend. It's an ego thingie.
As for no 1, i can say yes and oso no.
yes becuz he felt the change in u and is fearful of losing u.
no becuz i scared instead of getting jealous(its an ego thing for guys), he might feel threatened and used it as a weapon in future when problems arises in ur r/s.(but tat doesn't mean he loves u lesser, mayb he is a MCP.)
3) slight change in ur behaviour as in not sharing too much of ur encounter with him might leads him into thinking tat y now u dun express urself as much as b4. But sometimes, guys r not tat sensitive enuff to realise ur change.
4)Sharing the same interest and hobby can be so fun and brings ur r/s to a higher lvl tat u will nv imagine. Even thou u might be of no interest or find them boring, y not give it a try? It doesn't hurt to learn new things rite? But its painful to let ur r/s fade off juz lidat.
Sometimes guys juz tend to forget to tell their gfs abt some things tat had happened, juz take it as he had 4gotten to tell u. u have to think +vely. -
he's getting sick of it...
well at least he's showing signs. so you know
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He's getting bored of the relationship. Falling in love is like skydiving. Initially the rush is so great that you just want to keep on doing it..
But after 5 years.. the feelings can fade, and things seem to become a routine and a chore.
What you can do is to spark the relationship again. Make him love you, attracted to you once more. Do something that the two of you did when courting, but no longer do it anymore.
Look at him in the face and tell him you love him.
Hold his hands gently, and use your last finger to tickle his.
Gently nibble his ears.
Give him a hug when you see him.
Smile.
Go for a romantic candlelit dinner.
All this will hopefully help to spark the relationship again.
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he might have someone in mind.. or maybe he feels that this r/s is not goin anywhere.. If you wanna improve a little on this r/s and hope it still can last.. maybe you both can take up some activities.. or interest together.. this will help to keep the bond stronger!Originally posted by ~joy~:what is ur bf trying to imply when he keeps getting agitated by things u did, get real crossed at little things, felt that it's a chore to send u home, go out wif u. dun tell u interesting incidents but will willingly share among frens and family, happier when hanging out wif frens but when wif u, put on a sulky and sian face.. he's tired of me?
Try to join in their conversation oso.. Being bf and gf is not jus goin to movie.. have your world together.. shopping... etc.. etc... there's should be alot of common things that you both can do together.. even when out with friends.. join in.. Don't jus sit beside him and keep quiet..
Not only applied to r/s..can be applied to friends.. or even family memebers if ever you feel that you are distanced from them..
If he really interested to do anything with you.. then be prepared.. anytime he might jus pop the question asking for a break.. or maybe he will wait till oyu totally cannot stand the way he is.. and you'll be the one voicing it out..
Have a talk with him.. ask him why is he behaving in such a way.. to keep a long long r/s going.. is not easy to maintain.. you must keep the sparks going.. Be supportive.. be considerate.. Both must really enjoy each other company's..
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ai yah, u can juz live wif each other for 10000000 yrs. i guess both of u still young, still love having fun with yr friend, perhaps u have more commitment in yr relationship... dun break up with tis small matter, sit dwn n discuess with him. But if u see something goes wrong, i think both of u need time to discuess this matter.... all e best to you~
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i did try to tok to him abt it.. in fact juz like 2 days back... i ask him why he behaving like this.. the thing is he try to hide it and deny.. it's hard for him to tell me the truth cos he thinks dat will only make me more upset.. but i assured him i wont cos not knowing the truth when u felt something is wrong somewhere is annoying and affects me alot.. i find it hard to get it across to him dat i wont be upset if i noe the truth.. i've tried doing my part as a gf like showing him concern, gifing in to him like almost everytime, i tried to get him to do things wif me but most of the time he'll refuse or he'll do it with a sulky face.. so i felt i shouldn't make him do it.. i'm really desperate and clueless of wat i shld do.. felt there's so much things he haf against me.. but when i tok to him abt it he'll deny.. when he see me really breaking down he'll say he love me.. wat's he trying to do?Originally posted by Blueskyz:Try to have a talk with him and find out what's wrong. No point assuming and guessing. -
we did tok abt our near future like getting married and stuff.. but both of us are still studying.. i tried to tok about him but most of the time when i try to tok to him on the phone he'll always be doing something else or sound quite sian.. so end up i'm doing most of the toking.. he'll only be most engaged in the conversation when he's on his bed trying to get to sleep soon.. so sometimes we dun get to tok much..Originally posted by aH_v:hmm... 5 years and not planning to move to the next level? Someone should spearhead.. and look into the near future.
A career without prospect is like working as a slave.
A relationship without future is like climbing an endless stairs. One of you will ultimately get burnt out.
Hmm.. my suggestions, like all the above.. it's time to renew the sparkles.
1. Make him a little jealous..
2. Reassure him and talk about the future.
3. Talk about him and not so much about your encounter.
4. Look out for some different places and activities to do. E.g. Start getting yourself a new hobby.. and also, pay attention of his hobby. Most guys like their GF to share their hobby interest, so they can always show off their expertise and also won't few so bore about their girlfriend. It's an ego thingie.
besides he dun like to tok much abt himself... if i ask him more questions, it'll gif him the idea like i'm questioning him and not trying to engage a conversation.. and dat will piss him off.. bu thte thing is i'm trying my best to understand more of him and to make the conversation more engaging..
