Me & My lover
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i strongly disagree with you what you are doing.
U totally disregard the sanctity of marriage and have no respect for yours and his family. -
You know that it's wrong but yet this affair is irresistable.
Because both you and your lover are of the same kind.
There's two side of the coin. aka TwoFace...
You're a person who's satisfied with your husband, but the sexual thrills and adventures recieved from your lover is something you desire but could never be attained from your husband.
I'm not sure who(your lover or you) initiates the affair everytime.
But it seems like this knotty situation could not be resolved unless until either side felt sick of another and this game will stop.
You on the other hand will be made used of. Physically and emotionally.
Don't know if you're feeling that way now...but even if you do. If You can't help falling into those acts. You'll be at most disadvantage in the end.
Try seeing your husband as the ultimate authority and the one man in your life. Allow no one to touch your body other then your life partner. Hopefully it'll save yourself from further troubles.
Cheers -
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It'll be easier if you place your family right at the top of your priorities, and tell him in the face that you two should return to your families. After all, what you're doing is morally wrong.Originally posted by leo gal:
sometimes i feel like i'm really a 2face coin, but i really love my family!!
Now i'm more sure tat i'm with my lover jus for my sexual thrills and nothing else. If i can control tat, hopefully, this case will be closed.
Tks for the advise.
A hard way of looking at it would be to envision you being in the position of your husband, and what would you do if you found out that he has been sleeping with other women?
If your sex life isn't exciting enough, buy the kama sutra, or other books that teaches on different techniques/styles of having sex. I'm sure your husband wouldn't mind, since you're his queen.~
Hope you get out of your unhealthy habit soon~ -
Your hubby impotent? Ask him to give u a good screwing (lierally pun intended).Originally posted by leo gal: sometimes i feel like i'm really a 2face coin, but i really love my family!!
Now i'm more sure tat i'm with my lover jus for my sexual thrills and nothing else. If i can control tat, hopefully, this case will be closed.
Tks for the advise.
(WHO'S NEXT TO GET SCREWED?!
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Spice up your sexual and emotional life with your husband....Originally posted by leo gal: sometimes i feel like i'm really a 2face coin, but i really love my family!!
Now i'm more sure tat i'm with my lover jus for my sexual thrills and nothing else. If i can control tat, hopefully, this case will be closed.
Tks for the advise. 
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THINKING and doing is two different things... how can u do this behind yr hubby even he treated u like a queen. no word can describe u.
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Eh..
U liddat hor den sibey buay song liaoz lor..
Wah biangz, ur hubby treat u so nice den u liddat 'betray' him..
Imagine ur hubby do the same to u..
U feel gd anot? -
tell you what.. you SAY you love your family...
how much do you love them?
enough to walk away from your job, your "lover"?
if you do not walk away from your lover, how much do you seriously love them?
i'd say not very much.. if at all...
for love, a person would move mountains and not think it too hard...
for them, there is only one route to take...
you know what it is...
now.. go do it...
for their sakes... -
Cheating is wrong. Just remember that.
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look who is toking after how he treated his ex..haizOriginally posted by the Bear:tell you what.. you SAY you love your family...
how much do you love them?
enough to walk away from your job, your "lover"?
if you do not walk away from your lover, how much do you seriously love them?
i'd say not very much.. if at all...
for love, a person would move mountains and not think it too hard...
for them, there is only one route to take...
you know what it is...
now.. go do it...
for their sakes... -
[quote]Originally posted by leo gal:
[b]My ex-bf who is now my present boss cum lover, we used to have an affair when both of us are attached and till now, I'm married with a kid and he's attached with gf, we still meet up to make love.
May i know how old r u and how old is ur child?
I don't really understand myself
, wat i want and why i do tat. My husband has been treating me like queen (in life and in bed), love and care for our family but somehow, i still misses my lover.
And den y did u marry ur husband in the 1st place?
My lover too has a perfect gf who treat him like a king and helping him in his business, so why he still wanna meet me?
because u r very siao on
Does anyone here agree on wat we are doing?!
In ur heart, u should jolly well knew and be prepared tat most of us here wud strongly oppose ur doings.
U mentioned tat ur husband treats u so well(in life and in bed), so wat does ur marriage lacks of?
do u tink ur husband will divorce u when he found out abt ur affair?
and wat if he do not want the custody of ur child?
who is going to carry ur burden? ur ex-bf cum present boss cum lover ?
who knows he's there for ur meat my dear, which hungry guy wud reject a free lunch?
Walk out of it asap.............dragging it wud not make things better........ dun forget, u still have a child to call u mummy and a loving husband who treats u as his bao bei lao po.
This is the life u had chosen to lead(to marry the guy whom ur child call daddy), dun make another mistake for the sake of ur family. No place is like home. -
I agree that there's a big IF in your situation. Even if he does want only sexual thrills, don't you think you want it the same?Originally posted by leo gal: sometimes i feel like i'm really a 2face coin, but i really love my family!!
Now i'm more sure tat i'm with my lover jus for my sexual thrills and nothing else. If i can control tat, hopefully, this case will be closed.
Tks for the advise.
You know your moral conduct/act is wrong.
All you have to understand is that these conducts ain't worth it.
Just like a habit which is hard to break out of...you got to practice control. If possible...quit your job and stay away from him.
Cheers -
this is AA...
don't drag your mindless vendetta here..
besides, you don't know a thing
Originally posted by sgboy2004:look who is toking after how he treated his ex..haiz -
if you truly want to stop this, please find another job...
