Cheating GF
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Twice is what she said~
Who knows how many times?
And its quite weird the 2 times happen so long apart~
If u found out urself, most probably u will hear lots of lies from her
If u hear it from her without suspecting anything, perhaps shes speaking the truth~
I alwayz belif tt everybody should be given a 2nd chance~ But nothing more~
However, the incident or incidents will most probably haunt u for quite some time~
KNN, nowadays always hear tt its the gal who zao sai~
Times have really changed~
Tian Ya He Chu Wu Fang Cao~~~
Nobody is irreplaceble~~~ -
Once again, ask yourself how much you love her.
If you think she's the one, then stay with her, accept her for who she is, a weak girl who could have succumbed to the sweet seductions of your good friend(you should really clarify who's at fault here.)
If you have no more trust in her, and think that she'll do it again. Then give up the relationship. A r/s without trust will not last. -
Your highlighted quote seemed contridicting...can expand more on this?Originally posted by _Aaron_:Once again, ask yourself how much you love her.
If you think she's the one, then stay with her, accept her for who she is, a weak girl who could have succumbed to the sweet seductions of your good friend(you should really clarify who's at fault here.)
If you have no more trust in her, and think that she'll do it again. Then give up the relationship. A r/s without trust will not last.
How could a person still trust one who is weak(morally or character wise) to resist seductions and sex? -
its first time is already hard to consider to forgive already but now is 2 times ,so why consider... give ur frene a piece of ur mind ba...
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Hmm, while i was writing this, i was thinking of all the movies and books and threads that shows a girl sticking through with a guy, even though the guy did many wrong things to the girl, but the girl stuck on and eventually they got married and lived happily ever after.Originally posted by M©+square:Your highlighted quote seemed contridicting...can expand more on this?
How could a person still trust one who is weak(morally or character wise) to resist seductions and sex?
If the girls can do it, why not the guys?
And there are some people who, either through their sixth sense, or know for a fact that This current gf/bf is "The One", and have expanded and showered all their love on them.
Personally, i think it would be a waste to just give up, she's young and weak, and if its his friend who started it, i don't think the entire blame should fall on her. By saying this i was thinking of the scenario when Satan gave the apple to Eve.
But then again, every situation is unique, especially when feelings are involved, and i don't think we should stereotype. I'm rambling again... Hope i answered your question though. -
Dump her, kill her!!! We man cannot take the shame of infidelity. As the superior sex, we must empower ourselves over them!!!
Disclaimer: I do not stand man cheating on their womam too
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Hmm....i'm not sure if an act of consent should be considered as not her fault even though (if) it's his friend's fault.Originally posted by _Aaron_:Hmm, while i was writing this, i was thinking of all the movies and books and threads that shows a girl sticking through with a guy, even though the guy did many wrong things to the girl, but the girl stuck on and eventually they got married and lived happily ever after.
If the girls can do it, why not the guys?
And there are some people who, either through their sixth sense, or know for a fact that This current gf/bf is "The One", and have expanded and showered all their love on them.
Personally, i think it would be a waste to just give up, she's young and weak, and if its his friend who started it, i don't think the entire blame should fall on her. By saying this i was thinking of the scenario when Satan gave the apple to Eve.
But then again, every situation is unique, especially when feelings are involved, and i don't think we should stereotype. I'm rambling again... Hope i answered your question though.
Being young and weak shouldn't at all be an excuse. For that would be a avenue for people who doesn't want to take responsiblity for their actions.
I agree that the entire blame shouldn't fall on her. My statement is for her then is....
>>>No one is too young or too weak to make sound decisions.
>>>Satan DID NOT give the forbidden fruit to Eve. Satan OFFERED the fruit and EVE accepted the temptation....Pardon my language limitations...
An offer isn't forced. Offer concerns reciever's choices and exploring different possiblilties of reasonings.
I hope you see my point by now.
I agree that every situation is unique.
