She has BF. Should I woo her?
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so what are you trying to say here? know a girl, fark her, dump her and forget about whatever niceties you're suppose to do for girls?Originally posted by keuriseudo:I don't believe in Karma or some superstitious stuffs.. hahaha...
I always believe in attraction and making it happen.
The reason why "Nice" guys get no girls is because "Nice" guys think that being nice like buying lunch/dinner or flowers or gifts, even like treating girls with so much concern the first few dates would give them some advantage.
Pals, this is WRONG!!!
If you do any of the above when you go for dates... especially the first several dates, the girl might feel you are bribing their love with flowers, food, gifts... etc. Treating them too nice will only result in them treating you just like any other good friends they have around. You'll just be another face in the crowd.
S.H.I.N.
i mean, just be nice to girls lor. if there's really any chemistry, then good lor. else, forget it since you don't need "nice" girls to survive anyway.
of cos, being nice doesnt mean you go all the way out to be a stupid @ss who pays for everything and be their slave lar. -
I will not woo a girl who already has a bf de
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ya just one of those bastards who cant find themself a gal whose single. Man if i ever break wiv my gf becuz of another guy ill fucking kill the other guy.Originally posted by Li Ka Shing:I like a girl who already has a BF. Should I woo her or not?
My friends told me not to disturb them.
My view is: a dating couple is not like a married couple. I will never woo a married woman. A dating couple is still in exploratory phase and still in the process of searching a mate. So my believe is, I still have the right to woo the girl and the girl still has the right to change her mind and be with me.
What do u guys think? Should I woo a girl with a BF?
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Well, from the way you write your post, I guess you are being a little logical. That's the danger when dealing with girls you are attracted to. Shouldn't be too logical. That's the mistake most men usually make.Originally posted by rumie:so what are you trying to say here? know a girl, fark her, dump her and forget about whatever niceties you're suppose to do for girls?
i mean, just be nice to girls lor. if there's really any chemistry, then good lor. else, forget it since you don't need "nice" girls to survive anyway.
of cos, being nice doesnt mean you go all the way out to be a stupid @ss who pays for everything and be their slave lar.
You should go and think about the meaning of being nice and "nice".
Ask you a question.. what is the meaning of chemistry to you?
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Don't do onto others, wat u don't wan others to do onto u.
Y make life so difficult? U go spoil their relationship, cause her more problems & u might not even get her. Probably ruin ur frenship wif her also. Unless u'r a fighter... gdluck. Otherwise, i say wish them the best & take a gd look ard.. there's still plenty of nice gals around!
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woah woah... no need to get so uptight... its only a discussion. relax~!
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Qing Chang Ru Zhan Chang... May the best man wins...
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Er...the question is not this, actually.Originally posted by Li Ka Shing:I like a girl who already has a BF. Should I woo her or not?
My friends told me not to disturb them.
My view is: a dating couple is not like a married couple. I will never woo a married woman. A dating couple is still in exploratory phase and still in the process of searching a mate. So my believe is, I still have the right to woo the girl and the girl still has the right to change her mind and be with me.
What do u guys think? Should I woo a girl with a BF?
Thanks for the advice.
The real question is...if she is so happily attached, why would she will let you woo? -
i quote my friend. sometimes the girl stays on, not becuz got feeling, but just for the sake of staying on, some ppl fire die down liao.
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What if the guy you love is meeting other gal outside? there will always gals better than you are.Originally posted by carpe diem jur:my point of view is that u can take time to get to know her better before u make ur decision... since she's attached, u wouldnt have a chance to get close to her if her bf is protective... not to mention woo her loh....right?
but i strongly believe that everyone in a relationship should have the right to get to know more gers or guys and is ok to hang out with the opposite sex.... as long as no two-timing, betrayal, deceiving, is fine... if in the end, both parties still choose to be with each other even after getting to know all sorts of people in the opposite sex, it will prove that when one day this couple were to get married, they wouldnt have regrets... it is their final choice but if they cannot make it thru and either one party chose another person, be glad that he/she had made a choice for himself/herself instead of more regrets later...
If you say you will let him go, don't fool yourself because its either you don't love him that much or at that moment you won't be able to be so strong to let him go.
No one will stop their bf or gf from meeting guys / gals , unless your partner is those with flirting records or bad histories.
It really depands on your partner's feeling when she/he meeting an oppsit sex outside, if their intention is as friends should be no problem, if is those after meeting friend come home and compliant who is better than you always thinking and meeting that particular "friend" somthing must be wrong. -
when a girl falls in love with you.. nothing can pry her from u.
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[Originally posted by keuriseudo:i don't believe in Karma or some superstitious stuffs.. hahaha...
yeah i used to belive all those s-h-i-t too but now i dun give a farkin damm. The world seems illogical anyway. Sometimes u do the best things with the kindest intention, but ur efforts reaped u no rewards. Worse still, u get treate badly. Sometime w/o doing anything, u get the best returns.
I always believe in attraction and making it happen.
The reason why "Nice" guys get no girls is because "Nice" guys think that being nice like buying lunch/dinner or flowers or gifts, even like treating girls with so much concern the first few dates would give them some advantage.
Pals, this is WRONG!!!
The most successful flirts (guys or gals) are usually the biggest jerks, most selfish almost psychotic monsters.
If you do any of the above when you go for dates... especially the first several dates, the girl might feel you are bribing their love with flowers, food, gifts... etc. Treating them too nice will only result in them treating you just like any other good friends they have around. You'll just be another face in the crowd.
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U know Osama. He know that he cant kill all the Americans but u know wat. he DESTROY. Go ahead and woo the ger. My ex gf also snatch away by people like you. Comm on face it, this is a reality world.