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like wat aaron said wat u did is morally wrong.. since u noe it's more for sexual thrills den be disciplined and get out fo this r/s.. it would help if u stop contacting ur lover and quit that job.. wat the rest suggested helps too like spicing up ur sex life wif ur husband.. organising outings for ur family will further enhance ur r/s wif them.. basically juz spending more time wif ur family will draw ur attention away frm ur lover.. good luck!
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Since u say u know wat u want and y u do tt, then wat more is there to say?Originally posted by leo gal:My ex-bf who is now my present boss cum lover, we used to have an affair when both of us are attached and till now, I'm married with a kid and he's attached with gf, we still meet up to make love.
I don't really understand myself , wat i want and why i do tat. My husband has been treating me like queen (in life and in bed), love and care for our family but somehow, i still misses my lover.
My lover too has a perfect gf who treat him like a king and helping him in his business, so why he still wanna meet me?
Does anyone here agree on wat we are doing?!
Obviously ur lover is GIAN SONG just like u~
Thrill lah~ spices up the boring life a bit more~
I dun agree or disagree coz I dun blif in watever MORAL shit~
If most ppl got morals, no need law liao~
Bottomline is, be ready to face the consequences loh~
Have u thought of the various possibilities?
Dun wait until something undesirable happen liao then cry father cry mother~ -
Like what Meow said, change job. If possible.
Work synergy gone overboard.
Your boss abuse it, and you, a willing partner.
Best is leave the job as the first step to end it.
Stop all this if you value your family. -
You have two choices.
1) carry on and enjoy the thrills with your lover and get nothing out of it eventually.
2) Be prepared that your hubby finds out and a family-break up. -
Originally posted by leo gal:My ex-bf who is now my present boss cum lover, we used to have an affair when both of us are attached and till now, I'm married with a kid and he's attached with gf, we still meet up to make love.
I don't really understand myself , wat i want and why i do tat. My husband has been treating me like queen (in life and in bed), love and care for our family but somehow, i still misses my lover.
My lover too has a perfect gf who treat him like a king and helping him in his business, so why he still wanna meet me?
Does anyone here agree on wat we are doing?!
It's an irony... of how we often lament our crisis in love when in actual facts, we often did the things that causes our agony, made from our own choice. Although you are not really in deep agony, the turmoil of gulit would likely to haunt you periodically.
You are confused.
Confused over what is happening.
Do not be mistaken over Love by your situation. Mentioned before; the thrills and different experience is what fuel the lust between the both of you. So what if you got a good husband and he got good gf? That may not be what you two are looking for, in between each phrase of our life (I have just ate my lunch, doesn't mean I cannot consume a pack of sushi 5 minutes later). This automatically reflect in the action and reaction in Love, which indirectly satisfy certain 'wants' or 'ungiven needs' that your psyche craved for. If you really think hard enough, it may not be so much about the action 'sex' by itself, more likely, it's the components that contributed to the action. (i.e. Thrill)
Love and Lust usually don't react to common logic, it boils down to the point where you still have to face with your bare heart and answer to the much-avoided ultimate question: is that what you are looking for? This incident will prick on you forever, unless you have made a sensible choice for yourself, in considering your current relationship over a unable-to-commit man. I believe the answer is rather simple, but will you be upholding your decision like stone?
Or would you prefer to stall until the day where the truth is thrown into the air uncontrollable?
It's your call.
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U shld seriously consider killing urself. Seriously.Originally posted by leo gal:My ex-bf who is now my present boss cum lover, we used to have an affair when both of us are attached and till now, I'm married with a kid and he's attached with gf, we still meet up to make love.
I don't really understand myself , wat i want and why i do tat. My husband has been treating me like queen (in life and in bed), love and care for our family but somehow, i still misses my lover.
My lover too has a perfect gf who treat him like a king and helping him in his business, so why he still wanna meet me?
Does anyone here agree on wat we are doing?! -
hope you know what you are going to do. The consequences that you might or have to face might be beyond your imagination.Originally posted by leo gal: sometimes i feel like i'm really a 2face coin, but i really love my family!!
Now i'm more sure tat i'm with my lover jus for my sexual thrills and nothing else. If i can control tat, hopefully, this case will be closed.
Tks for the advise. -
steady lah one of the only few gals that can separate love and sex.....enjoy urself.. just remember dun get caught ok...see my signature and u will know what i mean...Originally posted by leo gal:My ex-bf who is now my present boss cum lover, we used to have an affair when both of us are attached and till now, I'm married with a kid and he's attached with gf, we still meet up to make love.
I don't really understand myself , wat i want and why i do tat. My husband has been treating me like queen (in life and in bed), love and care for our family but somehow, i still misses my lover.
My lover too has a perfect gf who treat him like a king and helping him in his business, so why he still wanna meet me?
Does anyone here agree on wat we are doing?! -
Nothing wrong for woman to be pampered by man. Bravo go find few more to pamper U.Originally posted by leo gal:My ex-bf who is now my present boss cum lover, we used to have an affair when both of us are attached and till now, I'm married with a kid and he's attached with gf, we still meet up to make love.
I don't really understand myself , wat i want and why i do tat. My husband has been treating me like queen (in life and in bed), love and care for our family but somehow, i still misses my lover.
My lover too has a perfect gf who treat him like a king and helping him in his business, so why he still wanna meet me?
Does anyone here agree on wat we are doing?!