We don't know how he have treated her and what was the exact relationship between his gf and good friend.
And the character of his gf is also very important.
Sterotyping on Cheating is right or wrong, i'll leave it to you. Moral issues are and will never be clearly drawn. -
Originally posted by M©+square:Hmm....i'm not sure if an act of consent should be considered as not her fault even though (if) it's his friend's fault.
Being young and weak shouldn't at all be an excuse. For that would be a avenue for people who doesn't want to take responsiblity for their actions.
I agree that the entire blame shouldn't fall on her. My statement is for her then is....
>>>No one is too young or too weak to make sound decisions.
Ever heard of date rape? or just normal rape? And how only a very minority of the women actually report them? There's a lot that the guy could have done, to mess up the girl's head and think that it was voluntary.
We shouldn't really comment on this when we don't know the facts...
>>>Satan DID NOT give the forbidden fruit to Eve. Satan OFFERED the fruit and EVE accepted the temptation....Pardon my language limitations...
My bad. Don't know that verse that well.
An offer isn't forced. Offer concerns reciever's choices and exploring different possiblilties of reasonings.
As i just said, the guy may be messing with her head.~ We need to look at this objectively from the facts to determine who's wrong.
I hope you see my point by now.
I agree that every situation is unique.
We don't know how he have treated her and what was the exact relationship between his gf and good friend.
And the character of his gf is also very important.
Sterotyping on Cheating is right or wrong, i'll leave it to you. Moral issues are and will never be clearly drawn.
How nice if we could have a book of morals won't we? But even so many would not follow them...
My point is to simply not judge anyone, based on hearsay. Let the person speak for himself/herself, and only then would the truth be known. -
Then i'll question why did she allow him to do it twice.Originally posted by _Aaron_:
That will have to be clarified.
Date rape is unlikely the reason and a weak stand for pardon. -
out of the blue she... called me ( I hate that..she should have told me face to face ).. I havent called her since...Originally posted by Devil1976:How did you found out?
Can you be truly certain that she won't be doing it again?
I havent slept well in 2 days.. my work is a mess..
I really dont know if she wont do it again... because is she the person I grew to love over the past year or just a fake...
I put a fair share of the blame on my ex-friend ( #@##%$^%%$!!!!!!
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I should have seen it coming... he was too close and blah !!
I'm an idiot..
just messed me up big time ....
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Don't give in to your emotions just yet. Ask her over to your place and have her tell you exactly what happened. That's the least she could do. Ask her not to leave out any single detail.Originally posted by borgkilla:out of the blue she... called me ( I hate that..she should have told me face to face ).. I havent called her since...
I havent slept well in 2 days.. my work is a mess..
I really dont know if she wont do it again... because is she the person I grew to love over the past year or just a fake...
I put a fair share of the blame on my ex-friend ( #@##%$^%%$!!!!!! )
I should have seen it coming... he was too close and blah !!
I'm an idiot..
just messed me up big time ....
Then you make your decision. Else you'll be stuck in this "emotional tangle" for quite some time.
Or perhaps, judging from your current state of mind, you would like to take a few days to settle your nerves, before doing what i said. Blame shouldn't be in your mind now. Calm down and relax a bit.~ -
Hahahaha I like this oneOriginally posted by Ayla:Guys drink to forget about the girl...
Girls drink to think back about the guy...
When guys are in love, they become poor.
When girls are in love, they become pretty...
Guys can forget, but cannot forgive...
Girls can forgive, but cannot forget..
Guys care the most about the quantity of love...
Girls care the most about the quality of love..
Guys break-up when they feel love from another girl...
Girls break-up when they feel the feeling of separation from her man...
Guys feel curiosity towards all girls...
Girls feel curiosity towards guys who are interested in her..
When guys are heartbroken, they try to forget about the girl by going out with another girl...
When girls are heartbroken, they try to find his characteristics from another guy...
Guys wish to be her first love....
Girls wish to be his last love...