as for sharing their hobby interest, i'm fine wif all the things he like to do.. i make an effort to learn more abt it.. even things like fishing for crabs, prawns, watching soccer etc(many are the no no for gals).. partly becos i like this kind of activities too.. but it's juz dun seem to work.. he prefer very much doing all these wif his frens.. when it comes to me, he'll most prob be sleeping or playing wif his com.. even if we go out, mostly it'll end up wif his frens joining us.. i dun mind but throughout the outing he'll be more engaged wif his frens.. so i felt like i turn out to be a burden to him.. -
i'm not thinking of breaking up cos it took us a lot to come this far..there's lots of obstacles throughout... i cherish this r/s dats why i'm trying my best to do anything to sustain it. but perhaps i'm demoralised wif the results relative to the amount of effort i'm putting in.. it's an irony cos maybe i noe him quite well dats why i tend to be more sensitive to his behaviour.. maybe someone who's behaving this way can gif me their point of veiw? i getting very helpless..Originally posted by ben8:ai yah, u can juz live wif each other for 10000000 yrs. i guess both of u still young, still love having fun with yr friend, perhaps u have more commitment in yr relationship... dun break up with tis small matter, sit dwn n discuess with him. But if u see something goes wrong, i think both of u need time to discuess this matter.... all e best to you~ -
Originally posted by ~joy~:
Maybe he's taking you for granted, cause you've been treating him too well, thus, he is very confident and secured by the fact that he won't lose you.
i did try to tok to him abt it.. in fact juz like 2 days back... i ask him why he behaving like this.. the thing is he try to hide it and deny.. it's hard for him to tell me the truth cos he thinks dat will only make me more upset.. but i assured him i wont cos not knowing the truth when u felt something is wrong somewhere is annoying and affects me alot.. i find it hard to get it across to him dat i wont be upset if i noe the truth.. i've tried doing my part as a gf like showing him concern, gifing in to him like almost everytime, i tried to get him to do things wif me but most of the time he'll refuse or he'll do it with a sulky face.. so i felt i shouldn't make him do it.. i'm really desperate and clueless of wat i shld do.. felt there's so much things he haf against me.. but when i tok to him abt it he'll deny.. when he see me really breaking down he'll say he love me.. wat's he trying to do?
Happened to me before.. my girl treated me that way.. then she dumped me, but when i stead with another girl then she decided she really needed me back in 'er life..
BUT don't 'test' him with a break up or anything though.. it can cripple a relationship if it backfires..
Besides.. guys think differently when compared to the ladies.
Take caRe-!!
gD luck to yA, giRL -
How old are the both of you?Originally posted by ~joy~:i'm not thinking of breaking up cos it took us a lot to come this far..there's lots of obstacles throughout... i cherish this r/s dats why i'm trying my best to do anything to sustain it. but perhaps i'm demoralised wif the results relative to the amount of effort i'm putting in.. it's an irony cos maybe i noe him quite well dats why i tend to be more sensitive to his behaviour.. maybe someone who's behaving this way can gif me their point of veiw? i getting very helpless..
Horoscopes?
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hi, i encountered something like this last year. My bf suddenly felt very sian. we always quarreled over trivial things. got irritated by my slightest action or words. Then he asked for a cooling down period. It was very bad then. I felt helpless and desperate cos there were a lot of considerations. We got a car and house together. So breaking up also meant a lot of financial problems. Of cos, the relationship was very important too.Originally posted by ~joy~:i'm not thinking of breaking up cos it took us a lot to come this far..there's lots of obstacles throughout... i cherish this r/s dats why i'm trying my best to do anything to sustain it. but perhaps i'm demoralised wif the results relative to the amount of effort i'm putting in.. it's an irony cos maybe i noe him quite well dats why i tend to be more sensitive to his behaviour.. maybe someone who's behaving this way can gif me their point of veiw? i getting very helpless..
My friends asked me to read 'men are from Mars, women are from Venus'. There is a chapter there that talked abt men are like rubberbands. u cannot stretch it too far, or it will snap. But if u allow it to stretch far enuf, it will come back to original place.
true enuf, he became better after a mth. It was a painful 1 mth for me, cos i heard all sorts of stories of him with other girls. But he was willing to salvage the relationship when i threatened to break up for good. I realised that it was a depression, a low period when he felt suffocated by me, a phase he got to get over. some guys have it, some guys dun.
he felt that i was too dependent on him. he had no room to breathe. he felt that he could not go out with his friends cos i will be angry/sad/lonely. he felt that he needed sometime alone to think our r'ship thru. and at the end of it, he felt that he still loves me. so all ends well. we tried to patch back bit by bit after 1 mth, it was awkward at 1st. but bit by bit, we are back to normal. we picked up a sport together, and become closer to each other. after 6 mths, we are stronger than ever. 2 mths ago, we got married.
i dunno how true that is for ur bf, bcos it may well be a 3rd party. but u shld sit down and talk. If it wasnt a 3rd party, i dare say he will be alright after a while. and if it is a 3rd party, then wats the point of holding on? feelings have changed. he has betrayed u. he had moved on, so shld u. -
i'm not going to 'test' him..i can predict the results dat will only piss him off even more.. i'm trying to do the best i can to prevent him from having a chance to get agitated by me.. trying to do the things the way he like.. sadly sometimes the harder i tried, the more mistakes i tend to make.. i must admit i'm kind of clumsy at times..Originally posted by o(O.o)o:Maybe he's taking you for granted, cause you've been treating him too well, thus, he is very confident and secured by the fact that he won't lose you.
Happened to me before.. my girl treated me that way.. then she dumped me, but when i stead with another girl then she decided she really needed me back in 'er life..
BUT don't 'test' him with a break up or anything though.. it can cripple a relationship if it backfires..
Besides.. guys think differently when compared to the ladies.
Take caRe-!!
gD luck to yA, giRL