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I had been with my bf for 1 yr and 4 mth. But recently, he broke off with me on the 14th month saying there is too many problems in our relationship and he needed a cooling period. During that 1 month cooling period, we met up thrice, but still does everything what a couple is doing. In the end, we patched after that 1 month. We still loves each other a lot.
But, a few days before we patched up, I received a call from his colleague. His intention is to call and send his regards and reassure me that my bf will come back to me. But when i sound him out further, i discovered that my bf has been going out with gals during this cooling period. I was very sad when i heard that because when i asked him about it, he denied it firmly.
In the end, after i cooled down, i told myself i really need him. So, i decided to forgive him. Then, his buddy's gf came to tell me too that he had brought a gal with him during their outing. I was really disappointed already. Nevertheless, I still keep quiet about it and never reveal to him that I had knew the truth.
On new yr's day, another of my friend came to know about our patchup and asked me why. I told her I love him alot. She then revealed that she had saw him holding a gal's hand in madam wong but he never saw her. I was devastated when i heard that. My heart shattered.
Unable to hold my anger anymore, i confronted him. He got no choice but to admit it. I just simply felt so betrayed. He wanted me to stay at home, show my perseverance in waiting for him and assured me that no gals will enter his life. And yet, I'm actually a fool. I kept crying and asked him why. He said he lied to me because he didn't want me to be sad. And he just needed company, that's why he was with gals. I flew into a rage and scolded him. Does a company needs to hold hands? He then put the blame on me saying: "If you make mistake, I wouldn't have needed the cooling period. If there wasn't any cooling period, I wouldn't have needed a company. But eventually, I came back to you because you were the most important gal. I've set my priorities right. And moreover, you are not my gf at that time already."
I broke off with him eventually. I just felt so cheated. I've only knew 3 gals, how many other gals i didn't know? This incident happened on Sun. But I have been thinking of him and i really can't let go. Am I being petty or unreasonable? -
forget it la... not worth staying anymore... maybe cooling period is juz an excuse.. have to let him go... i know its hard... but no choice.. love is like tat...
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find a way to let go of him. I know you love him, but it is a love that will only hurt you bcause he doesn't seem to be serious about you.
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True~ he is not serious.. guy friend can be company also... y must be a girl.. hmm.. dun fall into the trap again..Originally posted by icyprincess:find a way to let go of him. I know you love him, but it is a love that will only hurt you bcause he doesn't seem to be serious about you.
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ya, i also tink u should let him go. but if u really love him so much, dont mind giving him another chance.. maybe he would change for the better. but this is a risk, u might end up getting hurt again. hmm, i gave my bf another chance now he had changed no more like last time. i took the risk & i got wat i wan
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he's not worth it.
there's this girl i know who loves her boy as deeply as you do. but she doesn't know that her bf fcuks a different girl every week and hit on her friends. he don't want to break up with her because he somewhat consider her "a trophy gf".
nobody told her. you're rather lucky that others told you about it. -
The risk is really too high... better not try... it will hurt u more if it turn out bad.. as saying...gou gai bu liao chee shit.. jian shan yi gai, ben xin nan yi..Originally posted by SayitOut:ya, i also tink u should let him go. but if u really love him so much, dont mind giving him another chance.. maybe he would change for the better. but this is a risk, u might end up getting hurt again. hmm, i gave my bf another chance now he had changed no more like last time. i took the risk & i got wat i wan -
The risk is really too high... better not try... it will hurt u more if it turn out bad.. as saying...gou gai bu liao chee shit.. jian shan yi gai, ben xin nan yi.. a leapord can't change it spot... understand??Originally posted by SayitOut:ya, i also tink u should let him go. but if u really love him so much, dont mind giving him another chance.. maybe he would change for the better. but this is a risk, u might end up getting hurt again. hmm, i gave my bf another chance now he had changed no more like last time. i took the risk & i got wat i wan -
Can differentiate between true lies and white lies? and what does he mean you are not his gf at that time?Originally posted by Ayla:He said he lied to me because he didn't want me to be sad. And he just needed company, that's why he was with gals. I flew into a rage and scolded him. Does a company needs to hold hands? He then put the blame on me saying: "If you make mistake, I wouldn't have needed the cooling period. If there wasn't any cooling period, I wouldn't have needed a company. But eventually, I came back to you because you were the most important gal. I've set my priorities right. And moreover, you are not my gf at that time already."
