Cheating GF
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LoL.. This is so so true manOriginally posted by Ayla:Could you have neglected her? Have you done anything wrong to her? Or is she the flirtatious kind by nature? And did you find out about the affair? She told you herself or you found out by yourself?
In my opinion, once a gal starts to sleep with another guy, the depth of love for you is highly considerable. She felt insecurity from you and by sleeping with other guy, she can regain her confidence back. But if that guy is your friend, then I'm afraid you'll have to wave byebye to this relationship.
They are not respecting you! Move on dude... But if you think you can tolerate, then carry on. But the question is how long?
Guys drink to forget about the girl...
Girls drink to think back about the guy...
When guys are in love, they become poor.
When girls are in love, they become pretty...
Guys can forget, but cannot forgive...
Girls can forgive, but cannot forget..
Guys care the most about the quantity of love...
Girls care the most about the quality of love..
Guys break-up when they feel love from another girl...
Girls break-up when they feel the feeling of separation from her man...
Guys feel curiosity towards all girls...
Girls feel curiosity towards guys who are interested in her..
When guys are heartbroken, they try to forget about the girl by going out with another girl...
When girls are heartbroken, they try to find his characteristics from another guy...
Guys wish to be her first love....
Girls wish to be his last love...
Women are nothing but trouble,
And Men are nothing but trouble seekers! -
actually i think, having a gf who slept with others b4 u, is much better den when she is sleeping with others when she is with u...
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to err is human, to forgive is divine....
but having a fren who sleeps wif ur gf is too much.....not to take who seduces who lah...its still "DuH!!!"
hav to really consider about tis relationship.....the final decision is still urs....U hav to settle tis urself.....
man i really feel sorry for u.....cheer up mate.....hav a drink and tink about it -
where u get virgin gfs?Originally posted by bladez87:actually i think, having a gf who slept with others b4 u, is much better den when she is sleeping with others when she is with u...
most of my gfs has more partners than me if not same same..
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Originally posted by borgkilla:ok I just found out yesterday that my gf has been sleeping with a good friend of mine ( well now ex-friend )
she confessed to me the whole affair and wants me to forgive her... what should I do ??
Needless to say I am shattered, heart broken and pissed off with her and my ex-friend
I still love her but I just cant forgive
so how ??
sad Borgkilla
Headshot... a blood mess that dealt a blow so powerful, you are almost crippled emotionally. Your gf's conscience gave in and finally admitted to you about her misdeed and now you sank into a world of confusion - thinking if you SHOULD forgive her because of her frank honesty, or leave her because there are simply no room for forgiveness.
To break down into atoms and molecules about your situation and what you should do now, is the ultimate business law: High risk, high gain. Low risk, low gain. You can opt to pack up now, salvaging what that was intact emotionally and leave the chaotic scene, OR you choose to stay and invest more to repair this badly damage relationship.
Which should you opt for?
I) Do you really understand why this is happening? Have you even question yourself what went wrong with THE relationship, instead of pin-pointing at the result of the misdeed? During the length of relationship... how did it went? If it was never 'decently ride-able', you may consider saying goodbye, for often, suitability is a sticky major problem. (What you are seeking and what she is seeking is a different thing altogether)
II) Her personality? How much do you understand about the REAL her? Not talking about the imagery picture painted by WHAT love wants you to picture. There are people who are so madly in love with their partner in which all that was negative, are forcefully push back into their subconscious. Her noted past? How she fare in her previous relationship? (Not asking you to dig history now, but according to those that you already knew). If she already have reoccuring thingy of promiscuity and stuff; you do your own consideration.
III) If you plan to give her another chance for Love and her plain honesty, do you seriously think that if similar thingy happened again, do you think you would succumb to the fear of losing the relationship and give in another? Are you sure she is truely repentant and willing to work with you to build back what was lost? If either one of the points above is unable to fulfill for any reason; you do your own consideration. (Remember, Two wrong doesn't make one right)
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Thanks for your input guys..
I went away for the weekend to get some time by myself and alot of soul searching.. and have decided to give my gf another chance....
had a long talk with her last night, both of us did alot of crying and opened up to one another..
on my part I think my work has affected our relationship and she felt insecure and needed someone there.. ( guess who filled the void
).. she says that the sex was just a spur of the moment thing and my ex-friend was very making her confused...