Women are nothing but trouble,
And Men are nothing but trouble seekers!
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Although alot of people would discourage 'cold war'.Originally posted by borgkilla:out of the blue she... called me ( I hate that..she should have told me face to face ).. I havent called her since...
I havent slept well in 2 days.. my work is a mess..
I really dont know if she wont do it again... because is she the person I grew to love over the past year or just a fake...
I put a fair share of the blame on my ex-friend ( #@##%$^%%$!!!!!! )
I should have seen it coming... he was too close and blah !!
I'm an idiot..
just messed me up big time ....
Perhaps you should suggest a SHORT cool-down period and see how she reacts to it?
Also, how are things going on between your gf and that friend of yours? Love or lust? The interval... Between the 2 times she'd done you wrong is sort of weird... Is there something between them which is sort of 'going strong'? Or was it something you did or something about her...?
Between he and her. Between you and her. What she had done. Why she did it. What she really want. What you want out of this relationship. THINK about it... -
how true that is.Originally posted by Ayla:Guys drink to forget about the girl...
Girls drink to think back about the guy...
When guys are in love, they become poor.
When girls are in love, they become pretty...
Guys can forget, but cannot forgive...
Girls can forgive, but cannot forget..
Guys care the most about the quantity of love...
Girls care the most about the quality of love..
Guys break-up when they feel love from another girl...
Girls break-up when they feel the feeling of separation from her man...
Guys feel curiosity towards all girls...
Girls feel curiosity towards guys who are interested in her..
When guys are heartbroken, they try to forget about the girl by going out with another girl...
When girls are heartbroken, they try to find his characteristics from another guy...
Guys wish to be her first love....
Girls wish to be his last love...
Women are nothing but trouble,
And Men are nothing but trouble seekers! -
wa! very ze er lei.Originally posted by chunyong:go to pawnshop #8 pawn ur soul in return for her eternal suffering, curse her to be stuck as prostitute forever and will not live beyond 29. -
Well, if she willin to confess liaoz means she oredy felt remorseful and is askin for ur forgivness..
So shdn't u at least giv her a chance??
I mean it's human to err wad..
But the crux still lies wif ur heart,
DO u still luv her??
If u do den mebbe u wanna giv her a chance.. -
Not as simple as it seemed...Originally posted by biangz:Well, if she willin to confess liaoz means she oredy felt remorseful and is askin for ur forgivness..
So shdn't u at least giv her a chance??
I mean it's human to err wad..
But the crux still lies wif ur heart,
DO u still luv her??
If u do den mebbe u wanna giv her a chance.. -
Hmm, unless the thread starter did nt tell us the whole side of story lar..Originally posted by M©+square:Not as simple as it seemed...
Neway, matters of heart is nv ez -
forgive but not forget.
the r/s is over man. if she loves you that much, she wouldn't even be tempted to have sex with ur friend. -
This is my take;
If you think this will affect u much now or even in the future,
even if you forgive her, you will not be happy together.
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Don forgive her. Ask yourself. If she know u been slping ard also with other gals wat will she do? Wil she forgive u? NO WAY i bet wif u...so jus dump her and get a better one...ONCE MEANS GOT TWICE.
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only time will tell if she would be faithful to you.
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i think this will be a scar in ur love life.. it's very hard to forget cos it's so devastating when u learn the truth... perhaps u juz leave her alone?
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Don't forgive her. If she can do it once, she will do it again. it is like stealing. you should hire a professional killer and frag her.
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firstly forgiv her larz...u are a man lorz....so sldh b more da fang....Originally posted by borgkilla:ok I just found out yesterday that my gf has been sleeping with a good friend of mine ( well now ex-friend )
she confessed to me the whole affair and wants me to forgive her... what should I do ??
Needless to say I am shattered, heart broken and pissed off with her and my ex-friend
I still love her but I just cant forgive
so how ??
sad Borgkilla 
hehez.......den slp wif her everday so dat she wun slp wif other guys larz....