I broke off with him eventually. I just felt so cheated. I've only knew 3 gals, how many other gals i didn't know? This incident happened on Sun. But I have been thinking of him and i really can't let go. Am I being petty or unreasonable?
MOVE on forget that jerk. -
Move on like wat others had advised.
Cry it out LOUD and get him f**king out of ur life.
Its pretty difficult cuz from wat i see, u value him alot.
But u have to think for urself, ur future.
If this can happened once, it WILL happen again.
Of cuz if the both of u wud be given a 2nd chance, u wud nv let him go, but is this wat u really want?
Coming back to u is because he takes u for granted(cuz he knew deep inside tat u loves him dearly and is waiting for him) and feels tat u will nv choose to leave him.
If this guy likes to flirt around...then let him be..
U treat him as a treasure, whereas he's treating u like a dirt.
Dun make another mistake tat hurts urself more.
Find your good buddies, go out meet new frenz. Eventually, time will dissolve the pains...
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Hi girl,
What your bf said is total BULLSH*T. You don't need this kind of people in your life, who doesn't show u respect, lies to you and then tries to put the blame on you.
He is only trying to make u feel guilty by saying that what u did made him leave you..if that is the case, then leave lar!!! Why couldn't he tell you earlier that he couldn't stand you, or he had problems with you? It's so damn obvious he's just giving an excuse.
PLEASE don't give him another chance. If you were my friend I would have locked you up at home so you won't go and see him again. He went out with 3 girls and told u to wait at home...it's as if he's just trying to pick and see which is the best. Obviously he didn't think you were already the best for him.
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Guess he has been deceiving u all this time by the no. of girls he has been caught with. During the time he is dating u, he must have been contacting these girls.
It is no excuse that he needs company during the cooling period. He should have hang out with his guy friends.
Forget about him & go & date other guys. Let him know he is not the only one. -
Lets see here.
He lies to you.
He goes out with girls.
He holds their hand.
He wants their company.
And when you confronted him, he just gave a whole load of excuses and refused to change.
Well, if you continue to hold on to this 'love', it'll be like holding a sword to your heart.
You will eventually die of pain, and for nothing!
What you need to do now, is to slowly let go of the sword, and put it down. Realise that there are more than one cat in Singapore, more than a tree in the forest, more than an ant in a colony, and move on.
Eventually you'll find someone who truly cherishes you, and loves you for who you are, without doing any of the 4 points above.
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Nay... You're not petty or unreasonable... Just stupid...Originally posted by Ayla:I had been with my bf for 1 yr and 4 mth. But recently, he broke off with me on the 14th month saying there is too many problems in our relationship and he needed a cooling period. During that 1 month cooling period, we met up thrice, but still does everything what a couple is doing. In the end, we patched after that 1 month. We still loves each other a lot.
But, a few days before we patched up, I received a call from his colleague. His intention is to call and send his regards and reassure me that my bf will come back to me. But when i sound him out further, i discovered that my bf has been going out with gals during this cooling period. I was very sad when i heard that because when i asked him about it, he denied it firmly.
In the end, after i cooled down, i told myself i really need him. So, i decided to forgive him. Then, his buddy's gf came to tell me too that he had brought a gal with him during their outing. I was really disappointed already. Nevertheless, I still keep quiet about it and never reveal to him that I had knew the truth.
On new yr's day, another of my friend came to know about our patchup and asked me why. I told her I love him alot. She then revealed that she had saw him holding a gal's hand in madam wong but he never saw her. I was devastated when i heard that. My heart shattered.
Unable to hold my anger anymore, i confronted him. He got no choice but to admit it. I just simply felt so betrayed. He wanted me to stay at home, show my perseverance in waiting for him and assured me that no gals will enter his life. And yet, I'm actually a fool. I kept crying and asked him why. He said he lied to me because he didn't want me to be sad. And he just needed company, that's why he was with gals. I flew into a rage and scolded him. Does a company needs to hold hands? He then put the blame on me saying: "If you make mistake, I wouldn't have needed the cooling period. If there wasn't any cooling period, I wouldn't have needed a company. But eventually, I came back to you because you were the most important gal. I've set my priorities right. And moreover, you are not my gf at that time already."
