Is there true love in this world?
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I was dumped by my gf of 6 yrs just 2 days ago for a guy that she had just met only 2 months ago after she had just changed her job . This new guy is her working colleague and she said that she fell in love with him just like that .
I was dragged from enternal bliss when i was with her to the dark abyss of hell just like that . She refused to take all my phone calls and the worst thing is that she didn't even break up with me face to face , it was just sms and one last phone call . She even confessed to me that while she was with me , she still went to MIRC to meet other guys . During the nites when i thought she was sleeping , she was actually going clubbing and kissing guys that she had met up there . I was totally devastated by the turn of events . She even commented that she did it because she was " playful" . This is the one and only love of my life . I gave her everything , my heart , my soul and everything that she asked for . I was was even intending to get married to her in a year's time , and now she is dumping me for another guy . The weirder thing is that i m still waiting for her to come back to me . Maybe after playing the field for a few years , she might realise the folly of her ways and come back to my arms . I really love her a lot! Help!
She also confessed to me that this guy can never give her the life that i have given her , she had given up a comfortable life with me when she knows that i can shower her with all the love and concern that she needs?
Is there no more true love in this world? What happened to eternal love? I am still trying to pick up the pieces but it's so painful . I still love her a lot! I really hope that she will return to me . -
From what i see, is she relatively young..? Around 20-25..?Originally posted by devastatedlover:I was dumped by my gf of 6 yrs just 2 days ago for a guy that she had just met only 2 months ago after she had just changed her job . This new guy is her working colleague and she said that she fell in love with him just like that .
I was dragged from enternal bliss when i was with her to the dark abyss of hell just like that . She refused to take all my phone calls and the worst thing is that she didn't even break up with me face to face , it was just sms and one last phone call . She even confessed to me that while she was with me , she still went to MIRC to meet other guys . During the nites when i thought she was sleeping , she was actually going clubbing and kissing guys that she had met up there . I was totally devastated by the turn of events . She even commented that she did it because she was " playful" . This is the one and only love of my life . I gave her everything , my heart , my soul and everything that she asked for . I was was even intending to get married to her in a year's time , and now she is dumping me for another guy . The weirder thing is that i m still waiting for her to come back to me . Maybe after playing the field for a few years , she might realise the folly of her ways and come back to my arms . I really love her a lot! Help!
She also confessed to me that this guy can never give her the life that i have given her , she had given up a comfortable life with me when she knows that i can shower her with all the love and concern that she needs?
Is there no more true love in this world? What happened to eternal love? I am still trying to pick up the pieces but it's so painful . I still love her a lot! I really hope that she will return to me .
Ladies that age prefer excitement. Exciting guys who can give them the sexual tension they want.
That's why she goes to clubs and kisses other guys. That's why she 'fell in love' with her colleague of 2 months. Because she's still young, she doesn't want a stable life. Not as yet.
Maybe in her late twenties or early thirties, she may 'discover' the error of her ways. But depending on her character, she may or may not come back to you.
Do you see what i'm typing here? She doesn't want stability yet. Its all 'too easy' for her at this stage. Young ladies need excitement in their life.
Waiting... is a choice you'll have to make. I can't say whether she'll turn back to you later in life or not.
But meanwhile, take a step back from all your troubles and calm yourself ... easier said than done, but you need to recover...
Take care~ -
no.
love is just something invented by human being.
it is a concept that has been brainwahed into everyone mind until everyone thinks that there is really such a thing.
life is about being born, eating, sleeping, surviving, until old age then die.
it is just so simple.
but human beings are too smart alec to invent millions of things.
some are useful. like aeroplanes and aircon and light bulbs.
these things provide convience and incerase efficiency.
but they cost money, so if u dun have money, don't spend anyhow.
most are useless and problematic. entertainment stuff, love, materialism.
they are made real and people think that they will die without it and spend their whole lief looking for things int this category. -
what eternal love???
wake up!!!
nothing is forever!!!
R u willing to die for yr love???