I told her that I dont trust her anymore, but I still love her very much ...so she has to earn back my trust..on my part I would try and make out relationship #1 and work #2..
I dont know if this will work out between the two of us but I am giving it a go.
I can forgive but its so hard to forget .. -
no need talk so much already...
juz ask her to F_Ck off... this type of gf n good friend dun wan.
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borgkilla, listen to me. just go ahead spurt all your load of sperms inside her, when she preg say bye bye, ask her go look for your ex-friend.
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This type of slxt is for fcuking purpose only. kana pass around by guys for release purpose only. advise u go ahead to ejaculate into her mouth & ceeby whenever u can. Find other better gals as wife. This type of slxt is best use for fcuking purpose only. Remember, fcuking purpose only.
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Borgkilla, I really feel sorry for u....
If u two really want to give the relationship another try, then try really hard. Doubly hard. Coz u two have to overcome a major scar. Spend more time together, communicate more, go to counsellors, find a religion together, etc.
It might be possible to heal over time. You two might grow closer and the relationship takes a deeper level after this major test.
So.....give ur best efforts ok.....
Meanwhile, hire some professional mobs to beat up ur friend, burn down his house, cut off his dic*, throw acid on his face, and kill his pets.
Better still, think of a major plan to frame him and make him go to jail. Spend ur time thinking and scheming, and give all ur energy, effort, time, and money, to make him suffer, big time. Im serious.
After u have returned him the favour, u will feel much better. -
Wow, i didn't realise before that some people here are so violent. If violence solved anything, there wouldn't be need for Personal Protection Orders, Wars would be raged all the time, and we'll all be dead from nukes.~
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I'm glad that you finally had the talk, and the crying together. It was just what the both of you needed.
I'm happy for you, that you have decided to give her another chance as well. I know that she'll cherish that chance, and that she'll try very hard to earn your trust back.
Your ex-friend could be playing mind games with her. This needn't be said, but you should cut off all communications between them.
If you overcome this big hurdle, there will be no doubt that the love and bond between the two of you will be much stronger than a normal relationship. Overcome the pain slowly, and open up your heart to her again. Take it slow. There's no rush.
I hope you find peace within you soon... Wishin' you lots of luck~
Aaron -
i think it took alot of courage to confess her deed to you...
i think if it's me, i wouldn't say... but will secretly cut off all ties with the ex-fren but will not come clean with u... den continue our life as normal...
well..... nowadays relationships too many temptations..
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this is a rather diff situation! but for me, since the confessed to me herself....i would 4gve her...but if another mistake like this is made...den hell no....ask for my fren...i'll def cut all my ties wif him....wat a fren to b eh~
else would hab to consider if u noe ur fren or her more?
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totally agreed! best quote ever!!Originally posted by Ayla:Could you have neglected her? Have you done anything wrong to her? Or is she the flirtatious kind by nature? And did you find out about the affair? She told you herself or you found out by yourself?
In my opinion, once a gal starts to sleep with another guy, the depth of love for you is highly considerable. She felt insecurity from you and by sleeping with other guy, she can regain her confidence back. But if that guy is your friend, then I'm afraid you'll have to wave byebye to this relationship.
They are not respecting you! Move on dude... But if you think you can tolerate, then carry on. But the question is how long?
Guys drink to forget about the girl...
Girls drink to think back about the guy...
When guys are in love, they become poor.
When girls are in love, they become pretty...
Guys can forget, but cannot forgive...
Girls can forgive, but cannot forget..
Guys care the most about the quantity of love...
Girls care the most about the quality of love..
Guys break-up when they feel love from another girl...
Girls break-up when they feel the feeling of separation from her man...
Guys feel curiosity towards all girls...
Girls feel curiosity towards guys who are interested in her..
When guys are heartbroken, they try to forget about the girl by going out with another girl...
When girls are heartbroken, they try to find his characteristics from another guy...
Guys wish to be her first love....
Girls wish to be his last love...
Women are nothing but trouble,
And Men are nothing but trouble seekers!