I broke off with him eventually. I just felt so cheated. I've only knew 3 gals, how many other gals i didn't know? This incident happened on Sun. But I have been thinking of him and i really can't let go. Am I being petty or unreasonable?
Now be a SMART GER and learn to ENJOY YOUR LIFE...?
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If only i had read all your replies yesterday, I wouldn't have called him up.
Last night, he sent a sms, saying that i'm silly to make that decision because he had already forsake all those gals and their love for him and chose to be with me. We exchanged alot of smses, in the end, i said that i wanna take back my words. But he said I had disappointed him and he asked for time to let both of us cool down. I've already lost my pride in asking him back and yet he is playing hard to get! I was ranting on the phone and he hung up on me twice.
I'm feeling so hurt and sad now. It's too painful... Simply no mood to work now... -
Its never too late. You can still get over him. He's not worth it...Originally posted by Ayla:If only i had read all your replies yesterday, I wouldn't have called him up.
Last night, he sent a sms, saying that i'm silly to make that decision because he had already forsake all those gals and their love for him and chose to be with me. We exchanged alot of smses, in the end, i said that i wanna take back my words. But he said I had disappointed him and he asked for time to let both of us cool down. I've already lost my pride in asking him back and yet he is playing hard to get! I was ranting on the phone and he hung up on me twice.
I'm feeling so hurt and sad now. It's too painful... Simply no mood to work now...
Make your choice now, and stick with it.
Do you want a life full of uncertainty with him?
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But this period of time is just too painful. Why am I so useless? After all these, I still yearns to be with him. No doubt i've said out verbally that I want to end all these, but deep in me, I still want to own him.
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Sometimes knowing the answer may not be the best thing to do. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. If u love somebody, u never see the person's faults. Even if the person is mean or wrong or fat or ugly or crippled or poor, u only see the person u love.
If u want to be with him, then be with him with no worries. If u have doubts, then take ur time n choose. Nobody here knows him as well as u do. All r just giving their own assumptions. It may be good but it may also be bad advice. It seems only good advice to us, the advisor. So consider carefully the decision. We r just listeners n passerbys. We may think that our comments r easily made but never realise how it affects others.
Maybe he's playing with u. Maybe he's serious. U have to make the choice without any influence. -
To add on, maybe you should step a little back, and look at how he's affecting you. Look at your situation objectively, and see if you have a future with him. See how you will be in 5 years time, with him, without him.Originally posted by Origami:Sometimes knowing the answer may not be the best thing to do. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. If u love somebody, u never see the person's faults. Even if the person is mean or wrong or fat or ugly or crippled or poor, u only see the person u love.
If u want to be with him, then be with him with no worries. If u have doubts, then take ur time n choose. Nobody here knows him as well as u do. All r just giving their own assumptions. It may be good but it may also be bad advice. It seems only good advice to us, the advisor. So consider carefully the decision. We r just listeners n passerbys. We may think that our comments r easily made but never realise how it affects others.
Maybe he's playing with u. Maybe he's serious. U have to make the choice without any influence.
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I HATE people who think too highly of themselves like they're some BIG F*CK.... These people DESERVES to be F*CKED....Originally posted by Ayla:But this period of time is just too painful. Why am I so useless? After all these, I still yearns to be with him. No doubt i've said out verbally that I want to end all these, but deep in me, I still want to own him.
Are you REALLY that WORTHLESS...? Don't be BLIND... Know your OWN WORTHS.... -
If you wan to get on with life.. then stop what you are doing.. You can forget him if you want to.. Don't get too soft-hearted.. When he calls or sms.. don't pick up don't reply.. Make sure yourself get out of his life totally.. If not you are living in misery.. YOu making yourself pathetic.. Where he still can go out enjoy his life with other girls..Originally posted by Ayla:I had been with my bf for 1 yr and 4 mth. But recently, he broke off with me on the 14th month saying there is too many problems in our relationship and he needed a cooling period. During that 1 month cooling period, we met up thrice, but still does everything what a couple is doing. In the end, we patched after that 1 month. We still loves each other a lot.
But, a few days before we patched up, I received a call from his colleague. His intention is to call and send his regards and reassure me that my bf will come back to me. But when i sound him out further, i discovered that my bf has been going out with gals during this cooling period. I was very sad when i heard that because when i asked him about it, he denied it firmly.
