Me & My lover
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I don't see how that would help?Originally posted by BonJovi:U shld seriously consider killing urself. Seriously.
Humans make errors. Don't you? -
"My ex-bf who is now my present boss cum lover, we used to have an affair when both of us are attached and till now, I'm married with a kid and he's attached with gf, we still meet up to make love.Originally posted by Devil1976:I don't see how that would help?
Humans make errors. Don't you?
I don't really understand myself , wat i want and why i do tat. My husband has been treating me like queen (in life and in bed), love and care for our family but somehow, i still misses my lover.
My lover too has a perfect gf who treat him like a king and helping him in his business, so why he still wanna meet me?
Does anyone here agree on wat we are doing?!"
Obviously wad she did is wrong. And she has the cheek to say "Does anyone here agree on wat we are doing?!"
Yes, every1 makes error, but the point that she is carrying on wif it. Thats an unforgivable sin. If she is sensible enuff, she would haf stop this affair in the 1st place and not rant out here.
Pardon me for being so direct. That's juz me....say wad i wanna say. -
When i say "she shld seriously considering killing herself", i meant it as an analogy. Dun tell mi u din noe?
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No. i didn't. I seriously thought you meant it like what you said.Originally posted by BonJovi:When i say "she shld seriously considering killing herself", i meant it as an analogy. Dun tell mi u din noe?
A person who comes here to post, comes for solutions and comes from a troubled/confused mind. Surely there are times when you find yourself in deep trouble, and wonder about what to do?
We're here to help, and to make things clear. There's really no need to get so harsh on people by providing unconstructive one-liners like that.
Well that's my thought, i hope you understand it from my perspective at least. -
hi, i hope u coping well with ur interesting life.
Watever it is, juz be careful. Be cautious tat pple might spread rumours. I mean u have to protect urself in one way or another.
Truth hurts.
Nobody can truly understand how u feel, we gave our comments solely on facts tat we read abt u. You know, which sometimes cud be quite misleading and causes lots of misinterpretations.
Know wat u want and do wat u tink is right. No one can decide for u.
**juz try not to get urself hurt and betray the trust built upon ur family** -
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ask him to go fly kite bah.Originally posted by leo gal:Thanks for all the comments and advise. Really appreciated tat!
Actually i'm curious if any of u here have the same or similar situation like me?
Well, the reason i married my husband is because i'm selfish. I've always believe tat, lover and husband is different. U have to find a man who loves u more then u love him to be your husband and a lover is jus like a dessert, to spice up your boring life.
At tat time, my lover did ask me to wait for him as he is not prepared to settle down, infact, he got no intention to get married. At that time, i met my current husband who really love me and show all his care to me, i've decided to marry him cos i know he's someone who will be a great husband and father.
And my husband has proof me right, he's a loving and caring husband, will to do anything to please me. Our courtship last for 4yrs and we are now married for 3yrs with a kid 2.5yrs old. We're in our late 20's. I'll try my very best to make this marrige last till the day i die. As for the lover...
get a new life ahead... mayb u can try someting diff wif ur husband to re-trace the thrill in ur r/s. like going away for a vacation, at bintan oso can. u noe there's a resort there where they provide a private swimming pool for individual room? go and have fun there! it helps!
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*smilez* x 2 : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by skinnybeanie:i strongly disagree with you what you are doing.
U totally disregard the sanctity of marriage and have no respect for yours and his family. -
Seriously. I have questions over your intention when you started on this thread. No doubt about it.Originally posted by leo gal:Thanks for all the comments and advise. Really appreciated tat!
Actually i'm curious if any of u here have the same or similar situation like me?
Well, the reason i married my husband is because i'm selfish. I've always believe tat, lover and husband is different. U have to find a man who loves u more then u love him to be your husband and a lover is jus like a dessert, to spice up your boring life.
At tat time, my lover did ask me to wait for him as he is not prepared to settle down, infact, he got no intention to get married. At that time, i met my current husband who really love me and show all his care to me, i've decided to marry him cos i know he's someone who will be a great husband and father.
