[b]Advice......[/b]
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you also can do it one..find things to do..actually you are very lucky..you now got a girl by your side..althrough you might not like her now..but the best way to forget someone is to accept someone else..if you have someone by your side going through all this with you..then really you can forgive and forget her in no time..
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ptw,
do not think of 'what if'. life's too short for us to ponder. learn from experience. we fall, we get up. we got hurt, we recover. believe in yourself. -
People says there is choices in life but I was left with no choice but was forced to make way for her new bf. I tried to smile today while I am at work, didnt really help much but at least dun feel as miserable as it use to be.
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life is never abt things coming your way. you'll have to earn for it. in your instances, you see her true colors. look at it from another perspective. be more optimistic.Originally posted by ptw:People says there is choices in life but I was left with no choice but was forced to make way for her new bf. I tried to smile today while I am at work, didnt really help much but at least dun feel as miserable as it use to be. -
you've got a choice now - let it be a history between both of you.
another choice - cherish the person around you. -
ptw..remember me also here in similar state as you..we must live life to the fullest..they don't love us then we must love ourselves..me this few days tried acting cheerful and only my close friend know me is really sad..almost cried when my friend told me she put her photo with him onto friendster again..heart really pain..then when me wanna go see the photo,me can't log in..it says account not found..maybe its better this way that me dun get to see the photo..if not think me now break down liao..if you have any troubles just tell us here k??some how after me type all the things out..me feeling better liao..hope you will recover from this soon..
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Thanks tan_william, why I want to vent my anger and pain in sgforum was that I really need to shout and after I shouted it out and the encouragement I received, I felt relieved. Believe it or not, I thought f proposing to her last december, too fast and too harsh for me to take this pain.
One motivating factor that kept me moving on was that her family called me during my reservist and apologised for what she has done. Talk abt friendster, when she decided to break up with me, she changed her status from attached to single, I ask her why, she told me its normal and I stupidly believe her. Why I am able to stand up on my feet was that her family ( I dun want to specify who, she may be reading, I dun want any family quarrel) told me that I did nothing wrong, its her who wants to leave me. They encourage me to move on, they told me I am not fated to be with her. Painful but I felt relieve, they told me that I did not do anything wrong.
If she can know and accept a guy so easily from the net, I would have dump her when she met with so much problems. I am not that sort of guy and I will never will.
I must admit that Iwas really very poor back then, really no money to treat her for goodmeal or enjoyment. She was a good girl back then, very understanding, gave me all the encouragement and motivation, We tried evry means to save money, or rather she saves alot of money for me. Even till our relationship ended, I did not spent much on her, but she dumped me cos I got no time for her, cant chat for long wth her. I can only speak through actions.
I remembered one day when I knocked off from work, so tired, I went to her house straight with my bermudas, t-shirt and slippers, help her wash car, so romantic right, after washing, I went back home which is abt 12am. There are many things besides this which I have done for her. Dun hurt me until like this when she plans to dump me. -
Its her choice..now what ever happened to her already no longer concern you..this is something you must tell yourself..you are single now..you are free..the person she want to be protected by is no longer you..be a bit selfish..me know you are soft hearted..me too..but its time we must protect ourselves..and give those we love us a chance..let her go and let yourself go..
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I told myself everyday when I woke up that its a fresh day, move on, move on, let her go, let her go. Not easy, but I tried or rather forced to try.
tan_william, you know the feeling right? Time can heal wound, not totally but at least, I can start to concentrate on my work and the most impt thing, get to sleep well. I told myself if I ever get into another relationship, I really dun want to suffer all these misery. I understand breakup is common but hope that I will not be betrayed again. Nobody wants this to happen to them. -
IT'S OVER....Originally posted by ptw:Thanks tan_william, why I want to vent my anger and pain in sgforum was that I really need to shout and after I shouted it out and the encouragement I received, I felt relieved. Believe it or not, I thought f proposing to her last december, too fast and too harsh for me to take this pain.
One motivating factor that kept me moving on was that her family called me during my reservist and apologised for what she has done. Talk abt friendster, when she decided to break up with me, she changed her status from attached to single, I ask her why, she told me its normal and I stupidly believe her. Why I am able to stand up on my feet was that her family ( I dun want to specify who, she may be reading, I dun want any family quarrel) told me that I did nothing wrong, its her who wants to leave me. They encourage me to move on, they told me I am not fated to be with her. Painful but I felt relieve, they told me that I did not do anything wrong.
If she can know and accept a guy so easily from the net, I would have dump her when she met with so much problems. I am not that sort of guy and I will never will.
I must admit that Iwas really very poor back then, really no money to treat her for goodmeal or enjoyment. She was a good girl back then, very understanding, gave me all the encouragement and motivation, We tried evry means to save money, or rather she saves alot of money for me. Even till our relationship ended, I did not spent much on her, but she dumped me cos I got no time for her, cant chat for long wth her. I can only speak through actions.
I remembered one day when I knocked off from work, so tired, I went to her house straight with my bermudas, t-shirt and slippers, help her wash car, so romantic right, after washing, I went back home which is abt 12am. There are many things besides this which I have done for her. Dun hurt me until like this when she plans to dump me.
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Its hard..but you can do it one..slowly..time will heal us..
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be strong!
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Time will heal, Its already reaching 4 months, not yet fully recovered but on the way to recovery. Starting a relationship is so sweet and wonderful but I never dream abt ending it like a nightmare. Never think that I will end up in such state.