In the end, after i cooled down, i told myself i really need him. So, i decided to forgive him. Then, his buddy's gf came to tell me too that he had brought a gal with him during their outing. I was really disappointed already. Nevertheless, I still keep quiet about it and never reveal to him that I had knew the truth.
On new yr's day, another of my friend came to know about our patchup and asked me why. I told her I love him alot. She then revealed that she had saw him holding a gal's hand in madam wong but he never saw her. I was devastated when i heard that. My heart shattered.
Unable to hold my anger anymore, i confronted him. He got no choice but to admit it. I just simply felt so betrayed. He wanted me to stay at home, show my perseverance in waiting for him and assured me that no gals will enter his life. And yet, I'm actually a fool. I kept crying and asked him why. He said he lied to me because he didn't want me to be sad. And he just needed company, that's why he was with gals. I flew into a rage and scolded him. Does a company needs to hold hands? He then put the blame on me saying: "If you make mistake, I wouldn't have needed the cooling period. If there wasn't any cooling period, I wouldn't have needed a company. But eventually, I came back to you because you were the most important gal. I've set my priorities right. And moreover, you are not my gf at that time already."
I broke off with him eventually. I just felt so cheated. I've only knew 3 gals, how many other gals i didn't know? This incident happened on Sun. But I have been thinking of him and i really can't let go. Am I being petty or unreasonable?
Pick yourself up from the fall.. There are more people out there that are worse than your case.. in the end.. they still live on.. life still goes on.. world still revolving.. He's not worth for you to do such things.. if in any case or any way.. you both got back to together.. but are you sure that you are confident that he won't or never commit such things again?? Even if getting together back.. will you still doubt him.. There's no use to think about him.. or getting him back..
You jus have to learn.. and stand up.. GO out and meet more friends.. indulge in some activities.. soon he'll be a past in your life..
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Dear all, I have decided to pack up my feelings and move on... This time, it's for real... Since he didn't do anything to repent for his mistakes and I've found out even more things from his colleague yesterday, I've decided to put a stop to this relationship.
His colleague and him went out for a drink yesterday night and he told his colleague that he only wanted to be friends with me now. He is currently facing a lot of problems at work and doesn't wish to think about all these things now. So be it! Anyway, I'm not the one at fault, why should I degrade myself and live in such misery?
Thanks all for your advises. I'll still love him. Whether we can still get back together in the future, nobody knows. Now, I know I just want to carry on with my life, catch up with all those friends whom I've lost because of him and live my life to the fullest.
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YEAH... But APPARENTLY, your thoughts' not SETTLED YET... Give yourself more time and just take things easy for now...? GO ENJOY YOUR LIFE! JOIN US for OUTINGS if ya like..??Originally posted by Ayla:Dear all, I have decided to pack up my feelings and move on... This time, it's for real... Since he didn't do anything to repent for his mistakes and I've found out even more things from his colleague yesterday, I've decided to put a stop to this relationship.
His colleague and him went out for a drink yesterday night and he told his colleague that he only wanted to be friends with me now. He is currently facing a lot of problems at work and doesn't wish to think about all these things now. So be it! Anyway, I'm not the one at fault, why should I degrade myself and live in such misery?
Thanks all for your advises. I'll still love him. Whether we can still get back together in the future, nobody knows. Now, I know I just want to carry on with my life, catch up with all those friends whom I've lost because of him and live my life to the fullest. 
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Ya, tks bro. Please update if there is any...Originally posted by Devil1976:YEAH... But APPARENTLY, your thoughts' not SETTLED YET... Give yourself more time and just take things easy for now...? GO ENJOY YOUR LIFE! JOIN US for OUTINGS if ya like..??
But anyway, I've felt so relieved now. A load has been liften off my chest... Felt so light now. -
CHECK this thing OUTOriginally posted by Ayla:Ya, tks bro. Please update if there is any...
But anyway, I've felt so relieved now. A load has been liften off my chest... Felt so light now.
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=61467&page=19
And APPARENTLY, you SHOULD CHECK THIS OUT TOO.... http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=107093 (hey! Your name's already IN it...?? Go CONFIRM SOON!!! )