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http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=61467&page=19
And APPARENTLY, you SHOULD CHECK THIS OUT TOO....
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=107093 (hey! Your name's already IN it...?? Go CONFIRM SOON!!! )
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don't take the abuse from him anymore.
He does not treasure you. Why should you spend all that time in pain over him.
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Originally posted by Ayla:I had been with my bf for 1 yr and 4 mth. But recently, he broke off with me on the 14th month saying there is too many problems in our relationship and he needed a cooling period. During that 1 month cooling period, we met up thrice, but still does everything what a couple is doing. In the end, we patched after that 1 month. We still loves each other a lot.
But, a few days before we patched up, I received a call from his colleague. His intention is to call and send his regards and reassure me that my bf will come back to me. But when i sound him out further, i discovered that my bf has been going out with gals during this cooling period. I was very sad when i heard that because when i asked him about it, he denied it firmly.
In the end, after i cooled down, i told myself i really need him. So, i decided to forgive him. Then, his buddy's gf came to tell me too that he had brought a gal with him during their outing. I was really disappointed already. Nevertheless, I still keep quiet about it and never reveal to him that I had knew the truth.
On new yr's day, another of my friend came to know about our patchup and asked me why. I told her I love him alot. She then revealed that she had saw him holding a gal's hand in madam wong but he never saw her. I was devastated when i heard that. My heart shattered.
Unable to hold my anger anymore, i confronted him. He got no choice but to admit it. I just simply felt so betrayed. He wanted me to stay at home, show my perseverance in waiting for him and assured me that no gals will enter his life. And yet, I'm actually a fool. I kept crying and asked him why. He said he lied to me because he didn't want me to be sad. And he just needed company, that's why he was with gals. I flew into a rage and scolded him. Does a company needs to hold hands? He then put the blame on me saying: "If you make mistake, I wouldn't have needed the cooling period. If there wasn't any cooling period, I wouldn't have needed a company. But eventually, I came back to you because you were the most important gal. I've set my priorities right. And moreover, you are not my gf at that time already."
I broke off with him eventually. I just felt so cheated. I've only knew 3 gals, how many other gals i didn't know? This incident happened on Sun. But I have been thinking of him and i really can't let go. Am I being petty or unreasonable?
Have you ever thought that the 'breaking up' or so called cooling period is actually a pass for him to mingle with other girls legally in a way where it is easily for his conscience to absorb?
Cooling period is drastically a wrong move for at least 75% scenarios in a relationship, because it promotes avoidance, in which is quite harmful for your relationship and usually creates irrevocable damage.
P.S: Do take care?
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Try this website and see both of yours character and nature...
look at the love compatibility section
www.astroadvice.com
hope this helps..(jus advice only..)
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I've found out even more things..
I'm too foolish... He's been going out with different gals during this 1 month. Even though I've knew about it, but I still want to preserve the best image of him in my mind. Still doesn't wish to accept the fact. And when I've made my mind to give him up, he starts to send me greeting messages now.
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Yes, you are right. And I strongly believe 90% of the reason for a cooling period is due to a 3rd party... If not, there wouldn't be such a drastic change in a person. Be it gal or guy...Originally posted by Yunhaier: Have you ever thought that the 'breaking up' or so called cooling period is actually a pass for him to mingle with other girls legally in a way where it is easily for his conscience to absorb?
Cooling period is drastically a wrong move for at least 75% scenarios in a relationship, because it promotes avoidance, in which is quite harmful for your relationship and usually creates irrevocable damage.
P.S: Do take care?
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Sorry for wat has happened to you, I have suffered the same case except its my ex gf who betrayed me. My ex gf and I went for 1 month cool down phase and when I propose to start afresh after 2 weeks, she said that she has no feeling for me. Its through her friends that reveal the truth that she has been going out with another guy not only during the cool down phase but also when I am preparing for my exam. I even receive an sms from that guy and was told not to contact my ex again. I feel so hurt but now, I felt numb, hatred and empty but just got to let go and move on.
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agreed with both of you... move on, there's still many fishes in the sea...feeling betrayed is a feeling words cannot describe... it happened to me before...
good luck my frens..
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First thing.. get the facts straight.. who's tt girl m wat's her relationship with him.. n wat the hell he's doing with tt girl..
AFter tt... with everything proven tt he's a jerk.. dump him.. u deserve someone better.. -
Glad that u r able to see things through.
Cooling period are just bullshito... If he really is sincere... he would be wanting to work things out by communicating..
But all these are already the past, so u should leave everything and carry on with ur wonderful life.
It may seem hard now, but it will past eventually... Nobody needs someone else to live.. 1 yr from now, u will realise.. how glad u r to have made the decision to leave him.. especially when ur right guy comes along..
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cooling periods r fine as long as it's genuinely used to reaccess the relationship.. but tt bugger use tt time to date other girls is unacceptable..
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Galfren, u go do us proud. Drop him as cool as u can! Show him u'll get on with life even better. Determination! U muz not lose it again for u've got urself bitten more den once. Its abt time u let some1 else much better into ur life & treat u good. Every1 deserves some good loving, so do u!Originally posted by Ayla:I've found out even more things..
I'm too foolish... He's been going out with different gals during this 1 month. Even though I've knew about it, but I still want to preserve the best image of him in my mind. Still doesn't wish to accept the fact. And when I've made my mind to give him up, he starts to send me greeting messages now.
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sms him back. pretend you want to patch up with him. ask him to lend you $10,000. once the credit hits your account, tell him you want to break off with him permanently. damage his wallet. let him get fired from his job.
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Hmm, that's not good... Although we've broken up, but i still loves him. After some time, we can still be friends. I don't wish to become enemies...Originally posted by mahai102:sms him back. pretend you want to patch up with him. ask him to lend you $10,000. once the credit hits your account, tell him you want to break off with him permanently. damage his wallet. let him get fired from his job. 
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Don't have to be friends nor enemies at sometimes... Just go separate ways...?Originally posted by Ayla:Hmm, that's not good... Although we've broken up, but i still loves him. After some time, we can still be friends. I don't wish to become enemies... -
That gal was already in the picture when we were together. According to him, she was his classmate in a private school but they had never went out before. During that cooling period, I found out from his friend that he had brought her out with their group on several occasions and she is an air stewardess, divorced with 2 kids. And she is god damn b|tchy.Originally posted by Gackt247:First thing.. get the facts straight.. who's tt girl m wat's her relationship with him.. n wat the hell he's doing with tt girl..
AFter tt... with everything proven tt he's a jerk.. dump him.. u deserve someone better..
During that cooling period, we met up for movies once. And he told me he'll want to meet me again the next day. While i was waiting for his arrival, I received an sms from him saying he will be working late and meeting up with his 'bach' club to go to the motorshow and couldn't meet me already. But now, I know already. He brought that s|ut to the motorshow instead of me. What a fool I've be made of...
Apart from that, he also brought her to the places where we used to go. I got 3 people telling me different scenarios... It's just so sad... -
yep.. can be frens.. no point being enemies.. u juz have to rem he cannot be trusted..Originally posted by Ayla:Hmm, that's not good... Although we've broken up, but i still loves him. After some time, we can still be friends. I don't wish to become enemies...