If not there's no eternity.
If yes, U r stupider than I think. -
Qn: Is there true love in this world?Originally posted by _Aaron_:From what i see, is she relatively young..? Around 20-25..?
Ladies that age prefer excitement. Exciting guys who can give them the sexual tension they want.
That's why she goes to clubs and kisses other guys. That's why she 'fell in love' with her colleague of 2 months. Because she's still young, she doesn't want a stable life. Not as yet.
Maybe in her late twenties or early thirties, she may 'discover' the error of her ways. But depending on her character, she may or may not come back to you.
Ans: Yes.. this is just not THE ONE.
20-25..... not all post 25 year old girls wanna settle. In fact.. who said anything about not needing or wanting some excitment post 25? So after 25, women just just sit at home and knit while waiting for their husbands to come home.
Errors?? I don't think these are errors.. if she enjoys it, heck go nuts.. who is to say these are errors. Quite simply, you're not the guy she is after. Quite bluntly and nastily put.. I ain't going back to nobody even though i've realised what a b|tch i was to them when we were going out. Guilt and feeling sorry for something that happened in the past does not a relationship make. -
no such thing as true love
its a myth -
yes there is true love but not pure love.
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Originally posted by Lingos:Qn: Is there true love in this world?
Ans: Yes.. this is just not THE ONE.
20-25..... not all post 25 year old girls wanna settle. In fact.. who said anything about not needing or wanting some excitment post 25? So after 25, women just just sit at home and knit while waiting for their husbands to come home.
You mis-read me. Generally, in a few other threads here, i came to a conclusion that stability is more crucial to women in their late twenties, as compared to the early twenties.
Of course, sexual tension and excitement is needed at all stages, just less so when it comes to the late twenties, and early thirties...
Errors?? I don't think these are errors.. if she enjoys it, heck go nuts.. who is to say these are errors. Quite simply, you're not the guy she is after. Quite bluntly and nastily put.. I ain't going back to nobody even though i've realised what a b|tch i was to them when we were going out. Guilt and feeling sorry for something that happened in the past does not a relationship make.
Sorry, wrong word. Not errors, more like what really happened in her life then. -
Dear devastatedlover,Originally posted by devastatedlover:I was dumped by my gf of 6 yrs just 2 days ago for a guy that she had just met only 2 months ago after she had just changed her job . This new guy is her working colleague and she said that she fell in love with him just like that .
I was dragged from enternal bliss when i was with her to the dark abyss of hell just like that . She refused to take all my phone calls and the worst thing is that she didn't even break up with me face to face , it was just sms and one last phone call . She even confessed to me that while she was with me , she still went to MIRC to meet other guys . During the nites when i thought she was sleeping , she was actually going clubbing and kissing guys that she had met up there . I was totally devastated by the turn of events . She even commented that she did it because she was " playful" . This is the one and only love of my life . I gave her everything , my heart , my soul and everything that she asked for . I was was even intending to get married to her in a year's time , and now she is dumping me for another guy . The weirder thing is that i m still waiting for her to come back to me . Maybe after playing the field for a few years , she might realise the folly of her ways and come back to my arms . I really love her a lot! Help!
She also confessed to me that this guy can never give her the life that i have given her , she had given up a comfortable life with me when she knows that i can shower her with all the love and concern that she needs?
Is there no more true love in this world? What happened to eternal love? I am still trying to pick up the pieces but it's so painful . I still love her a lot! I really hope that she will return to me .
I believe that is not totally be cos of the one guy that she likes and want to call off this 6 years of relationship.. She might have this thoughts in her mind long time before.. but she jus couldn't find any reasons to tell you.. Now that she can find an excuse and get away with it..
You see.. she had tried different ways to let you know that she wanted it to end.. Meeting up guys in club and flirting with them.. she thought that you might get angry.. then quarrel then you will suggest for a break up.. But she never know that you loved her that much.. that you can forgive her wrong doings.. She purposely say she's playful to tell you that "Hey, that's me! i'm like this"..
