How to recover from a broken heart?
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feel so sad. -
Just live on with your life as you would have done.
You will forget about it soon enough. -
walau broken heart only wat go out with buddy can solve all problem
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time will heal.... but somehow you will never recover...
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Go find another 1..
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Just keep busy & your mind occupied, get your good frens together & hang out with them.
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hmm..... I wonder how longOriginally posted by MeoW_MeoW:time will heal.... but somehow you will never recover...
some 2 weeks, some a few mths, some a few years
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As long as you've decided to face up to reality and live your life as it is...Originally posted by starExcaliblur:hmm..... I wonder how long
some 2 weeks, some a few mths, some a few years
The more you are seeing it as a 'missing part' of you or a loss, the more your life would be incomplete.... -
Time will do the job? hopefully..
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Relax relax.......u will get over it soon,go n take up some activities
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yeah... how trueOriginally posted by Devil1976:As long as you've decided to face up to reality and live your life as it is...
The more you are seeing it as a 'missing part' of you or a loss, the more your life would be incomplete.... -
... use a super glue to mend it back~
seriously, i think i posted something similar back then in here... think it's "how the hell do i forget her" of something...
go read it, think it helps a bit.
cheers~
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I'm sorry.
I remember 3-4 years ago i posted a thread on "To nurse a heartbreak."
Not sure if its still there, but there were some good pointers.
Ah! I found it!
The exact message:
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There is no magic "plug and play" formula but there are certainly things that you can do to speed up the healing process. We hope to explore some ways that can help you nurse that heartache.
The breaking up of a relationship forged over months or years will inevitably cause much pain for both parties when it ends. The activities that you used to do together, the places that you thronged together will rake up the old feelings. Still, what's gone is past and you must let it go and move on with your life.
Many people feel lost after exiting from a relationship they had for a long period of time. This isn't unusual but these same people must learn to relish the joys of singlehood again!
You can start by putting away all the things that remind you of your ex-lover. Get hold of a big shoe box or carton and put in all the tokens that he/she has given you previously. Put in those photos that you'd taken together too. Not forgetting those cards as well. When done, seal up the box with masking tape and keep it in a place where you are unlikely to come across it in your daily routine. It could be your attic, your store or even the dark corner in your garage.
Subsequently, redecorate your room. Start shifting things around and re-arranging the furniture where ever possible. It could mean giving your room a fresh coat of paint to brighten it up or adding a small potted plant by the window. They will all count towards you making a step in starting a new chapter of your life.
You can also choose to get a new look - a new hairdo or new dress sense. Go for a makeover. Re-style and re-invent yourself. Pamper yourself and pick up new clothes. You can get ideas from your favorite magazine or spend time hitting the shops.
Then, take this chance to re-discover your friends. When in the relationship, old friendships, undoubtedly, would have been neglected. Take this opportunity to ring up your old chums or mates. Reminiscing those good times over the phone is the first step for you to re-join their circle of singlehood.
After calling them up and catching up with them, do take the initiative to join them for their nights' out to the pub or coffee joint. This would help you to bond with them faster and also to pass your time faster. Else, you can throw a small party or have a barbeque at your place. At the end of the day, whether it is at your own party or the pub, the key is for you to really enjoy their company and have fun all over again.
Most will tell you that the key to mending the broken heart is to keep yourself really busy; especially if the first week after the breakup because the wound is still fresh. Here's a list of things that will help keep you busy and that would complement our above suggestions:
(1) Working overtime
Load yourself with work but do not overwork. Put extra effort to complete your projects and assignments fast. Let them be of high quality too. The blessing is that your manager may take notice and give you a raise.
(2) Exercising
Shed those extra kilos off and get into tip-top shape. Everyone likes to have a nice, well-toned body. It is part of healthy living and well, you could flaunt it at the local gym too.
(3) Learning something new
Have you always wanted to pick up German or learn to play golf? Well, this is an ideal opportunity for you to sign up for time-consuming classes. Attending such classes also gives you the chance to meet more people and widen your social circle.
<- Extract from http://zap.to/lovemoments
So that you all will read it, and not just dispose the website as any other =)
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Hope that helps...
Pity they took down the website. -
Aaron, what if the above that you suggested still dun help?
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Then you probably have some issues that hasn't been settled with him.Originally posted by LilO gIrL:Aaron, what if the above that you suggested still dun help?
There's something binding you to him that you cannot release.
Find him, and settle it. So that you can live with no attachments.
Not to him, nor a slave to your feelings.
Make what they call a 'clean break'. Sever all ties with him.
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Oh oh, sounds like a case of first love lost! If that is so....
The sad truth is that you will never recover, not fully anyways.
A part of you will always be left with them and them with you. So in that sense you will never be the same, never recover. Which is not the same as not being whole again. Love is an addiction, an obsession, we will always find other forms of affection, in this regard you will recover.
But like the others said, time heals all wounds, or at least we forget about them after a time. For now, you're screwed! Learn from it, but at the same time, try not to be jaded so that the next time around things will workout better, and trust me, there will be a next time! -
There is this song by Jay Chou.-Duan Le de Xuan
Go listen to it and you will understand. -
I'd recommend the original version of Eamon's Don't want you back. It's called " *uck it, don't want you back."Originally posted by Patrik:There is this song by Jay Chou.-Duan Le de Xuan
Go listen to it and you will understand. -
Wall.
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It's called Closure.Originally posted by _Aaron_:Then you probably have some issues that hasn't been settled with him.
There's something binding you to him that you cannot release.
Find him, and settle it. So that you can live with no attachments.
Not to him, nor a slave to your feelings.
Make what they call a 'clean break'. Sever all ties with him.
Only then can you move on. -
It can never be settled.Originally posted by _Aaron_:Then you probably have some issues that hasn't been settled with him.
There's something binding you to him that you cannot release.
Find him, and settle it. So that you can live with no attachments.
Not to him, nor a slave to your feelings.
Make what they call a 'clean break'. Sever all ties with him.
Only then can you move on.
Sever all ties? clean break? Did..
but..... haiz -
sometimes its better to not be in a relationship than be in a relationship if you have too many problems in a relationship. When ya out of the relationship , you are recovering from your hurt. However when you are in the relationship , you just keep getting hurt.
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just live life as it is.....u will soon forget most of it.
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true...at least now, I don't need to keep hoping for things to get better...I just need to concentrate on healing and recovering from the pain..Originally posted by freestyle:sometimes its better to not be in a relationship than be in a relationship if you have too many problems in a relationship. When ya out of the relationship , you are recovering from your hurt. However when you are in the relationship , you just keep getting hurt.
to recover from broken hear, mebbe now it is time to treat yourself better...
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1. Tell yourself that he is DEAD.
2. Tell yourself that you are DEAD (but stay alive hoh).
3. Go KILL BILL. Find a difficult mission & accomplish it. (e.g. if you hate swimming, go learn it.)
4. Find another VICTIM!
5. Crap crap crap
6. Go pester him loh, hassle him till he dials 999 and the police will help you to stay away from him.
7. Read a difficult-to-understand-but-interesting book.. e.g the bible
8. Adopt a pet then see the pet as him!
9. Sleep and be his gf in dreamland.
10. Cry. Cry till you faint then cry again.
Still can't recover?
Give up then and enjoy being sick loh...