And my husband has proof me right, he's a loving and caring husband, will to do anything to please me. Our courtship last for 4yrs and we are now married for 3yrs with a kid 2.5yrs old. We're in our late 20's. I'll try my very best to make this marrige last till the day i die. As for the lover...
Genuine or not. Since things are already done and you know what you're doing won't be acceptable. Just understand that there'll be an amount of consequences which you might have to bear if things are to go wrong. That's all I'll have to say. -
Hi Leo Gal,
I can sympathize with ur situation. Having a spice in ur life can be exciting. However, not everything exciting or feels good is morally right. So you have to control urself and do what is right instead of doing what is exciting but wrong.
If u can follow the straight narrow boring path of righteousness, instead of the easier wide path of excitement and spice, then u should be alright. It might not be easy initially, it might be boring, it might be dull, but ultimately, this is what u want to do. Because if u dont, ur conscience bothers you, and you know deep down that you are actually unhappy and living a shallow life.
For now, stay away from your lover. Your lover is obviously a jerk. He knows you are married but still take advantage of you. Get another job. He is abusing his position as your boss to exert his stature and authority and take advantage of you. Tell ur lover u want to break off for good. Quickly resign and find another job. If u cannot find a good job, take a temp job first and continue looking for another job while doing the temp job. Cut off all contacts as soon as possible. Dont accept his calls, etc.
My other advice is, never ever confess to ur hubby. Never. Even if he forgives u, he will be deeply hurt and may never recover for the rest of his life. Just keep quiet and carry this secret with u till the grave. That is the best for everybody.
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NO i seriously do not agree on wat u r doing......
hav u ever thought about ur children and family b4 commiting adultery?
cherish the ones u love, ur family ur children b4 its too late....
u hav a loving husband and on top of tat ur children to nurture, teach n guide.....u wouldnt want ur children growing up n follow ur footsteps
to err is human....i hope by the time u read tis u hav already stop the exciting misadventure...tink about it...the longer tis drags the longer will u make ur life difficult.....as u said u hav a complete loving family....ur marriage went thru so much more than ur ex lover relationship....its ur responsiblity to be a mother too n a faithful wife.....blood is always thicker than water.....tink about ur family esp ur children b4 u do anything rash
hope tis will help
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double post...sorry ah duno y always tis time internet connection lac
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Leo gal,
There is someone who have a same story as yours.
One of my girl-friend, she is not only fling with a single guy after married , even now...
She is a normal woman, educated...happily with her family and her job..
Why like this? i dun understand..
do whatever u likes to do..dun regret afterward..
i'm not encourage this but
Sometime, we have to accept ppl's life...
time to give, you can give..
time to keep, then u have to keep... this is what i means. -
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leogal,
Below is a comment which may be harsh.. but would be good for you to think about it.
you got what you have... a happy family.
dont take for granted what u have now is going to last.
somehow, I believe from your writings that you are very deep in this r/s (Offline), you would need discipline to forget this.
a good family can just take less 5 mins to be a broken family, a wrap up of family relationship down the drain.
Nowadays,there are a increase in cases of affairs reported by private investigators.. dont doubt it could be the husband... but it could be the wife that is being caught.
I do Caution what you are doing and step away from this potential hazzard to your current husband and wife relationship.
It may be true about good husband being a good father.. however a good lover can be a very good family destroyer...you think the lover will be with you all the way ? how sure can you be ?
Which do u prefer...?
Stop it while you can or else you are just heading for a show hand in the end.
Which u prefer... -
u r welcome.Originally posted by leo gal:tks for sharing this with me.
Mayb we dont really understand what u r doing/feeling/thinking that cause we post some replies here.
i'm guessing u also wont stop ur relationship because of some simple words from this thread.right?
IF u want to continue ur relationship
then make sure u dont get caught.
else, look for the counselor, tell them ur problem.
step forward, pick-up ur phone...
this will solve ur problem...