Rejected =(

• -mist-

  23 Jan 05, 11:19

  the ger i like rejected mi..she say..nt cos she dun like mi..cos she is unable to just yet accept another r/s aft her previous 1 which lasted 8mth..i say i can wait..izit all tis a excuses nt to be wif mi? or is she geninue? wad ways i can to get her heart? im tokin fine and well wif her rite nw..jus like same old days..guys and gers..plz giv ur advices and comments thx alot =) no flames plz
• HENG@

  23 Jan 05, 11:20

  if she say dun want then dun press the issue.
• -mist-

  23 Jan 05, 11:21

  she say she need time to sort tings out...
• HENG@

  23 Jan 05, 11:22

  Originally posted by -mist-:

  she say she need time to sort tings out...

  then give her time la. like i said dun press the issue. do think pressing the issue would do u any good?
• icyprincess

  23 Jan 05, 11:23

  well if she doesn't want it, respect her decision. if you keep pressing her when she is not ready, she might just say yes due to pressure and in the end, the r/s wun go anywhere far oso. so save yourself some trouble and be her fren first for now.
  
  i.c.y
• -mist-

  23 Jan 05, 11:23

  Originally posted by HENG@:

  then give her time la. like i said dun press the issue. do think pressing the issue would do u any good?

  i nv press her nw..im tokin like same old days wif her..hmm..wad shld i do? and how can i check if she realli sorted tings out?
• icyprincess

  23 Jan 05, 11:24

  Originally posted by -mist-:

  i nv press her nw..im tokin like same old days wif her..hmm..wad shld i do? and how can i check if she realli sorted tings out?

  no need to check, she will let you know.
  
  i.c.y
• -mist-

  23 Jan 05, 11:24

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  well if she doesn't want it, respect her decision. if you keep pressing her when she is not ready, she might just say yes due to pressure and in the end, the r/s wun go anywhere far oso. so save yourself some trouble and be her fren first for now.
  
  i.c.y

  yeah im doin tt..ani ideas how to progress?
• HENG@

  23 Jan 05, 11:25

  Originally posted by -mist-:

  i nv press her nw..im tokin like same old days wif her..hmm..wad shld i do? and how can i check if she realli sorted tings out?

  why do u want to check? u're still secretly pressing the issue. its almost like stalking someone.
• -mist-

  23 Jan 05, 11:25

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  no need to check, she will let you know.
  
  i.c.y

  u sure? i thought gers wun make e 1st move 1?
• icyprincess

  23 Jan 05, 11:26

  Originally posted by -mist-:

  yeah im doin tt..ani ideas how to progress?

  progress by continue to be her frens...meanwhile dun invest too much emotions, so dat when she doesn't become your gf in the end, you wun be too hurt.
  
  i.c.y
• -mist-

  23 Jan 05, 11:27

  Originally posted by HENG@:

  why do u want to check? u're still secretly pressing the issue. its almost like stalking someone.

  ooo..ok den..i jus be normal and hope as time goes by..god giv mi a little hope
• icyprincess

  23 Jan 05, 11:27

  Originally posted by -mist-:

  u sure? i thought gers wun make e 1st move 1?

  she wun make the first move if she is shy, but you will be able to sense a change in her attitude...like she will be frenlier, likes to hang out around you more, etc.
  
  i.c.y
• -mist-

  23 Jan 05, 11:28

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  she wun make the first move if she is shy, but you will be able to sense a change in her attitude...like she will be frenlier, likes to hang out around you more, etc.
  
  i.c.y

  fact is she is beri friendly to mi nw even aft a rejection..tt is weird..all rejection i encounter was like e ger wun even bother to tok to u..tryin all ways to avoid u..weird huh
• icyprincess

  23 Jan 05, 11:30

  Originally posted by -mist-:

  fact is she is beri friendly to mi nw even aft a rejection..tt is weird..all rejection i encounter was like e ger wun even bother to tok to u..tryin all ways to avoid u..weird huh

  well, then enjoy her frenship for now.
  