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There are so many people, including those in this forum, who think "snatching" other people's GF is not good. I understand this, but Im wondering why there seem to be no or few people who think otherwise.
I believe that when people are dating, there is a bond, there is a commitment, but the bond is not official and not unbreakable. I do believe when people get married, then the bond is supposed to be official and unbreakable. Therefore I will not woo a married woman. However, when the girl is still dating, she is still in the process of searching and finding a life mate. She has not found her life mate. She has not decided who her life mate is. She will make this decision when she gets married and settle down. Therefore when the girl is still dating, I have the view that every other guys still have the right to woo her and she still have the right to change her mind and leave her current boyfriend for a better suitor, because she is still in the process of searching and finding a life partner. She has not committed to her current boyfriend like a commitment of a wife to a husband in a marriage.
So, with this view, that is why I believe there is nothing ethically or morally wrong to woo a girl with a BF. I have thought about it over and over again, and still dont think it is morally or ethically wrong. The only thing I feel rather uncomfortable is the hurt that the guy may feel when the girl leave him. However, I dont understand why I should let this knowledge of his feeling of hurt, stop me from wooing the girl. It's all fair and square. If the girl thinks Im a better suitor than him, than so be it. If not, then Im the one who lose, so be it too. It''s like a competition. For example, in a race. I race with another guy. I win the race and reach the finish line first. As the winner, I feel happy. As the loser, the other guy feel sad. Should his feeling of being sad make my win unethical or morally wrong? Should I run slowly to let him win and let him feel happy instead? Is there anything wrong by winning a race? If I'm the one who lose, does that mean the winner owe me something?
Similarly, I think as long as the couple is not married yet, a competition is fair and square. If I win, nothing is morally wrong or unethical. If I lose, I also won't feel like I somehow get cheated. It's a competition after all.
Some people say, what if the girl does the same thing and leave you for another man? My view is, it's OK. As long as we are not married, then other guys still have the right to woo her and she has the right to choose the best suitor as she sees fit. After marriage, then of course, both parties, should stop looking at other people and should stop other people from wooing you. A marriage is a commitment to settle down and be together forever, unlike dating.
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if u got yr own mindset thn dnt waste our time askg 4 our opinion....
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I dont think I waste anybody's time. I want to know more views, even though I have my own views, it doesn't mean my view is the best or the only one view. I want to know what other people think. If they can give me good views and good arguments, I am open to change my own view. I am not someone who thinks I am the one who is right and everybody is wrong. So I want to see see first. When I explain my views, im merely explaining and describing them, without saying that my views are surely the only correct ones.
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ok, this is how i feel. if you are the type of person who slide tackle other ppl, you don't have the right to be angry if someone next time slide tackle you.
if you are the type of person who don't believe in breaking up couples for your own benefit, please don't expect that your relationship next time will be safe from ppl who love to slide tackle.
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Don't question your mind, go with your heart.
Got BF can break.
Marry can divorce.
Got children can abort.
Children born out liao can dun regconise.
If you can win her heart then you win, it only means that other guy is not good enough... It has nothing to do with karma. She should know who she wants to stick to. -
All's fair in love & war.
Only the strongest, best survives.
There can only be one winner.
If one day u are being overtaken, it's because u have slakened.
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Originally posted by Li Ka Shing:I like a girl who already has a BF. Should I woo her or not?
My friends told me not to disturb them.
My view is: a dating couple is not like a married couple. I will never woo a married woman. A dating couple is still in exploratory phase and still in the process of searching a mate. So my believe is, I still have the right to woo the girl and the girl still has the right to change her mind and be with me.
What do u guys think? Should I woo a girl with a BF?
Thanks for the advice.
All is fair in love and war.
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but in the first place are you very confident that the girl will leave her current to be with you?Originally posted by dumbdumb!:nono, thats not what i mean. i mean, why should u play the nice guy when u are targetting a girl who is attached, the reasoning of "you won't like it if someone does the same to you" doesn't seem logical, because even if u don't do underhand things, doesn't mean next time other people won't -
Peng you Qi, bu ke qi
if that guy not your friend, then dont need to give face
lolz...
follow Darwin's theory... the fittest rulez -
The one word answer: NO.
You're going to end up hurting everyone involved. The girl, the guy, and yes, YOURSELF too.
Imagine yourself in the guy's shoes. What if some other guy tries to seduce your girl (and succeeds?). How would you feel?
Even if their relationship is troubled and they're destined for break-up, it's still not right to interfere. If they do break up, then let it be because the chose to do so, and on amicable terms. Don't let it be because there was a third party involved. Most of all, don't BE the third party!!!
If you truly care for her, then you would also care about her happiness. I don't think she would be too happy about your interfering in their relationship. -
if u wan to woo the girl, go ahead as long as u dun use any underhand methods to get her.. if she really falls for u den good for u.. but if she explicitly ask u to leave her alone pls do cos it only means that she loves the guy she's wif now a lot and cherish their r/s..Give her the right to make the decision cos afterall it's her life.. keep in mind that she's attached and dun do anything overboard.. it takes 2 hands to clap..
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It's people like you. I lost my last GF this way. But I got my revenge. when my friends destroyed his car and broke his leg.Originally posted by Li Ka Shing:I like a girl who already has a BF. Should I woo her or not?
My friends told me not to disturb them.
My view is: a dating couple is not like a married couple. I will never woo a married woman. A dating couple is still in exploratory phase and still in the process of searching a mate. So my believe is, I still have the right to woo the girl and the girl still has the right to change her mind and be with me.
What do u guys think? Should I woo a girl with a BF?
Thanks for the advice.
Anyway the girl was bad, too much trouble. Better off with my current one
