[b]Advice......[/b]
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Thanks icepole..
my friends have all been nagging me to end all this, but me too soft hearted and dragged it for too long just becos me scared to hurt her..but today althrough me still feel sad/empty..but me also felt released..think its a good start..hope our friend here can also learn to let go and move on.. -
Sometimes I really hope I could let her go thoroughly, I did not gave up on her when she is in a mess. I am soft hearted too. I did not gave up on her.
The day she chose to end the relationship is a couple of weeks before last christmas where there is alot of holidays.
I told her why must she leave me when I am struggling hard for a future and when I am losing my job pretty soon. Her answer was if she dont have feelings for me, she dont want to waste her time as well as mine.
I dont miss her or love her anymore but I cant take it when I am forced to accept the fact that she has ran away with another guy. She even ask her new bf to sms me not to contact her anymore.
Difficult, hard but with all you guys and gals advice, I must and have to move on. Maybe her friends is right, a guy too down to earth, study hard, work hard cant gave her excitement and joy, cnt bring her to exciting places. In addition to my employment status as a contract staff back then, I couldnt spend too much on her.
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Dun dwell in it liao k??we might not be very good boyfriends..but we will be very good husband to the girl who deserve us..just take this as a trial in live..so that we will be a better boyfriends next time..now me got a very BIG problem..me bought 2 100 buck fish leong concert tickets wanna go watch with her one..no dunno how..haiz..
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You didnt invite her? Is it a new girl or the one which you have stopped contacting?
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its my ex..she last wk promised to spend today with me..but yet she just come over to my blk ard 2..then say can only meet me for lunch..then me ask her she meeting him ah..she became quiet..then we just have a final showdown..so now dunno what to do with the tickets..
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Originally posted by ptw:Sometimes I really hope I could let her go thoroughly, I did not gave up on her when she is in a mess. I am soft hearted too. I did not gave up on her.
The day she chose to end the relationship is a couple of weeks before last christmas where there is alot of holidays.
I told her why must she leave me when I am struggling hard for a future and when I am losing my job pretty soon. Her answer was if she dont have feelings for me, she dont want to waste her time as well as mine.
I dont miss her or love her anymore but I cant take it when I am forced to accept the fact that she has ran away with another guy. She even ask her new bf to sms me not to contact her anymore.
Difficult, hard but with all you guys and gals advice, I must and have to move on. Maybe her friends is right, a guy too down to earth, study hard, work hard cant gave her excitement and joy, cnt bring her to exciting places. In addition to my employment status as a contract staff back then, I couldnt spend too much on her. my happiness ended also during christmax ..... at such a special day....
i can guess that guy must be a ah beng..... with a bike, can provide her with excitement, short term joy happiness. chiong at the nite, sleep in the day
no offence, but when u hear a happy ah beng and ah lian couple ??? at most a few months only.
soon u will hear her bad news, so be soft hearted then.....
hao hao zhen xi the future.... -
Project D..me understand how you feel..me that time christmas brokeup then next day go brunei for training..best..really good timing..
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i was in a long distance r'ship for 6 yrs. during the last few months of the r'ship, i was so devastated. choosing to end the whole thing once and for all like tan_william did, i felt relieved somehow. its like a burden lifted off totally. upset definitely, but i chose to move on without him. i thought he was the one for me. im wrong.Originally posted by tan_william:Thanks icepole..
my friends have all been nagging me to end all this, but me too soft hearted and dragged it for too long just becos me scared to hurt her..but today althrough me still feel sad/empty..but me also felt released..think its a good start..hope our friend here can also learn to let go and move on..
now, im happily attached with a great guy. im sure u guys will also meet the right one very soon. cupid is fair after all.
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Me also believe cupid is fair to all..great to know someone have found their true love after their tough decision, gave me strength to move on in my life..CHEERS!!
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ptw,
its her loss that she didnt cherish you. a guy who thinks of the future and wanna provide a stable life, does not come by easily. you are matured enough to see beyond, to look far. but she didnt see eye to eye and desire short term excitement. just like fireworks, its nice for that few mins when it glitters. ultimately, it still diminish.
fact is still fact. learn to let go. accept it graciously. your life will be much better as you untie the knot in your heart of hearts. -
Today is my birthday, so miserable and diff to untie the knots. Trying everymeans to drag myself forward. The nightmare kept haunting me, kept thinking of the day when her friend revealed the truth. Sorry, not trying to dwell into the past. Seems so difficut and miserable.
I am brave enough to stand on my feet but dun have the courage to accept another girl. Very very depress. -
HaPpy BIrThDAy to you!!since today is your birthday then let go of all the unhappy things and go enjoy yourself..find some close frds and go for dinner or a drink..best if can go ktv to sing all your sorrows out..just today..dun think so much k??gd luck!!
