Agree with ya matey. I know one thing's for sure. I am gonna walk out a stronger person !Originally posted by bratpig:Cheer up. At least life can't get any worse than this.
i'm sure you will. keep us update on any good news. we'll pray for u and your motherOriginally posted by Alleycat:Agree with ya matey. I know one thing's for sure. I am gonna walk out a stronger person !![]()
I am not a Christian but am slowly getting acquainted with God by intending to go church. Honestly, I found more peace this way.Originally posted by _Aaron_:You're a brave man Alleycat.
Not many people could have taken the route you take.
And definately not many people i know could still stay optimistic.
I saw your reference to God at the end.
Are you a christian? If you are, then you should have a church,
And they would pray for you. Your cell members will also guide you through this event in your life.
Take heart, you've done well so far, and you'll be a very strong person when this finally ends...
Thanks so much all for listening.. I knew I made the right choice to voice out my problems. And also, I hope other readers who are facing some crisis at any point of their lives to hang in there and NEVER give up hope.Originally posted by care bear:Be strong....
I went through something like that too two years back.....my mum got diagnosed with breast cancer and I have two little siblings (they were four that time), the family couldnt cope so I quit my job and left singapore to go back to take care of her...it was a very tough decision giving up everything that is yours and losing your financial security....times were tough for everyone but things have slowly become better... I havent exactly found the silver lining yet but I can tell you things do get better with time.....
do take care....be strong...and we're all here to support you...
*hugs*Originally posted by Alleycat:Hello guys.
Its my first post here. Been reading the forums for a long time and so I thought I'd voice out the issues that are going on in my life at this moment.
I'm almost 26 years old, male. Currently, my mum is struck with terminal liver cancer and she has not much time left. Doc estimated that she has not more than 2 years remaining. Initially, it was a hard fact to swallow, but eventually I've come to accept this fact.
I gave up my day job to look after my mum who constantly needs medical attention/checkups/chemotherapy. Thus, unemployed at this point of time. But thinking of finding any suitable job in the hotel trade I can work during the night as my dad and sis will be home by then to look after my mum. I need financial independance.
Recently, we hired a maid to take care of domestic chores. Sadly, 2 months after she came onboard, she ran away from home and stayed in the Philippines Embassy halfway house. My family decided not to hire another maid as it just seem we have no 'fate' with them, cos prior to this runaway maid, we had another one who just could not learn how to do chores properly. Btw, we did not abuse any of them in any way. They probably could not adapt to the lifestyle here.
To make matters worse, my dad has changed lots over the years. Instead of the caring husband and father we used to have, he's now a tyrant who has another woman outside. My mum is really heartbroken and I can only console her, lend her my ears. To be fair, my dad still take care of my mum by ferrying her to and from the hospital. But I really hate him for having another woman, especially when my mum is in this state of health.
I know for sure, when my mum's time is up, I will not stay with him for we cant really get along at times.
People ask me what my desired career path is. I know its the 3D animation and visual effects. Sadly, there isnt a good specialised degree I can pick up here. So, I've decided to look for a school overseas, either in States or U.K to obtain that degree. But I think this wont materialise till I save enough money.
As much as I'd like to remain optimistic about things, I realised I am human after all. Sometimes, I really hope for someone to be there for me to listen and just give me a great big hug. There was one point my energy seemed to wane terribly. But I figured that there's always a silver lining in the clouds, light at the end of the tunnel, gold at the other end of the rainbow.
I'm single and never got attached so probably I dunno how it feels to be someone's champion. But hopefully, when all these problems I have now are solved and when I get my career ontrack, God will let me meet the love of my life.
Well, just sharing my thoughts and feelings. Least I know you all are listening
same here am not a Christian or watever bt all i knw tt there's only one God up there, we all pray for you and for her, always look on the bright side of life..Originally posted by Alleycat:I am not a Christian but am slowly getting acquainted with God by intending to go church. Honestly, I found more peace this way.
Hello. I've read your post and right now, I just want to let you know that you are a champion. It's not easy for someone in your case who needs to look after your mom who's terribly ill and striving to be financially independent at the same time. Despite all these, you remain optimistic and persistent. I wish I could be there with you now to give you a hug and also, share your sentiments, because, I totally understand how you feel.Originally posted by Alleycat:Hello guys.
Its my first post here. Been reading the forums for a long time and so I thought I'd voice out the issues that are going on in my life at this moment.
I'm almost 26 years old, male. Currently, my mum is struck with terminal liver cancer and she has not much time left. Doc estimated that she has not more than 2 years remaining. Initially, it was a hard fact to swallow, but eventually I've come to accept this fact.
I gave up my day job to look after my mum who constantly needs medical attention/checkups/chemotherapy. Thus, unemployed at this point of time. But thinking of finding any suitable job in the hotel trade I can work during the night as my dad and sis will be home by then to look after my mum. I need financial independance.
Recently, we hired a maid to take care of domestic chores. Sadly, 2 months after she came onboard, she ran away from home and stayed in the Philippines Embassy halfway house. My family decided not to hire another maid as it just seem we have no 'fate' with them, cos prior to this runaway maid, we had another one who just could not learn how to do chores properly. Btw, we did not abuse any of them in any way. They probably could not adapt to the lifestyle here.
To make matters worse, my dad has changed lots over the years. Instead of the caring husband and father we used to have, he's now a tyrant who has another woman outside. My mum is really heartbroken and I can only console her, lend her my ears. To be fair, my dad still take care of my mum by ferrying her to and from the hospital. But I really hate him for having another woman, especially when my mum is in this state of health.
I know for sure, when my mum's time is up, I will not stay with him for we cant really get along at times.
People ask me what my desired career path is. I know its the 3D animation and visual effects. Sadly, there isnt a good specialised degree I can pick up here. So, I've decided to look for a school overseas, either in States or U.K to obtain that degree. But I think this wont materialise till I save enough money.
As much as I'd like to remain optimistic about things, I realised I am human after all. Sometimes, I really hope for someone to be there for me to listen and just give me a great big hug. There was one point my energy seemed to wane terribly. But I figured that there's always a silver lining in the clouds, light at the end of the tunnel, gold at the other end of the rainbow.
I'm single and never got attached so probably I dunno how it feels to be someone's champion. But hopefully, when all these problems I have now are solved and when I get my career ontrack, God will let me meet the love of my life.
Well, just sharing my thoughts and feelings. Least I know you all are listening