I must really thank all of you who gave me all encouragement. Dilema, hope to love another girl but stepping out of the nightmare isnt easy, not to mention abt stepping into another relationship. Maybe a new fresh start to a wonderful sweet relationship but may also be another nightmare too. I am a man, I have to be strong but not all guys can take such blow. People says that in a relationship, guys are always in an advantage but to me, its seems that I am being played out by her. -
you think you are being outplayed by her is only because you love and dote her alot..you don't wanna hurt her..its her loss that she choice to be with someone else..don't worry..you can find someone better..have faith in fate..he is fair to all..what you have lost now..actually might already been repaied to you..just open your eyes and your heart to see and feel..don't you feel you now have more friends??don't you feel you now have more time for your friends??in life..you gain some,you lose some..don't lose faith in love also..this girl is different from your ex..and not all relationships are the same..btw..are you chinese??if yes then can go listen to a song titled 'Bu zhi de' by dreamfm..quite an old song..but also very nice..good luck and have a nice day..
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dear ptw
r'ship is bittersweet.. how many r'ship actually have happily ever after like fairytale? you'd never know what problems other couples face. just take for example an old couple already in their white hairs strolling together hand-in-hand. envy? yes, i do. but i believe their journey down does not come easy. they sure endure lotsa hardships, endless squabbles. yet they emerge stronger cos they are able to overcome all hurdles.
stepping out of nightmare isnt easy like u mentioned. what you have to do for yourself is to wake up from your sleep.
do not lament. do not feel unjust or betrayed anymore. you've survived for 4 months. though devastated, you came so far. hang on there. tell yourself you can do it. give yourself confidence.
did you ever wonder maybe sub-consciously, you've already get over it. its just the imbalance in you that feel undeserved of such treatment from her? let go, and you'll be a happier person. -
been away for a while, hi all,
ptw, actually i on the same boat with u and Tan_willian. been around 1 year + now, still feel hurt. but taking things easiler now compare to the past months...
i tried forget, been trying out with another gal, nice girl but don felt the same way as before... to be fair, i treat her as a close friend, giving myself and her a chance slowly...
ptw, wat they said is TRUE !!, being with someone else will make u forget faster, healing the wound faster by opening your heart to another gal. ...but.. all wound leave a scar....
but........
IMO, the scar (memories of your ex) brings along past happy memories and lesson learnt to be a better BF, make u a better guy and motivate u to zhen xi and create happier memories together with your girl of your life...
remember that there is someone out there, willing to share your happy, sad moments. but other guys are not blind, if u deli dali, u may lost a good chance... -
IcePole, maybe you are right, very diff to forget or even forgive on what she has done to me. How I wish I could revenge on her too but thats too mean and thats not me.
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ptw, never be vengeful. do not harbor such thought. what goes around comes around.
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Originally posted by Project-D:
been away for a while, hi all,
i tried forget, been trying out with another gal, nice girl but don felt the same way as before... to be fair, i treat her as a close friend, giving myself and her a chance slowly...
ptw, wat they said is TRUE !!, [b]being with someone else will make u forget faster, healing the wound faster by opening your heart to another gal. ...but.. all wound leave a scar....
Not sure abt tis statement, tried b4, mayb not effective 4 me
Went shopping wif some1 else(girl B), while waiting 4 the girl 2 try out her clothes in changing room, memories of the girl (girl A) I couldn't be wif came flooding back
Last december new year's eve, went countdown wif girl B n her friends, after midnite, girl A called, exchanged new years greetings, girl A suggest 2 meet n eat 1 of these days, thoughts of her came rushing back n I immediately suggest meeting near her house 4 breakfast tat morning
but........
remember that there is someone out there, willing to share your happy, sad moments. but other guys are not blind, if u deli dali, u may
lost a good chance... [/b]
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Hi Project D and all Friends,
Sorry for bringing up bad memories.
My cousin ask me what happen during CNY and he thinks that its not worth feeling or even think of how much she has done to me. He said one thing, she is clever in one way to have planned out everything that benefits her and hurts me. My cousin shared the same view as you guys and gals, time will heal, but going through the period really suffering.
I may have the appetite to eat, drink and go out with friends but the feeling of being stabbed multiple times and left to recover is really unbearable, still haunts me at times.
I am not a guy who go for relationship just to so call "play play" , if cant click, find another girl, dump her kinda person. She has so much problem, I went through with her, I did not think of dumping her except at times we quarelled but I still gave her the security that I will not betray her.
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I went out with the girl yesterday, feel better as compared than last time. She is waiting I think, not as cute s my ex but definitely matured in thinking. Still dun have that feeling as yet, but hope that things will turn out better. I hope......
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Originally posted by ptw:I went out with the girl yesterday, feel better as compared than last time. She is waiting I think, not as cute s my ex but definitely matured in thinking. Still dun have that feeling as yet, but hope that things will turn out better. I hope......
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a cute and pretty girl is good being a gf..a mature girl is good being a wife..gd luck to you..
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glad to hear that you are opening up. cherish what you have now. all the best!
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Hi tan_wiiliam and icepole,
glad that I start to open up but the feeling as compared to chasing after my ex is different, different as I am not as enthusiast when I am after my ex. furthermore, although I am with her, there is emptiness in me. My heart tells me that I am not ready, not as yet, there is something I have to settle first, like what my cousin told me that I will only settle my heart not becos I have move on but rather when I know that she has made the wrong choice. I dun know is it true.
Or rather see her suffer for making the wrong choice, then I will move on. I think its abit too cruel. What do you think?