If she's determined to get out of your life.. she will not turn back! To get her back i guess is rather impossible.. But what can you do.. is that.. you can ask her for the reasons why the sudden change.. At least you have an explanation from her and thus might lessen the pain you had..
The kind of life that you might be giving her isn't what she wants.. Maybe she feels that she still wanna enjoy her life more.. And not being tied down so fast.. Are you providing her wants or her needs?? Maybe there's one thing she's looking for.. Shower with your care and concern is not enough.. Suggest that you have a talk with her.. not now.. cos she wont pick up your call.. maybe some time later.. found out what's the reason behind.. and from there you can also learn something what you missed out.. or what you did not notice all the while when you both are together.. This might be a very precious lesson to learn.. Be glad that it crossed your path before..
True love? Different people interpret differently.. Or see it differently too.. In any cases... the one you loved most might not be the one you'll be with for life.. Maybe she jus doesn't suit you.. Love comes and go.. Somep people happy some people sad.. People often never realised that there's another door open for you.. when one closes!
"Happiness does not depend on outward things, but on the way we see them.. "
Cheers..
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1. Only you can answer that question.
2. You must be quite young unless you are damn keen to settle down into marriage, everything your age is not very firm. You still have many years ahead of you, to live a better life and get a girl who treasure you and you treasure her too.
3. Is she worth it? Worth all that pain? Seriously, take my word, you are better off without such a kind of person in your life. You will have less problems to deal with.
4. "love" is an over used, over rated and ridiculous thing. Its not the spark or what crap hollywood sells. But you will know it when it finds you. And you ould not know "love" without suffering and you would not call it "love" when it hits you.
5. You might wanna grief, and be sad over things, but do move on and not move backwards. Reflect over things if you had done anything, or that you were misled. Its a discovery process so that you are better prepared for the next time you find that someone. -
Do you think she can be a good wife. Think hard, she can do it now and possibility of repeating it again are much higher.Originally posted by devastatedlover:She even confessed to me that while she was with me , she still went to MIRC to meet other guys . During the nites when i thought she was sleeping , she was actually going clubbing and kissing guys that she had met up there . I was totally devastated by the turn of events . She even commented that she did it because she was " playful" . .
[/This show that she is ignorance about the future. Do you willing to accept a person who dont even bother to think what is right or wrong?Originally posted by devastatedlover:She also confessed to me that this guy can never give her the life that i have given her , she had given up a comfortable life with me when she knows that i can shower her with all the love and concern that she needs?Originally posted by devastatedlover:
I believe no one can claimed he/she is your life partner until he/she left this world. Anything can happen along the course.
Is there no more true love in this world? What happened to eternal love? I am still trying to pick up the pieces but it's so painful . I still love her a lot! I really hope that she will return to me .[/b]
Look at the bright side of this world, no point pondering at the past. It will only bring you more sadness than happiness -
*Ahem*... not all huh!!!Originally posted by _Aaron_:From what i see, is she relatively young..? Around 20-25..?
Ladies that age prefer excitement. Exciting guys who can give them the sexual tension they want.
That's why she goes to clubs and kisses other guys. That's why she 'fell in love' with her colleague of 2 months. Because she's still young, she doesn't want a stable life. Not as yet.
Maybe in her late twenties or early thirties, she may 'discover' the error of her ways. But depending on her character, she may or may not come back to you.
Do you see what i'm typing here? She doesn't want stability yet. Its all 'too easy' for her at this stage. Young ladies need excitement in their life.
Waiting... is a choice you'll have to make. I can't say whether she'll turn back to you later in life or not.
But meanwhile, take a step back from all your troubles and calm yourself ... easier said than done, but you need to recover...
Take care~
To devastedlover:
You know what is the logical thing to do inside yourself. You know the bare truth of the entire happening. I can't comment and "pity" you based on your version. Then again, i can't say you're lying... so my advice is that we all fall down again and again... just gotta learn to pick yourself up and move on.
