Can a broken heart be fixed?
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yes....woo her again and again, make her have the feeling u really want her, make her feel secure
and if all else fail, let her go...cos she doesnt deserve you (u deserve better)
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to live is evil...=) -
i guess it takes time to overcome tt broken heart of yrs
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NEVER!
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Should I Tell Her?
Or Should I Let Her Go?
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Marriage or not, they're now a PAIR. You're just an 'outsider' except for the BOND of your marriage. Like some would say, you can try winning her over, but you MIGHT still not win her heart? Would that matters to you? Would you rather let her go for her happiness? Or INSIST that she's YOURS to keep?Originally posted by otacon:My situation might be a bit different, she is my wife.
I say if you really LOVE her and want her back (and not want her back just for the sake of wanting her to be back by your side) THEN give it your BEST GENUINE shot? Though there's really no guarantee which way she would turn to... Who's RIGHT and who's WRONG, it'll just be like trying to tell the shapes of the clouds.... Besides, you've acknowledged that it was your mistake and negligence too? Everything have a price to pay? If you're SINCERE, just let's hope that you're not too late? If you just think that it's a humilation to you and you wanna win the situation back... I advise for everyone's sake NOT to try... A NEGOTIATION would be better..?
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Originally posted by st4n:otacon: i had the same problem with u... haiz..but mine worst...i've been treasuring her since the day we start......but one day i chose to break up cuz i cant stand her attitude to me, she changed alot...but i regretted & it was too late now Look on the BRIGHT side? There can always be a WORSE picture in life..? You'll never know..?
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Marriage or not, they're now a PAIR. You're just an 'outsider' except for the BOND of your marriage. Like some would say, you can try winning her over, but you MIGHT still not win her heart? Would that matters to you? Would you rather let her go for her happiness? Or INSIST that she's YOURS to keep?Originally posted by Devil1976:[QUOTE]Originally posted by otacon:
[b]My situation might be a bit different, she is my wife.
I say if you really LOVE her and want her back (and not want her back just for the sake of wanting her to be back by your side) THEN give it your BEST GENUINE shot? Though there's really no guarantee which way she would turn to... Who's RIGHT and who's WRONG, it'll just be like trying to tell the shapes of the clouds.... Besides, you've acknowledged that it was your mistake and negligence too? Everything have a price to pay? If you're SINCERE, just let's hope that you're not too late? If you just think that it's a humilation to you and you wanna win the situation back... I advise for everyone's sake NOT to try... A NEGOTIATION would be better..?
~Good luck...[/B][/QUOTE]
I sincerely like her to be by my side again and not for the sake of being together. I love her more than anything. I changed for her cos I loved her.
But she's just not satisfied with my performance.
For example today, she suddenly curled her arm and then grab my hand while we were walking together in the afternoon. I was so shocked that she would do this and was happy thinking that things could have slightly gone back to track. But only a few hours later when she told me she's going out with her friends. I asked who these friends were, cos if something really happened to her, at least I know who to look for. But she immediately replied "Can I have my own privacy!" I was so surprised that she became so hostile the moment I posted that question. So I guessed she must be going out with that idiot and friends. But I just want her to tell me in the face. I didn't want to play guessing game.
She refused to tell despite I told her that I was concern abt her safety rather than stepping over her privacy area. I guess she still have doubts abt me able to change. So I reassured her that I will change. Then she replied, "U change or not change still the same. I won't satisfy."
I really dun know y she said that. I thought she always wanted me to change for the better. She even told my friend that she is happy that I changed. Somehow she must be hiding her feelings from me cos she herself must be feeling very terrible too.
Am I right?
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--Appreciate what you have now and not what you don't-- -
sori to say this but i think better let her go, she does appreciate u. no use loving someone who doesnt return ure love or at least appreacte u. might be hard to accept but wat to do rite? u can change ureself but not her...
"love you so much is makes me sick"
kurt donald cobain(1967-1994)
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to live is evil...=) -
But at least for the sake of our kid, I must try till the end. Till I die or have not love for her. I really dun wish that our kid dun have either one's love at this young age.
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--Appreciate what you have now and not what you don't-- -
To me it's pretty obvious enough...? She might really thought and appreciate(d) you for being able to change for the better for her (in fact, I must admit I dunno?)... She could be (a)appreciative OR she could be just (b)taking things for granted? Let's make the situation more hopeful and pressume it's (a)? I PRESONALLY feel that way too? Cause if it's (b), there's pretty much LITTLE or NOTHING to talk about...Originally posted by otacon:I sincerely like her to be by my side again and not for the sake of being together. I love her more than anything. I changed for her cos I loved her.