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happi b'day, ptw!! let this day marks the end of all your grief and heartache. let this day marks the beginning of a new chapter in your life.Originally posted by ptw:Today is my birthday, so miserable and diff to untie the knots. Trying everymeans to drag myself forward. The nightmare kept haunting me, kept thinking of the day when her friend revealed the truth. Sorry, not trying to dwell into the past. Seems so difficut and miserable.
I am brave enough to stand on my feet but dun have the courage to accept another girl. Very very depress.
occupy yourself, enrich your lifestyle. nightmares will go away soon. stay strong and focus!
you dun have to accept another girl now. take things slowly, get to know the person better before committing yourself to a r'ship. -
HAPPY BIRTHDAY.Originally posted by ptw:Today is my birthday, so miserable and diff to untie the knots. Trying everymeans to drag myself forward. The nightmare kept haunting me, kept thinking of the day when her friend revealed the truth. Sorry, not trying to dwell into the past. Seems so difficut and miserable.
I am brave enough to stand on my feet but dun have the courage to accept another girl. Very very depress.
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ptw, how about that gal friend of your ??? does'nt she knows 2day is your BD ???
wat're u waiting for ???
BD is the best time to show one's feeling to another person !!!
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I dare not tell her that its my birthday, dun know why, maybe I dun ave the guts or so, very scared of suffering the same thing again. Furthermore, I really not ready for it. She is nice, willing to go out with me but dun know why I dun have the drive to go for another relationship.
In the past, when I am single, if I am to date a girl out and she is willing to go out with me, I will be so thrill and happy. But this time, its different. I know I will sure to get scoldings from you guy and gals. Today is my birthday and yesterday is valentines day, I spend my day in my work and study, go straight home and stay in bed, cant bear to see couples spending the time together during valentines day.
I really dun wan to say whether I miss her or not but if I have the chance to ask her one question only, I really want to ask her if I deserve this as punishment? She has afew bf before me but she is my first gf. She thinks that I can take it just like switching brands kinda thing. -
PTW..dun think so much already..1st love is hard to forgive and forget..me know and understand what you are going through now..but don't keep yourself at home..try to go out more..the more time you spend at home the more you will think of her..now that there is a girl that treat you very nice..appreciate her..me not asking you to accept her or go into another relationship now..its impossible..just thank God you have someone to go through all this with you..take care and good luck!!
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Thanks tan_willaim, tats why I dun wan to ignore her totally, maybe abit selfish but I didnt give her any hint or so, just friend first and when I am confident that I have really moved on, I will try my luck then.
there is another question, my friends ask me this question, what happen if your ex approach you and tell you that her relationship with this bf failed. What do you all think? As for me, I dun know. -
my ex told me that last aug..and all the while me have been waiting for her..really hurting..then when me know she broke up with him..me very happy..she even said its becos she want to patch back with me..but me must give her time..of course me agree..after 8 months of waiting..me thought finally my efforts are paying off..but days and months passes..but she is still not ready..but she still kept assuring me she wanna be with me..even wanna go study in the same uni..but..yesterday she cancelled our dinner date..to be with him..me totally gave up on her already..
i rem one of my close female friend told me before..once a girl changed her heart..don't ever dream she will return..me can only tell you don't even think about her coming back to you..she might call you or msg you that she missed you or still love you in the future..but think its only for that moment..human are borned selfish..even if you still have feelings for her..don't care about her even if she come back find you k??you are not a spare tire..you are YOU!! -
I believe anyone can be very soft hearted when their ex start crying and apologise for what they have done. Unless really hate her deep into the bone. Very contradicting, she hurt me yet I may want to help her if anything happens to her.
tan_william, I agree with you, I really dun want to be a spare tyre too. -
maybe becos me been through too much during the past year..me really dun wanna see anyone follow my footsteps..you are rite..who wun be soft hearted when they see the person they love cry??this kind of thing one can only understand when the person went through it personally..but do you think she will care about you if you are very sad when you know she is spending her birthday with her bf oversea??do you think she will care if your heart break when you saw them hugging together??where is she when you are sad??where is she now??dun think so much already..you will know what to do when the day she comes crying to you..if she even find you at all..move on with your life..people who betrayed us are not worth our love..
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when times comes, I will have to take my courage and face it.
Any other opinions?
tan_william, really cant imagine wat happen if I were you? cant take such a blow, you really take up all courage to let her go. -
Still would have to learn one day yup?Originally posted by ptw:when times comes, I will have to take my courage and face it.
Any other opinions?
tan_william, really cant imagine wat happen if I were you? cant take such a blow, you really take up all courage to let her go. -
I personally believe that if she come back and apologise, I will not accept her back especially when I have a new gf that treasure me. If I dun have any gf, I still have no idea wat will I do. Maye by then, time would have flush away my memories.