All the best! [you lost a girl whom don't love you (or not she won't do this to you), but she lost a guy whom will love and dote her (i presume)], so, who's at a greater loss? -
Tough as it sounds, the reality of things is u got 2 suck it up n move on. In the short term ,this might sound like heartless advice. But wat can't kill u will only make u stronger. Learn from this experience... who knows mayb later in life, u might look back n laugh at this episode.Originally posted by subzero_baby:*Ahem*... not all huh!!!
To devastedlover:
You know what is the logical thing to do inside yourself. You know the bare truth of the entire happening. I can't comment and "pity" you based on your version. Then again, i can't say you're lying... so my advice is that we all fall down again and again... just gotta learn to pick yourself up and move on.
All the best! [you lost a girl whom don't love you (or not she won't do this to you), but she lost a guy whom will love and dote her (i presume)], so, who's at a greater loss? -
2 words: Move On.
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1 word:
No.
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WAKE UP.Originally posted by devastatedlover:I was dumped by my gf of 6 yrs just 2 days ago for a guy that she had just met only 2 months ago after she had just changed her job . This new guy is her working colleague and she said that she fell in love with him just like that .
I was dragged from enternal bliss when i was with her to the dark abyss of hell just like that . She refused to take all my phone calls and the worst thing is that she didn't even break up with me face to face , it was just sms and one last phone call . She even confessed to me that while she was with me , she still went to MIRC to meet other guys . During the nites when i thought she was sleeping , she was actually going clubbing and kissing guys that she had met up there . I was totally devastated by the turn of events . She even commented that she did it because she was " playful" . This is the one and only love of my life . I gave her everything , my heart , my soul and everything that she asked for . I was was even intending to get married to her in a year's time , and now she is dumping me for another guy . The weirder thing is that i m still waiting for her to come back to me . Maybe after playing the field for a few years , she might realise the folly of her ways and come back to my arms . I really love her a lot! Help!
She also confessed to me that this guy can never give her the life that i have given her , she had given up a comfortable life with me when she knows that i can shower her with all the love and concern that she needs?
Is there no more true love in this world? What happened to eternal love? I am still trying to pick up the pieces but it's so painful . I still love her a lot! I really hope that she will return to me .
EVEN IF THERE'S TRUE LOVE, IT DOESN'T MEAN THAT SHE NECESSARILY HAS TO BE THE ONE. YOURS' MORE LIKE A BLIND LOVE TO ME? -
6 yrs... it might not be full 6 yrs of feelings towards you, she might just being with you out of habit. used to being with you le.
6 yrs.. she might also be tired of the r/s and wanted out, to seek for 'greener pastures'.
even if she comes back to you, she might just be treating you like a spare tyre.. -
lmao right on!!!!!!Originally posted by borgkilla:no such thing as true love
its a myth -
Yes, there is.
You had exprienced True Love and Ethernal Love,
in the first 5 years or so in the relationship. -
NO definitely
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yes, you still can have true love. Except it's not with her. Indeed, 6 years is long and now it seems quite impossible for you to pick yourself up. But there's always a reason to any failed relationship.
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Yes, there is true love in this world. but there is also letting go and moving on - which is wat you need.
look at it from another view, at least she told you things are over. that is better than leading you on further. some people don't have this kind of luck -
Originally posted by the_don:Yes, there is true love in this world. but there is also letting go and moving on - which is wat you need.
look at it from another view, at least she told you things are over. that is better than leading you on further. some people don't have this kind of luck
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No.. there was no 'misreading'.Originally posted by _Aaron_:You mis-read me. Generally, in a few other threads here, i came to a conclusion that stability is more crucial to women in their late twenties, as compared to the early twenties.
Of course, sexual tension and excitement is needed at all stages, just less so when it comes to the late twenties, and early thirties...
Read what you wrote. Am i suppose to read between the lines or something.
Mmmmmm... Sexual peak for women is about 30s. Girls in their 20s are too obsessed with self image and finding themselves.