  i.c.y
• -mist-

  23 Jan 05, 11:32

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  well, then enjoy her frenship for now.
  
  i.c.y

  ok thx alot HENG and icy..i can sort of understand wad m i suppose to do nw..thx =D
• HENG@

  23 Jan 05, 11:32

  Originally posted by -mist-:

  ooo..ok den..i jus be normal and hope as time goes by..god giv mi a little hope

  but if she doesn't like u, if God gives u hope, do u think that God is being fair to her? what if she's praying to God to make u lose your feelings for her? what's fair? in who's eyes? its all judgemental.
• faithblade

  23 Jan 05, 11:32

  Heng is right on this... chill out mist... you sound like a stalker now. Relax and give her time to sort out her thoughts, be a gentleman
• -mist-

  23 Jan 05, 11:34

  Originally posted by faithblade:

  Heng is right on this... chill out mist... you sound like a stalker now. Relax and give her time to sort out her thoughts, be a gentleman

  hmm all rite..i know wad to do..if i be a stalker..she comfirm avoid mi
• -mist-

  23 Jan 05, 11:42

  anw thx alot guys..
• HENG@

  23 Jan 05, 11:46

  Originally posted by -mist-:

  hmm all rite..i know wad to do..if i be a stalker..she comfirm avoid mi

  u dun be a stalker because it's not right, not because she will avoid u if u become one.
• ak0

  23 Jan 05, 12:09

  y u go and ask her... if u feel that she have liking for u also then juz hold her hand liao lo... if dun have then must reflect abit. be frene with her now most bo hua one la... u r willing to wait but who noes if the day comes? and then now u have feeling for her she ask u do wat also u do one... bo hua. thats y i always handle things fast.. till now cant find a good female frene...be frene with pretty gals bo hua, thats wat i think... i may be wrong. wish u luck ,cheers.
• -mist-

  23 Jan 05, 12:10

  Originally posted by ak0:

  y u go and ask her... if u feel that she have liking for u also then juz hold her hand liao lo... if dun have then must reflect abit. be frene with her now most bo hua one la... u r willing to wait but who noes if the day comes? and then now u have feeling for her she ask u do wat also u do one... bo hua. thats y i always handle things fast.. till now cant find a good female frene...be frene with pretty gals bo hua, thats wat i think... i may be wrong. wish u luck ,cheers.

  ?_?
• keuriseudo

  23 Jan 05, 15:12

  Originally posted by -mist-:

  the ger i like rejected mi..she say..nt cos she dun like mi..cos she is unable to just yet accept another r/s aft her previous 1 which lasted 8mth..i say i can wait..izit all tis a excuses nt to be wif mi? or is she geninue? wad ways i can to get her heart? im tokin fine and well wif her rite nw..jus like same old days..guys and gers..plz giv ur advices and comments thx alot =) no flames plz

  Don't be sad pal, such things are pretty normal.
  
  All you have to do now is: -
  
  1) Let her settle her feelings first.
  
  2) Continue to keep in contact with her, but cut down on meeting her regularly or frequently. Best if you two can chat over the phone once in a while.
  
  3) Go out, take some fresh air, and make more friends. In that way, you'll widen your social circle (including women too). Don't have to stick to the same girl all the time.
  
  4) Repeat the above. Hehehe...
  
  Oh, one more thing. If she gives you the excuse like not ready to have a relationship or so, most of the time, it clearly means that she's not attracted to you in the first place. So, I would advice you to stay out of her life and move on.
  
  You may want to proceed with the 3 steps I've highlighted for you.. it's perfectly okay. Just that you do it at your own risk of breaking your own heart. The choice is yours.
  
  All the best of hope!
  
  yours sincerely,
  S.H.I.N.
• ernestantan

  23 Jan 05, 15:51

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  no need to check, she will let you know.
  
  i.c.y

  How will there be progress if she just vanishes...?
  
  And why would she want to come back if both parties haven't been in contact for so long?
  
  I'm just as puzzled...