HELP!!! Im trapped by the past
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Originally posted by LilO gIrL:Personally I feel that it is a matter of whether you can accept it or not.
I can accept it if my bf tells me he got n times experience in that matter. As long as he did it with his exs..and not some prostitutes or whatever girls he noe in pubs? At least, did it with the one he loves? Well, it might not be the truth..but still..honestly, if you can't accept it at all..whether it is the truth or not doesn't matter..you still can't accept..............................................
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Originally posted by Trapped:ya.. maybe I jus cant accept it. He said they only did it halfway cuz he was scared. wtf. since he was scared why did they even started it in the first place...
it might be true.
scared of responsibilities? STDs? -
haha.. what is halfway, nonsense.. it's like an excuse lor.. did = did
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WTF. OBVIOUSLY he's not really scare of the SEX. He's SCARE of YOU. WAKE UP. If you CAN'T ACCEPT him, have BETTER LUCK finding a VIRGIN BOY. The WAY YOU'RE GOING, it probably WON'T BE A LONG HAPPY RELATIONSHIP even if both of you are TOGETHER.Originally posted by Trapped:ya.. maybe I jus cant accept it. He said they only did it halfway cuz he was scared. wtf. since he was scared why did they even started it in the first place... -
i think your bf decide to tell you because he dont wan to keep it from you, he wan to be true to you. It better to let him tell you now then let you find out yourself, maybe that time you will be more hurt. What is past already past.. no point keep on thinking about that, what the most impt is .. how he treat you now. I think is not reali fair if you decide to break off with him jus becos of this. Give yourself sometimes.. try to spend more times with him.. maybe you will find out more of his gd points and forget abt he having sex with his ex before.Originally posted by Trapped:i have a bf and we have been together for going to be a year. he's 19 and im 17. But i still cant forget the fact that he lost his first time to his ex when he's 16. It was only after we stead for a few mths that he told me that he have had sex once with his ex
I cant accept the fact at first. It was a terrible torture for me. In my mind I cant forget it. I keep thinking about it. Its really mentally torture. It been about 6 mths since he told me the news and im still trapped by it. Although im slowly accepting it now, but whenever i saw the words sex or anything relating to sexually intercourse, i will start thinking about it again.
Can anyone tell me what can I do pls? I have tried telling myself that its all in the past but up till now I am still troubled by it. The reason that I dont wanna break off with him is because I feel that its not fair to him if I do that.
by the way, he is my first bf. And how do u all define virginity for guys?
he said he and his ex only did it halfway because he was scared. Does it counted that a guy already lost his virginity the moment he put his "thing" in? -
haix this is really headache...
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I understand how you feel. It takes time to get over it...however, u should let yr guy know how u feel so that he can give u support.
Nevertheless, you are still young. take yr time to get over it....there is really no right or wrong..just a choice to make and live it. -
Trapped, I am a man who places significant importance on virginity too. I can understand ur situation.
Let me advise u.....if u cant compromise, find another man. Find a man who fits ur ideals, in this case it means, a virgin.
The choice is yours. Do u want to persue ur ideal man, or do u want to compromise and settle for less-than ideal man? U have to answer that urself.
Is ur current BF so good and so valuable to you? If yes, u may want to compromise. If no, or u cant compromise, then find another man. There are millions of other men out there. Alot of chances.
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And just how would you know if that guy's really a virgin?Originally posted by Li Ka Shing:Trapped, I am a man who places significant importance on virginity too. I can understand ur situation.
Let me advise u.....if u cant compromise, find another man. Find a man who fits ur ideals, in this case it means, a virgin.
The choice is yours. Do u want to persue ur ideal man, or do u want to compromise and settle for less-than ideal man? U have to answer that urself.
Is ur current BF so good and so valuable to you? If yes, u may want to compromise. If no, or u cant compromise, then find another man. There are millions of other men out there. Alot of chances.
The choice is yours. Decide and then act.
Perhaps you'll just have better finding a liar...
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dump ur bf...u can pm me...im a virgin...lets lose our virginity to each other together...