But she's just not satisfied with my performance.
For example today, she suddenly curled her arm and then grab my hand while we were walking together in the afternoon. I was so shocked that she would do this and was happy thinking that things could have slightly gone back to track. But only a few hours later when she told me she's going out with her friends. I asked who these friends were, cos if something really happened to her, at least I know who to look for. But she immediately replied "Can I have my own privacy!" I was so surprised that she became so hostile the moment I posted that question. So I guessed she must be going out with that idiot and friends. But I just want her to tell me in the face. I didn't want to play guessing game.
She refused to tell despite I told her that I was concern abt her safety rather than stepping over her privacy area. I guess she still have doubts abt me able to change. So I reassured her that I will change. Then she replied, "U change or not change still the same. I won't satisfy."
I really dun know y she said that. I thought she always wanted me to change for the better. She even told my friend that she is happy that I changed. Somehow she must be hiding her feelings from me cos she herself must be feeling very terrible too.
Am I right?
IMAGINE she appreciative of what you're doing for her. YET, the moment she thought HIGHER of you, you QUESTIONED her whereabout? She dropped the VITAL POINT - 'RESPECT MY PRIVACY'.... You IGNORED and CROSSED the point...? And you were telling us SO MUCH... About HOW you care and concern for her safety... And YET how she could be with another GUY...? WE know what you're thinking... Because you've just POSTED it... She DOESN'T...? Not saying that you're totally wrong in your shoes, your motive might be out of CARE and CONCERN but your driving direction seems SIDETRACKED?
About the things that she'd said after that, if you know women you won't be surprising at all...? Even MEN does that at time? Not to mention EMOTIONAL creatures like WOMEN? If you REALLY CARE at all, try FOCUSING on HOW she FEELS for a change..? And NOT ONLY just what you THINK is good for her...?
~Good luck..? You might expect 'tougher challenges' ahead if you overcome this one...? Meanwhile, the BEST METHOD to adopt here now is to REALLY CARE FOR HER... -
hehehehe... well, gals are some really STRANGE species!Originally posted by otacon:I sincerely like her to be by my side again and not for the sake of being together. I love her more than anything. I changed for her cos I loved her.
But she's just not satisfied with my performance.
For example today, she suddenly curled her arm and then grab my hand while we were walking together in the afternoon. I was so shocked that she would do this and was happy thinking that things could have slightly gone back to track. But only a few hours later when she told me she's going out with her friends. I asked who these friends were, cos if something really happened to her, at least I know who to look for. But she immediately replied "Can I have my own privacy!" I was so surprised that she became so hostile the moment I posted that question. So I guessed she must be going out with that idiot and friends. But I just want her to tell me in the face. I didn't want to play guessing game.
She refused to tell despite I told her that I was concern abt her safety rather than stepping over her privacy area. I guess she still have doubts abt me able to change. So I reassured her that I will change. Then she replied, "U change or not change still the same. I won't satisfy."
I really dun know y she said that. I thought she always wanted me to change for the better. She even told my friend that she is happy that I changed. Somehow she must be hiding her feelings from me cos she herself must be feeling very terrible too.
Am I right?
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hehehehe... well, gals are some really STRANGE species!Originally posted by urbanstrawie:[QUOTE]Originally posted by otacon:
[b] I sincerely like her to be by my side again and not for the sake of being together. I love her more than anything. I changed for her cos I loved her.
But she's just not satisfied with my performance.
For example today, she suddenly curled her arm and then grab my hand while we were walking together in the afternoon. I was so shocked that she would do this and was happy thinking that things could have slightly gone back to track. But only a few hours later when she told me she's going out with her friends. I asked who these friends were, cos if something really happened to her, at least I know who to look for. But she immediately replied "Can I have my own privacy!" I was so surprised that she became so hostile the moment I posted that question. So I guessed she must be going out with that idiot and friends. But I just want her to tell me in the face. I didn't want to play guessing game.
She refused to tell despite I told her that I was concern abt her safety rather than stepping over her privacy area. I guess she still have doubts abt me able to change. So I reassured her that I will change. Then she replied, "U change or not change still the same. I won't satisfy."
I really dun know y she said that. I thought she always wanted me to change for the better. She even told my friend that she is happy that I changed. Somehow she must be hiding her feelings from me cos she herself must be feeling very terrible too.
Am I right?
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TOTALLY AGREE....