trust
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I got a very simple question.
If you don't trust then why do you bother to be a stead?
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Hmm, this thread got me reflecting about my previous relationships.
Two of the women that I entered a relationship with were the possessive kind. Initially, they didn't appear to be so until some time later in the relationship. Perhaps, women are possessive as they feel that by being more concerned about their beau, in ways such as talking more often to him, wanting to go out more often, et cetera, he will trust them more. Note, this is just a hypothesis that I conjured up within a short span of time.
For instance, there was this girl who would indirectly insist on talking on the phone each night. I'm okay with it, but after an entire day of walking around town, I'm just too tired to continue interacting with her on the phone. In addition, because I enjoy running/jogging, she commented that it seems that I was devoting more time to this leisure activity of mine. To me, it's hilarious as I can manage a long two hour conversation with her, but for me to run continously for 2 hours? Yah, I'll lose 20% or more of the water in my body.
Still, I believe that if women want to trust their men more, and want their men to give them his trust, give the men his own personal space.
Just my opinion.
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i do understand abt his job scope i know if i love him i need to accept all his gd and bad points..i dun feel tat wad i did he cant feel it at all.. did he feel it or he jus pretend tat he cant feel them at all ...i had did all my best my very best for this r/s .. it will be very tiring for the one who is doing all the things all the time... no more meaning... wad is the meaning of this r/s...Originally posted by doghouse837:sometimes maybe that her bf is really busy in his work
not all ppl work are the same
same have lots to do, so can be very free
life is unfair
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Sounds like you can be lacking much in communication...Originally posted by jolin80:i do understand abt his job scope i know if i love him i need to accept all his gd and bad points..i dun feel tat wad i did he cant feel it at all.. did he feel it or he jus pretend tat he cant feel them at all ...i had did all my best my very best for this r/s .. it will be very tiring for the one who is doing all the things all the time... no more meaning... wad is the meaning of this r/s...
Have some time to chat with him... Don't pressurise or push him (at least not for a start) too much though... The idea is to get communications going and for both of you to express opinions more freely in front of each other...
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well i dun deny tat we lack of communication ... i did tried to talk to him but it wont last if that is a one way communication right ... it takes both hand to clap ... i did express that we lack of communication and misundertandings may occur... sighOriginally posted by Devil1976:Sounds like you can be lacking much in communication...
Have some time to chat with him... Don't pressurise or push him (at least not for a start) too much though... The idea is to get communications going and for both of you to express opinions more freely in front of each other... -
What do you mean by one way communication? You did talk to him but it didn't last means he answered you but don't wish to expound on the topic.Originally posted by jolin80:well i dun deny tat we lack of communication ... i did tried to talk to him but it wont last if that is a one way communication right ... it takes both hand to clap ... i did express that we lack of communication and misundertandings may occur... sigh
In fact there's communication already, only maybe he didn't say what you want to hear.
Well i may be wrong.
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Read through MCSquare's post above of this...Originally posted by jolin80:well i dun deny tat we lack of communication ... i did tried to talk to him but it wont last if that is a one way communication right ... it takes both hand to clap ... i did express that we lack of communication and misundertandings may occur... sigh
And... Remember... DON'T PUSH or PRESSURISE... Often than not, a relationship which lacks of communication can't simply be saved by starting a 'conversation' (and many would think... Hey.. We have 'communication'...)... A rusty part needs a gentle start... Have just general communications 1st... Talk about other subjects and things.. Share ideas... Mention the 'more important things' only when both are comfortable enough with it... Remember always... NEVER to PUSH it... A relationship is a 2-way thing... Comments & LISTEN....
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well i did try to call him sometime i told him tat we need to talk ... he say tat it's nt the right time... whenever i mention abt clearing things out he dun wish to talk abt it ... is tat one way communication i wan to talk thing out n solve it but he dun wan to ...Originally posted by M©+square:What do you mean by one way communication? You did talk to him but it didn't last means he answered you but don't wish to expound on the topic.
In fact there's communication already, only maybe he didn't say what you want to hear.
Well i may be wrong.
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Try to put it in other ways.... Remember COMMUNICATION can often not be established without space for understandings...Originally posted by jolin80:well i did try to call him sometime i told him tat we need to talk ... he say tat it's nt the right time... whenever i mention abt clearing things out he dun wish to talk abt it ... is tat one way communication i wan to talk thing out n solve it but he dun wan to ...